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that pic is totally shooped.
nobodys eyes are that blue.

Bumping - will post actual picture when someone shows up to save the day

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I'm an artist that works with photoshop CS6.
I'll take a crack at it.

Are you prone to anxiety attacks?

>>17099803
I don't know what this is.

>>17099808
Sometimes people get a sudden sense of anxiety and begin to panic. Try to lay down on your back and slow your breathing. Calm yourself. Use rational thinking and realize your not in immediate danger.

Don't listen to shit talkers. Just do your job and ignore the drama queens.

>>17099782
This >>17099798

If he acts like a big enough hassle for the boss he will be fired. Do your job well and you will be rewarded.

there will always be whispering behind anyones back and complaints about nothing in any social situation, no exceptions. its just how we humans are.

realizing this if you actually feel threatened or insecure because of those complaints talk to your superiors about it. they will without doubt tell you that they have your back and thats all that matters.

you better get used to this by the way, things like this never stop.

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You start with a tec-9 and a couple of full mags

Well focus on school get your masters degree go to /fit do workout plan. Intern at companies you want to work for. Work six years after that and boom nice car big house.

>>17099765
You are right now at one of the very few really great turning points in your life, an opportunity to completely re-invent yourself.

Among the many exciting things about going off to college is this big one: NOBODY THERE KNOWS YOU!

Nobody knows that you're a nerd, or that you have a reputation as bully-fodder, or that you were unpopular, or that you had no success with girls. You don't walk around with "Designated Loser" tattooed on your forehead.

NOBODY KNOWS WHO THE OTHER KIDS HAVE DECIDED YOU ARE. If you can pull it off, you can re-invent yourself as a chad. At the very least, you will start with a clean slate and no preconceptions about you. Be who you are or who you choose to be, and the world around you will accept you as that.

Survive the next couple of months, and then you start your whole life over again, on your terms.

Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Tell him what he does makes you uncomfortable and if he wants to spend some bonding time together before you leave for college make some plans to do stuff.

>>17099737
He loves you and is gonna miss you when you're gone. You can't stop him from doing what he's doing, but he'll get over it as time passes.

>>17099737
>come up behind me and hug me
Do you feel a boner ?

Also male or female ?

>>17099720
Therapy.

I tried that too.
I felt extremely uncomfortable that someone was prying into my head. Probably worse than talking to people ever was.
I felt like I needed to escape immediately.
I feel like help at this point is unreachable.
This is sort of my last resort.

>>17099770
The point of therapy is to let someone pry into your head. Figure out how you work and work with you to help normalize the situation. Try harder

Any time, which might be all the time; you have anxiety. Direct that energy towards the hardest decision emotionally, break your cycle.

It'll be the hardest thing in your life but it's really simple and gets easier immediately as you do it, and quicker the more consistent you do it.

When you notice anxiety, direct that energy into an image you truly want to see yourself as. This typically relates to something you enjoy doing. You have to have some level of self-indentity to propagate your energy this way.

When you feel anxiety, direct the energy towards an activity that betters you or helps you in some way. Focus the external energy, internally.

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>>17099655
http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=107
you could try meditating

>>17099703
Tried meditation, haven't really gotten good results. My guess is that either it's for the same reason that sedatives make me less calm, or due to the narcolepsy (it tends to put me to sleep, and the effort required to stay awake probably interferes badly with the proper relaxation and mind-clearing). Or both.
I'd like to get really into it since my little bro says it's helped him a lot, but no idea how to fix this.

Any alternative techniques you guys can recommend?

>>17099683
>This typically relates to something you enjoy doing. You have to have some level of self-indentity to propagate your energy this way.
>When you feel anxiety, direct the energy towards an activity that betters you or helps you in some way.
I guess I do this since I do pour a lot of energy into work and hobbies: got all sorts from art to programming, succeed at most of the things i set my mind to.
Problem is, I need to be able to do unpleasant tasks like paying bills, talking to people, etc that create more anxiety.

Vape, that ought to teach him.

I'm serious.

>>17099653

my gfirst suggestion was to ditch smoking with him. only one of these thigns is important to you. if its smoking you find more smokers. if its friends you quit smoking because you are deepening your bond in doing so, while still revolving around the cigarettes.

but if you feel hes ditching you it may be time to move on in general. the big question

>how do i get over

never ask this. life is life is life. there are no ways to 'get over' this nonsense out side of comforting rituals. you continue living life. if you sense its creating a hole (re: a lack of friend to hang out with) than you either mend the fence or go find new fences.

>>17099661
Both are important. I love smoking, but I also really value my best friend.

Is still stupid, I hope a journalist founds it out and sue you or something, that would be justice.

Why don't you write it yourself? Bad at writing? You have something new to do.

>>17099645

sueing. depends on your country. some places are more or less protected form international copyright law. theres some small fucking country in the middle east that illegally aired an illegally produced dragon ball x sailor moon crossover but even if japan wanted to sue itd be a waste of time.

if you make any good money from it you can expect them to at least try though. much smaller is fine but it depends how small really. agian, if you are making money, you can get in trouble id wager.

>>17099651
Not actually bad at all. Back when i used to write about random bullshit like love people actually bought my papers.

I just dont like the risk of wasting my time and energy in case it doesnt work, so thats why i want to translate stuff from already popular site.

