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i just can't bring myself to respect women. I want to be in a relationship with them, i want to spend time with them, i want to fuck them, but I just have no respect for them as individuals. Literally, nothing about women is respectable to me. Mothers are somewhat respectable especially if they actually take good care of their kid, but thats about it. I see no other value in women aside from that.
Am i a liberated red pill bro or something?
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Yeah judging people without knowing them is sure 'le redpill'.
/pol/ is basically an industrial grade pussy repellent, so you better get off that shit if you want any action
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Women are shitty as fuck, OP. You can't respect them.
Or you put a facade and fuck them, or you masturbate.
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Show me your genitals and e=mcvagina
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I don't really know where else to turn.
This is the third summer in a row I've been jobless. (Just turned 21)
I always took every piece of (good) advice I was given on getting a job:
>Apply long before the summer starts (I always start applying in February)
>Apply everywhere, even to places that don't have signs up or where you might not be qualified to look, some places might need an errand jockey
>Apply wearing a dress shirt, dress pants, nice haircut, looking sharp
>Have references available (I've done some temp work for a family friend working a sales table at some gaming conventions, and the guy's known me for a long time and would totally give me the best reference ever, if they'd only call him).
I had good grades in HS and I have a >3.5 GPA, just finished my third year of college double majoring in math and education. I wouldn't say I'm attractive or ugly, and I smile about as much as other people.
My main issue is, every place seems to want experienced people- even entry-level shit. Dunkin' Donuts wouldn't hire me to sling donuts and coffee unless I had barista experience, for Christ's sake.
What am I doing wrong? What else can I do right? Even my best friend has gotten a job two towns over, but his mother drives him there at 9am for free.
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>>17147863
I don't know if I can help you. I got my job due to nepotism. The college my dad works at was looking for people to do some work unboxing and hooking up computers and stuff. I did that last summer and then started working in the records department. I'll probably do more physical stuff this summer. Maybe you could try something like that.
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>>17147863
a few things
first is dont be so hard on yourself. namely because getting a summer job is kind of like trying to learn how to do a back flip, once a year. by which i mean its a really weird task.
perfectly hirable well resume'd experienced full fledged adults can spend months looking for a job. so you trying to find a job during the biggest job rush of the year (except for maybe the christmas season) where every fucking student / person at your level is applying for jobs on top of the adults is frustrating.
yes, others your age do it, btu there isnt a job for everyone, as the unemployment rate has proven.
the toher thing is as the anon above me mentioend, nepotism. not just family but a lot of people get these summer jobs cuz they know someone who works there. my first 5 jobs i got because i knew someone who worked there or knew someone who knew someone who worked there.
and the only reason i got the job i got now is because my boss said i had a rare spirit type and that it was destiny that i was the only person they interviewed for it.
the job markets fuckign weird.
another hting
>if at ffirst you dont succeed, lie, lie again.
if you are appliny for say, dunkin donuts, claim you do have barista experience. not all coffee machines are made equal and most places train on the job anyway.
and the best thing is you can literally good barista training videos and learn how to do it all the night before, and catch up on the job
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>>17147877
I do actually have a part-time job this summer working for that aforementioned family friend, but it's only on the weekends and I need to get a job for during the week.
So at least I have SOMETHING on my resume.
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>my boss said i had a rare spirit type and that it was destiny that i was the only person they interviewed for it.
That's...strange.
>if at first you don't succeed, lie, lie again.
Probably going to end up doing that- I was considering it, but some of these places require writing your past experience (in similar/applicable jobs) on your resume. For example, with Dunkin Donuts, they required me to write the origin of my barista experience on the application. If I wrote Starbucks, I feel like they'd contact them to verify it (though honestly I feel like I'm worrying about that too much).
Maybe I'll just write the name of a local diner that closed down a while ago.
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I hate sex, that is I found it disgusting.
Not the act in sé, but what is around it: sexuality, hoookups, affairs, cheating.
Also I dislike the modern view of sex: if you don't argue with some extreme views of promiscuity and sex, you're bigot and open-minded.
Gender sexuality is the worse: male one sucks, the female one is worse. I'm afraid that we'll soon live in a future where open relationships are normal (maybe we're already in) and loyalty and monogamy are from the "past" and people behave like animals, without having self-respect and moral.
