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Hey /adv/

A beta male has shown intrest in me. I am a reasonably attractive 20 something, and I consider us friends, but I don't like him back. He has revealed to me that he is a virgin which is really tugging on my heart strings. I am not usually attracted to small, scrawny, beta males so I'm concerned if it would be appropriate to release him of his v-card while also maintaining a friendship (and nothing more)? Is such a thing possible?

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I think I've figured out the root of my depression, anxiety, ADHD, and narcissistic thought patterns: I have literally no self worth or confidence in my intelligence or abilities what so ever.

It's why I dropped out of school at the age of 15 and never started doing GED classes and why I'm afraid of trying to learn math(I always sucked at it, and now I am afraid of being unteachable or just stupid)

It's why I quit my first job only 3 months ago(I was a frycook, but I was put on front counter as well, and it took alot of practice to be even be able to go to work without having an anxiety attack. But, the thing is, they started saying they would put me on the drive thru, and I was really terrified at that because of me being afraid I was too stupid to multi task. I just fucking quit. I quit in a really cowardly way too.)

It's why I feel constant shame and regret for doing alot of the fucking things I did in life. I hang around with very very talented people in my internet circle, and they all started doing awesome shit around the time they all turned 12. One of them has been programming since the age of 8 and can probably get a fucking job at Google if he wanted to. Meanwhile I'm over here, age 18, just started programming at age 16 and I feel horrible at how late I was to the scene and I am afraid of never being able to get a job at programming because of my in-confidence in my intelligence and abilities.

It's why I am too afraid to pursue what I want to do in life: Write novels and code. I'm afraid my ideas are shit and my writing is shit and my programming is shit.

And, it's why I feel like I will never be anything.

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Hi all. Tried tagging on to an existing thread but it's dead.

I'm a CS dropout basically because I went with the path of least resistance (coding and math are easy to me) but had no actual goals/plan and lost motivation rapidly. I'm seriously considering learning a trade, getting into an industry, and continuing education to move myself somewhere exciting. Lately I've been looking at getting a CP as a machining technician or welding technician, and wondering what kind of employment I could expect and what options might be available to me down the line. The aerospace industry is very exciting to me, as an example.

I'm capable of the math required to be an engineer but afraid I'd still be too shakey on what I want to do with my life and lose motivation. Additionally, two-year colleges are essentially free to me but a four-year requires building up debt. Is it at all reasonable to work up to an engineering position through continuing education?

Basically, I'm looking to jump into a career finally and figure out what I enjoy the hard way so that I may work towards it, but I'm looking for advice to make sure I don't do something stupid (again). Thanks.

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Sup /adv/.

Decided to shave my pubic hair for the first time a few days ago. Fucked up, cut myself on the skin around it and decided to stop. Was in the shower today and noticed this.

What do I do? Do I contact a doctor? I don't have medical insurance.

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Hey guys, not really sure where to turn to for help, so I figured since I've been a "4channer" for a fair few years I'd try this advice forum.

tldr: I'm sad because I have no RL friends.

So, pretty much I live in a small township with about 4000 population, and used to drink every weekend or so with friends and have a great time enjoying their company and generally just being around them. We'd look out for eachother, make eachother feel better when we were down etc, pretty much everything good friends would do for eachother. But now that I've gotten into a relationship with someone that doesn't like drinking or alcohol as much as I do, I've cut down on the drinking pretty much 99% except for special occasions and such. Now I don't really see any of them, I don't hear from any of them, and they've pretty much progressively stopped inviting me to anything. I try to keep in touch with them but pretty much everyone just doesn't reply to texts or calls anymore.

Like, I've tried my hardest to keep friendships going without using alcohol as a means to visit eachother, but it just seems like no one wants to know me anymore.

When I say no one wants to know me, I mean pretty much aside from family, my girlfriend, and two friends that I can hardly see or talk with due to conflicting work schedules, I have no one that wants anything to do with me. I've been getting more and more down about this, and not really sure what to do about it. I used to be somewhat of a social butterfly but now that I'm in this relationship (we've been together for two years almost) its starting to really hit home that I have no one to just "hang out" with or joke around with on weekends.

I can't exactly move to another town or city because I've recently bought a house here and I have family and a well paying job here aswell.

Don't get me wrong, I love my family and my girlfriend is great 90%of the time, I just wish there was something I could do to get that social interaction back in my life.

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I am with my Bf for 8.5 years now, we have met when I was 17. He is a loving, good person. We have a good complicity and never yelled at each other. We live together for 5 years now and are going to Europe for 2 weeks in July. I know I love him, but i'm not sure if i'm still attracted to him as a lover. Daily life together is soothing.

