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Taking a girl out on a date on Friday. I'm already nervous as heck. I feel unreal. Me... girl... date... what? Social phobia, that shit makes me shaky. It distorts my thinking. My mouth gets dry and my face freezes. I have nothing to talk about. I look weird. I sound weird. I am weird and awkward.
What to do? Run before it's too late? A beer or two to make things easier?
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Realize this girl shits and farts just like you. You're also just a homosapien on a rock orbiting a star orbiting the center of a galaxy. This is petty on a cosmic scale so grab your nuts and shut the fuck up.
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>>17154290
I know. I just can't realize it. I know I will fail.
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>>17154358
Get your head out of your ass and stop feeling bad for yourself. Everything will be fine as long as you think so.
So everyone's graduating with their masters and jds and phds. Meanwhile, I can't even figure out what to do with my life and I've been working a simple desk job since graduating with my bs two years ago.
I go to the gym, play vidya, haven't been in a relationship in 10 years.
How do you all get what you want? And how did you figure out what you wanted?
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>>17154264
By identifying what you want, first of all. What makes you happy? What is your dream? What are your goals?
Then lay out the framework for how you will get those things accomplished. It may mean more school, or moving somewhere else, or joining a rec sports team to meet new people, or going out once a week to a different club to have a good time. Whatever you like. You know you, I don't. As with all things, you learn and grow by doing/trying. So start doing and trying. All things.
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>By identifying what you want, first of all. What makes you happy? What is your dream? What are your goals?
This has been ultimately the most difficult thing for me. Even my therapist has asked me to take a break from sessions for a bit for introspection. I simply am into too many things to pinpoint the one thing I want to do.
I do a lot, but don't have that one thing that makes me happy.
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>>17154287
I dunno what to tell you, dude. You know exactly what you have to do. This is a "you" problem. You gotta buckle down and find the focus to separate casual hobbies from real passions. Only then can you figure out how to turn your one or two true passions into job goals, relationship goals, etc.
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Well, she had a boyfriend all along 2016-05-17 16:53:28 Post No.17154239
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Well, she had a boyfriend all along
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Maybe you guys have already heard me, i've updated this story quite a few times either on new threads or in ask opposite gender threads.
Anyway i don't really have a question, except maybe how do i react to this ?
Story
> Went to a party, met qt girl, she looks at me a lot, laughs at my shit, but she leaves early
> i add her on fb
> we start chatting, she's pretty cool
> hey we actually have a lot in common and she's REALLY cool
> ask her out
> she says she can't
> we keep talking, it's better and better
> finally she asks that we see each other this week
> says that she likes me, even when we don't have anything to say
> overall she's pretty flirty/sexual most of the time
So we were supposed to see each other tomorrow.
I just asked her about tomorrow if she was still okay.
She answers yes, and out of blue says "my boyfriend might be there too, is it okay ? :/ "
Holy shit. She had never mentioned a boyfriend before.
I tried to play it cool and answered with "Oh, i wasn't aware of that". She seemed more embarassed than me. I saw her typing a long answer and then she stopped (She told me she had low battery earlier so she will probably answer tonight)
So, like, what's going on ???
I don't even feel mad at her, i just feel really stupid and a little frustrated, to the point it made me laugh. We had good chemistry and she clearly showed interest.
How should i even react to that ? Was she an asshole for doing this ?
I really don't wanna act like an asshole and insult her or stop talking to her or whatever. I wanna tell her it's okay and we just got confused and that i should have been clearer about my intentions, is that correct ?
Also should i keep talking to her ? I mean she usually initiates conversations and i'm pretty sure she'll keep doing it after that. I don't mind talking to her but now that i know it'll never go anywhere...
Man what a shitty day, i feel stupid
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>she had a boyfriend
>who looked like a girlfriend
>that i had in february of last year
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>>17154239
there are a lot of women that are incredibly oblivious about these things, for some reason. I wouldn't waste too much thought on it
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okay what the hell she just told me that her boyfriend won't be there and she wants me to come so we can talk about it
Oh hell i'll go, i got nothing to lose now anyway
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I've been groping the girls in my highshool for months. It started with creepshots then is escalated
I've stopped now but today I got a really strong and sexual urge to do it again.
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>>17154210
You're so lucky no ones told, seriously, you could get expelled for doing something like that because you're literally sexually assaulting them.
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>>17154210
I'm not sure what advice you're looking for here, but I'd advise you to seek counselling or something because there's a high chance you're gonna get stuck with a sexual harassment charge at some point if this continues into your adult life.
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>>17154225
How do I stop the urges?
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If someone gives the professor of a math class an anonymous tip that some students may cheat on the take home final. Is there anything the professor can do? I'm asking because my friend thought he could do these kids take home finals for pay but he realized he cant do it so now he's asking me to do it. Also I may have revealed this on my schools yik yak anonymously and that it was in an upper level math class.
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No? Also why would you do that?