So, I don't know if I want to become asexual.
Someone did it? Or did you conform to the new rules of sex? What should I do, become a MGTOW?
(I'm not virgin, btw. Just in case..)
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>>17147858
there was a time when being homosexual was more or less forbidden, technically illegal, and gay bars were getting raided, its patrons getting shut down, and whatnot.
the point of this story is to illustrate how easy you got it. yes, the world (or at least the country) seems to be moving more towards open relationships and loyalty / monogamy are from the past. but no matter how deep that gets, there will still be plenty of plenty of people who are fine with monogamy and actively practice it. and you can rest easy knowing it will never be the kind of lifestyle you need to keep secret for fear of arrest.
polygamy and this kind of culture are relatively new, and there is a large majority of people who are monogamy oriented, you are likely in a place in life where oyu are seeing what is just people exploring their sexuality, what they want in relationships etc.
after all, what is the point of being loyal to someone simply because they were teh first person to pick you? loyalty means a lot more when you've see what the world has to offer and you say 'this particular person is the one that feels right to me'. instead of blindly devoting yourself to the first person who asked you out.
another thing to consider from the 'polygamy' point of view is that sex doesn't really have to correlate with self respect. why does it? the most self respectful thing you can do is do waht is right for you.
one other hting you have to consider is that this isn't really new thinkin, its just becoming more mainstream.
there wasn't some evolutionary shift between the 1920s (virtually no divorce) and now (50% divorce rate anybody?). the only difference is that divorce is now an option. back then you had no choice but to deal wiht the man or woman who was mistreating oyu, abusing you, etc.
marriage was essentially like having a brother or a sister. once you have em there is literally nothing you can do to get rid of them.
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>>17147912
I don't want to be cheated on.I've read terrible stories. I'm afraid of having a relationship today, and I'm not into hookups. Maybe I'd prefer to become entirely asexual.
Also, what's the point of having a society with 50% of divorce? What's wrong with modern marriage?
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>>17147858
You don't become asexual. You become celibate or practice abstinence.
What's a MGTOW?
Where do you live? I've found that people tend to be in monogamous relationships where I'm from. Polyamory is becoming talked about, but I don't actually know anyone who practices it.
Why do you focus so much on it? If you don't care about it, then don't put energy into it. Find friends who care more about hobbies than they do about getting laid.
>tfw I'm actually ace
>sometimes I really don't like it
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Do sophisticated people still exist? They don't necessarily have to be rich, just well mannered and groomed. I grew up this way and I feel like an alien in society. I'm not saying this to be pretentious, I just can't relate with anyone with my hobbies and interests.I'm 19 by the way, I know there are a bunch of older people like this.
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There are no sophisticated people in your age group, not even the wealthy. In an age of social media, everyone immediately sinks to the lowest common denominator in order to try to feel inclusive with the group. You are "alien" because maybe you don't think poop jokes are funny or understand dank memes or think banging a washed-up whore while drunk is a good time. Whatever the reason, don't expect anyone to change for you, because they would rather you sink to their level rather than climb up to yours.
And, unfortunately, a real-life Diogenes Club doesn't exist.
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>>17147845
can you tell us what your hobbies are? and i dont mean those things you do once in awhile, but what is your daily type hobbies?
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>>17147845
Even if it is hard to imagine, most your schoolmates who are now just raging hormone filled teenagers talking and behaving like shits will grow up and mature into "well mannered groomed" human beings with like 40% chance.
You being sophisticated 19 just means you have very strict parents or easier puberty thingy. This however shouldn't put you off from trying to "being friends" with them, because you might enjoy hanging with them.
How do I stop seeing sex as an inherently and fundamentally bad and damaging thing that predatory men want to do to me, instead of a nice happy fun thing we can do together?
I was raised in an open and positive environment and I've never been hurt or abused or fucked without permission, and I have no idea where this kind of thinking even comes from.
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Stop huffing the tumblr
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You should see yourself as a bad, dominant girl who can do what she wants with her body. I would recommend listening to the song "Everybody Loves Me" - by OneRepublic.
If you have watched Skins (great british comedy drama) you could take example from the character Effy within it, as she is a strong sexual character.
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>>17147758
I want my body to be held and cuddled and never have to touch penis. But you can't have your cake and eat it too. If you want a boyfriend you're going to have to fuck.
