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therapy is alright but it depends on the therapist a lot of the times. When I go I am very blunt on how I feel and think, and my therapist helps me understand why I think the way I do and do the things I do. It is very cathartic and helpful in stopping the habits that hold me back from being a person.

I don't understand what you mean by, "I'm worried that getting help for my faults will somehow get rid of the things I like about myself". If you don't like your faults, especially ones that can be changed, why would you not get help? I go to therapy because I am extremely depressed and if I let it sit and simmer within me, I become an awful person I cannot stand being.

There's nothing wrong with getting help if you feel like you cannot do it on your own. Pride is considered a sin for a reason friend, and it can hold you back if you let it.

>>17198490
I guess I'm just reluctant to part with any part of myself, even if it's bad. Like a game of Jenga or something, I can't help but think if one part of me is pulled out, the rest of me will have to find a new way to sort itself out. And that new self won't be me. Not to mention I'm so used to things working themselves out, or finding ways to be happy, that I'm not entirely convinced I need therapy. Or at least, convinced enough to actually look for a therapist. I don't know, I'm just really hesitant towards the whole thing
But you're right. I shouldn't let my pride stop me from getting answers. Any tips on looking for a good therapist?

spoiler: it doesn't

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Change the word lazy to "Being afraid of running out of time" and it applies to your circumstances.

It's not too late, but you gotta focus on getting out and off this site, it's a poor substitute for what you really want and need.

>>17198474
How old are you? What do you do when you are not working? You say you feel alienated, but how are your interactions with people?

More importantly, how do you want to change?

>>17198503
I'm 25.

When I'm not working, I generally ride my motorcycle. I'm very proud of it, even though it's not an especially nice one. That's the only thing I have that could really be called a hobby. I do it a lot.

My interactions with other people always feel forced. Like I'm somehow intervening something by diverting their attention. It never seems like anyone just wants to talk to me. This has gone on long enough to where my default rhetoric is somewhat cold, almost short and to some, seemingly snippy.

I think I have a pretty balanced and stable personality. I don't think I lack that. Tiny, tiny things used to completely set me off, but I don't really do that anymore. I've learned to let a lot of things go, which was hard for me and took a significant period of time.

What I lack is someone. Someone who sees and relates to my eccentricities without the need to view them from afar, only ever really tolerating them. Someone with whom I can sit and talk about nothing, doing nothing, for an undefined period of time without a mutual fear of judgement or offense. Someone to lean on when I need it, and someone who trusts me enough to lean on me when they need it.

And it's easy for me to say that; that I'm just fine and that the solutions to whatever sorrow I have lie in another person. And it's just as easy to say that happiness is to be found within oneself and not within another, and that's probably true. But if that's true, I have no idea why any of us ever feel lonely at all. What's the point? Why is that even a thing?

this isn't r9k 2.0, far from it really. there are some dicks but generally people on here give advice or are at least people that will give a new perspective.

sorry to hear about your gf, but what is it you want to do about it? being there for here is one thing, and being a person she can talk to about it is a good thing too. how bad is she because of this trauma?

ur gf is a roastie gtfo my board normie reeeeeeeeeee

>>17198476
>but what is it you want to do about it?
Not sure exactly
I would at the very least like to see the fucker leave her world one way or the other.
My gf is 17, I'm 22, I have been barely 2 months with her.
I just don't think it's... wise to meddle with her family, but I still want to help her.
I guess simply beating that fucker or getting someone to do it for me won't help her. Would it?

She has a sister, she believes her sister is aware of what happened.
But they never talked about it, and she doesn't want to talk about it.
She lives with her mother and her sister, her father cheated on her mom and her sister will be moving to Germany this year

Firstly she can be feel a bit uncomfortable having sex sometimes and I can't really tell when or when not... But that's kind of normal for grills I guess.
She appears fine normally, but I'm certain she's wounded. I have told her before I had this impression she was left wounded.


Im not even sure what the fuck am I supposed to do now. I feel useless.

Maybe try slicked back.

Go to a stylist and ask. Not a barber.

It's my last option :'v

Maybe I'm just getting too old but that haircut looks retarded to me.

I have no advice, sorry

Ummmm let it grow? Why the fuck does someone need to make a thread asking how to grow their hair

>>17198434
wtf, it's not 2008 man. Get yourself a respectable haircut.

