This new guy is replacing me in the social ladder and its pissing me off.
story:
>be king of my social group
>always leading and the circle of attention
>new fag out of sheer force of will, joins social group and quickly becomes accepted
>we dont vibe well, there's tension between the two of uus
>new fag outclasses me in every way
>stronger, funnier, more confident
>the guys now look up to him, girls wanna be with him
>he's the new king
>Im mad as shit
So far nobody knows how i feel towards him but my jealousy is really starting to eat at me and telling me to do something rash.
How do I beat him
Fuck him in the ass to assert dominance
>>17151899
You don't beat him.
You either join him or lose your friends from jealousy. Because it is very likely they have already noticed from your behavior.
You stop being 14
>talking to a girl on tinder
>she says that she needs to marry someone in the states not to get deported
>jokingly say I'll do it
>she thinks I'm serious
>meet her
>she already has a job lined up at a university
>she has a masters degree
>she's really smart
>she's pretty cute
>she's Japanese
>she's only two years older than me
Am I making a bad choice here? I mean something like only happens once in a lifetime.
For some context I have a BSc in biology and I'm going back to grad school for toxicology in about a year's time. I'm 22.
>>17151829
if you're poor af it doesn't matter, even if she divorces you in 5 years after she's a citizen. It's not like you have shit to take, so you might as well take that sweet ass to pound town for a few years before she cuts you loose. Shit, she might even pay your bills and shit homie.
>>17151845
I dunno man is it a bad idea though? Like I don't have shit but neither does she.
>>17151866
As long as you are comfortable with the fact that she WILL divorce you and that she DOES NOT genuinely love you, go for it.
It might happen that she grows on you, but do NOT take this for granted.
Personally I would not do this, because it sounds dumb as fuck. I have had foreign friends get married to Americans and they basically get harassed by the government checking in on them all the time to make sure it is a legitimate marriage. You have to get witnesses to write official letters saying you guys are legitimately together.
You both need to actually date, actually like each other, actually introduce each other to your families, etc etc etc.
Although you met with the plan of "get married so she can stay", you have to actually BE married.
Do not think that it is easy to just get married and have her stay here and you'll fuck her in return.
>be 24 y/o guy
>be elliot rodger tier spoiled
>NEET
>have no irl friends
>not a virgin
>wake up every morning wishing I was born a girl
>fall asleep every night wishing I was born a girl
>day dream about what I would do as a girl
>repeat for a decade
I'm so fucked up.
>>17151715
If you have the money, make yourself a girl, nothing wrong with that.
Get out of your house and stop dwelling on your mental illness.
>I'm so fucked up.
Yes you are.
>>17151715
Take testosterone supplements and go to the gym.
I want to get my girlfriend drunk but she rarely ever drinks and when she does she doesn't have much.
Any advice?
Tell her you want her to get drunk... if she says no, then that's the end of it. It sounds like she doesn't like being drunk.
>>17151719
Is it really ok to outright say that to your girlfriend?
>>17151791
How long have you been together?
>tfw almost 25 and still live my parents
Is suicide the only remaining option?
How about you try moving out first?
>>17151703
Who cares? If you can't support yourself or you get along with them there's really no need until you're married. Different cultures have different values.
>>17151703
How about you start by losing the gay pink slippers, faggot?
>gf studying abroad this summer
>asked to open up our relationship for that time
>said she's not planning to hook up, but wants to be able to "act freely and party like other girls her age
>however loved me as strongly as ever
I broke up with her on the spot. She's been trying to call and text me the last few days and it's been incredibly difficult to not reply. I'm afraid that I still won't be over it by the time she returns and ask to get back together, after which I'm certain she'll have whored around.
Please advise.
>>17151702
Good job. This man is an alpha.
>>17151702
You did the right thing. You would end up more hurt if you stayed with her.
Well done.
Got raped and now I have chlamydia.
How do I stop feeling so depressed?
>>17151688
File a police report.
>>17151688
Treat the chlamydia
>>17151693
>>17151699
and then get some therapy, in that order.
I spend most of my free time on 4chan. It's pretty much taken over my life. How do I stop coming here?
>>17151496
You simply stop, or are you that much of a wimpy bitch who just keeps coming for more abuse?
>>17151496
You don't. You are here forever.
(Maybe start doing something else, like reading books from >>>/lit/)
Just stop? You can quit cold turkey. It's a psychological addiction, not a physical one. Just need the strength of will.
If you don't have that, take your computer's power cord and hide it away from the computer, so whenever you want to surf the chan, it's a reminder that you're trying to stop, or at least slow down.
Other than that, get another hobby to take your time. I paint, and in highschool went on walks, grabbed a branch, and whittled it into a tiki looking totem, then stuck it into random people's lawns I was walking past when I finished.
Or just play a game on the computer, shit I dunno.
World's your oyster.
How THE FUCK do you learn to play guitar or learn a new language? Hell, how do you even learn to draw? I don't get it, people make it seem like it's just so damn easy to do these things.
I just want to learn something in a linear and efficient way. Maybe I'm just the type who needs to be in a class or have a teacher..
How do I learn to play the guitar?? Or Spanish???