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I'm quite lost on this one, /adv/. That doesn't happen often. So I might as well you your input.
Short story is that about a year ago I fell in love with my best friend. Before I could even figure out what to do about it, however, she got engaged and got pregnant quickly after. A couple months ago she had the kid.
It all happened so fast, but I figured we wouldn't be a good fit anyhow and the baby was kinda the last nail in the coffin on that one. So I just ignored it and waited for it to pass, as those things usually do. It didn't.
Recently she's been second guessing her relationship. For good reason, imho. But the kid kinda makes things complicated.
She asked me to honest to her about them being a good fit or not. For now I managed to stall the conversation until next time we see each other.
As you might have guessed, I'm confused about the whole thing. Usually I'm good at staying level headed and favor reason over emotion when considering what the right solution is. Now I'm not sure.
I don't think they suit each other. In fact I would have never imagined their relationship would go this far. He's a great guy and all, but not very smart and has zero interest in anything but "alternative lifestyle". She's way more complex than that. But who am I to say, you know? Maybe their feelings are what are important here.
But now that she is putting me on the spot, I'm worried my own emotions might fuck things up. I feel like telling her she made the wrong decision. I even feel like telling her how I feel about her, knowing full well there is no chance in hell. (At least for now.)
I just want to be a good friend to her.
PS: Writing this, I realize it must sound stupid as hell. I just wanted to spare you the sappy details about who we are as people and how I fell in love with her and stuff like that.
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>>17147724
This is easy, you say:
I can't help you in this matter because conflict of interest.
This is legal, elegant and true way how to not tell her anything and still give out a "reason" why don't you answer.
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>>17147749
How is that elegant?
I'd like to avoid indirectly telling her that I am in love with her. She's smart enough to figure it out.
If you're saying because of her fiancée: My loyalties lie with her and she knows that.
Apart from that I really do want to help her. I just don't want to sway her the wrong way out of ego or because I ignore the right answer, which just happens to align with my self-interest.
Perhaps I really should just say fuck it and be as honest as possible...
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>>17147811
You are biased.
How can you think you can think straight when the person you are making decisions about is your "secret love"?
And even if she figure out, that isn't anything bad at all.
Trying to be as honest as possible will lead you to taking care of kid which isn't yours.
>conflict of interest
is your best bet.
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>started college which mother dosent approve
>dont care what she says because I worked hard to get here
>she goes on a rampage and loses her mind
>starts speaking to herself
>cant study in house because shes gone crazy
>start studying in library, library usually is packed
>start failing when I start studying at home
>trash talks college to herself and puts on fake "go to college Its a good thing this that"
>"I constantly hear you trash talk my progress, stop being fake"
>goes on rampage storms around the house
wtf is this shit? anyone had to deal with parents like this?
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>>17147660
Are you black?
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She's afraid of losing you.
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>>17147671
im 26 ffs, shes going to lose me regardless
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>Was in college
>Had girlfriend
>Met her family
>In walks her sister, who is engaged
>My gf was hot, but the older sister is fucking smoking
>Control self, don't do anything pervy
>Go to older sister's wedding with gf
>Later on we break up, but stay friends
>Older sis is now a lawyer
>We stay in touch too
>Her husband is a nice guy, but not very ambitious
>It becomes plain that she's bored with him
>Eventually we meet up to discuss a friend's case after I recommend him to her
>We wind up hooking up at her office
>It's better than I had imagined it would be
>It happens more than once, then becomes a regular thing
>I'm done with my degree and about to join the military
>Need to stop the affair because I could be UCMJ'd for it
>Broach the topic with her
>She DOES NOT want to end the affair
>Intimates how badly things could go for me if the affair ends
>Says she's not ready to leave her husband yet, but pending a few things she has to get out of the way she says that she will leave him for me
>Not sure that I'd want her to, holy shit
>Now that the rose colored glasses are off she's obviously a power-hungry sociopath
>Evil is still kind of hot
tl;dr: have tiger by the tail. halp
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Tragic
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Are you still dating the little sister?
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You don't need her permission to end the affair, just cut communication when you ship out. If she brings up leaving her husband for you again reject it out of hand and drop a "I thought you were smart enough to know what this was" on her.
