I can't live with the crippling regret of wasting the last 6 years of my life
My late teens are early twenties may as well have not happened. I had a shitty high school experience, and a mediocre college experience. This was supposed to be "the best time of my life."
It has taken me 6 years to just barely get a worthless degree in a field I don't want to be in. During my time in college, I made/had no friends, no girls, not connections/networking, and no experiences. If I wasn't in class or at my degree's society club, I was sitting alone in my apartment doing absolutely nothing worthwhile.
I keep reflecting at my life and thinking, "is this really it" when will my life begin.
>>17128344
High school is not the best time of your life. Best time is 28-38. Money, decent-looking ladies, and stability. You got time, OP.
Well what are you going to do about it? Mope around some more or grow a pair? Life's largely what you make it.
You can either sit and regret everything and have your life stagnate, or you can realise that the past is the past and move on
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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
> <excuse as to why you can't ask them out>
Shut up
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Girls, if a guy looks good and isn't an autist is it still creepy for him to ask for your number?
Who performed the first rimjob - a man, or a woman?
>>17128126
t. autist
>be me
>kissless virgin
>average income
>no friends
>go to a mall in the rich part my city
>everyone there is pretty
>girls dressed like they're at a nightclub or something
feel shitty inside
how do i get friends, get more money and get a model girlfriend? or at least a qt3.14 gf
>>17127317
For starters you need to ditch the "qt3.14" expression
First of all, don't feel shitty for the fact that there be pretty girls. Whenever I see pretty girls I get really happy. If I'm not standing out in a crowd, it means I'm most likely invisible, so no harm. Being invisible isn't always bad for starters.
lose weight you fat fuck
There's this guy who's definitely my type, but he's a total asshole and very bitter + cynical. He's also a virgin. How do I seduce him?
>>17127189
>How do I seduce him?
No need for that. Just ask.
>>17127189
>but he's a total asshole and very bitter + cynical. He's also a virgin.
You're asking how to seduce a robot?
You don't.
He'll think it's just a cruel joke bein' played on him and he'll avoid you.
Guys like this are like this for a reason... maybe they've been called creepy too many times or friendzoned.
Realised they'll only ever be a friend, while Mr already-has-a-wife-and-beats-her gets the girl again.
Guys like this soon realise they are worse than guys like that and give up + stop tryin'.
They'll never make a move, and they'll never believe it when you make a move.
Unless you're willing to spend a long time gradually knocking his walls down and slowly building his confidence up as a friend first, then spending months tryin' to get him to fall for you (when he knows better than to fall for anyone), it really isn't worth it.
Move on and fuck Chad, like normal girls do.
>>17127189
black mail him.
If you could tell your
highschool self anything
what one piece of advice would it be
>>17126467
you will never live this again
really think about what you're doing
Fuck more girls.
And start college before ending high school.
>>17126467
nothing. everythings exactly how i like it right now.
I am a 23 year old virgin. All the guys I've been close to tell me they are turned off by my pubic hair. Is pubic hair a big problem? Should I shave to make guys happy ?
Being shaved is the norm and most common preference now. But you can always shave (or trim/groom, there's options in between full bush and bare naked) after you met someone... you are only trying to please one specific person, they could be an exception.
Also I don't know how strongly you feel about this, but if you really hate the look of having none (I know I do), I don't think this is the kind of issue that would be a dealbreaker to most guys if they already got to know you and like you a lot. At the very least it's something you can discuss together. I'd say if a guy gets you naked then turns around because your pussyhair styling isn't up to his preferences, he was never serious to begin with.
Also it depends on where you live. Eurofag here and having pubic hair is a lot more normal here than what I hear from American stories.
Ive never minded the look of pubic hair. Ive never been with someone who doesnt shave though so I dont know if it makes it smell worse.
how are they seeing your pubic hair
Hello all,
I have been obsessed for three days with the idea that I had been raped.
On Friday evening I weng out with a guy I met on Facebook. We drank too much wine and then we decided to go home.
On the road, I don't know why, I suggested that he came to my home.
