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>>17158639

>especially over text

you dont. text is meant for quick little interactions. some girls make it possible to conversate sure, but its not recommended. if you are texting a girl you are close enough to ask her on a date. use texting to check in once a day until said date.

so ask her on a date.

when its other stuff just say 'im not much of a texter' when you talk to them irl

the word is converse, not conversate

Honestly texting is pretty boring until you're good enough friends to have something to talk about. Once they give you the number, use it to schedule coffee or something, establish similar interests and then you can text about stuff you actually both like.

Ex: have you heard the new ______ album?? who's your favorite character in ______? Hows that thing with your mom goin?

the traditional awful gift game is Bad Rats.
dunno if it's the worst tho tbf

>>17158623
Team Fortress is one of the worst. I got it for free and I still feel I paid too much.

>>17158623
Imscared if you want to fuck their pc up or can always go with that shit retribution 1% game or big rigs racing

>>17158532
save the rougher stuff for areas where her clothes will cover it up. inner thighs are my personal favorite

>>17158544
>>17158544
I mean do you just slap them or what? She really likes hair pulling, choking, etc and a lot of rougher breast play but I've never considered the thighs

>>17158596
just give her hickeys on her inner thighs. it's cute, easy to do it in a rough way, and it'll be something only she can see at home

So today like I said she met up with me at the lake and told me she wants to take a break. it was very hard for her, she cried a lot and wouldn't let go of me when I asked her if she wanted a hug.

I went back to work and messaged her an hour or two later saying how foolish and immature I've been, how I miss holding her hand and falling asleep next to her, waking up and seeing her in the morning.

She said This is all coming too late, I have no energy left to put into this relationship, I need a break.

I said I understand, and now here I am.

So...break advice: Do I cut contact, just wait for her to decide what she needs? I told her everything I had to say, I don't want to come off as desperate or dependent on her.

I'm supposed to meet up with her soon to grab my stuff. What should I say, what should I do, how should I act? Should I message her to get my stuff, or continue the no contact rule and wait for her to let me know?

Thank you in advance.

>>17158494
>she wants a break
>she's big into "energy" and "aura"

She's retarded.
And she's already set up somebody else to take your place if she's isn't fucking him already.

Cut contact and move on. You're at the beginning of your adult life.

>>17158494
>yeah I need some advice.

Protip - if you need advice learn to lead off with a fecking question. You ask questions like a girl and by that I mean you don't ask questions but tell a sob story.

Also, you sound like a dick (that accidentally buttfucking her is gold) and she sounds like a fruit loop.

You don't determine sexuality through erections...

>>17159136
My life's a lie.

you might be bisessual

>>17158413

do you have to pay to do habitat of humanity? there are plenty of places that dont cost a thing, but they arent glamorous.

>>17158413
Can't wait for dat new gorillaz, kid.

>>17158445
I'm not sure but they, like Peace Corps are looking for people with college degrees.

>>17158377
>How the fuck is it normal to choose a college major that will determine the trajectory of your life without knowing how you would fair in such an environment?
It's not, unless you're following meme degrees. What's normal is to study a subject that you already have some interest in, and done a little reading on. In this situation, the "risk" is drastically reduced.

>I'm getting great grades in community college but I'm changing classes every semester because all I have to go from is my imagination and naive notions.
I don't understand. Why is this causing you to keep switching?

>Counselors haven't been helpful. They seem to push agendas or try to tell me to pick the "best" major without helping me find a good choice for me.
Yeah, they'll do that. I'm sorry to hear that it's happening to you. But I still don't understand how this came up as an issue.

>>17158377

the world is unfortunately flawed. generally speaking in the first two years of college you are supposed to get your Gen ed out of the way, look into degree options, take classes from the ones that interest you, then proceed to spend your bachelor years working towards that.

its still hella flawed. but thats the way life is at the moment. you can do a more general exploration by working at and interning at all the fields that interest you.

>>17158419
I don't understand what you aren't understanding. I'm indecisive because when I decide on something I usually build up expectations to motivate myself, always to be torn down later once I've put in a fair amount of study and realize how dull the acedemia is once you pass surface level. When I realize that I've been working hard towards goals that I have no real incentive besides money, I become unhappy and feel compelled to make a change, continuing in a cycle.

he's finally gonna drop his mixtape

it's probably just some stupid Jesus stuff. one of the more notable Catholic gospels will be shared that day.