I have an online "friend" that I know for 6 years now and I always had feelings for him, but our relation has always been complicated. We have seen each other like 10 times in the past and it always been awkward du to our big history of mixed feelings. 3 years ago, I deleted him because the relation was pretty toxic to me. I had too much feelings toward him and it was hurting so much (he was not interested in me).

I really tried to focus on my boyfriend but even if I tried to forget my online friend, he always stayed on my mind.

6 months ago, I talked back to him and we texted every day since then. 1 month ago, he invited me out. After that "date", he told me that he was interested, that is head was spinning thinking about me. The week after, we went to a bar, shared a meal and a few beers. Nothing physical happened.

I felt very guilty and told my Bf the morning after that evening. I left for 2 weeks at my moms house, trying to think about what I should do. I was never able to make a decision.

My friend started to find the situation awkward and too deep and it installed a discomfort between us because the relation cant develop naturally or easily, as I said it always been complicated between us and seems like it continues to be. My Bf sent me angry messages about how horrible I was and that he would not take me back. That made me panic and I just said everything that needed to be said for him to take me back.

So here I am now, at home again with my Bf since 2 weeks, having the same questions on my mind. I did not text my friend for these 2 weeks and it is awkward.
That summer trip stress me so much. What should I do?

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Should I feel bad that I don't want to go to my Moms new husband's family thing for Memorial Day?

He's a good guy but they want me to leave at noon to go to his family's place for a bonfire. And I take care of 3 dogs and have really bad tinnitus.

Should I feel bad that I don't want to go?

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Hello /adv/
I have a question, what would happend if you are not from the U.S but you commit a cybernetic crime and a U.S cop catches you?
I do not understand international laws and this is keeping me up at nights

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Is she into me

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How do I be more edgy? Anybody have some starter packs for me?

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Why?

What's so bad about it ?

Aren't women sexually aroused by men's hard cocks ?

The same way men are turned on by women?

men would suck a woman's asshole if given the chance.

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I´m asking for advice because /adv/ actually helped me last time I was in need.

Long story short, I fucked up. I had a stable relationship with my girlfriend, and after my best friend told me she had feelings for me, I broke up my relationship, because, as I told her when I ended things, it wouldn´t be fair to her to be with someone who as not 100% committed to her. Then I came down and realized, without a doubt, that she is the only thing I want.

So after 3 weeks of trying to talk to her, we talked and I told her that I was sorry for not telling her earlier that my bestfriend had told me she had feelings for me, and I told her I missed her. Of course we could not start dating again, but this was a good opportunity to get to know each other as friends (we started dating almost immediately after meeting). In the end I told her that I still had feelings for her, and I would wait for her because now I know what I wanted.

Here is where I need your advice or some perspective: We have hung out some times, and I believe she still enjoys my company, but I don´t know how to get us to a dating dynamic again. If I don´t talk to her, she doesn´t talk to me, if I don´t make plans, she doesn´t make plans.

Can you weight in on this? I can give more details if necessary

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How do i make it clear i wanna go on a date with a person?

Do i just say " hey wanna go on a date"

Like if i invited her to do something already, is it too late to call it a date? How to make sure she knows its a date

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>have long term bf
>used to work more hours at one job, but this was short term, im permanently part time
>when i made more money, my bf and i thought it fair that (since we made about same amount of money) we generally go dutch on dates


>then i started making less money
>if we wanted to cont this lifestyle of going out often, bf had to pay for at least most of the dates, i contributed what I could
>at times bf was frustrated with this, but still did it
>i found ways to ease this and repay in what I could, since I didn't have the funds, I'd make dinner for him and kinda cater to him when I could so he knew I still wanted to have fun with him

>it has been hard for me to keep up with rent and general cost of living so I sought out another part time job

>im in probation period and really want to stand out, so i take most substitute work and my reg schedule at this second job to show i am good employee

>bf is now kind of skiddish to my new job
>i personally love it, despite working full days and it is split shift, so it can be an all-day work day for me


I don't understand, I want to make more money to live comfortably and go out and do my share with bf. But it feels like no matter which way I chose (having bf pay for most things, or getting another job), bf seems unsatisfied.

How to help him adjust? Is it something we'll just have to get used to? I mean, if we were older and living together this would be the fair norm anyways, both of us working and seeing each other less in general... As much as I wish we could totally do whatever we wanted with each other all day for free, it's not realistic... What do?