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Sick and tired of being lonely, relationship wise, while all my friends have nice girlfriends.
I don't really think I'm ugly, and I've been working out. I'm trying to just lay back and not "try so hard" to get a girl, because I've heard that's a big turn off for girls, but recently this girl I went to prom with turned me down, which sucks because she was really the first girl to show interest in me, but I guess she wasn't really interested in me like that. I feel like there's nobody out there for me. Can anyone cheer me up?
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>>17098961
>but recently this girl I went to prom with turned me down
>I feel like there's nobody out there for me
You're still a kid. I know getting a girlfriend seems like the most important thing and your biggest failure in life right now but you literally have the rest of your life to figure out women.
There is nothing you can do but gain perspective and experience as you get older. You're doing fine. Being young can be confusing but get this idea out of your head that there's "no one out there" because you hardly have the years or the experience under your belt to make such a statement.
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>>17098973
It just sucks though, for now.
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so i'm in need of a new laptop. will be my only computer after i donate my macbook air to a friend in need. initially i was thinking i would wait for the new macbook pros (which should happen in june), but after looking at prices and things i'm like maybe not.
used to be all about regular windows PCs as a kid, but after buying a macbook pro in 2009 i was hooked just because of the badass trackpad. nothing worked as well before and i was extremely impressed. since then i've been only OSX/Mac.
do gaming laptops have trackpads that work as well as macbooks now? does anyone evern know what i'm talking about? Better Touch Tool makes it massively customizable and you can do the four finger swipe stuff. like in different directions. smooth interfacing is a must. so is a zoom feature? damn i'm not explaining this well. but yeah trackpad must be amazing and i hope that's a thing beyond apple now.
so here's what i need:
>gaming laptop maybe 13" or 15" that has a massive SSD or two (for recording gaming sessions) that can run like fraps or whatever alongside games without any hitches
>badass trackpad similar to macbooks
and i guess that's it. does this exist? where can i buy it? what does it cost? the macbook pro i want would be around ~$1.5USD + $250 for apple care (3 years of free labor and parts if something breaks or i spill beer on laptop)
so $1.75k for what i want including the apple care. PCs are supposedly cheaper for similar quality shit. is this true or a lie?
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Gaming laptop is an oxymoron
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>>17098951
Not really, no. And anyway it's what I need for my active lifestyle :/
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Wtf 4chan. Don't tell me I'm the geekiest person here right now?
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Dealing with toxic people 2016-05-02 03:34:43 Post No.17098942
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What is the most socially proficient way to deal with verbally toxic people that have a problem with you?
Two examples:
A) Played LoL with a friend's friend who immediately started shit talking and trolling me. Got real personal so I assumed my friend told him about me. I got angry not because of him, but because my friend told him personal shit about me and not once told him to shut up.
B) Overweight co-worker that's been trying to get my fired since she was demoted and then reinstated due to being a lazy obnoxious fat fuck. She doesn't get paid more than me, yet is in a position just above me that lets her ride me and work me like a dog when nobody else is around at work. Recently she pulled some bullshit rule out of her ass to piss me off, and when I went around her she tattled on the boss, exaggerating the situation to antagonize them against me.
I understand these types of shitty people exist everywhere and getting a new job or friends won't change much. How do I deal with these people without resorting to murdering them in their sleep?
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you have to do things to those people that make them not want to fuck with you.
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Well, your friend is clearly an asshole to let some random asshole have knowledge about things to use against you. Stop being friends with that person.
As far as the coworker goes, you could bring up how they throw everything on you personally, but be sure to have examples of these cases and explain whats going on.
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>>17098942
If they're coworkers, you just have to deal with them until there's enough to report to HR. If you have a toxic friend, remove them from your life.
>>17098955
No you don't. Some, no, MOST people are in still in the high school mentality and will do shitty things and try to mess with you because they think you're weird or don't like your face.
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scars and family issues 2016-05-02 03:30:25 Post No.17098930
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so, hey /adv/
so, i just semi-recently got these scars on the right side of my face. they're not raised but they're obvious, one on my jawline and the other across my cheek.
i don't really know how to get over them - i hate talking to people even more so than before, and find myself contorting my face so the people i'm talking to don't see them.
and worse so, if they see them and ASK, i have to hurry and come up with an answer (which, really, shouldn't be hard but i get anxious).
so question 1: how do i get rid of scars/how do i get over having them in such a visible area?
as for the rest, the reason i have the scars is due to a family "altercation" with my father. it's happened on and off since i was a child and the weird thing is, there was this inkling before this incident that i could "forgive" him to some degree but ever since, i can't even look at myself without thinking of him and i get irrationally angry.
my mom tells me i'll get over it, it's cold of me to be upset still, or wish i had when he dies, and, of course, i don't believe that but i thought maybe talking to some anons about it would help out. i want to cut contact with them both when i move out and i guess i'm looking for some advice - am i being coldhearted? is cutting contact the best decision?