Jesus said to the Pharisees:
“There was a rich man who dressed in purple garments and fine linen
and dined sumptuously each day.
And lying at his door was a poor man named Lazarus, covered with sores,
who would gladly have eaten his fill of the scraps
that fell from the rich man's table.
Dogs even used to come and lick his sores.
When the poor man died,
he was carried away by angels to the bosom of Abraham.
The rich man also died and was buried,
and from the netherworld, where he was in torment,
he raised his eyes and saw Abraham far off
and Lazarus at his side.
And he cried out, 'Father Abraham, have pity on me.
Send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue,
for I am suffering torment in these flames.'
Abraham replied,
‘My child, remember that you received
what was good during your lifetime
while Lazarus likewise received what was bad;
but now he is comforted here, whereas you are tormented.
Moreover, between us and you a great chasm is established
to prevent anyone from crossing who might wish to go
from our side to yours or from your side to ours.’
He said, ‘Then I beg you, father,
send him to my father’s house, for I have five brothers,
so that he may warn them,
lest they too come to this place of torment.'
But Abraham replied, ‘They have Moses and the prophets.
Let them listen to them.’
He said, ‘Oh no, father Abraham,
but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent.’
Then Abraham said, ‘If they will not listen to Moses and the prophets,
neither will they be persuaded if someone should rise from the dead.’”

none of significance, it's just a bunch of hokey pokey.

>>17158295
A nigger releasing a mixtape? It'd be a significant in history date if he didn't

break up with her?

just becuase you get along with someone sometimes doesn't mean you are obligated to stay with them forever. its okay to enrich each others lives for a little while.

you cant realistically marry your high school sweet heart. college sweet heart isn't much better.

its okay to be single. its okay to move on. its okay to say 'this isn't what i want anymore'. you are not a bad person for simply experiencing life.

honestly even if you were it'd be MORE shitty to stay with someone you really dont want to be with.

break up bro.

>>17158258
Get your shit together before attempting to share your life with someone else.
Same goes probably for her too.

Your relationship is beyond repair. The advice is only for future reference.

>>17158258
>I tried to break up with her
What does that even mean? How do you try to break up with someone and fail?

Bumpo

>>17158254
I remember when I was 16. Take it down a notch really. You're creating a necessity to do so. So you have to wean yourself slightly to find the right balance. Or fap more. Either way sounds like a good problem to have

Bump again.

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>>17158231

>TL;DR Girl is playing mind games.

>Im just trying to figure out what shes after.

Doesn't matter what she's after. She's playing with you, move on.

>>17158243
this

>>17158231
these don't seem like very deep mindgames.

we can assume he isn't completely happy with the bf/relationship she's in.

we can guess/hope that there might be some real kind of chemistry between her and OP

in all likelyhood she doesn't know what she's after. young people in long relationships have often broken up several times and then they get back together and that staying together inertia can get really fucked up. also sometimes people just fall out of love but the person who has been part of their life for a long time is still someone whose friendship and support they cherish/want so they aren't sure what to do. they want to get dick elsewhere but they don't want to hurt a close friend (the bf) and there's no way to do both.

OP, i think your best bet is to talk to a third party who you think might have some insight. its ok to tell someone "i'm into this girl but i keep hearing she's with this guy... etc etc" and find out what someone who knows her better can tell you. this seems like it should be possible bc you share a large group of social acquaintances

>>17158243
this is stupid, we console people all the time that are this girl and who are tired of their shitty SO but can't figure out how to break up, no reason from what he's said so far to assume she's some kind of psycho-bitch who fucks with him just to fuck with him

Your wife has shit taste because that jacket makes you look fatter and it's overwhelming. Listen to the kids and go with the second or third option.

the blazer makes you look like a bit of a cunt while the shirt and tie makes you look like a right nutty geezer

go shirt and tie

>>17158156
The tie looks good. Fuck the jacket.

Iron that shirt again too

>>17158149
NO. Don't let someone force you into doing something you don't want. If you don't want kids, don't have them.
Make up a lie about how you're sterile or something, and you can't have kids. Maybe then people will stop pestering you. Hang in there, OP.

If you don't want kids for fucks sake please don't have kids. You will ruin their lives and probably get divorced because of them, they will grow up disliking you etc. And don't lie about it to your family/friends. Stand up for your decision to not have kids, fuck their opinions.

>>17158159
does telling people that i'm sterile really work though? i don't really want to start a rumor

>>17158168
that's exactly what we thought, it's just that it's been really hard for my wife lately

>>17158123
WHAT I LEARNED IN BOATING SCHOOL IS

Boats are gay.

Lift weights.

>>17158123
What if you don't like it? That's a lot of money to gamble on a career with.

>>17158106

if you wanted to kill yourself you'd just do it. even if you couldnt figure it out, you'd just google 'easiest ways to kill myself'.

if i had to guess i could give you the easiest most fool proof way to die (jump off the tallest building) and you'd still rationalize it with 'I ONCE HEARD OF A GUY WHO FELL OFF OF A MUCH SMALLER BUILDING AND SURVIVED PARALYZED ID NEVER WANT THAT TO HAPPEN'

thus indicating that you dont actually want to die. this is why you reached out to people instead of a robot. you want to live. you want a different life. you just dont want the life you have now.

>>17158106
Take knife and slit your throat.
>b-but that'll hurt!
Then you don't really want to die.

Nothing we can say will control your finger and pull the trigger for you. Even if you've resolved to never do anything again, you still have to put in effort to kill yourself.