We sat on my sofa, then he asked me to make a cup of tea.
I was still very drunk but I can remember I was lucid.
Then we kissed each other. He took my shirt off, and he undressed too. We only kept our undies.
He asked me to go to the bed. I agreed and I laid next to him.
Actually I did'nt want to do all that but I was too drunk. My friend realized that I was reluctant and he got up, put his clothes on and decided to leave.
Then I sent a sms to ask him if we had sex, and he answered that we didn't.
I was very disgusted and ashamed so I had a shower and I remember I listened to the radio before going to sleep.
All of this in my home should have lasted around 1 hour (according to the time when I sent textos).
When he left I was drunk but I said to myself "remember nothing happened", because I know I can imagine things afterwards and being afraid.
But now it happens. I'm afraid that when we were lying on the bed I got asleep or got amnesia.
But I think it's not rational. It's just fears. What do you think?
You put yourself in a poor position because you were intoxicated, you engaged in the act and didn't object, and you had a friend that bore witness to most of it.
You were not raped, you made a bad decision and now you regret it. Do you honestly want to get somebody locked up because of it?
>>17125374
Beyond that, he was drunk too, so if he did rape you, you also raped him and will have to admit that in court.
I'd like the tape you long and hard is what i think
Mmmm
I hate the summer. Too hot and too many happy people outside.
I have a thirsty ex who really wants to get in my pants again apparently, which really sucks for him because it's not happening. I'm pretty sure I'm going to reel in this guy to be my fuck buddy, if he's up for it. I'm not trying to fall in love, and I'm certainly not trying to listen to fuck boy tell me how great I am and how I deserve so much. Because he can't give it to me, and I can get it for myself.
Not gonna be a dick just yet, but I'm eventually going to have to. And even if the other dude ends up being a one night stand, at least he was a gentleman with his own car and a job. Good Lord I don't know how I attract fuck boys.
I cheated on my ex with her sister and she caught us. It was worth it. That's what she gets for calling me a pussy
My life seems fucking pointless, I want to give it a fucking meaning, even by killing people or punching them in the face for no reason. Gosh seems I'll end up fucking miserable and alone.
So it continues...
>>17110129
Initials...?
Sorry, I had to.
C
I've managed to leave you behind, it been so long I almost thought I'd never get over you. I'm sorry I never said goodbye, I said goodbye to you so many times I almost didn't think it would stick. It's been 6 years since we met and I no longer love you. I know you would only be glad to have me off your case now, I'm sorry I made you the object of my autistic infatuation. I'm so ashamed of myself. I have no longer any idealized memories of our happy days. You refused to call yourself my boyfriend, how could I have ever thought you loved me?
It took me years to realise a few flings off and on wasn't being with the man I though offered me unconditional love. I now know it was me not you. I honestly believed we were fated to be together forever, but can you blame a 17 year old kid from an abusive family for trying so desperately to prove herself to the only person she thought cared about her?
I'm awfully ashamed of who I've been as a result of this infatuation, I've blackened my name and I can never put it behind me. Every day I try to forget about this whole ordeal, I have a gorgeous boyfriend, great career, lots of hobbies and I reconnected with my father, and spend lots of time with my siblings, I want to alleviate you of any guilt for leaving me vulnerable because 7 have a completely different life now with all the support I need.
I hope with all my heart and soul I can leave you alone for good
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>>17110175
Lol
Hey guys, im a 20yo male. I have a girlfriend for more than a month. I love her but i cant have sex with her. Yesterday she grabbed my dick and it wenr from fully erect to half erect almost immidietaly. I'm a virgin so I think it's because Im just fucking nervous. I want to fuck her badly but I cant. Should I get viagra or do you recommend some "non chemical "way to solve my problem?
>>17130039
This is going to sound cringy as fuck but you have to tell her you are nervous. Get her to do shit with your limp dick thats feels good so you get so horny you forget about being nervous.
>>17130039
Just mess around naked without a boner. If you get chill enough you'll get that boner back. You need to relax, it sounds like anxiety that's killing you.
