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>>17156048
>>17156048
Start the conversation off with a topic, like 'hey I saw this movie recently, it was good/bad/whatever'

Or 'My cat/dog did this weird/funny thing earlier, so how's your day going?'

>>17156045
drop out, get a job and your own place, work for a bit while you figure out your life.

you didn't withdraw instead of failing, you are not mature enough to even do basic things to help your gpa.

>>17156045
Switch to a real major or drop out. Try not to treat it as a giant fuck up and waste of thousands of dollars, think of it as a learning experience; one that costed thousands of dollars and a lot of time. Trade school is always an option.

And you can't use ADHD as an excuse when shit gets tough, I've been diagnosed and went through HS (and currently in college) unmedicated. If I can do it then anyone can do it.

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>>17156045
Skilled trade job, forget college.

bamp. No thoughts?

If you can afford everything you can practically want (no yachts or anything crazy like that), then no. Having some pride is a nice thing.

>>17156028
it is odd that she does that. maybe she feels really insecure about the income inequality. I guess I would if I lived with my folks and was dating someone who lived on their own. in my experience, many poor people that *don't* develop a "muh benefits/gibe monies" mentality end up feeling really self-conscious about their lack of buying power and can develop a really strong aversion to anything that even resembles charity. I used to be like this. it's a way of preserving dignity in hard times, but it can sometimes go too far and damage relationships with people who are just trying to help, too.

maybe you could just keep an envelope and always put the money in there. then give it back to her at an opportune time. a great time would be when she's getting ready to move out of her parents' house, give it to her for moving expenses. if she protests, you could tell a white lie just once and say that you did need to use a bit of it for idk, car repairs or something.

>>17155982
Don't do shit.
If you get a gf that's just it. You won't stop being jealous or anything else unless something touches you.
It's good and all, but there's no such a thing as a "be all end all" situation for anything. You'll just get someone to get jealous with, opposed to just alone.

You gotta work on yourself bud. You fantasize about having a girlfriend because you think it'll make life easier. Protip: it won't. You'll still be sad, feel lonely, and if you're getting jealous from other couples... imagine how jealous you'll be when your girlfriend is talking to her male friends.

I'm not trying to put you down here. I'm trying to help you.

You have to work on making yourself happy. I don't know your life situation so that can be done in many ways. If you have personal issues (aka, been unhappy for awhile), get a therapist for this part of your life. You can set it on your own terms and they will be a huge tool in your progress. The key point here would be to set goals for things you'd like to improve on. They MUST be realistic and they MUST be tracked. If you do this, you will succeed. There is literally no chance you will fail if you follow those two objectives: realistic, and trackable. Setting and achieving goals will give you the confidence and motivation you lack to achieve what you want to in life.

People think having a girlfriend means being happy. It doesn't. Having a girlfriend is about sharing your happiness with others. Hopefully someone who is also happy and makes you happy. You're not going to get this if you don't help yourself.

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Damn I needed that dude...thanks

>>17155888
Just tell him to come over for a weekend to fuck.

You have to just try talking to him. Be calm and considerate but be firm. A couple needs to be able to communicate in order to work out as a couple. If this is going to be a problem it has to be addressed.

>>17155888

>Our relationship is rather lacking in this aspect.

You're long distance, of course your relationship is lacking sexually.

Maybe he just doesn't feel like webcam fapping because its weird emasculating. Its not really strange for someone not to want to do that.

Shit, I wouldn't.

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bamp

This is obvious advice, but put in enough time, do all your assignments yourself and make sure you understand everything. Don't be afraid to ask professors or classmates for help.

>I'm going into college for computer science
Okay, good so far

>and I want a good GPA
Change your major right now. If you need somebody to tell you "Study and do your homework thoroughly" then you're not fucking cut out for CS.
All you're going to do is drag down the programs even further than they already have been, making all the actually informative classes senior level.

>>17155824

My girlfriend said the same thing "I'm open to anything" and I literally just said "I have a slight foot fetish" and she said she thought it was sexy and likes it when I lick her feet. Literally just say it. It's a lot more common than you think. Like. A LOT more common than you think. And at the very worst the person just says 'no thanks' (like my ex in highschool who spread it around and had everyone calling me names. Naturally I dumped her for being a bitch about it).

If you're too pussy, then next time you're sexting or something or talking about sex ask her what her fetishes are and then just say like "I have a foot fetish, but that's a bout it". You do not want to act like it's some weird disgusting thing. Just be confident and know it's really not all that weird.

>>17155957

I meant "unlike my ex..."

Most girls I've been with seem cool with it, even when they don't seem to be it's because they aren't sure if their feet are cute or not.

I've been drug tested many times and it was always by urine, you should be good. Oh and be aware weed is gonna be EVERYWHERE at that camp, try to be smart.

