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Bumping for good cause

>>17129627
Bumping for hope.

Post this on /b/. That board has the most traffic

The message is good. Now edit it to shorter sentences and get to the point. It's pretty "wall of text" atm

>>17129565
just say literally this

>OK, I can respect that. I hope you are feeling better soon.

I'm a relationship expert of sorts.

>>17129565
>women
Imagine a world where they'd just tell you how it is instead of being cryptic with everything they say and mean.

Just write back with "Okay, I'm here when you're ready." or you can be a fagboi and go to her house with flowers and shit and comfort and talk to her. Or both, visit her and just chill with her[watch a movie or something] and tell her she can talk to you when she's ready.

Just do the above. If this isn't the first time and she regularly does this, dump her. You don't want an oversensitive drama queen that overthinks everything, believe me, you don't.

>>17129533
>So my girlfriend was recently raped
[spoiler] she liked it [/spoiler]

>>17129536
kk dude

>>17129536
Hey there /r9k/, how is involuntary virginity treating you these days?

>>17129518
In my uni there was a thing called an "academic leave" where you could basically take a year off from studies to get your shit together. Perhaps there are similar options in your university, try asking around.

>>17129602
That probably won't apply to me because my scholarship ends this year.

The thing I feel bad mostly is that I'm now in a limbo of being a nobody, too qualified for some jobs but not quite for PhD jobs.

Might as well just get a job at McDonalds

Wtf that is suppose to me my destiny

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Tinder is narcissistic fuel/shallow sexually charged pursuits/cancer. The girls you meet at clubs are also shallow, vain, slutty, bitchy, etc etc. Don't meet a girl on drugs.

Get over your sex drive and find a good girl you can love and adore who shares the same interests as you. It isn't a race to lose your virginity

>>1712955
Yeah but I'm 22 and I already feel abnormal for being a virgin. Of course I'd prefer to find a nice cute gf but I wouldn't turn down any experience. And I wouldn't mind if tinder was indeed sexually charged but I can't seem to get those famous hook-ups despite getting lots of attention. Looks like most girls are interested in your conventional dating stuff which puts me off because:
- it's complex and tiring to my inner assburger
- it's extra awkard when you do it with girls you've met online.

So far I have met up with 3 girls from tinder.
First one it turns out I wasn't attracted to and she wasn't attracted to me.
Second had a cool personality and even though I fucked up the date majorly she might have still been interested in me but unfortunately I wasn't attracted to her.
Third one was cute, but due to my behaviour (lack of confidence and poor skills in talking to girls I like, at least when they're a stranger from tinder) she probably didn't like me and we didn't meet up anymore.

bump, even if you look at this board literally everyone is having sex and I'm the virgin freak at 22

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>>17129481
fully opening up with a woman* Please excuse the typos, etc.

Well, what do you have to lose by being open? Possibly a vain bitch. That's a win-win in my books.

every time i end up "opening up" with a woman, we end up splitting up not long after

and that wasn't even "fully opening up", most women are idiots who can't cope with knowing that their "perfect" boyfriend isn't actually perfect

>>17129418
You say medication doesn't help you. Who did you get that from?

>>17129418
I have bipolar, and self-awareness is god. You just need to be able to tell yourself, "I feel this way because of a mood swing", acknowledge the feeling, and then say "this isn't me, this is the mood swing, fuck off mood swing".

I mean y'know I still feel like shit most of the time and have the occasional rage-out but generally it's nice to have a social life, go on dates and actually leave my room.

But practice makes perfect man, you need to keep at it and always make sure you're not suppressing the feelings. Acknowledge that they're there, and logically move past them.

After that the next step is trying to work out what's logically real between your feelings and your mood swing when you're 3 months into a suicidal depression or when you're sprinting across train tracks 'cause you're invincible.

But keep trying bro, it gets better as we learn to manage it.

>>17129453
Psychiatrist.
I mean it does help sometimes, but I cant notice a pattern. It doesn't last. Then I'll get restless or angry at the fact that it's not working properly and I'll stop taking the meds. Will become even more emotional. After a few days I start taking it, and the moods tame again. And so forth

>>17129475
As far as I know, you can be totally normal and perhaps happy in between bipolar episodes. Is that true?
I'd rather not have self awareness, if I'm gonna suck to hell and back I may as well not be aware of how much I do suck. I'm trying to rationalize everything, be aware of it and even say 'this is not me' but then inevitably, having had these changing emotions since forever, the question will pop up 'who am i? which one of these emotions/modes?'
>when you're sprinting across train tracs 'cause you're invincible
this actually sounds nice, to have that kind of self ocnfidence and feeling of invincibility. Does it last at least a week

You already know alcohol is not the solution. Don't lie to yourself like a little kid.