>>17099666
Interesting, i will look into the international copyright law and how exactly it works over here in Czechia.

Thanks for the warning anon

>>17099578
Get some carolina reaper hot sauce, or jolokia pepper hot sauce; and -really- fuck with them.

Get their numbers and fucking mail/mms flood them anonymously.


Every time they do this, retaliate in a passive aggressive way that there is no way faculty can prove "YOU" did something.

Be wary of cameras.


Slash tires if it gets bad.

NEVER ADMIT YOU'RE DOING THIS OR GIVE THE HINT, with body language or actual language you know what I mean.

Dudes advice. Punch her on the bridge of the nose. You will break it. If you continue to hit neck if you can that way the bitch have a hard time breathing . They are going to kick your but eventually but will not fuck with you anymore after that.

Maybe next time grab their arm and ask them what the fuck is going on. They're doing it because they know they can get away with it.

If it comes down to it you might have to fight. At least the school will have a record of you reporting this.

>>17099551
Put his dick in your mouth.

>>17099551
Talk to them like another human being.

>>17099766
What exact words do I use?

>>17099547
I'm 28 and still feel look how I did when I was 20. There's lots of things to look forward to when you get older

>>17099600
You aren't freaking out? Why?

>>17099547
Op I'm 18, and ever since I was 14 I started freaking out about getting older. We only have so much precious time on earth, and it's terrifying how fast it goes. I suppose you just have to do your best to love in the moment, live for today not tommorow. That's what I do, and for the most part it works.

>>17099526
All you have to do is stay calm and think about last night.Why did you do it? How did you feel? Did you like it? Do you feel attracted to him?
Those are the kind of questions you have to ask yourself.

There's no exact method that can say "Yes, you're 100% bisexual" or something like that, this is more like speculation in a sense, you have to use your feelings as a guide

>>17099526

>what are some ways to see if i am bi or straight wihtout requiring another human being.

porn, generally. its not fool proof but if you can watch a lot of gay porn and get off, you are likely gay. watch some without touching your penis and see if oyu are naturally stimulated.

its not fool proof though to be honest i think the most important thing to sexuality is chemistry. I am a gay man, but a few weeks ago i saw a webm of soem really hot lesbians making out and fingering each other and i went ahead and jerked off to it. i have literally zero chemistry for women in real life however. whereas men i feel an immediate bond of sorts.

try porn and if oyu like it, consider trying a real life approach.

Sexuality exists on a spectrum for most people. It's likely that you're mostly into girls but have a strong attraction to this man in particular.

Don't sweat it and don't get too worked up about discrete categorizations. Humans are more complex than that.

Depends on the business. More info if you want competent adv

>>17099623

>depends on the business

mostly this. but also what this investment means. is it just money down the drain but your life is otherwise fine? or is it htat you are relying on this money to become more money cuz if it doesnt you are fucked sometime this year or next?

>>17099509
Are you a photographer/videographer?

If so, they're rough fields. I quit doing it for a living a while back because I just couldn't take how shitty it was. 90% of it is marketing, though, and if you have a niche that's not overflowing and can actually market yourself and produce good work, then there's still a place for it.

What I'll say is that 3k isn't that much money in the scheme of things. Yeah, losing it would be a punch in the gut, but it's not an amount you can't make back in a month or two at a regular job.

>>17099428

>whats the best way to find a therapist, /adv/?

generally speaking you should go to your isnurance providers website, put in the proper information, and it will pull up a list of nearby therapists who are covered by your insurance. others may also be covered, but these ones often get you the smallest copays. go in and try each one for three sessions. quit if they arent good and move on to the next. im not saying quit if you dont see improvement, cuz it takes time. but if your therapists seems inattentive, unsupported or simply suggests you 'live with' whatever your problems are, ditch him/her. a good therapist helps you pinpoint hte problems, and find ways to tackle them.

>lost the love of my life to it

heres a big problem. there is no real 'love of your life'. subjectively sure, you can look back and say that, but ur fucking 30 mate. in another 30 years you may be single agian, but you wont be thinking of this particular girl as the love of oyur life.

>lost my job to it

ur on a slippery slope

>had to move in with parents
>dropped my classes

if its clinical you should ahve been seeing a psychiatrist already. it sounds to me that you like having depression as a scapegoat though

>>17099510
I don't really have an insurance provider, just state Obamacare shit.

>heres a big problem. there is no real 'love of your life'. subjectively sure, you can look back and say that, but ur fucking 30 mate. in another 30 years you may be single agian, but you wont be thinking of this particular girl as the love of oyur life.

Yeah, I know what you mean, and honestly she was toxic as fuck anyway. I still can't help but beat myself up over it, though.

>if its clinical you should ahve been seeing a psychiatrist already. it sounds to me that you like having depression as a scapegoat though

I saw several shrinks when I was in my teens, was diagnosed as clinically depressed, and was put on various antidepressants, none of which worked for me. My father is also clinically depressed, as was his mother.

I've spent the last 10 years denying that I have a problem and trying to fix things myself, and nothing has worked. I'm really at the end of my rope.

>>17099428
You can ask trusted friends - more of them will have experience of this than you suspect. Or ask your doctor for a reference (That might have the added bonus of making it covered by insurance)