Start small.
Keep practicing.
Get a guitar, learn some chords or fiddle with it every day. Then pick a song you like and try and get it down.
Doodle in your spare time. Make a comic. Post it on the interbutts for feedback. Improve where you fell short.
Pirate Rosetta Stone and learn some damn Spanish. They teach the simple stuff first. Just be sure to actually use often enough that you don't get rusty or lose it.
>>17151446
You can learn a language completely by yourself or with online courses
If you want to draw check the /ic/ sticky and buy some books
To play guitar i do think you should go to a professor, i started playing guitar as a kid with a teacher and i never had any problems, 10 years later i bought a bass and started learning on my own and then i went to a teacher to get some extra help and i realized that while teaching myself i had developed terrible finger technique and it took a long ass time to correct it so yeah, it's a real bitch if that happens.
>>17151446
Maybe you're looking at it as a one-two thing. It's a process; a long one, and it's not easy. When learning an instrument, you don't just go from "I'm ass at guitar" to "I know how to play it" without a gradient.
I'm 19. Girlfriend is 18. Her ex is twenty fucking four.
We've been together about 3 months now. They dated for a year and broke up shortly before we got together.
Their break up was odd. I was her best friend while they were together and when she dumped him she was absolutely livid. Yet they remained in contact, very light compared to how much they used to talk. She was going to slow fade him out. Not respond as much, refuse attempts at reconciliation, etc. I know he was trying to get her back the entire time.
Recently, and by that I mean within the last week or so, I've noticed some slightly sketchy things. In some cute snaps she sent me, she's been wearing clothes he bought her; a big sweater, a tank top with "their" number on it, and I'm nearly positive a jacket that belongs to him. She's not worn any jewelry he's given her. I've seen some stuffed animals he's gifted her in her room as well instead of tucked away.
When we've been driving around this week she's been listening to a lot of music he introduced her to and she likes quite a lot.
This morning she was using a coffee mug they made together shaped like a cat with a heart on the back. I haven't confronted her on any of this because I don't want to come off as insecure or crazy.
She's insisted she has no feelings for him and there's next to no chance they'll get back together.
Anyway, the problem at hand. Last friday, the 13th, we went to a cafe at the end of our date to unwind. It's a nice place, relaxing atmosphere and local musicians perform on the weekend. As luck would have it, he was the musician of the night. I chose the venue so I know for a fact this wasn't some elaborate plan.
After a few songs he noticed we were sitting together and changed the style of songs he was performing. After a rendition of "Sweet Caroline" to get the place in a good mood he told the venue he was going to slow things down a bit and the next set goes out to a very special person in his life.
This son of a bitch sang "So this is love" and "can't help falling in love with you". The entire time he was singing my girlfriend was absolutely entranced and if I tried to talk she was really quiet and just watching. I know for a fact she loves disney and I know for a fact the latter song was one of theirs. It was the first song they ever danced to together.
Since that day, she's been texting me a bit less and I happened to see his name pop up on her phone. It used to be when that happened she'd get sullen and angry at him but now she pretended like it didn't happen.
Am I going crazy or is this something I should be worried about?
You're about to become a cuck my friend
Stop going out with used his and get your life together
How does one overcome this? And don't say "wait" like a smartass.
I mean, I honestly get sporadic panic attacks from simply being aware of my mortality. Being stuck in an overall shitty position with no apparent out only makes it worse, since I feel every day is wasted time being miserable when I want friends and hopes and maybe a lover, who knows.
Anyway, it's really eating at me, but I can't even so much as beat being stuck at home alone, nonetheless the end of all things itself.
>>17151154
We all die--but what we do before that time is what counts. Being in a lousy job can be causing your panic attacks, or at least contributing to them. Depression and stress are tough, but not unbeatable! You may need to make some positive changes so that you're too busy improving your life--and possibly others lives as well--and not leaving yourself time to dwell on this. Refocus and live! GL!
>>17151154
Belive. It doesn't need to be god. You can belive in eternal return or multiverse, reincarnation. Just think how ridiculous is the fact that universe (as we know it) is 15 billion years old. Our earth is something like 5 billion years old, life is 2 billion and just now you are alive and aware of your existence. It's ridiculous. But if our consciousnes is nothing special and we just get born and reborn (albeit with no memories) than it is nothing special that you are alive now. You were always alive (maybe something like 10000 billions years ago) and will be alive again. Time between the facts doesn't matter as it is just like sleep with no dream. As you die you become born again ad infinitum.
>>17151154
Hey OP, currently suffering from thanatophobia, here's relaying my experience:
It's good to pin point the cause of this anxiety, ask yourself why you are afraid of something you've never done before? Maybe you're not afraid of dying, maybe you're afraid of losing everything you've experienced in life, maybe it's a pride thing? Its the time of the year where a lot of high school kids graduate, or college kids graduate, are you moving to a new chapter in your life? Could that dramatic change be a cause of anxiety? Spend time reflecting on the source of this fear, don't treat the symptom treat the illness.