>>17129280
With all due respect, I already stated in the OP that I know alcohol is not the solution. The fact that it's the only crutch I have that works at all is a testament to my desperation, not the claim that it is good.

I'd say max out masturbating (edging a long time etc) for the physical lust and spoon a dog for the cuddling part. It's better still if you have a friend you can non-sexually cuddle with but as a guy that's hard to come by I guess.

Having said that, if you can manage to get strangers for one night stands it seems unlikely to me that you couldn't possibly get a relationship, unless your standards are out of control... what makes you think you're so bad?

She cheated on you

>>17129106
I don't think it's that although I thought it might've been. She's a virgin and legitimately scared of sex and the most she's ever done has been with me (I fingered her and ate her out), I don't think it's that

You should leave her alone for a while. She's trying to protect you from herself. Just send her one message saying you'll let her have her space but that you're there for her if she needs anything, but be loving and supportive.

I went through this myself, she'll come back when she'll feel better.

>>17129081

Also I love my mother and want her quality of life at the end of her life to be good as I don't want her to be a potato. I'm certain that sentence sounded quite harsh and self centered.

>>17129081
Kids have better brains than adults
Just sit down and talk with her about your concerns, maybe ask her to talk with a doctor about supplements, make sure she eats more fish, preferably Atlantic mackerel if you can find it, for its high phosphatydylserine content. Good on you for looking out for your mom. I really hope I have dementia when I go though.

>>17129081
>>Tried playing a simple board game with her the other day and she forgot the rules every turn and said it was "beyond her" when a literal 5 year old could play.

This reminds me of my mom. She had the same lack of motivation and struggled learning anything new. She even said something was "beyond her" when presented with simple tasks like using a tv remote.

>>17129019
I mean last year 100 after a week* not a year

>>17129022
I mean, I can accept it and i'm fine with not being so lucky as last year.

But I have an absolute of 0 after a week so i'm really confused. I should've at least had some fat chicks or girls I accidentally superliked. At least that was my experience.

I'm honestly thinking that it's some sort of technical issue since last year everythign was entirely different. I could accept less matches, but an absolute of 0 is just almost unrealistic.

Does anyone know?

Oh great, my facebook sex was set to 'female' for some reason

could this have to do with anything?

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>>17128695
I hope this answers your question

>>17128702
This is so true. There's a reason telephotos are the lens of choice for portraits. I wish it weren't such a pain in the ass to take selfies with my 70-200.

>>17128695

pierced nips ftw

I can't try, I will never break out of this vicious cycle of laziness and depression.
Perhaps it's how I was raised, maybe I was spoiled too much. But I wouldn't dare to blame my parents, because in the end it's my choices that made me who I am.
Maybe I'm retarded, maybe I'm autistic, maybe I have ADD, maybe I have anxiety problem. It doesn't matter, nothing changes even if I find out why this is happening since I will only use it as an excuse to run away from things.
I'm sick and tired of running away from things. But even if I start facing my reality, there are so many things I've been neglecting that I wouldn't know where to start.

It's too late for me.
Maybe that's an excuse to not try.
In the end, it really doesn't matter. I probably will keep doing what I've always been doing. Today, tomorrow, next year, until the day I eventually starve or kill myself.

I'm so sorry

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>>17129913
I feel you anon.
I just got a letter from the faculty of my university that basically says that I'm going to be expelled, it's not a surprise though since I'm a fucking failure.
I'm just waiting for something to happen and somehow die, I'd to commit suicide but I can't do that to my mom.

So I' sorry too.

>>17128520
thanks for the post OP, I didn't expect it comes from here

>>17128490
No. You're not missing out on anything, and you'll thank yourself later when you have money. Every smoker I know never has money, especially if they're the 2+ packs a day people. Drinking can be okay, if you're with good friends, but pay attention to your limit. A light buzz isn't bad, but don't get shitfaced. It's not fun.

>>17128509
Thanks. Alcohol doesn't interest me since I've seen how alcoholics seemed to make a fool of themselves every time. I've just been thinking about trying out smoking for the 1st time but I guess I should avoid it.

Avoid smoking. It's not worth the health complications down the line.

Drinking..keep it to a minimum. But it's better not to start up a habit. Some people have addictive personalities and it's hard to stop.

simply tell him that you don't love him and want him out of your life. what's so hard about that?

>>17128402
Too quick, too painless. This needs to be slow and ugly, just like all of the times I've had to deal with him.

>>17128387
>(manchild),

how old is he?