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* or wish i had forgiven him when he dies
i was typing too fast and made a lil mistake
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i agree with you
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bump bump pls
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Can a narcissist deeply hate themselves? Can a narcissist be capable of committing extreme self-harm? Can a narcissist be constantly suicidal?
I had a friend for almost a decade. I think they horribly abused me. I say that I only think, though, because I don't really know if I was abused, or if I actually abused them. I'm trying to get a handle on the situation. I'll be seeing a counselor about it soon.
A lot of what it seems they did to me, and countless others, was this "idealize, devalue, and discard" method that narcissists tend to use. I can't imagine this person was a narcissist, though, because they hated themselves, self-harmed, and pretty much always wanted to die.
What does /adv/ think about this?
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>Can a narcissist deeply hate themselves? Can a narcissist be capable of committing extreme self-harm? Can a narcissist be constantly suicidal?
Yes, yes, and yes. Narcissism is, at its heart, about extreme self-importance: "it's all about me". We often associate that with undue self-love, partly because this condition gains its name from the myth of Narcissus, who fell in love with its own reflection. But narcissism doesn't have to be associated with positive feelings: extreme self-loathing can also qualify.
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>>17099067
What's the difference between someone with BPD and someone with narcissism, then?
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>>17098908
>Can a narcissist deeply hate themselves? Can a narcissist be capable of committing extreme self-harm? Can a narcissist be constantly suicidal?
When I saw this in the catalog I immediately thought "BPD".
>A lot of what it seems they did to me, and countless others, was this "idealize, devalue, and discard" method that narcissists tend to use. I can't imagine this person was a narcissist, though, because they hated themselves, self-harmed, and pretty much always wanted to die.
Yep, sounds like BPD to me.
>>17099522
>What's the difference between someone with BPD and someone with narcissism, then?
First of all, they're pretty close together psychologically, there's a lot of similarities. And iirc about a third of people with BPD also qualify for an NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) diagnosis.
Second, it's easy to tell that narcissists think of themselves as special, unique, misunderstood geniuses, secret heroes, etc: people with BPD rarely have delusions of grandeur.
Also, those with BPD will often "cycle" between high and low self-esteem, often switching due to strong emotional events (such as someone getting angry at them or breaking down). A very typical pattern is the BPD partner that abuses their lover, then apologizes profusely and tries as hard as possible to "make it up to them" by doing whatever their lover wants, no matter how submissive or degrading, and enjoy it greatly, since it feels like they're getting what they deserve, what they need, etc. Narcissists won't do that sort of thing.
This is a brief overview that might help:
http://thenarcissisticlife.com/the-difference-between-borderline-and-narcissistic-personalities/
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So im in a pickle. I have a gf of 7 months, and im positive i love her. But lately ive been getting feelings for my best friend (girl), and last night i had a dream of her pulling me aside and making out with me. It feels so wrong, but a small part of me likes it. Wtf do i do
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It's a daydream, don't be stupid. How old are you?
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Idk, dont cheat, or maybe do cheat. I always assumed the lust for other women would go away after you love someone for a long enough time, but it only gets stronger. In a 1.5 year relationship myself. What's worse is that you will begin to have sex less frequently, and you will start justifying your infidelous thoughts due to the lack of sex
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>I love herrr I'm sure
>oh wait, now I want my best frienddd wahhh
Fuck off. You don't know what love is if you're being a confused faggot about trivial shit like a retarded ass dream
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A question and then advice. 2016-05-02 03:07:44 Post No.17098852
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A question and then advice.
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One of my family members has begun buying and selling pic related and using it on themselves. I think it's a feelgood product but am not completely certain. But she's cometely sure it's got medical benefits. I tried finding proof off either medical benefits or fraudulent claims but I just can't come up with anything.
So the question is; is this a scam or not. And if it is how can I get this stuff out of my families life. If it's not, not my problem.
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>>17098852
I know tea tree oil has antibacterial properties, and I think mint might too. I think the rest might just smell good.
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>>17098902
And I don't think I've ever seen tea tree oil from them. Pretty big red flag for me.
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>>17099006
They are oil based air fresheners m8. Nothing medicinal about them, nothing addictive, or druggy. Sure you read about how certain smells make your mood change, but it's bullshit. Anyone who believes that is an idiot
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How do I get my motivation from myself as opposed to other people?
I literally don't want to do anything productive when I don't have friends. The point where I started having people I considered friends is the point where I did best academically and when I didn't have anyone to improve for I just sank and lost any will to do anything besides what seemed absolutely necessary.
How can I stop being like this?
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Help.
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Please
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bumpin.
I want to know too.
