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No faggot

>>17160571
Nope, faggot.

Yes, you can. It is what you are attracted to.

Either you keep looking for work or you stay in your little bubble of miserable self-commiseration, doesn't look like a big dilemma to me chumpo.

>>17160561
Omg justin bieber :3

Id recommend getting daily routines, like doing your own laundry every sunday or cook food on fridays. Just to keep your mind busy ahead and planning stuff.

Also try out all sorts of new hobbies. Try picking up the guitarr even though you know that you'd suck at it, or maybe a sport like basketball

Youre life isnt over anon just because you got declined a couple of jobs. You only have one life and you're going to live it until youre atleast 60+

Motivation is really important and if you cant make your own life good then you can try to make other peoples lives good

Don't circumsize just stretch it out slowly. Google the exercises.

>>17160527
But how? I cant even put my pinky inside of it? It is very closed,and only the tip shows when erected

See a doctor, let them decide if you need a circumcision or not

>>17160466
>oh no despite being poor i used too much electricity and stuff
>muh bills

how exactly are you short?

>>17160468
I had to put down a deposit for a new place, normally I'd have enough but it came earlier than expected

>>17160466
can you call them and work something out? like, "if I get you 30 today and the rest within a week, will you please not shut off my power" or something like that? idk how it works where you are, but some power companies in the US will do that, as long as you have contacted them and promise to pay within a short time. idk how it will work for you, since your deadline is today, but it can't hurt to try.

>>17160468
I agree with you that people should budget and save for emergencies. however, shit happens. not all of us have someone to rely on if a bunch of sudden financial shitfalls happen at once.

>>17160446
Nope. You've got your whole life ahead of you

Nah, you can still turn it around. I'm the same age as you and going through something similar.

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>>17160446
No idea man. Everyone will tell it's never to late, that you shouldn't give up.

Pesonally, I keep trying new things, meetig people, and doing hundreds of thousands of sit-ups and push ups. Because i've been told that is what i have to do to find happyness. Regular physical exercise, meeting new people, etc... Right? I mean why would people tell you to do something that doesn't work. Except it doesn't (for me at least). But i digress. I'm likely too far down the depression pit.

I think whatever age you are you should try and fix your life.

Didn't you post a more elaborate version of this earlier? Went out shopping and left him to watch the kids or whatever?

Do whatever you're both comfortable with. If you're upset, or he's upset, take a bit of time to yourselves to cool off then come back and talk about it with a clear head.

Personally I'd probably shut the door and go do something else. But that's based on my boyfriend being worried about what I think. Even though I told him as a 4chan user myself, finding out that he's into traps and furries is 4chan normie tier.

>>17160441
No didn't see that post otherwise I probably would have posted this question there. I couldn't walk away... I started laughing because I scared the cum out of him rofl I was in stitchs. He was super embarrassed, I tried to reasure him that it was ok but my laughing didn't help the situation. Oops.

>>17160480
>>17160441 (You) (OP)
No didn't see that post otherwise I probably would have posted this question there. I couldn't walk away... I started laughing because I scared the cum out of him rofl I was in stitchs. He was super embarrassed, I tried to reasure him that it was ok but my laughing didn't help the situation. Oops.

I don't know ANYTHING about product design, but presume either they freelance or they work for dedicated product design companies or in house as a department within a larger company.

I'd imagine based on the world I've worked in that freelance is going to come with the challenges that running your own business entails though I can't think who your customer base would be. They'll either be so huge they have in house design, or outsource to medium dedicated firms, or they'll hire you on a temporary basis bypassing your business entirely, or they'll be so small that it'll be pissy work and you'll have to network like a bitch to keep enough clients to keep money coming in.

I imagine dedicated companies will have all the challenges of working any other office job in a fake creative environment with all the usual politics and design meetings and pitches and hangers on and inflated ego.

I imagine working in house for huge respected brands is highly competitive, would require relocation and I suspect lots of them are using temporary contracts and outsourcing what in the modern world is becoming a unnecessary cost. I'd imagine that the pay is average except at the top levels.

Maybe there are emerging markets with prototyping factories and small scale manufacturers who take on limited runs looking to offer additional services to their clients, but I imagine most of these are in China. You might be able to find a way into this, but you'd have to have the skills of running your own relentlessly self promoting brand and image to network to be of value to them.

But what do I know? I'm just extrapolating based on my own work history. I've a friend who is a 'brand/image' consultant. He has his own company. He is basically a massive salesman selling himself and the idea of what he could do. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, blame the implementation, take the money and run. It all seems image. Look like a big company. Impress smaller companies. Sell the idea of success.

>>17160432

Thanks for this very constructive reply.
So what do you do and how is it working for you?

Also, what if you worked for a small business that isn't international?

>>17160443
Studied programming and business system analysis. Unless you worked for a company with in house development teams (they nearly all bring in freelance or dedicated consultancy) you had to have your own business or work as part of a dedicated firm.

If you work for a dedicated firm you get paid averagely and you get all the usual shit that working in an office involves. But you only get pressure from your part of the project and implementation and you can specialise and there is safety in only having ownership of the part that you are the expert in.

If you work for a tiny firm or for yourself you've got to find the clients, put together a pitch, sell the pitch, develop, implement, train and support the product. You've got to have so many skills which relate to basically being a good salesperson.

I imagine it is the same for people who work in product design. It seems similar for my friend who works in brand design. He first has to find someone who needs to be sold the benefit of his services, the value of which are determined by how well he can sell himself and he has to pitch and produce and implement. The creative work is a tiny part of the overall work.

