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Bumping. Women of/adv/ why do you not respond to guys?

The older I get the more I feel texting hurts your game 90% of the time.

>>17155042
I can't call her because she never picks up. So a text, she knows I wanted to get in touch.

>>17154802
So your symptoms are you think you might be crazy?

Sometimes acid is known to help surface psychological disorders that would have inevitably surfaced anyways, I.E. with schizophrenia, and never or rarely causes it.

I'm not sure about personality disorders though? It might just be a coincidence. So basically either that or the acid brought it on earlier and it was inevitable.

BTW you are not even retarded or crazy, APD is the most inoffensive of all of them IMO even though it will cause you difficulties, personality disorders are categorized into clusters. Cluster A is the ones that cause you to act weird/eccentric, like schizoid personality disorder, cluster B is the dramatic ones, borderline personality disorder and histrionic etc, while cluster C is nervous/anxious disorders like what you are experiencing. So it is completely different from BPD etc. Hope this helps.

>>17154802
>I didn't know how to react APD is often associated with multiple personality disorder

No. Dissociative Identity Disorder isn't something that just happens. If you don't have prolonged, severe abuse in your history you don't have Dissociative Identity Disorder. I mean locked in a closet unless daddy wants to fuck you from six to fifteen level abuse. Are many people with DID also Avoidant? Sure, its a strong association, but it runs one way.

>borderline personality disorder
No. There isn't an association between Cluster B and C. While I can imagine someone who might be a blend, it certainly isn't something you're going to see in the wild very often.

>mentally retarded or maybe even autistic
Mental retardation is a pretty specific diagnosis. If you don't have cognitive abilities two standard deviations below the mean (fuck you, DSM5, the cut off is useful) with an onset during childhood and pervasive dysfunction across all domains of life its not a diagnosis even worth considering. A Spectrum diagnosis isn't wholly out of the picture, and it is consistent with some of what you're reporting, but you'd need testing to confirm.

Heres a scary thought: maybe you've looked avoidant or possibly Aspergian throughout adolescence because of a slow Schizophrenia prodrome and the use of psychedelics pushed you towards your first psychotic episode.

Had any bad fevers or unexplained illnesses lately?

Yes. It is extremely shitty. Don't do it.

As long as you're tasteful. If you're upset because he committed suicide, then she would be the first person to understand if she saw your post.

>>17154750
It's shitty of you to go into detail. No one, friend or family, wants to see that intense of shit on social media. That's not what social media is for. Intensely private matters are for offline, personal communication.

All you have to say, if you feel you HAVE to tell everyone, is that there was a death in the family and you're working through it.

If it would make you happy, why not?

If you like your nose, keep it. I think it's a nice nose.

>>17154723
Yeah every one tell me my nose is nice but I can't believe it, wanna have some anons opinions

>>17154713
There's nothing inherently wrong with that nose, OP. 1) Beauty really IS in the eye of the beholder...we can be our own worst critics and, honestly, the very thing one person hates is, to another person, awesome! 2) Good looks are about symmetry--balance. You may just have a face that "works" with that nose! 3) If you objectively hate your nose, and can't find a way to accept yourself as you are, then you may want to look at the pros and cons (i.e. risks) associated with surgery so you can be happy in your own skin. For me, that'd be the last option, but for you... *Shrugs* Good luck, whatever you decide!

>>17154695
Nope, don't have it. I've had one relationship before my marriage and it was a bi guy. From time to time I'd get nervous about having HIV too, because number one the guy was gay, number two he was batshit crazy and number three he wanted to get back together and I didn't want to forgive him for cheating so he swore revenge. But after a few years I was pregnant with my first baby so I got tested automatically. Everything fine.

>>17154695

If you can afford medication, you have nothing to worry about. Medicine is good, little side effects, and ALL people who catch it early live normal lives, with most living to be 80+ (there's a meta study somewhere that showed this)... Only thing that changes is I guess having to announce it to people if you go to a restaurant or something.

I had a scare once after I had sex with a girl, and later learned she was fucking a bisexual guy with prison tattoos that did time for heroine

I'll need to see the video to help you fully

Make and post something else out that you like.

post link

>>17154542
Can you go to college?

shelter/church. find a temporary work office. go to library and google.shelter and church will get you food. at night you can sleep by church/shelter to avoid rules plus if you have a tent. get a bike.find a gf at a shelter some have cars and will help you.keep busy by going to the library. talk to a couselor and they will probly help you get housing may take a while

OP got btfo

You're a cuck

>>17154502
lol you idiot. You keep spouting sperghetti like this around her, she's gonna get tired of your cuck shit & leave you for another man - regardless of his dick size.

I just want a nigger dick inside of we guys.

Even if the baby comes out black il just tell people I'm 1/8th negro.

Guys I want to take a shit but I'm not sure if I should go to the bathroom? What should I do ?

Guys I'm thirsty but I don't know if I should get a glass of water what should I do?

Guys my eyes are getting very dry and starting to get very watery, I need to blink what should I do?

why would they be avoiding you?

>>17154494
Only one way to truly get to the bottom of this...ASK SOMEONE THERE! You can speculate to yourself into a fit, and still manage to be wrong...