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I think I'm in love with my little sister. Recently I've been spending more time with my little sister, and Ive relaized she's the only girl who I really enjoy being around. Today I finally made a move on her and kissed her. She didn't react negatively, she just stared at me and we kept watching TV. I'm just really afraid of what our parents /firends would think, and the age gap is...there...and a little obvious
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Yes, the age gap, that's the issue.
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>>17147591
baka anon
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>>17147598
But it's not that big of a gap...only 6 years
20/M here, trying to decide whether I should go to college or find work.. I've been a NEET for two years after high school but I can't live like this forever so I have to start doing something.
I want to move out from my parents' house and I guess the fastest way to do that is to find work. Then I could see if I can hold down a job and get some experience, save up some money, and move out.
However I'm not sure if this is the best option, maybe it's better to go to college first and get a degree? I don't know what to major in, but it would probably be something programming related. This however delays me moving out by two years, and I'll still have 0 work experience when I graduate so I'll have to start off with a McDonald's tier job anyway.
If I just start working now I fear I'll become stupid since I probably won't learn anything on my own like I would be forced to in college. And plus I quite hate the idea of being a wage cuck so at the same time I want to delay it as much as possible.
Hwat do, /adv/?
P.S. Parents will pay for college if I go, so it's not like I'll be in debt or anything
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>>17147585
Obviously college. Even when you fail, you will still have some fun experiences and possibly friends.
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Anon you might as well go to college, you don't seem very late in registering and you could get a job after a couple of years to at least a
have some money. If that, you'll be fine.
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>>17147585
>ve been a NEET for two years after high school but I can't live like this forever
Says who?
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got hand stuck in garbage disposal and cant remove it
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You are lucky to have your phone/laptop nearby.
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>>17147536
call an emergency line..
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>>17147536
Call 911, or whatever the emergency services phone number is where you live.
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Hey I have a problem. I figured out this way to power up myself and it changes everything. Everybody reacts to me differently, I can change my entire life. Its not a super natural technique or anything it is just something I discovered. The problem is that I have been a lonely nerd my whole life and im afraid of the big change. I am able to turn the high energy off easily but its hard to turn it back on afterwards. So I have to commit to it the next time I take the time to actually turn it back on. Since I was kind of a loser my whole life im afraid of the change that will come. Even though it is all going to be 'positive' changes it is still scary how much everything will change. My life wont be the same anymore and I will probably lose some small things that I enjoyed before. There is a part of me that is very much ready to let go and change but another part of me is so afraid of success. See the thing about failure is that you can always go back and try again, but success is permanent you can never go back.
How should I go about this change?
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>>17147532
Just embrace the change. Don't be scared that things are going to change, a monotonous life is not what you want. I used to be scared of change to until I learned to embrace chaos and uncertainty
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>>17147532
Also how do you power up?
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hey man I'm with you. I've been on and off trying to power up for a few years now but eventually cracking under the fear of my own raw potential.
I think it is important we find and surround ourselves with people that want us to power up, not people that "don't care you're awesome how you are"
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Hello adv
My ex ex gf lives in another country with his current boyfriend, while I came back 6 months ago to my hometown.
Lately she's been often calling me, even when her boyfriend is around, but he probably doesnt understand since we speak a different language, me and her.
She's been telling me that she wants to come home for a month... Summer vacations are approaching.
Should I cuck his boyfriend or is it better if I keep distance from her? I'm in a dry spell atm
thank you
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>>17147524
She sounds trashy. So unless you're trashy too it doesn't matter.
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>>17147530
I may be trashy, but she actually isn't. I know her very well... we basically met at 12, and now we're 25. I took her virginity and this guy is the second one she's ever had (100% sure that's true), while I have a little bit more of experience.
I think she may actually love me, while I'm a pretty broken fucked up piece of shit.
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>>17147542
She has a bf and is talking to her ex about hanging out with the ex(you), that's trashy.
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I've had zero contact with my father for five years. He sends me email occasionally but I never respond. He was extremely controlling and he'd fly into a rage of yelling verbal abuse and throwing things at me over the smallest things like not being able to find the TV remote. He picked who my friends were, what my hobbies were, what music I liked etc.
