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it's fairly normal to prefer one parent over another. Don't worry about it. Just be nice to your mom.

>>17196436
Are they divorcing? Don't feel guilty, it's their own fucking fault and they should feel guilty themselves.

It depends on their personalities and your personal relationships. It's normal to be closer to one parent.

You aren't at a loss. You know what needs to be done and said. You just don't want to tell her what's what for some reason. You should, I mean duh, her drama isn't your drama. It'll suck, but thats life. What advice are you expecting?

>>17196517
well you could advise him to get her into speed dating or show her around, get her out of the goddamn house and get her meeting new people.
one-itis for a girl only happens because they've gone fujo tier and never leave their pc's. they just need to be re-introduced to the cock carousel and the OP can resume living his life or whatever the hell he's doing

>>17196517
>>17196552
Abusive home life, horrible friends and boyfriends and just getting fucked over constantly has left her with literally no emotional stability.

She screams at you when you suggest she seeks professional help because "it makes her feel bad".

I think she's trying to get off some medication she used to be on too, so that explains a lot too.

My job is online.

>>17196366
>"You always say its online, but doing what?"

>>17196386
Coding.

>>17196361
>Is anyone like this ever gonna get saved or get better?
Maybe, but not until she takes an active role in her own recovery, and you cannot help her to do that.

>Or am I on the right track to completely sever her from my life?
I think you're on the right track. Sad to say, but too much damage has been done. This has gone toxic.

>>17196361
Being abused doesn't make you immune to being an awful human being. She sounds like a bad person.

>>17196361

She might be able to "get better" in her own way, but I don't think you can ever expect her to do the stable, monogamous, settling-down-and-raising-a-family thing. This might sound really cold, but... could you ever really see her being a good mother, with her background and her baggage? Can you see her raising kids with a healthy outlook on the world? It's not her fault, she never really had a chance, but just ask yourself what your priorities are.

>>17196349
>How can I convince her?
You don't.
>Is there a chance that she will say yes in the future?
Yes.

>>17196363
Hmm. Should i still talk about it with her?

>>17196349
I'm black and have a fairly large penis. Can I fuck your girl?

>>17196309
Sounds like she has her mind pretty much made up. If she's using political beliefs as a pretext than that's pretty weak. Most couples don't have identical political beliefs.

>>17196336
Yeah, this was a couple weeks ago and she hasn't said anything like this since, but I'm still worried. It's less political like "democrat vs republican" and more that I've always been into 'treat everyone the way I'd like to be treated/with respect' and she's always been into 'only treat people with respect if they have personally done something worth respecting'.

I'm not like a communist but I really believe everyone deserves some basic level of respect. We overlooked it for a really long time but lately it comes up in every conversation.

She's either retarded or lying

>>17196269

don't b urself

Good idea, but how should I act around her?

bumpity

>>17196222
I don't think the guys do anything, they just hump the girl to thier rhythm.

You just go balls-deep, and kind of roll and push your hips without actually moving your body back and forth. So your bodies should pretty much stay in contact, your dick should stay all the way in, but you're just kind of moving and rubbing together. It's hot.

But don't think of it all black-and-white like "tonight we're going to do 'grinding sex,' honey." Just add it to your list of moves. Don't stay in the same position the whole time, keep it active and spontaneous, you know?

>>17196222
Don't wear jeans or thick skin tight clothing.

A lot of people will tell you grinding is stupid and childish but it can be fun foreplay and teasing for a new couple that hasn't yet had sex.

>>17196200
Why do you think she was more interested in you?

>>17196234
She seemd pretty excited when talking with me, I can't actually tell but it seemd so. Touching my hands, stuff like that.

Basically this girl seems like emotional rollercoaster.

I had thoughts of breaking relation with her but then she writes to me and asks whats up with a smile. I just don't know what to do, to pursue this relationship or not. We both have 27 years.

>>17196184
They do work, but it's not easy to find a good doc and get the money for those transplants. But as far as the technique is concerned, everything is alright

They're pretty legit if you've only got temple recession / some diffuse thinning. If you're a Norwood 7, though, your only hope is probably scalp micropigmentation.

HT's rarely yield the volume people desire. Also, if you don't want to take medications like Avodart, be prepared to visit your transplant Doctor pretty frequently for touch-ups. Alvi Armani has a stellar reputation in the hair loss community, but they charge a LOT per graft - doctors in places like Turkey can give you good results at a lower rate.

>>17196212
Right now I'm a 3, but I wouldn't be surprised if I become one those in the future. That's also the problem, I'm still balding so I don't know.

>>17196169
Time to respect yourself and your own emotions by taking control of the situation. Text him, "I put all of your stuff outside my room in a box. Get it if you want. I'll toss it if it's not gone by tomorrow."

That's it. No inviting him in, no other messages to him. Don't give a shit if he replies or not. If he does reply, don't say anything back. You said what you need to. Continue to never speak to him again or see him again. If he never gets his stuff, throw it away.

Don't wait, just do it. You're a good anon for wanting to give him back his stuff. I wish my ex had been like that, he refused to give me back the stuff I lend to him, fucking asshole.

>>17196169
Throw it away. It's not your problem he doesn't come to grab whatever shit he left at your place after dumping your ass

what kind do you mean? spoiled? pretentious? one that lives in a little bubble?

>>17196163
Good question. I guess that a highly educated and cultured one. Also, more money means less physical flaws and better dressed.

>>17196160
Not really. It involves going to college. Private colleges are even better. Higher chance of finding a wealthy, intelligent girl there.

I'm poor as shit and my family sucks ass, but I managed to wrangle down an upper class girl at school. Met her my senior year in an accounting class.

You don't, women are different. Some may like some traits, others may not. Virgins are virgins for a myriad of reasons.

First questions: are you a virgin yourself, and how old are you?

>>17196191
Yes
24
6' tall white
Skinnyfat, working on getting fit, lost 70 pounds over the past year
Factory job 30k/year, saving to go to a 2 year trade school to avoid debt

>>17196106

yes

I have a friend who has a fat gf, he says he is bored of having sex with her.

lol op's reading this and crying

men are terrible at giving reassurance

>>17196102

u sound miserable. it's because you're low on serotonin and that happens when you have a leaky gut. fix your leaky gut so you can absorb all the nutrients you need and produce the serotonin. that will make you feel normie enough to wanna go to school and get a shitty job just like all the other normies out there.

>>17196102
if you simplify it to such extremes then yes those are the only things in your plan. However, if you look at it this way: University will let you meet like-minded friends and discover hobbies/interests that you might not have done otherwise

Getting a job provides you with a steady income that allows you to fund those hobbies (such as road trips), not every job has you working from 9 AM to 9 PM 7 days a week with no downtime. There are plenty out there with very reasonable hours that give you a lot of time to do what interests you.

>>17196102
Create an alternative path. Yes, you need a job to make money, but that doesn't have to be your sole plan. During my time in uni, I have found a very like-minded person who plans to enter the same career field as me. We plan to work for roughly 10 years to compile enough money for a startup plan for a business.

Want to know where this begins? It starts by majoring in a certain field and choosing a career to get experience.

A year ago I had the same attitude that you did. I didn't know what it was that would make me happy, until I found my own sense of purpose. Uni is the perfect time to chase after your ambitions and discover your passions.