See if she'll give you a bj when you have a soft dick. Soft-dicked bj's actually feel amazing while you're getting them (pretty much the only good head I get since I'm too big for her mouth and I can never get one for more than 6 seconds without getting hard).
Sit around naked, touch each other, mess around with the understanding that you are NOT going to have sex.
>>17130039
if its your first time its ok to be nervous. start off with foreplay or something. i'm a virgin too so i dont know much =( . stay away from viagra you're too young for that.
do you lift? lifting helps out with your testosterone. i'v been /fit/ for a year and i'm more hornier then when i didnt lift.
Sooo yeah I have these sudden mood changes and I can go from a good mood making jokes having a good time too this angry anti-social psycho. And when I am home sometimes I get this random burst of energy and anger. I get the urge to punch and shout and so I do and thus my wall is in holes... So any advice
>>17129894
Are you going through puberty, or high on drugs?
If not, go see a shrink, might be BPD.
>>17129968
No drugs , I mean I have tried but not addicted in any way , but you are right on the first I am 15
>>17129894
you are kind of vague, so there isn't much we can say. if its hurting your life consider going to therapy and slowly moving up that laddera s necessary.
if not not negatively impacting your life, consider just trying to reign it in on your own
>BUT HOW
try to catch yourself doing it, and simply make an effort to control those emotions, even if its just an 'act' you eventually make it a habit.
consider picking up a hobby good for anger. you want an outlet. get a punching bag. or simply by a baseball bat, go out back and hit a tree
How do you avoid a penis size heiararchy in a gangbang?
Me and some friends wanna fuck this girl but we're secretly nervous about our sizes and how they match up
Sounds pretty gay
Of all the things to be worried about with a gang bang........
>>17129843
Fag.
I was told to expect a call back in 5-10 minutes. It's been an hour
>>17129680
It could one of several reasons:
>something came up
>they're busy
>they forgot
>they don't want to
>>17129689
I know but it doesn't make me feel very good :(
>>17129680
call tomorrow.
If they don't pick up or call back after they don't pick up, assume they are not into you.
For anyone who might need it I have something for you. If you want your girl back go listen to November Rain by Gn'R. If you don't like Axl's voice which I know a lot of people don't, go read the lyrics. Barring you having fucked her sister or killed her dog, this song applies to your situation. At the beginning of the song he says "Nothing lasts forever, and we both know hearts can change, and it's hard to hold a candle in the cold November rain."
This is your breakup. Shit changes. People have different feelings.
He goes on to say "Everybody needs some time on their own, everybody needs some time all alone"
This can best be described as a no contact period between you and this person. You need to find yourself, and come to terms with being alone. Be comfortable with it.
Near the end of the song we get to ".. When your fear subsides, and shadows still remain, I know that you can love me when there's noone else to blame."
"so nevermind the darkness, we still can find a way, nothing lasts forever.. Even cold November rain. "
So to conclude, we've gone from coming to terms with it being over, realizing that time to yourself is important, and then resolution. This song is nearly self aware in the sense that the song sounds like it is going to end multiple times. Once we get to the end we reach resolution and whatever that entails in your situation.
Just some food for thought, hope someone sees the same meaning behind it that I do.
>Guns and Roses
You need to be over 18 to post here.
axl rose beat the shit out of his girlfriend tho
>>17129631
19 in reality, 16 at heart. Wouldn't have it any other way
So I have an attention problem, when I have to study or do some sort of work which I do not enjoy that my my attention span drop's REALLY low. I get distracted very easy and by literally everything. I really hate this since it causes me problems and delays me a lot. Any advice on what to do
> Pic is not related
You and I are in the same boat. I went to a neurologist and psychoneurologist and underwent some extensive testing to help diagnose wtf is wrong. Put me on meds that help a great deal, but are nowhere near enough. I'd suggest looking into extensive testing or you and I might just be lazy people of the smartphone world lol.
Object meditation
5 minutes daily
And when you get more advanced
add a 45 minute session at night
Concentration goes up
>>17129751
What exactly do you mean by mediation