I didn't realize normal parents aren't like that until I was a teenager. At that point I wanted to leave and cut off all contact as soon as I was 18, but I needed him to pay for my university. I feel really bad about that, it's like I was scamming him. I graduated, got a good job, and didn't have to put up with his shit anymore. I listed a dozen horrible things he'd done and asked for an apology, but he just lied and made shitty excuses. I haven't had contact with him since since.
I spent the first few years scared of him finding me. He didn't know where I lived, worked or my phone number because I'd been planning on cutting of contact with him. I'm pretty sure he never did try to track me down and harass me like I was scared of. I'm over that paranoia now and starting to get really sad about the situation, but that turns into anger right away. I think maybe I should ask for an apology again, but it's going to hurt really bad if he lies and makes excuses again. If I do get a sincere apology and accept it he could think everything is back to normal and he can keep being an asshole. I really just want a normal father-son relationship with respect and boundaries.
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Sounds like your better of without...he had his chance
Did any of the emails admit his faults or show remorse?
If so could this be a trick?
Ive been without my dad for about 4 years and although i know he misses me...i know my life is simpler without him in it...its hard to not feel sad or guilty but its risk over reward...
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>>17147472
All cliches aside, your father loves you and probably didn't know better. Get him back into your life. How is he going to harras a grown self-sufficient man anyway like you're fearing. If you cut him of you're going to regret it big fucking time, maybe not this year, maybe not until long after he's dead, but you will.
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>>17147517
He just sends short "happy birthday", "merry christmas" emails a few times a year. In the beginning he sent emails saying how sad he was that I wouldn't contact him, but there was never any sign he feels bad about his own behavior. He was honestly surprised I was upset about how I was treated. He thinks he's the world's greatest dad.
He didn't send an email on my birthday this year. Every year I get it and get so angry at him when I read it. I should have been happy, but instead I was extremely sad.
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I don't post or browse /adv/ often, but I'm looking for some friendly advice on how to overcome drug addiction, cocaine specifically. Here's some background. I'm a 19 yo male and I recently moved out on my own and work full time at a warehouse. I went to a party about a month ago and my friend offered me some coke. I have ADHD and had a prescription for adderall when I was 16. After a while my mom took me off it bec6ause she did "research" and learned that it's legal meth. That's about my only history with drugs, besides the occasional joint and LSD use. Since I first used coke, a month ago, I've already spent about $600 on it, and blew off my family and friends, and job to get high. Any advice on how to quit would be appreciated. I'm agnostic. Pic unrelated.
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>>17147465
> I'm agnostic
You can be at peace anon, there is no god on 4chan, only sometimes minor evil.
>occasional joint and LSD
hmmm
>$600 in cocaine
hmmmmm
See pic related and maybe read
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cocaine_dependence
You seems like just another user who might end up as homeless. Now you must make a resolve: Do you want to become homeless anon?
After that you should see if you have entered the physical addiction or not. To do so you just DON'T touch that thing. If you won't get any signs of "lot of health related problems", you are still sort of good. Just before throw all drugs away so it is harder to get fix.
If your withdrawal will be unbelievable and you fail and get your fix, you will eventually need this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cocaine_dependence#Therapy
There are a lot of programs in modern countries. They are usually free. Just sign in and let the professionals do wonders.
eventually you should ask yourself why are you using drugs?
>Boredom
Go read a book dummy.
>Not happy with my current life
Solve your life problems, don't mask them with drugs.
>Stupidity
See boredom solution.
>Social circle
Get new friends.
Good luck anon, you gonna need it.
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>>17147486
I've been talking to my family about my addiction, and my mom has been really supportive. She paid me to flush the last of my coke down the toilet, and deleted my dealer(s) from my phone. I refuse to go to treatment for it because I know I can get through it, but I just want advice on how to cope with withdrawals. Specifically, the last time I used was about 4 hours ago, and I'm getting really shakey. I can't get it off my mind. As for reading, I don't really know of any good books, and with a few exceptions, I lose interest a few pages into most books. Thanks for contributing.
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>>17147465
speaking from someone who actually HAS adult ADHD/ADD
go seek some help for yourself for addiction to the coke.
you need a job. because you need the routine most people adhd are lazy fucks
i survived adhd the old fashioned way without drugs at all thats another avenue for you go cold turkey or you will be chasing the first hit you will never get again.