I branched out into audio system design and development, sound reinforcement, acoustic design, digital sound processing. Not sure how it happened, but it kind of did.

I mean, what do you want to be doing? Producing prototypes? Physically producing them? Designing digitally or on paper? Do you have to cost them up? Sell against competitive designs based on features and benefits compared to unit price? Do you have a love of a particular product or industry which would give you insight in that area?

I know a girl who specialises in designing clothes from sustainable materials. She gets her manufacturing done elsewhere and sells through local and online. It doesn't pay all the bills.

I know a girl who designs and manufacturers furniture. She sells through galleries. It doesn't pay all the bills.

>>17160393
Say something like your dad promised you an expensive car if you didn't drink at all on that night (or limited yourself to 1 or 2 beers).

Personally don't really drink much, just cant get used to the taste and its too expensive. Only drink when I go out - will have a beer and thats about it.

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>>17160450
this might work actually.

or just talk to your friends ahead of time and let them know that you'd like to not embarrass yourself on your birthday. so while you are looking forward to having a few drinks with them, you're going to be pacing yourself to avoid any bad situations, and you'd like them to please not try to encourage you to over-drink.

if you don't trust them to respect that (or if they're the kind of "friends" who will do their damndest to get you shitfaced anyway against your wishes, just because you're just so fucking funny when you're drunk), don't go out with them.

First of all if you let someone pressure you into drinking (or doing anything for that matter) you're a fucking faggot. Simply tell them that you'll drink how much you feel like drinking and be done with that. You can't control what you're going to do when drunk, you can only control how drunk you'll get.

Making a fool out of yourself is not so bad, at least when you're out with your friends, but if you're going out with girls and you want to hook up with one of them you obviously shouldn't get shitfaced.

So don't get shitfaced you fucking degenerate.

Get used to it

Really thats it

>Go from being a NEET to working
>I don't like it
>Help me like it /adv/
Welcome to the real world. Thanks for contributing. Now man the fuck up and do what the rest of us do every single fucking day.

>I feel so exhausted after work that I don't want to do anything I used to, no tv, no music, no games.
Aww, poor baby. Can't work and have a NEET life too? Funny that.

>>17160360
Quit.

>>17160282
Weird to who? Who's checking?

People go to movies alone all the time.

>>17160288
Basically this. No one will notice either way, but no there's nothing inherently weird about seeing a show on your own

>>17160282
No.

Go. Talk to the people next to you in line or in the venue. Enjoy.

I'd suggest a more moderate church. They can actually be pretty pleasant. The more fundamentalist ones the lean towards cult mentality are pretty damaging in my opinion. I don't attend a church myself, I was exposed to a number of them and didn't really like the human element, the politics to it all. I'm happy as a hermit believer

>behavior control is emphasized, they want to have daily contact with you to make sure you're not drinking alcohol or fucking coffee, or having sex, similar to what Ive seen in cult-y self help groups
And most disturbing to me
>the church teaches that to achieve the highest level in the afterlife, your spouse also has to be Mormon and you have to do a ceremony in a temple

At first I supported her enthusiasm for this because I was happy that my fiancee found a church and she could get some community out of it and learn to better herself from it and maybe I could to. But I don't want to be part of a church that requires me to blindly believe that this guy from the 19th century is a prophet chosen by god to restore the one true church, and that there is a living prophet who can change canon and tell me what to do with my life. Hell, this is even making me question if christianity in general is believable. I'm scared she will get sucked into this and it will become more important than me, and she'll be pressured away from me because I'm deciding not to be part of this church. And I dont know how to talk to her about it.

I dont think the missionaries or anyone else are bad people for believing this stuff, but I don't think it's correct. I see no proof that it isnt 100% made up, and plenty of proof to the contrary.

>>17160278
>>17160305

Protip: she's being sucked into this so easily because she's unsatisfied with her life (this possibly means you). Be a fucking man and tell her that you're not joining and neither are you. If she chooses the cult over you, then you dodged a bullet.

I'm sick of all this nu-male "I can't control my woman" bullshit.

As far as the whore level goes, it's pretty low on the bar. I wonder how much one makes 2bh. I'm a guy but it kind of makes my skin crawl thinking of the gross, perverted, lonely men that call those numbers

naw that's fucked mate. expect problems.

>>17160262
$9.30 but she gets to stay home with our kids

Be energetic, give eye contact, fake it all if you have to. I'm the most pleasant person I've ever been in interviews. If it's a large company they might have some company vision or goal which you should research online and get familiar with. Since you have zero work experience you'll want to focus on your basic strengths and some examples of those strengths

>>17160249
I don't know specifically how to be energetic or if I am doing it correctly, I always keep an upbeat tone that isn't too shallow or bored and I always give eye contact. As for experience I only have it in labor I have never really had an official job. Do I disclose that to them ?

It'd mention that in your resume/cv anyways wouldn't it? You did labour work, but it wasn't considered a job?

>>17160239
Try making smoothies. If you mkix the right healthy things together it can come out tasting good.

your sense of taste has already been fucked by artificial flavours/sweeteners.

theres nothing you can do other than cook creatively, force yourself and pray that you somehow manage to restore your natural taste again.

>>17160272
It's quite easy though. And after a few years it's even the other way round. Can't have artificial shit in my food and hate McDonald's etc to death.
Just get started jackass and add lots of spices. There are tons of them and they taste A LOT better than artificial flavours.

Get naked and be really obnoxiously naked

>>17160223
Wave and say "Hi!"

>run