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Do you think it's unethical to visit an escort providing she is:

1. From your country (i.e. not a victim of sex trafficking or coercion)
2. Does not appear to be doing it involuntarily or due to financial destitution

I'm reading some profiles of girls who are in their early twenties and who claim to enjoy sex and their job.

Is it wrong to lose my v-card with one of these girls?

Also what's the best way to avoid being infected with an STD?

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anyone else dead inside

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hello /adv/.
I was wondering what you all thought this little skin problem i have is.

I thought it was acne to start with.
But I have always been quite red in the face, and this is permanently how my skin looks up close.

I have looked at other rosacea cases, and I don't have it so extreme. Sometimes though I can go beetroot red. and my skin is very sensitive.

My skin does get quite oily, and it only gets really bad if I'm inside all day.
I am 23 years old.

So I am hoping that it is just late acne and not a lifelong thing I have to deal with.

Your thoughts?

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Hello, all. Usually don't post on this board, but I need some help. Here's my story:

I've been dating my boyfriend for close to 4 years now, but lately I have been considering ending it with him. We do live together and we both live hours away from our family (4 for me, 8 for him).

Here is my reasoning:
1. Dislikes My Family: Frequently blows off my family/avoids them whenever possible and does not make an effort to accept them.

2. Sleep Schedule: Sleeps until 3-4PM usually everyday and does not make an effort to change this. When I get home from work at 5-6PM, he is just starting his work (he only works 4hrs a day). Wasted countless weekends waiting for him to wake up and do stuff together.

3. Poor Communication: He is not open with me. Days when he is visibly in a bad mood I will try to talk to him and ask how he is, and he either says ‘idk’ or just ignores me. Other times, when I try to discuss certain things, he will get super angry, start yelling at me, and make me feel like shit.

4. Lack of Motivation: For example, he doesn’t have a license and does not make an effort to get one. I have tried to get him motivated and told him I would help with this process, but he makes literally no effort. Also, I’m always the one coordinating literally everything (dinners, trips, etc.)

There are more reasons than listed above, but these are the main ones for me. I know I’m not perfect either, but this has truly been bothering me. I do love him so much and we have had such wonderful memories together, so this is really not easy. I just feel stuck and don’t really know what to do next. Any help would be much appreciated.

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/adv/, PLEASE just give me some hope that there are girls who like girls who aren't politically left-leaning?

I should have never visited /pol/.

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I've been feeling super empty for a while and I don't really know what to do. I'm 19 and have been feeling like this since I was about 15, but just assumed it was being a teenager. My life is pretty good from an outside point of view, at university, have a girlfriend and friends so I don't understand why I'd feel this way. I've started not feeling much for my girlfriend or friends. I don't seem to mind whether they dislike me and because of my morose mood it obviously brings them down too. I'm often pessimistic about life and think about suicide often, although never self harmed or anything. Should I go see someone and talk it through? Does this sorta stuff just pass. I don't even know how to lock on to what I am feeling.

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>started dating bf half a year ago
>he tries really hard to get along with my son
>my son is a sweet boy but still just a kid
>i can tell that my bf is not used to kids and is holding him up to way too high standarts, getting annoyed at him in the process

is this doomed or is there a way he will come around and realize that he can't expect a 5 yo to be reasonable and adapted like an adult? i don't want to lecture him or tell him how to be with my son. i don't want this to become constructed and artificial. i don't want my son to feel like he's not "living up to the expectations" but i also don't want this relationship to end. how do i solve this dilemma in a way that is agreeable for everyone involved?

<ib4 single mom

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>went to the strip club last night
>literally my dream girl comes on stage
>short (like 5'1), petite, tons of tattoos
>stripping to a Rob Zombie song
>later in the night she comes to our table and talks to me
>gives me a free five minute lap dance because of my bathory shirt
>self harm scars on her thighs (hnnng)
>spent the rest of the night trying to find her on Facebook

Alright lads, how do I get this girl?

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Just got married in January, and my husband has been increasingly absent, both physically and emotionally. He now works till 10 in his office, as if he doesn't care to see me. We haven't eaten any of the meals I've cooked for him together in months. He works on weekends. To be fair he has always been a workaholic and is hungry for success, but before he would text me throughout the day, and when we lived 3.5 hours apart for 6 months he drove down every weekend to see me, without missing a week. We also have a 3 month old baby. He goes days without seeing her because she is asleep by the time he gets home. Last night I got extra dolled up, made him food, and offered him his favorite- bud light. In the bedroom I was dancing and flirting with him and he was totally non reciprocative. He finally admitted that he wasn't in the mood because Wednesday his buddy mentioned a festival. Almost a year ago at the festival, when we first started dating, he was going through my phone and saw a picture of me with a guy's dick in my mouth. I thought it was a really sexy picture and had just forgotten to delete it. It was from before I had met him. Is that a normal reaction? I've been nothing but good to him so I don't understand how he could be so cold. I was hurt and crying all night and he was just snoring next to me. It should have been apparent the next morning but he didn't say anything. When he left he said "goodbye A", calling me by my first name instead of baby, my love, etc.
wat do

