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read meditations, by marcus aurelius.

>>17126896
And which part of cynic are you trying to shake off from your personality? And why?
>distrusting or disparaging the motives of others;
>showing contempt for accepted standards of honesty or morality by one's actions, especially by actions that exploit the scruples of others
>bitterly or sneeringly distrustful
>contemptuous
>pessimistic
>a person who has negative opinions about other people and about the things people do

Boy one looks educated when spamming definitions from dictionaries :-)

>>17126909
Pessimistic and bitter, about basically everything new. Unless it's good, which seldomly is the case.

As a functioning alcoholic I'd say start with something easy. Eat good, can't stress that enough. Drink water during drinking, and put some water next to your bed. Try to avoid heavy liqour, and most of all, have fun!

>>17126893
Natty Ice

>>17126893
4loko + jagermiester = a great time

Tequila is dope too

Stick to beer for the majority of the night, then get shots. Also everclear makes for interesting times.

hire mercenaries\people to do your stuff
bodyguards too

That's your own damn fault for getting involved with shit people, OP. Deal with it.

Read some shit about diplomacy. And don't show them that you are scared.

My anxieties about wondering if I had lied to her about other things started to take a toll on me. The past had started eating away at me. I was always an extremely depressed person, but before the shift, around her I was always happy and positive. I started to get emotionally abusive. Saying horrible things that I didn't mean but for some reason I couldn't control. It was like someone injected me with PCP and I just went on rampages. Things like seeing her with a picture of her and her ex-boyfriend. That would send me into this psychotic fit of rage and I would try and convince her she was ugly but apologize either once I calmed down (which always followed exteme guilt, emotional numbness, and tiredness) or if she started to defend herself which would take me outside of my person and I would become aware of how pathetic and childish what I was doing. I made sure she knew I didn't mean it and she told me she loved me and that she forgave me and that she would wait for me to get better. It progressed until it was everyday. My mind running wild with thoughts instantly going for the worst place. Every day would end up with her in tears and me apologizing and saying I was gonna get better but I couldn't. Don't get me wrong, I was a good boyfriend. I wrote her an album about how wonderful she was, wrote letters about her, and wrote her millions of paragraphs about how wonderful she was. I made sure everyone on earth knew how happy I was that I even knew her.

Her friends, who used to all be in love with me because I used to be an extremely popular, positive and fun guy, ended up getting involved and they would end up hating me and tell her I wasn't good for her. I was immature and thought to myself "fuck them, they're stupid they don't understand our love." I was blind to the fact that I had completely changed since our relationship had been as nice as it was. This went on for months until the day we were supposed to go to prom. An argument about her lying to me about getting drunk and her not wanting to cut off a friend who tried to kill himself for her to be in a relationship with him resulted in some very psychotic shit happening. We ended up going to prom after it all and it was kinda bad. But the next day I went to Atlanta and she kept saying she wanted to break up because she had fucked up so bad. I got back and kept trying to see her and tried for two weeks straight to get back together and she kept saying "I need space" but i knew she was going to just try and get out of the relationship before I could improve. But then the pain of her leaving me matured me. It made me realize all the shit I had gotten mad about was so stupid and it was like every personality flaw I had was fixed. I tried everything, bringing her flowers And food to her work place but to no avail. She avoided me and kept texting me ad telling me she loved me but that we were unhealthy for eachother. Today it's been over two weeks since prom. She's since blocked me on everything and I have no contact. She said she wasn't in love with me but I know it's because I fucked up so bad and hurt her. She had always said she would wait for me to not be shitty anymore and now I'm fixed and changed as a person but I hurt her too bad and she's given me too many chances and now that I've changed it doesn't matter. But we talked about getting married, having kids, going to college and everything. I love her way too much to let her go and not fix the mistakesz

Because one can easily say that I just have to let her go. But I swear that she's the love of my life. And shes only fallen out of love because of the period that I lost control of my emotions and I misrepresented myself. Before I got like that, we we're so happy. Even while the abuse was happening, she couldn't handle literally a day from me (once I asked for a week for us to cool off and she had her mom demand I see her a day later) and I love her and she's the best thing and the only person I want in my life and the only person who isn't shitty. I know if I had the chance I could fix everything because of this experience. But how do I fix this? We had a history off breaking up for s few hours or s day but that was because of pain from arguments.

Tell me; I'm truly lost here.

>>17126854
She'll probably be flattered and give you her number, but only because it's going to be really awkward for her, and likely for you as well.

I suggest not doing that. Ask her a casual question about something when she's nearby, then introduce yourself and start talking.

