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>>17159078
How are you a loser if you're at least trying?

hab you toubt about howd much thatll hurt?

The pain is worth it looking like an accident

She wants the D in and around her mouth.But seriously,it sounds to me like she sees you as a friend,or perhaps she was asking who you like for a friend of hers.Need more info about your relationship with her

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>>17159066
She always like hitting me and bumping me for no reason, we make pretty strong eye contact during convos(about 10 sec at a time if I were to guess) and she always like talking to me when I'm just chilling talking to my friends. And she laughs off every sexual innuendo I do. And she's pretty weird. She said that she would fuck my sister, and she always keep peeking looks at me. *tips fedora*. Also she was my valentines this year

>>17159029
well damn means she only ever saw you as a friend: you is in the friendzone. sorry bro...

>>17158998
How about outings with friends? I have a good friend that I go to an anime con with at the end of the summer with. I don't even watch anime that much compared to him, I just like the con scene for some reason.

>>17158998
>What are some things I can look forward to?

Playing video games on weekends.

Put all your eggs into something amazing happening, like a Trump presidency or Jesus returning
When it dosent happen off yourself

It doesn't matter whether she likes you or not. Ask her out on a date.

>>17158980
So funny story, I've never really asked a girl out. Can I get a crash course?

>>17159028
Try to get her alone and ask her if she wants to go out for some drink/coffee/whatever. It's preferable to ask her in person and while she's being alone, but you can call her or ask her when she's with her friends too, no big deal. Avoid doing it by text though.

For a first date you should go somewhere you can talk, like a park, cafe or a restaurant (cafe is the most casual place possible, best choice for a first date if you're a little insecure), definitely avoid loud and crowded places.

Remember that the main purpose of said date will be to get to know each other better and to have fun. Don't go out of your way to impress her, relax and have a good time.

your friends sound like fags

>>17158981
They are, but I only admit it to myself during these bursts of depression and self loathing.

>>17158974
tell them to fuck off. walk out. never talk to them again. theyre not your friends.

>>17158957
Do you just enjoy the buzz?

Bump out of interest. Not op here, and I'm a guy, but I get the same thing. I lose a lot of interest in my partner post-orgasm, whether or not I'm dating them.

First thing that comes to mind is you not being sexually attracted to him.

>>17158962
Well it's sort of normal when guys do it.

styrene-butadiene seems to work really well.

>>17158923
it's synthetic rubber... commonly found on the bottom of shoes.

someone was supposed to ask wtf that is but it's taking too long.

>>17158910
Oh I've been there...

I would see roaches in the bathroom while I'd be taking a shit so I just started spraying the little fuckers with whatever was at hand (toilet cleaner, air freshener) and found that anything with bleached worked the best.

But, as we all know, roaches are fucking bulletproof so nothing I've found actually kills them but only stands to slow them down to a point where I can squash them.

>>17158895
its a telephone jack adaptor

>>17158903
Not OP, but what kind of port does the thick end fit into?

It's going into the cable that goes directly into the handset where I talk into.

Jesus ur an adult, that sucks ass. Best advice? Hurry up and get a job lol

>>17158894
>my parents have a GPS tracker on my phone so I can't really go anywhere without them knowing.
Is your phone glued to you or something? Leave it at home

>>17158905
Lmao yeah I've applied to quite a few places and haven't heard back yet.

>>17158909
I would but then I would have to go through them calling each and every one of my friends asking them where I am (they pulled most of my contacts from my phone as well and I really only hang out with a handful of people).

just try to distract yourself, if you can. there's really no way to get over those feelings until you've just gotten the thing over with. you'll be fine, your nervousness will give you extra energy, and if you don't get this job it's not the end of the world. good luck!

Masturbate. Like, actually. It helps.

>>17158901
Honestly this is a good idea

>>17158864
i hate naps they completely fuck me up for the rest of the day

don't

sure

Probably not
There was a period of a few months where my sleep schedule was consistently 5pm-8pm and then 1am-6am
it was awful

Tell her how you feel maybe. If she gets mad then definitely break it off. If not, maybe stick with her and see if it gets better. After all, you've been with her for 3 years

As much as we don't like to admit it, relationships are about give and take, and there is only so much a human can take.

