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I'm in my early twenties. I don't have a great deal of success with women, but I met a girl online and we went on a couple of dates. On the first date, I could tell she was interesting and smart, but clearly a bit manipulative and narcissistic. I didn't want to judge her to early. Then, I went on a second date, and all of this became more obvious, but she was still fun to talk to.
The really bad part came when I brought up something about ethics, and she mentioned quite clearly that she doesn't care about the suffering of other individuals. Then she went on about how she bullied people in high school and laughed about it.

I felt sick to my stomach immediately, and threw up when I got home. Am I reacting too strongly? I was bullied a bit in school, but I think the real thing that got me is that it was scary to see someone like this who really didn't understand that hurting people for pleasure was bad.
It's not so much the fact that she was a bully, but that she had no shame whatsoever.

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I CANT SLEEP FOR SHIT

I get mostly 5 hours a night and its driving me crazy, i'm almost always in a foul mood.
I wake up three or four times a night, can only go back to sleep with great effort, am completely unable to take naps; did so only a handful of times in my life.

I rarely drink or do drugs (weed once a week), i go to bed at around 11, get out at about 9 still really tired because of the aforementioned.

Wat do? ;_;

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So I work at a McDonald's inside a walmart and this really cute girl works at walmart. She comes in and I can tell she totally likes me and i like her back.

However whenever I get a chance to talk to her my face gets all red and I can barely talk.

Any advice on how I can have a normal conversation and maybe ask her out.

Do I ask for her number or just ask if she wants to go out sometime?

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I know it's pathetic to ask this on an anonymous image board from people who doesn't even know me. But I really need someone's opinion cause I've been unhappy for a long time and I'm constantly torn apart between doing what's right and doing something to chase happiness.

I'm 21 years old and this is my first year in college. I'm studying on a wrong field, kinda. I'm studying business administration, but I actually should have studied marketing. I just didn't realize that until during my first year in college.

I'm too much of a pussy to apply for another university, cause I already got student debt and if I started all over again, I'd lose that 15k I've invested in my current uni and I'd lost one year of studying too.

So I guess what's smart is to push through this degree. But I really hate studying. I got too much spare time which I spent doing nothing. I'm not happy, I can't live in a moment and I always feel like like I'm trying to wait for my life to begin. I never feel like I'm home, happy with myself, doing what I love. I've been moving around a bit and I feel like that things and people come and go.

I don't know what to do, with my life or with anything. I know I should get a degree and focus my energy fully on that, but because I'm not happy or even mildly satisfied, everyday is a bit of a struggle. I've read all the self-help books and articles, but something is just missing. I got no passion for my studies or my life.

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>CEO assing me a project for me only, develop something from scratch to a client
>CEO also relies on me to schedule the agenda of external employees so they don't mess up with the client in their respective projects
>Manage this other people like a boss, gain recognition from my manager and coworkers
>All looking fine in life
>The time consuming task it was supervise these other people didn't allow me to develop more than 1/4 of the project I had been assigned in the first place
>Pretend that I have 2/4 of it done and promise that I'll have 3/4 by the next week
>"But anon, this should be 100% done by now"
>Check schedule, they're right
>Start working at godspeed
>This project might be more complicated that what I thought
>Honestly I also didn't put the effort I could during the development
>During random presentation
>"Anon, why do you have the version 24 of the documentation? you should be using the 29"
>Ask them for the document, there are a lot of changes and even more to develop
>Lost client's trust by now, they are doing 2 meetings a day in order to see my progress, I will not make it in time and I had to stop going to college in order to end this development
>Stayed up all night
>Couldn't finish

I'm stressed as fuck.

Shaking because I took a pill to cut my sleep in order to stay on my PC the whole night and my hearth is beating like it's about to explode.

I never had to go through this and I don't have even a remote idea of what to do.

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Hey, i was at a doctor yesterday helping my mother get there and i just mentioned to the doctor that I'm physically tired ( and low performance in gym) for no reason several months and he prescribed me Cipralex 10mg.
I've read almost all of the manual and took half of the pill and now I'm something like stoned/distracted and i cant focus, have slight nausea and no appetite. I already cancelled my driving school and I'm not even going to gym, because i would do something crazy there.