>>17126942
Like I said, I'm not great at approaching girls. I'm terrible at small talk until I get comfortable with someone. It seems dreadful to have to power through a few awkward conversations which I, as the man, will have to keep flowing smoothly. I'm terrible at coming up with things to say to strangers. I feel, though, that I'd be more confident just being forthright with my intentions so that I know straight away if she likes me or not. If she does, I would feel more relaxed going forward. If she doesn't, then no harm and on to the next one.

However, I can concede that you make a good point about it being both awkward for her and I. Is there anyway to my preferred method that can dampen this feeling of discomfort? And when you say it will be awkward for her, is this likely to stem more from flattery or annoyance?

>>17126799

nothing? i get shes kind of your OTP for now but there will be other girls. enjoy your life and independence while you can. looking for a 'serious relationship' is like looking for a 'best friend'.

you just meet people and see where it goes. chemistry takes care of the rest.

>>17126822
I guess I'm just burnt out on this process of meeting people and being disappointed, even though I try really hard to hold no expectations. I guess I need to focus on something else for now.

>>17126841

thats what i recommend. you cant really control the kind of people you'll meet or how you'll feel, and intending to meet people is holding an expectation even if you say 'not gonna find the love of my life tonight' cuz ur still going out intending to meet people anyway.

you do you and you do whats fun. externalize those hobbies where possible (most any hobby at least has a group of people that want to meet up and talk about it) and enjoy.

>what i want when i want.
you mean like going to parties and having sex with other girls?

>>17126784
No like making friends that I like. Not that WE like.

>>17126788

that will be an issue. you'll decide whats more important sooner or later. personally i prefer independence. especially at such a young phase in life.

>>17126747

>what should I do?
>I tried everything!
>proceeds to list only the most basic entry level hobbies

wow.

>>17126756
>I'd cont but text limit

I tried shit like parachute jumping, scuba diving and a lot of other stuff.

Gonna try BASE jumping whenever I'll have an occasion

my advice is to not be lazy.

a car

>>17126731
A credit card. Most rental agencies won't even take a debit card.

That's really about it.

>>17126732
>rent a car
Are you some kind of fabulous retard?

Quit thinking with your dick and find someone who can support you once you know how to actually support yourself.

>>17126735
>quit thinking with your dick
you mean behaving on behalf of my dick, right?

>support yourself
I'm not calling loneliness supporting myself anymore

>>17126720
Keep your distance anon, this bitch is expecting to see how you'll react.

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I say no my girlfriend isn't affectionate either and its really painful to see everybody else's gf being extremely affectionate while mine barely aknowledges me even thought I'm trying to be affectionate myself.

The fact that you're asking means that you know it's wrong.

>>17126675
Alright, i will admit that. I do feel bad about it, but i am only doing it to bond with my gf more. So i dont know if it is a necessary evil kind of thing.

>>17126639

expect to be bored if you dont already have a plan for how to spend your time. a lot of people act like getting rid of their tech will magically teleport them to a pile of hot girls at a bar.

have a plan. but also, why are you even doing this

>>17126662
I'm doing this because of my excessive internet use.

But thanks for the tip. I'll try to make myself some sort of journal/agenda so I'll have something to do everyday.

>>17126673

the problem with excessive use is that if you had something better to do, you'd do it. you need a productive hobby to invest yourself in in my opinion.

consider taking other little things you do and reverse engineering them. for instance, like vidyah? design a video game. like comics? draw one? like books? write one. watching sports? play one. think of what you like and reverse engineer it.

use the internet as a resource if you need.

>>17126633

too bad she doesnt like you get over it.

Best thing to do op give her her space to think. You've done enough don't add more into the turmoil cause you giving her more of a reason to stay away from you. Give her space and in return shell come back. Stop being in fear and trust her. If you love her so much accept the schedual she is the honey moon phase is over stop forcing things. Let her breathe so she'll give you answer and she'll come back to you. Trust her learn it

ya that's one of the things I was thinking of doing but I also thought that it might lead her to think that I'm ignoring her instead.

>>17126626
You sound like a loser and it would probably do you some good. If you're asking for /adv/ you're about one step removed from a tumblrina yourself.

>>17126635
I'm mainly only asked to know if my parents are just lying and they asked for the Therapy themselves or if teachers can legitimately do this.

>>17126646
You sound like you're in high school? Either way they'd need your parents' permission.

>>17126596
That usually means they're desperate. They'll take anybody.

Hate to say this but most likely he already has decided who to hire. Guy gave you the interview out of courtesy.

>>17126596
>I applied to be a cuck.

Mate, you read the application wrong...