>>17154511
No idea, thats why Im asking

There was no camera in the corner where people park their bikes apparently but they will look at the camera facing the parking lot... this guy is good and was probably waiting and watching beforehand. Cut through the chain and left nothing.

They gotta make money with these stolen bikes somehow, but I imagine it's too obvious if they try to do it kijiji or something. Any idea how they will sell it? where?

>spending 1k on a bike
You fault m8

Obviously you cannot totally prevent theft, but you can decrease the likelihood your bike will be the target.

Spending the right amount on locks and locking correctly is part of it, the rest is location and the final bit is just fucking luck/timing. 15 minutes is a very short length of time for anything other than an opportunistic theft which would suggest to me you locked it poorly. For my own curiosity how did you lock?

You need a decent chain which cannot be defeated except for bulky croppers for the front wheel and the frame and a decent D or U lock for a second point of attachment, ideally rear wheel and frame which cannot be defeated except for a hydraulic jack and/or severe leverage.

The leverage aspect can be negated by positioning the D or U lock high up off the ground meaning you can't brace anything against the floor and hydraulic jacking can be made difficult by positioning by either filling the D with pole/frame/wheel/rear triangle/crank arm or using smaller U locks which provide little room to position a jack.

It is very unlikely an opportunistic thief will carry both tools as they are expensive and bulky and it'd be time consuming to bust both even if you don't position them in the best manner. Your bike wouldn't be an easy target and an opportunist would move on.

It is possible your bike was specifically targeted by a more informed thief, but 15 minutes is bold as fuck, usually they'd wait for a better window of opportunity or keep an eye out for an easier bike to steal.

Of course nothing will stop someone who really wants your bike, they'll just use power tools or violence to get it and you can't really lock against such situations, it is a numbers game really to dissuade 99% of opportunistic thieves.

I had two nice bikes stolen and police immediately told me prime suspects were people who know me and the bike. According to them random theft for a well secured bike is so rare usually someone with knowledge of my movements planned it.

Your poor kid

You're a fucking piece of shit.

You're worthless, she was stupid for letting you back and not collecting her child support while she has a real man in her life.

You can't force people to help themselves. If she isn't ready for therapy, then that sucks. If it's too much stress on you, I'd break up with her. Whatever she does as a result has nothing to do with you and isn't your fault.

>>17154440
Tell her how her state is affecting yours and that you're very concerned but that she really needs to deal with her problems. That's the thing--they're HER PROBLEMS and if you let them seep into your head, you're really in trouble! WARNING: If you play the "I'm going to leave you if you don't get help" card, you better be ready to follow that through, OP...once she hears those words, the relationship is at a crossroads and you may have to move on! GL!!

Buy her this book off Amazon- it's 6 dollars. Feeling Good by David Burns

Tell her "I need you to read this book. It's been so terrible seeing you like this, and I just want you to be happy. I need you to read this starting today, this isn't a joke" If she doesn't take you seriously, tell her you are considering breaking up with her because her behaviors are so stressful for you.

This book is so profound, and if she reads it and takes it to heart, she can actually become a totally different person emotionally.

>>17154402
That conversation is over, don't try to continue it. Instead, start with a fresh new one.

>Hey! I did xxx today. Kinda cool.

Or whatever.

Why, this just makes no sense to me. She pretty much ignores me when Im around.

That is literally the entire conversation, and it was completely out of the blue

She wants the D but she wants to let you be a man and try to woo her, go fail miserably and come back asking advice on how to win her back.
Also stop flirting with your best friends little sister you little rat fuck.

>>17154302

stop taking drugs immediately. if you relapse even once, go to rehab. once you have handled your shitty addiction, then you can focus on getting a job.

getting jobs is rough. real rough. it takes time to figure out how to play the system right. advice helps but at best it just gives you guidelines that you still ened to fill with your life. keep applying. its not 'bad luck' to not get a job right away. personally I would not hire a drug addict. and yes you are an addict if you need drugs to feel normal. and yes, people can tell something is wrong with you.

>my ex
>this other girl

you dont have electricity. stop worrying about girls. until you can take one on a date without missing out on the fucking power bill, girls no longer exist for you, capiche?

>friend went to prison

dont do drugs, and you'll avoid this

>friend had money stolen from them

dont do drugs, thereby not racking up debt, and you wont have this issue either.

>jobless

not a good time to be doing drugs.

>ex broke up with me out of the blue.

you are a jobless in debt drug addict. it wasnt out of the blue mate.

>girl wont text me

probably cuz you are a fucking loser.

>no place wants to hire me

if at first you don't succeed, lie, lie again. lie on your resume. and place that needs barista service? claim you worked as a barista during weekly chairty dinners in highschool. they iwll teach you how to use their machine anyway. on top of that you can just google 'barista trianing video' and see how to make coffees.

apply this logic to every 'entry level' job thats seeking some sort of experience.

>>17154316
Thanks anon. I needed to hear this. Ill take this advice with a grain of salt and get my shit together

>>17154327

>with a grain of salt

without a single fucking grain of salt, what is wrong with you? you knwo what that means do you? it means to take it with a sense of skepticism, or at the very least not literally.

every single thing i said was absolutely 100% on point. dont figuratively stop takign drugs. dont figuratively check into rehab if you slip.

LITERALLY.