>>17155841
Thanks for the reply mate.

I'm coming all the way from Australia to work at the camp and as tempting as it will be to smoke, I'm gonna refuse simply because if I get caught the camp will get me deported. That'll ruin my post camp holiday plans.

The camp I'm going to work at appears quite conservative. It's not a Bible/Christian camp but it does have a "Jesus-y" vibe about it. Will people still have weed at a camp like that?

>>17155813
hair test is more expensive and almost no one does it.

What kind of pasta?

Maybe low sugar? Im under the impresion that pasta gets turned into something like sugar when you eat it. Like slow burn energy.

Someone else who knows this stuff chime in please. Either way google it.

>>17155771
Pasta is a social construct. There's no evidence that pasta is real. Either that or that wasn't oregano.

Start distancing yourself from her.

You won't be able to change her opinion until SHE wants to entertain the idea.

There are plenty of people in the world that agree with you. Find another friend.

Tell her the truth when it comes up. Be kind about it though, she is your friend after all.

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>>17155756
Stop being so nice to people. Speak your mind and confront your friend on how mentally retarded she is by believing on that new age fluid bullshit that kids these days like to call it. She is a slut and wants to get it from both sexes, calling it anything else is just a bunch of horseshit.

If you're really her friend then you'd say something, otherwise just cut her off.

>>17155679

Accept that it will. Why? Because in a way it has already. Your body is already reacting to the trauma created by you obsessing over it.

Just accept that you'll die a horrible death being anally raped by dogs while watching your cat being tortured, or whatever the worst of it is. Then just be grateful for every day that doesn't happen.

Enjoy!

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Breathe in deeply through your nose, hold a few seconds, exhale through your mouth.
Repeat.

If there's not a specific worry and just a general "something horrible is going to happen", it sounds like an anxiety attack. Focus on your breathing.

>>17155679
What gives you that inclination?

>>17155677

>hey, I got this issue but I don't want to do these obvious things in an attempt to solve it

Your post embodies the soul of /adv/.

>>17155703
I feel like I'm being bullied and I already explained why the steps I could take probably wouldn't work. This is a social housing project in The Netherlands. He'd only get evicted if he'd stab someone or something. Besides, I don't feel like snitching, even in this situation

>>17155764

It's okay, bruh. You and a thousand others are looking for the miracle cure.

>>17155676

Stop using "..." at the end of your sentences. Little things like that make you come across as unsure and child-like.

>>17155689
Thanx i thought the same.

>>17155699
Spell thanks properly too.

>>17155622
Lol how dependent are on others for happiness

>>17155622

Yes and no. Yes because if you have someone who is awesome and has similar interests as you, then it will be so good talking and hanging out together... the downside is that you always have a feeling in the back of your mind that she will go off and get picked up by any sexy Chad that walks by, or that she's talking to other guys and flirting and stuff.

Best way to deal with that is to realize that there are always people like your GF now (maybe without the flirting), and that you are great and can get any girl. Be confident in yourself.

Only if your only problem is being single.

>If it's always going to be like this, perhaps you two need to consider moving out."

Wow you're a huge dick and pretty much told her you're kicking her out and don't want her in your house anymore. And you're wondering why she became a huge bitch and doesn't want to talk to you anymore? If her arguing with her daughter all the time is an issue, did you even try to talk to her about it and get counseling?

Honestly you should not try to get with any other women as you seem to have deep seated issues with putting people on pedestals

>>17155555
Yes, I have a savior complex. I'm also a non-violent sociopath. Deadly combination, because I play mind games. Even now I question if I want her and her daughter back or if I just want to get what I want at the moment.

They have always argued since the girl was old enough to react. Her parenting skills were not good. The child had far more respect for me than for her mother and the kid and I got along very well. It's clear there was a jealously issue because there were only problems if it was the three of us and Jackie and I attempted to speak with one another. Someone had to be the third wheel when the child was around, no matter how hard I tried to make things inclusive.

They would go to counseling once a week. They chose a time that interfered with work and after a month I made it clear that I wasn't seeing an improvement and I went with them. The therapist simply didn't help. The child is like me, she wants her way, and when I made the comments that she has the immense greed I do and the underlying cause she cannot control, her mother, once again, suggested I was simply attacking her.

I wanted peace. I wanted a family. Now I hate children. It's an utter deal-breaker going forward, and that rules out a huge percentage of women 21-35.

>>17155536
>Now she doesn't want to talk to me at all. As a very, very attractive woman, she's been pursued since the day she arrived.

This is actually your issue. You don't want her, but you don't want someone else to have her. Sleeping around doesn't help you because you don't "have" someone. They leave after, you don't get to feel like you have power or control over them. Is there anything you miss about her besides that she was attractive and wouldn't immediately leave after sex?