Can someone tell me what is going on? Do i have some bad side effects/i really hope im not bipolar or something.

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Seriously considering suicide.

I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years, past 6 months have been extremely rocky and i believe its coming to an end, i have never loved someone so much in my life but she's so unhappy. I cant live with myself knowing i have made the one person in my life who i truely love unhappy. I feel worthless and useless. I dont know what to do.

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This guy and his boyfriend are prejudice against drag queens and they often harrass me at the gay bar where I play poker on Friday nights. They said this about me on yelp can I sue them for slander? I never asked to watch them pee or stuck my hands in their pants! They are trying to get me kicked out of the bar with their lies *(pic related)*.

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A group of co-workers who don't like me and are compromised of stacies and chads call me a retard or handicapped.

For instance I might be working in their vicinity while assigned to work as part of a team and one of them will cough and say "handicapped". This happens and has happened with enough frequency that there can be no doubt as to their intention. They know me to be a passive individual who retreats from confrontation and so they take advantage of that.

Despite this I've also been asked for math help by a younger manager for a course they were taking, and people who are outside of certain cliques treat me normally for the most part. Especially nerds.

I have Aspergers if that helps.

I've worked with this same group of people in the past and as time went on they became increasingly hostile.

At this point I might have an individual at work with whom I had some kind of rapport (or where they at least treated me somewhat normally) only to have them interact with this group of people and have their demeanor towards me turn ice cold where they'll treat me like I'm radioactive or in some way that indicates discomfort or dislike.

I have other anecdotes which would convey just how much these people dislike me, and it is a lot, and very distressing. I've also been bullied by managers, and the younger manager who asked for my math help informed me that the woman doing the payroll was intentionally and openly cheating me on the payroll because she knew me to be a passive person who wouldn't put up a big enough fight to have the matter resolved (I was aware of this issue for awhile now and I am in the process of having it fixed now).

How do I deal with this before it gets out of control?

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My girlfriend's father died yesterday and I'm supposed to see my gf tomorrow. How does one act on this situation, am I supposed to cheer her up, act sad, or act normal? Is it ok to call her as often as I use to or should I give her space?

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Which positions make a girl feel "slutty" during sex? Can you recommend things I should try with my gf? I want to do something that makes her go a little crazy. Sex have been a bit boring lately.

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If anyone can tell me what the fuck happened, it would be great.
>play LoL
>have team on skype
>add random to skype for a game
>sometimes we speak, mostly not
>have boyfriend (everyone knows him)

This random starts acting weird. One day he is telling me he hates my boyfriend and wants to get with me then the very next day he is talking about how he scored himself a girlfriend. We all congratulated him but he kept acting weird with me. He sometimes insulted me, throwing sly digs about everything from my boyfriend's name to my clothing.
I eventually deleted him because shit got creepy and he had a meltdown over it.
He keeps trying to add me under different names to abuse me.

Do people really get this upset if you delete them from your contacts?
Did I do something socially unacceptable that I am unaware of?

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My girlfriend is on the larger side, she is around 210lbs at 5'7". She also has Keratosis Pilaris which makes some of her skin look and feel rough (pic related).

I'm not a model myself, but I'm am in decent shape and I think I look overall pretty good. My weak points are my hair and my style (which she has influenced and made better)

My girlfriend will not go on runs with me, or try exercise at all. I have tried to spin it in so many ways and she just won't do it. She has started losing weight when she got on the pill, so now she thinks she doesn't need to do anything. We both have bad genes when it comes to blood pressure, she has body image issues, and she has anxiety attacks. Exercise will help her in all of those issues.

She also will not take any treatment for her skin condition. She says that it goes away with age and now she feels like it would be weird if she did something to make it go away.

The girl has a beautiful face, and is very caring and sweet, but my attraction level to her is low. Not only because of how she looks, but the fact that the two problems she has can easily be improved.

I want to know if there is anything I can do to get through to her. If she just put some effort in, I don't see any reason why I wouldn't ever want another girl.

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Is there such a thing as being too self aware?

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How do I stop video game addiction? How do I stop playing vid games? It's ruining my life.