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We were arguing last night and ended up play-wrestling in bed. She was giggling and tickling me so it's not like it was a serious fight. Eventually I pushed her onto her back and she didn't bother getting up anymore.

I used to have makeup sex in my previous relationship so I thought that was a good idea. She said "no" and "don't" a few times as I was putting on a condom and inserting but stopped struggling as soon as I got my dick in. From then on she just lied there quietly, unmoving with eyes closed. I continued fucking her for good five minutes before giving up since I got no reaction from her. She wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the night but acted normally the next morning.

Was it rape? She wasn't fighting back seriously. This has happened a couple of times but previously she's always given in and enjoyed it.

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I'm lonely AF (no friends, no sex, no social life whatsoever) and I have devised a way to fix this. I intend to join Alcoholics Anonymous just so I can hang out with people, and maybe get some pussy. I am in no way an alcoholic, and drink only moderately, but I intend to lie about it and pretend I can't stop drinking.

Is this a good plan or no?

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One of my best friends had a friends with benefits type relationship with this girl for 2 years. He treated it like a relationship while she did not. Up until two months ago she stopped having sex with him, distanced herself from him dramatically, and really wants nothing else to do with him besides just stay friends. So now we're dating and he is taking it extremely hard. He always wanted a relationship with this girl and treated it like such but never got to that point. It was as he describes his first love, he never did anything with a girl prior to this so it was his first everything. So now she told him she wants nothing to do with him and that we're going to be dating and he hates me now and doesn't want to talk to me. I really like this girl and have known her for years and really see something good that could come out of this. Am I in the wrong? Makes me feel like shit.

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How does /adv/ deal with a sexless relationship?
Medical/life issues keep getting in the way.
>mfw we had sex twice 2 weeks ago.
>mfw it's going to be another 3 weeks.

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When my boyfriend lectures me and wants my attention, he will act out by grabbing my throat and it's with a lot of force. It really hurts. Or will shake me , or push me. When he gets mad , he has bitten me and hit me, and bruised me, put his hands on my throat. He says I'm the problem. But I don't even say a quarter of what he says or touch him. He can be verbally, mentally, and physically abusive, but otherwise he is great. Can be the sweetest boyfriend. He says he's in love with me, but wouldn't he not touch me in any harm if that was the case ? And he will go out of his way to verbally hurt me any chance he gets. He doesn't really love me , does he ?

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How long does it take to get over someone?

I dated a girl for 5 months. She dumped me. It's been 4 months.

After the breakup, I started going to therapy. I quintipled the amount of friends I had, took her off all social media, I got really into both my job and my major, expanded my hobbies, went on a trip to Europe, had a one night stand and a couple dates, and got back into regularly seeing my family and old friends.

And yet, I still think of her many times a day. It totally kills me. Getting over a 4-year relationship I had wasn't this painful. We had the best summer of our lives together (her words, not mine), we helped each other through a ton of rough shit in the fall. Then she said that she met a guy one weekend and had more fun with him in one weekend going downtown than in our entire relationship, and that she should dump me before she does so much as hug him. Then she added that "you were always there for me, the sex was amazing, but you don't get it and you never will. So bye for good, just get out of my life, never talk to me again."

She didn't even end up dating the guy, she's just alone now, I've heard about her twice from two different friends. What the fuck?

It kills me. It killed my confidence. I feel like a wreck.

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There's a girl that wanted to hang out a lot in my life who seems to be shit testing me after I put out an open invite to anyone to see Captain America again, and she wanted to come. She's doing the whole "wait forever" thing to text me back and then pretending she might be busy.

The thing is, I did this to her too, but I did it mostly because I was really sick and didn't want to make a scene about it. Should I just tell her to buzz off?

We used to text each other immediately all the time so I know it's an act... But I also know she used to like me way more than I did her.

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Hey /adv/ A few months ago I asked a girl out who I came to know and like very much asking her out. She told me that she liked me back but she turned me down on my parents religious grounds.

We decided to remain "Not good friends or in a relationship but somewhere in the middle."

Two days ago I recently asked her if we could give the both of us our first kiss and she agreed saying with both of us reaffirming that we really liked each other.

When it does happen in a private place and if the kiss evolves into heat of the moment sex does /adv/ think I should control my urges or if I can't ask her if she wants to take the kiss further right there while making it clear that I'll respect her boundaries if she doesn't want to?

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>How to know your girlfriend is cheating?
Would gladly want to know that..

Got my best friend who is willing to play the bait.
So maybe I could leave them alone while walking to the store or something while he tries to get her to cheat on me.

We both spoke about that already.
Is this "test" kind of too much?
I already got nighmares where she betrays me.

I would gladly apreciate some help.

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I was having sex with a guy and he moved too fast i was hurt and said please take it out it hurts stop and he said I'll get used to it and he continued and i tried my fist on his belly to make him stop but he didn't
what is this am I in an abusive relationship?

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I'm extremely manipulative.

For the past year I have been manipulating everyone I work with. I have been subtly finding their flaws and then instigating them to their worst extremes so that they look far worse than they actually are. I do this so that management will give me more hours than them. So far I've managed to get one person fired and another person transferred and possibly fired soon. I've made another question their sexuality and become highly emotionally unstable which aggravates their alcoholism.

I also make sure that the people who I can't get to leave likes me a lot more than they should for a business setting. I make it so that they feel emotionally attached to my presence so that they will respond better to my increased schedule without being jealous.

For example. They other day I altered the schedule so that a co-worker would be placed in a position they despise working because I knew that it would put them into a bad mood and cause them to work poorly knowing full well that we would be extra busy and need to call in more people, all so they could see how poor his attitude was that day.

I feel absolutely no regret or remorse over actions like this. They are merely tactics to survive.

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First time moving out.

What sort of advice can /adv/ give me?
Both financial & general know-how are a huge help.

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My best friend has a friends with benefits relationship with a girl for 3 years, she left him just recently and now we're in a relationship, is it wrong? I don't know what to think, he's really upset and is taking it real hard.

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My roomate wakes up earlier then like at 6:00 am ( i go to sleep at 1 AM sometimes ) and his alaram usually wakes me up aswell and i can't find myself falling back to sleep, should i visit a doctor, buy some earplugs..any serious suggestions ?

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I've struggled with major depression, anxiety and BDD these past 6 years and things have been the same with very upsetting results from the treatment I've been seeking. I just have tremendous loneliness and an inferiority complex whenever I'm around people now. A lot of it has to do with seeking validation.


How do I fight this beast. It's literally ruined my life and some days I even just feel so hopeless and unwanted that I should just kill myself... I'm tired of being told I look creepy and/or that I look bad and that my eyes are weird. I asked this on /soc/ but people only really just made me feel worse by saying to accept I'm unattractive and focus on what I can change. I'd rather hear that I could maybe change anything about my looks to help them and eventually get over this self esteem problem

Could I be handsome If i ended up getting some form of jaw implants or something down the line? I'm not okay with how I look now because I never get complimented or validated as attractive and I can't even score with girls and I notice my personality isn't really seeming to be the key reason for that. I'm definitely not aspiring to be beautiful and universally good looking. But dead ass, currently, I am stagnated In this area where few people probably find me terrible to look at, but basically none actually see any good in how I look either. So that's pretty shit m8