Parenting advice? Six years ago my sister was murdered I adopted her baby( dont know who the father is).The rest of my family wants me to tell her she's not mine but I don't want too well at least not yet
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It will come up at some point regardless since your family want her to know.
Are you alone or do you have an SO to look after her with?
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>>17098832
The time is near when you should have to tell her, but you're probably the best judge of when to do that is. Just don't wait too long.
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>>17098832
Let her bring it up.
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someone is using esp to put thoughts about cutting off my toes inside my head how do i stop them before they make me kill myself
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go to a psych
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sounds 100% like a mental health issue you ought to see a professional about, boss
with complete certainty I can tell you that nobody is putting those thoughts into your mind but yourself. You're being an obsessive.
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I think actual paranoid schizos are more rational than that.
Try harder.
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How do I tell a girl that I don't like to text?
I've only seen this girl three times and I'd prefer to wait till I see her in person to converse. I appreciate the thought behind wanting to text me, but I only like to use texting as a platform to set up dates and stuff.
How do I tell this girl that I don't like to text w/o hurting her feelings and making it seem like I don't want to talk to her?
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How about a compromise of a phone conversation?
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continue replying to her texts, but do it more slowly. then when you see her, be like
>it's really nice to talk to you in person again
>I like this better than texting, honestly I'm not much of a texting type of guy
calling her on the phone to set up dates instead of texting might help too.
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>>17098771
Are you the one who asked "how's your day so far?"
Texting or not, stop doing that. It makes you come off as beta to ask questions like this, especially if you do it often.
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>redpill tells me women are evil and I will never be with one
>feminists tell me im evil and I dont deserve a woman
>my instinct tells me that i am not evil, and that only some women are bad not all
Of the 5-6 women I have had extended conversation with in the last year, none of them struck me as particularly rude. One is one of my closest friends now.
I am in a position of being at an all male school in the last year (18, chill) so admittedly I dont have a good view since issues at home and with exams have distracted me from socialising as much as i would like.
Is reality as I think it is or am I dead wrong?
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women are legit evil. They are greedy whores who have no conscious and will ruin a mans life
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>redpill tells me women are evil and I will never be with one
>>feminists tell me im evil and I dont deserve a woman
They're both wrong. Reality is more nuanced than "all women" this or "all men" that.
Anyone who speaks in absolutes like that is copping out, hard. Its easier to make the opposite gender the enemy than it is to look inwards and reevaluate yourself.
Keep staying level headed and life will work out just fine, kid.
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>>17098752
That's not what I have seen. It seems to be pretty much equal cheating and dumping in what I can perceive. However, more guys get rejected, but thats probably down to them doing 99.9% of the asking out.
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Ok /adv/, I need some help.
I'm basically a social outcast. I just moved to a new city a few months ago. On top of that, my girlfriend broke up with me right before I left to do some national guard stuff in Germany so she could go fuck another guy. That took a huge blow to my self esteem. I'm in shape, I exercise regularly,I have a great passing job, and a great apartment. Basically what I'm asking is how do I make friends? Especially when I hate my fucking millennial generation? I don't know what is wrong with me. Pic related, it's me.
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I apologize for the misspelling, I meant great paying job. I'm on mobile.
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*tips fedora back*
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Find hobbies, especially social hobbies. Take classes in things you want to learn/enjoy.. Learn to cold approach random strangers and have random conversations. Appearance doesn't mean shit once you can get 5 minutes of a conversation.
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Where are places to get a girlfriend? Like I see on youtube people approaching girls they don't know but wouldn't that be creepy in real life? I don't have many friends in school and the lady friends I do have I am not interested in. Any help is good help!!!
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Fucking this or in general tips in trying to talk too people would help
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School and work are usually the best places,
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>>17098705
You from Bama my nigga?
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I have a broken heart. I wake up almost everyday and think of her. Some days are better than others. I have a horrible empty feeling in my stomach. I want the pain to stop. I don't know if I u still love her or if its just lust. She was the first person I ever opened up to. My friends tell me I should open up more. But I don't know how. Help me.
Also vent thread
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you need to realize that she is only a small segment of your life, and worrying about the details instead of the big picture wont get you anywhere. Remove memorabilia of her, even if in means new bed sheets. It will take time, even if you find somebody new while you're still hurting, it will fog your mind for a while. It has and will happen to everybody.
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>>17098721
But we are still friends I see her at college and have class with her. I am the only one who can't seem to move on ... I'm a piece of shit .
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chill. again, she is not your fucking life. There was this girl in high school that i thought was the one, and i opened up to her too. when she dumped me i thought it was the end of the world. she walked the same way as me everyday, and eventually she started showing her new bf around me, It takes time and pain, but eventually you will be happy you got over her. Just focus on improving and finding out yourself, she isn't your life.