Human beings are made to be comfortable. Imagine being married with kids living the same routine everyday. It's kind of like that, but instead of doing boring shit with other people, you're doing it alone.

THIS, PLEASE

I give in to pot and sugar snacks. all the time.

>>17198426
Im going to bed and will not be posting anymore, but try to understand theravada buddhism (perhaps even daoism). Don't approach it as a religion. It's all about dealing with suffering and putting an end to "cravings".

>>17198375
If you do make it anonymously man, you don't know how crazy she is, or her pimp if there's one.
Maybe take a few pictures and send them from a throwaway mail account.

>>17198406

Why the elaborate smokescreen?

>>17198417
Because if she's being forced or coerced into this lifestyle with drugs, and her family tries to save her, he'll get caught in the middle and his life will be in danger. These are not good people to mess with.

>>17198362

Because you might regret not seeing all of the dank memes

>>17198362
The happening is just around the corner. It's an exciting time to be alive.

You can live for my dubs OP.

If no dubs, kill yourself tonight.

Quick, suck his dick!

Just kidding, that won't help. If you were the right person for him you wouldn't have to ask. He wouldn't be depressed because your very existence would flood him with joy and the motivation to live. But well.. you're you.

Maybe forcefeed him some antidepressants.

>>17198363
nice troll

Be supportive, don't overwhelm him either.
I guess there is a point where you really have to step in.

Not look like a complete fuck so you can get even the fattest of fatties, niggest of niggers, etc of etc that has a vagina.

Income to support those 3 little bastards because I don't want to waste my tax dollars paying for your welfare checks.

Fuck a woman at least 3 times, and go have a wedding

This will not guarantee your happiness.

>>17198349
There is no checklist. All you have to do is convince a woman that marrying you and having three kids is a good idea.

If she doesn't want to date you, she doesn't love you in the way that you love her.

You have two choices: either suck it up and continue being friends with her anyways, knowing that nothing will ever happen.

Or, if that is proving too emotionally draining and making you depressed, then you should consider slowly cutting contact with her and moving on.

>>17198316
she's admitting to you that she's a mentally fucked hoe who doesn't want any commitment or obligation and you're sitting there like

>lul soulm8

fuck around if it doesn't hurt anyone but if you honestly expect more from this you're in for a bad time.

>>17198316
Look friend, I have a similar situation. I'm dating a mentally not right girl who is the biggest sweetheart but has problems. She knew it from the beginning and told me the same thing. Me and my girlfriend still feel like soulmates, but im also warning you that it's the biggest pain in the ass and it's the most painful thing ever dealing with girls who have these mental issues. You said almost exactly the same thing I use to tell my gf. But honestly it's so fucking hard and it never changes, I know right now you're sure in your heart that you will do anything and everything, but after 1-2 years (if you're incredibly strong) things will seem like a burden and you'll cry every night thinking how weak you are for not abiding by the statement you made. These kind of relationships are fucking difficult man. But you do as you please I warned you.

>>17198275
Put your phone away and enjoy the show.

>>17198283
It hasn't started yet. She's sitting at a booth waiting. Do I go up and tell her I love her music?

yell I want to fuck that rabbit

I put the left side of my tongue up against my upper left teeth, and leave a small gap between my tongue and the roof of my mouth. Then make an r sound and let the air vibrate your tongue.

I can do that, bur actively I can't say the words with out sounding like a white guy.

It's probably Spanish or Russian.

You took a gamble. And you lost. You should have prepared yourself for both outcomes

>>17198157
Yeah, been there, don't be a bitch and CUT HER OUT.
Not necessarily permanently, but you have yo cut her out for awhile to reset properly, otherwise you'll harbour feeling for her for god knows how long.

>>17198159
Probably, but I need to know what I can do now, she somehow doesn't find this awkward so it's not her, it's just me having a great feeling of longing.

To take revenge on the normies, you must first understand the normies. Get in their heads, see what makes them tick. This can take a little while, but a month or so on Wikipedia with a few occasional trips to fansites should leave you with all the information you need to really effectively do what yku've got to do.

Live a good life. Best revenge ever.

>>17198405
GET OUT NORMIE
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