Also, medicate. Go to your local vitamin store and ask them for anxiety medication, the stronger the better. Go see a psychiatrist or a doctor, stay AWAY from marijuana as that will only increase paranoia when you're not high (please trust me.)
Also reflect on the afterlife, in recent decades several scientists have begun to study consciousness in depth and found it may be possible our conscience lives off in some quantum field after death. Research it don't take my second hand report as fact. Also, a lot of big name scientists and organizations are working towards various forms of immortality, which they believe they can achieve within the next 20 years or so. Certainly before we die.
Finally, find comfort in the fact that old people don't fear dying. They don't.
Any jobs I could get that don't require previous experience or talking to normalfags that I can get with a high school education
>>17151109
Kitchen staff
>>17151109
Work at UPS. Just say you're autistic and you won't have to say a word.
>>17151109
>talking to normalfags
That stuff is actually great experience anon. I worked in a convenience store (e.g. 7-11) and Starbucks. Starbucks was fucking awesome because I love the shit out of coffee and the people there were really rad (even though I'm a sad lonely insecure beta twat, I still enjoyed it)
I also worked in a computer factory, that wasn't so bad. So you could try that if you hate the idea of customers.
This is also a good shout - >>17151117 - I also worked in a cafe at an event one time, as the guy who cleans the tables and restocks stuff, it was busy as hell, good fun. I ruined a lady's dress and she made my manager pay for it, lol.
Has anyone used this and how did it affect you?
>>17151063
It's fantastic shit and works. Some people aren't respondents though so purchase a small amount first.
I fucking love it though.
>>17151780
Do you have to get a prescription to get them?
>>17151983
Do you have to have a prescription to buy codeine? No, but it certainly makes it legal to do so.
Modafinil can be ordered online though.
i really miss one of my friends but she cut me out of her life completely more or less.
Blocked me on all forms of communication, threatened me if i tried to contact her, and we don't live in the same town so we probably wont see eachother for a long time.
She flipped out at me over something thats been building up for a while. Basically im almost 100% positive shes bipolar, but she doesn't realize shes bipolar.
She will go into manic states where things that happened in the past make her super upset because she can't stop thinking about them and gets upset about things that didn't bother her at all in the past. There are also lots of other signs like she doesn't eat or sleep, shes ultra sensitive to touch, she gets very interested in something for a couple of days and then drops it completely.
Other than that she is a very depressed person and doesn't leave her room/house for long periods of time and has no motivation to do anything.
She finally flipped out about something big, and blocked me from talking to her and its been over two weeks and she still hasn't unblocked me from anything. I think its because we started getting really close and things were turning more intimate/sexual so when she got upset about something this time it was a bigger deal to her.
Im really concerned because undiagnosed bipolar disorder is really dangerous. I dont think she will see a psychiatrist on her own even though she needs one.
Does she have supportive family? Or at least normal family? A circle of good friends? If you answered yes at least to one, then just wait till she unblocks you and bring up psychologist sometime later.
I'll come off as a sociopath, and i kind of am, but I recommend you not to bother hospitalizing her instantly. Unless she is b o t h suicidal and has shit social environment.
Btw, isn't it too much for you to bear so much responsibility on her well-being? Don't get that superman-saviour syndrome. You may convince her going, or may not, people can live with bpd.
>>17150935
i dont know if she needs to be hospitalized, but she definately needs to see a psychiatrist. I would bet that shes had thoughts of suicide, but she never has tried it i think.
Shes not very close to her family i think. Shes told me she is, but shes also told me that she never anyone else the stuff shes telling me because shes so embarrassed about it(a lot of the stuff is like definition of having BPD, i just didn't recognize it cause im not a doctor)
She doesn't have any friends that she reaches out too except me and like one other person that i think is her cousin but idk.
And yeah i know i shouldn't, its just difficult in this situation because i care about her a lot. I feel like im in love with her but i don't want to admit it cause its hurts too much to think that someone i love would treat me like this.
Shes also been delusional before, like legit denying objective reality which is apparently another symptom if mania.
>>17150871
Does she have any family or other friends who can get in touch with her? Ultimately she may need some kind of intervention, and you may not be able to provide that. Until she DOES get help, she will remain troubled and those around her will be affected. You don't have many options here as you lost contact with her, so the best advice at this point is to save your own sanity and consider this a blessing in disguise...she closed the door OP, so move on and move forward with your life. If you're meant to see one another again, then it may happen in its own time and place, but don't wait around to be sucked into her problems and, likely, sucked dry...
I hope that this helps! GL out there!
Hi /adv/ I have moved to a new place for work and I am in another state. I love my job, have a longtime gf, and love the SF bay area but I no longer have any friends.
Before I had close buds who I went to school with but it's been more than a year and I have nobody besides the gf.
I really need advice on how to make friends as an adult. It's very akward because I don't know how to meet people. Its really killing me that I dont have a friend circle and just don't know how to make new friends as an adult.
Please Halp
>>17150818
You don't have any co-workers anon?
>>17150818
the following advice was meant for meeting girls, but it works wayyyyy better for meeting friends in my experience:
so how do you make new friend? effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>17150833
again, please ignore the little notes about women, and apply the advice to making new friends in general
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.