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>>17154164
Do what? Cheat or tell yik yak?
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>>17154158
He can make it not take home anymore. Fuck cheaters.
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How do I go about asking my brother if I can smoke with him? He still lives with us (hes 23 and im 18), and he and his friends smoke in the shed, but he tries to hide it from me and thinks I dont know (i straight up went in his room today and he had a gram in a pill containter right out in the open)
I really wanna try weed but its a little awkward to just ask "hey can I smoke with you"
Also my dad does it too, I found a couple "roaches" in his ash tray, but thatd be SUPER awkward to ask him
Basically, everyone that lives with me right now smokes weed except me, and I wanna try it. I dont wanna straight up steal a little since they both only have like one gram and it would be obvious someone took it
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>>17154157
If you can't properly communicate even within your own family, how do you expect to work in real world outside?
Work on your social communication behave skills anon. You gonna need them.
Also weed is overrated as fuck.
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"Hey ive been wanting to try weed and i know that you smoke and was wondering if you could smoke me up?"
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>>17154157
Oh, you're the baby of the family. Just bring it into casual conversation, if he knows you know he's more likely to ask you to smoke with him.
Is weed legal where you live? I'm not asking for moral reasons.
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/Adv/ice on how to "take things slow" 2016-05-17 16:30:10 Post No.17154152
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/Adv/ice on how to "take things slow"
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Literally all of my relationships I've ever had went fast. Sexual on the first second date, love within a month (sometimes). I've never had a relationship like this until now but I want to do my best to make it work. How do I 'take it slow'?
Act like I don't know jack shit about this, cause I really don't, thanks anons
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How old are you and why do you think falling in "love" within first month is fast? Also are you boy or girl?
>I've never had a relationship like this
So you are trying to say your past relationships weren't important or what?
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>>17154168
Boy, 18, I just always thought it was and love at first sight was a meme
No I mean a relationship where the girl directly says "let's take things slow"
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>>17154238
let her set the pace. if you think "ok here is when I would normally be trying to get to second base" just don't. put it off for a couple dates. let her make some moves too. but if she makes one, don't take that as an indication that she wants you to drop trou and start pounding her right away.
basically, do the same things you would ordinarily do, but however much you were advancing the relationship physically before, space it out over 4 or 5 dates instead of one.
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Have problems pooping.Im 33 never done a colon cleanse in my life.eat alot meat.What the. best product or some good ways to unblock. colon and clean out my stomach completely.Always feeling shitty. I was supposed to get a colonoscopy but doctor found a hernia and want to go in(surgery)
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Prune juice. In fact, generally stick to a liquid only diet for the next few days.
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>>17154151
You need to get that hernia fixed, first and foremost. That can be incredibly dangerous if left untreated. As you age, it can perforate and you'll die from the billions of bacteria that spill into your body cavity.
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Should I talk to a priest?
I am not a religious person (very much the opposite), but I live feeling guilty 24/7 for everything I do, even being alive.
I feel the need to apologize for my existence, but I know no one who would listen without having future implications (e.g talking to a member of my family).
I used to go to therapy, it was very different of the thing I'm looking for right now.
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A religious authority such as a priest may be able to help you, if you think that you can really open up to that person, get what is inside off your chest, and are willing to take positive steps towards dealing with what's wrong. Seriously, facing/challenging what's making you feel so guilty is the vital thing, regardless of "who" you talk to, really. GL!!
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>>17154124
>GL
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>>17154329
Good Luck
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Sexual Transmutation? 2016-05-17 15:59:58 Post No.17154078
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So anyone actively apply sexual transmutation here? How does one transmute sexual energy into productive and positive things? Are there any draw backs to this? How to keep this going? What to avoid? Is this a meme like nofap? Bonus if you've read: How to Grow & Think Rich
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I assume you are a young male.
Basically if I don't orgasm, I have more energy.
It's that simple. It doesn't have to be an extreme no-fap challenge, just moderate yourself.
I fap on an average of twice daily
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>>17154220
Nofap means you dont fap tho. Its not noorgasm.
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/x/ may know something about this, they're always having threads about energy, etc.
Hey guys,
I've been having problems with my girlfriend of 4 months. We were friends with benefits for over a year before we started officially dating. She says she loves me (she said it first) and things have been generally good besides a couple fights here and there.
Recently, her best friend came home from college and they've been spending a lot of time together, understandably. The only thing is is that my girlfriend has been ditching our plans just to hang with her friend. She's ditched plans we've had 3 times over the last two days,and whenever I bring it up she just says that her and her friend need to have 'girl time'.
Now I understand that she wants to spend time with her friend, but for her to ditch me 3 times over 2 days is kind of bullshit in my opinion. I texted her last night trying to talk and she said that she was too sleepy to talk at 12:30 AM. Okay, I thought. Then I saw that she was on Facebook chat around 1:30 so I thought what the fuck. I debated texting her until I finally did at 2:30 AM, saying how I was upset how she ditched plans so often and just to be honest with me if she wanted to hang with her friend instead of just ditching our plans so often. She didn't respond, but was on Facebook chat at 3:30 AM, and clearly read my text.