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Yesterday, I went volunteering to a circus with some friends. There were a lot of hot women among ther performers and I've chatted a little bit with one of them. She is like 4'10, really cute and nice body because she did a lot of gymnastics. The trouble is, she is 29 y/o when she looks like a 16 y/o girl. I am 23 and I wonder how can I approach her tonight despite our age gap? Topics of conversation, things to avoid with older women?

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What do i need to do to intentionally go insane?

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Don't take a damn moment of your life for granted. I have lived most of my life with a sense of urgency, a sense of "okay, now on to the next thing". Yesterday I slowed down. I stopped running at what could be and from what shouldn't have been. Memories can fucking hurt, but dwelling in them just slows the time. If you keep running through life not only do you not stop to appreciate it, but you begin to take others and their time and feelings for granted. Stay anchored in the present. Look at your bright future from time to time, but please don't become trapped in chasing it. I have never in my 19 years on this earth had such a world-shaking realization. I sped through a 2 year relationship and then it ended. I grabbed onto the hope and lost face every time I looked back on my memories. I counted down the days of no contact. I kept pushing myself on to the next thing like "okay what is going to distract me next?". This is more than likely a contributing factor to my breakup as well. I have not been present. I have have spent 90% of my time in my own future and not with her. Not with my friends. Not with myself. If you want to try and get your ex back, as counter-intuitive as it is, you have to fix yourself, regardless of whether what you are fixing was the root of the problem. It ended because they lost sight of their connection/attraction to you/me, and unless the relationship was purely appearance based, there is no one thing you can fix to make it work. If they miss you, and still care for you, and they see somebody who is present, empathetic, and considerate at their core a month after the break-up, then your chances will exceed your expectations in a well developed internal checks and balances system.

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How do I learn to dance?

I don't go out, but I have discovered that I really love dancing. Or rather my body loves it, because it starts moving on it's own.

I started using a standing desk and just move spontaneously to music whenever I feel like it, But it's just random moves and becomes rather boring.

I want to have a better sense of rhytm, be able to respond to a tune faster and to know more dance moves. What's a good way to learn that?

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So, for some backstory.

I have a physical illness. I am unable to get out often due to a low immune system and crap stamina in mostly my legs. I need a wheelchair or I get tired out just walking from the parking lot into a store. Not all of my body is affected, my vitals seem to be alright, my mind is healthy(didn't have to take special ed), and ... my junk works fine, along with my hands.

I am in my late 20s, and I don't have a job, I can't drive, and I had a teacher come to the house during my high school years so I never got a girlfriend at that time(sadly, been feeling really down over that lately). I've never had a girlfriend before, I'm literally a kissless virgin a few years before 30, and its getting really hard to deal with.

So, what do I do? Where do I meet girls for something more than a one-night-stand at a bar. I could have lost my virginity a few times in the past, but I decided against it since I didn't have feelings for them. Now I know you millennials will probably say something like "lol who cares its just sex" but I am a bit of a romantic and would rather lose it to someone I love, and only have it with someone I love.

What I have going for me is that I can carry a conversation really well, I am great at planning things out, and I am... loaded, sorta. My family has a ton of money and I have offered numerous women online who were in a e-relationship with me a plane ticket here, but something always came up. I however try to keep this quiet, as I don't want a gold digger.

So, once again, where would someone like me meet girls? I've tried POF and OKC, both yielded no results for the past year. I'm told I'm a 5/10 or 6/10, but I'm still losing weight on a diet.

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I wan't to hear your experiences in having a relationship, guys or girls.
I'm 20 M, virgin, and I've been struggling to find what seems to come so easy for others, and a lot sooner: a girlfriend.
I've done the whole dating app thing Tinder, POF, etc, nothing. I've tried talking to girls in public, nothing. Getting involved in activities, nothing.
I mean I've been on dates, but nothing ever came of anything.
I could ask the age old "what are some tips on finding a gf" type shit. And by all means feel free give any, you may tell me something I need to hear. But I've heard it all before.
I mostly just want to hear stories of your relationships /adv/. Right from not knowing each other to calling each other your bf/gf. And all the steps in between.
I just feel the more stories I hear, the more perspective I'll have.
But really, feel free to rant or whatever, any relation ship advice in general would be appreciated too.