At the end of the day you have to decide for yourself what is more important, her happiness (or lack thereof), or yours. Neither choice is incorrect. If she does anything as a result of you leaving her, it isn't your fault because she's become overdependant on you.

There is no way of breaking it off easily. I would perhaps consider voicing your feelings and having a proper discussion about it instead of just leaving flat out.

This happens time and time again. You can be a martyr, but why not move on and find somebody that loves you and themselves?

>>17158712

the 'best' way to break up with her is to have a plan for you, and have a plan for her. this may coincide with the end of a lease. but the best you can do is
>have a place for you to go and/or have a place for her to go
>plan for her to be out of town for a day, if not a whole weekend
>use her out of town time to get your stuff, and move out
>pick her up from wherever she is, take her to the shared house, and tell her you are moving out, already got your stuff, and cannot be with her anymore

if its your apartment you could stay and simply pack her stuff and bring it to her family. context is key here.

>>17158708

could be any number of reasons. we dont know. you are probably not the kind of person they want to talk to and a recent thing you did was the tipping point.

sucks to suck. you might not be entirely in the wrong. might be a chance to reflect and grow. or it might be a chacne to find people more in line with you

In my experience, whenever people complain about this kind of issue there's a very good reason why.

Maybe some self-reflection might help. Or you know, just straight up ask them instead of letting them ignore you.

>>17158708
I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you, but you will never know why unless and until you reach out to them. This is the first step out.

>>17158699

we tend to compartmentalize our relationships.

you are the most important man in her life, and if some other person approaches you feel like all she might have for you is the sexual aspect of your relationship, and you fear she will transfer that to him.

I have a similar issue with my boss. not sexually, but i see him as a father figure / mentor, and he clearly looks at me as the 'mentee' if you will. we are extremely close. and i do have an internal jealousy when i see that he is scheduled to have lunch with another young man. he is a large father figure and actually adopted three kids who didnt have a father.

in your case its a little rougher because romantic relationships are widely believed to only have room for one and he DID show an interest in her. sure you can trust her, but can you trust him to give up? can you trust this stranger who DID try to take your place not to slowly be waiting for the right chance to make her his?

you arent entirely in the wrong here.

Ah geez. I'd start packing, OP.

You should really talk to her, and put your foot down though. Tell her you don't think it's wise for her to become so close with somebody who clearly has romantic feelings for her when she's already in a relationship. Tell her that it's disrespectful to the person your with. Don't manipulate her, but let her know that if she plans to continue this behavior, you're going to leave her because you feel that she wants to be with him more than you.

It's not your fault, OP. This shit happens. This is life, it likes to fuck with us. You've got to just roll with the punches, it'll all work out.

Do yourself a favor though, and don't believe her when she tries to tell you that everything is okay. It's actions that make history, not words.

Most people here are probably going to tell you some variation of your girl not respecting you and you having to assert yourself. Sometimes the best way to assert yourself is by being comfortable with what's happening.

Listen man you guys have been going out for 7 years and she turned him down. She does this with others yet you feel jealous of this one in particular because he likes her. There are boundaries - she should be capable of defending those boundaries but if not for example he gets grabby and she does nothing you 1. Tell him to knock it off and 2. Tell her to do a better job

People are so scared of being hurt they sabotage future opportunities for themselves. You wont be cucked (as most would say here) if she cheats, you can only be cucked if you let yourself feel that way. If she cheats she wasnt worth your time and you can move on with your life with little to no emotional pain.

But if you don't trust your girl then there's no point in being in a relationship with her, no matter how amazing she is in other ways. This is a personal problem that can only be fixed with being exposed and becoming gradually comfortable. My gf has lots of male friends, I'm sure most of them would love to bone her, even some of my mutual friends.

I'm secure enough to know that she won't and if she does I can get rid of her in a heartbeat.

>>17158669

generally no. i think the saying is meant to shine light on the situations that people act like big deals but arent.

there is no reason not to go ask out that girl, or whatever.

if its dangerous and has real world stakes, consider the options. but the saying is not meant for like 'see if you can land a back flip off your roof' and anything like that.

>>17158669
All of my interactions with women can be summed up like that.

>>17158669
I dont think so. There is no time I haven't gained either physically, emotionally, or morally by participating in life. It's been worth it every time, even in failure.