I just don't know what to do. Is something up with her or am I just being crazy?
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>>17153892
Who knows, maybe she is into her friend.
Wait 3 days and try again, just don't sound like you are jealous / controlling.
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>>17153892
You're needy and she's being a bitch by not communicating with you.
Both situations suck and the only fix is communication. If she refuses, then your relationship is fucked.
Going to guess you're both 20 years old or younger.
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I'm 21, she's 20.
>>17153899
Her friend is a girl and she's not a lesbian. I'm not really jealous of her friend, I'm more upset that she's been ditching plans and then won't respond to my texts or even try to talk to me after.
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i think my best friend saw my vibrator on my bathroom mirror 2016-05-17 14:46:24 Post No.17153884
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i think my best friend saw my vibrator on my bathroom mirror
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today my best friend (9+ years) came over after work to hang out a bit and after a while he had to go to the bathroom.
at first i didn´t think of it but then it hit me - i totally forgot to put my dildo away from atop my bathroom mirror before he came over.
i´m not sure he has seen it but it was basically in plain sight if you look a bit up when sitting on the bowl
i ´m a guy and i´m straight, i just here and there enjoy some anal stimulation and that´s all.
if he should ever mention something about it i´d tell him the same way.
it´s just weird that he may have seen it and now thinks i´m gay or perverted or something like that - how big are the chances a really really close friend would freak out because of something like that?
he is a bit homophobic and i also think close-minded to sexual adventures afaik after all those years
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You need to have sex with him now to express your repressed sexual desires. But seriously, just lie about how it is your toy to play with girls. It may be a bit weird if he is really close-minded but it ventures into the land "my friend have some slightly weird kinks".
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who gives a fuck
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>>17153884
>i'm straight
Hahahahahaa good one op
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I have to quit smoking.
Tried a couple times before but failed, like most people.
Any quitters around who could give me some advice?
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do you want to quit?
do you still want to quit once you are in the withdrawals?
why do you want to quit?
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>>17153891
>do you want to quit?
Yup.
>do you still want to quit once you are in the withdrawals?
Yes and no. That's kinda why it's a drug.
>why do you want to quit?
Mainly because it's significantly decreasing my quality of life at this point.
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>>17153847
Smoking addiction has multiple levels:
>Nicotine
You can try plasters / chewing gum with it, slowly lowering levels.
>calming effect
You need to find something else to chill out. This is critical for ex smokers in stress situations. Just think hard why you want to stop.
>habit of smoking
Put a pen / lolipop / toothpick in mouth. Just don't smoke man. Keep yourself occupied in case you smoke also from boredom.
But mainly it is about having willpower. And since most smokers are smoking because of no willpower, you have to try hard to prove me wrong :-D
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Is it possibe to actually fall in love with someone just based on their personality?
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As a guy only if it's platonic.
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>>17153753
If it's over the internet, what's actually happening is that you fall in love or become infatuated with what you imagine the person is like based on their personality.
If it's irl, i can't offer any insight.
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It's a really weird situation. I never considered myself gay or found guys attractive, but the more I talk with him, the more I want to make him happy. He's always in my thoughts and I'm always looking forward to talking with him again. Talking with him makes me so happy in general, I never felt something so strong for another person. I already saw a few pictures of him, but my sentiment still didn't change. I don't really know what is going on with my feelings.
So in the event my ex texts me,"I miss you," how exactly should I reply?
Where was she when I missed her? Oh yeah, being a meat sleeve for her ex.
I still love her, but I feel like it's beta to take her back. Like I'd be the nice-guy provider, and that sounds stupid as fuck.
Should I just ignore the whole thing and start fresh with her?
She said she didn't want a relationship, so I'm pretty sure she just wanted a fwb. Should I take her back?
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Sounds like you don't really want her back, you mind just be scared of the lonely boogie man.
Option 1: If you miss her and want her back after she got a dickin' from the ex? Write "I miss you too."
Option 2: If you don't want her back? Simple. "Yeah, that's nice. I don't need this right now, sorry but no." Or some shit like that.
Option 3: Combo. Say you miss her, bang her one or two more times, and then say nah, that you changed your mind, like she did.
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>>17153710
Sounds like option 3 is the best option.
Thanks man.
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It's stupid as fuck to not want to get back together with someone because it's not macho enough in your eyes. However, chances are there are real reasons why you should not get back together with her. You did not break up for nothing. You cannot just forget her hooking up with an ex or wiping out your resentment over that.
I would choose the high ground and ignore her. Or you could do what the other poster suggested, but especially if you live in a small community, that means being okay with being known as a douche. If you don't have friends in common, it doesn't matter as much except for the standards you hold yourself to.