How do I go from a close friend that's a girl who I chill with relatively frequently to actually initiating a relationship? All indicators show me that she's interested when we hang out, I just don't know how to start moving in that direction. Any advice?
Get drunk together in private. If you dont end up fucking then I'm lmaoing at your life
Tell her that you appreciate her very much and that you really wanted her to know your feelings.Try to touch her hands and look directly in her eyes while saying all this. You'll see what happens.
Tell her you like her and want to date her.
How can I get my boyfriend to tip?
About once every two weeks we go out to a restaurant of some sort, usually a different place each time. He outright refuses to tip every single time, and it's getting to a stage where I'm ashamed of him now.
I don't expect him to go OTT tipping 25% or whatever, 10-12% is normal, hell even 5% would be better than nothing. He's British so doesn't understand American tipping culture. This is hardly a relationship dealbreaker, but it's certainly putting a strain on it. I've tried explaining things to him but he just regurgitates the stingy line of "they have to get paid minimum wage by law so I feel no guilt about not tipping"
Tell him that he is embarassing you in public and that he has to conform to US tipping policy or look like a fool.
There is no tipping in my country but I still tip when in the US, its just common courtesy. Tell him about how they dont get paid full salary, and that the tipping is part of their pay, maybe then he will understand.
Wow, I would be so ashamed of him, too. That is truly selfish and cheap. Let him know that the system won't change just because of that behavior and the only result is to make you feel very unconfortable.
>>17196790
Tell him that legally they aren't paid minimum wage but are assumed to mage at least minimum with wage + tips (though bosses will often fix the numbers if someone is making below minimum.)
>eventually will get to 30s
>have stable job
>women are 'settling down' and want to find a husband and have kids
>average number of sexual partners is 20+
>meanwhile only had 2 different sexual partners (you could say 3, but not really)
>rather than her desiring you, she will 'settle' for you
>like a true cuck, she will be the light of your life to you, while to her you are just a provider of money and some children, in return she gives sexual release
>she will get bored of just the one cock (the average 5.1 inch cock mind you, which cannot compete with 8 inch african cock) after some time and will file for divorce
>divorce in the uk is at 47% as of today and will only continue to rise
>she will get 50% of your stuff + alimony and you won't see your kids as much as you would like
The only woman I will ever want to spend the rest of my life with is someone who as had at most the same amount of sexual partners as myself (so, 2 or 3). But I am also afraid that I will just remain lonely if I do this. Also, I do not want to get married. The odds are utterly stacked against me.
>>17196765
Let me solve that problem for you:
Date an Asian.
They adore you.
They worship you if you are white.
They are loyal and only want to be your housewife.
Source - dating a cute 100lbs chinese grill for a year now
>>17196765
>>meanwhile only had 2 different sexual partners (you could say 3, but not really)
>still a kissless virgin
JUST
>>17196767
Why can't you get females to like you, anon?
I'm really depressed and unmotivated
I'm almost 25 years old, yet I look like a fucking 18 year old. I was just talking with a girl I liked and she told me "you look so much like a young teenager!!". That fucking hurt.
I am really getting sick of this shit. It's constant everywhere. At work I've been nicknamed "manchild". And there isn't anything I can do. And now even girls I like are telling me this shit
Don't fucking say "grown a beard". Believe me, I would if I fucking could. But i have to be clean shaven for work.
God dammit I'm fucking irritated right now.
Anyone have anything for me? I really feel terrible right now and would like someone to talk to
Look on the bright side, you'll probably look 20 when you're 30
>>17196760
you wont mind it when you get older. Make the best of it now it kinda sucks but its not a curse
>be me
>be 14 at the time
>sitting alone at cafeteria like a skinny fuck
>big normie king comes to me
>note that im taller than him but defenseless and he is shorter and fatter but superior
>well call him shit stain
>shit stain often makes fun of me calling me fag and skeleton etc.
>"HEY ANNON" screams the umpa lumpa with his big checks hanging around like ball sacks.
>im sweating nervously as loud stomps come around and try to imagne his voice as syndrome from the incredibles
>turns out shit stain has a 9/10 with her
>ohshshit.jpg
>girl says im cute
>says hi nervously and tells her thanks
>we talk more and the more we talk the more i get scared by fucking up with 9/10 and by shit stain
>shit stain then grins more when i get too close to her
>she smiles and says
>SIKE FAGGOT!
>feelsbad.jpg
>Stomps out with 9/10 and laughs like syndrome from the incredibles
>any fucked up stories that happend to you?
They used to throw snowballs at me on my way home from school :(
feelsbad.jpg
>Be friends with two brothers
>Want to hang out all the time because I'm lonely
>They basically agree to meet up then hide from me and mock me
>Drop off the presents I brought them despite not being able to find them at their house with their mother
>Awkward
Sup /adv/, I don't know what to expect since I don't usually browse this board, but here goes. Due to a depressive phase that started 9 months ago, I'm stuck in a bad place that consists of constant trying to rationalize my depressive thoughts and steady anhedonia.
Basically I'm 22. Pretty stereotypical of an INTP type with a history of low self-esteem due to bullying. about a year ago, after a period of transition during which I was looking for work, I landed my dream job in the games industry as a 3D artist, and have been doing this since.
Something happened shortly after I started working. Due to my parents moving from Paris to southern france, I had to settle for a small studio in the suburbs. As soon as I moved, my mood dropped considerably. I've been depressed ever since, and I've been slowly losing the ability to experience genuine feelings.
It's taken me a while to understand what was happening to me. I tried coping with humor but realized I wasn't being myself and had to swallow my pride and open up about my issues. I talked to friends and parents, I've started seeing a shrink. I've seen the doc to do a checkup and I've started taking vitamin D supplements due to a severe deficiency.
>>17196717
cont.
The way I see it, I'm going through a period of intense confusion about myself, my own worth and my life goals. I was happy enough for the past 5 years to be in a school environment with like-minded people to validate my worth, and a goal (getting the job I wanted) to achieve. But now that I've lost everything that was keeping me up and gained a shit ton of responsibilities instead, every unresolved issue comes back crashing. I feel like an alien. I feel like barely anyone can understand me and I can't ever function as an adult. I'm asexual, I have very specific interests in everything, I started questioning my gender identity because I'm very far from a stereotypically masculine guy and I feel so alien that I think I'm not supposed to be myself, even though I've never felt dissociated from my own body before. I can rationally understand that young adults have matured and aren't going to hate me just because I'm weird, but low self-esteem has become a part of me due to years of school bullying. I have no life goal anymore and I can only see the world becoming a worse place and me becoming older and more jaded. I obsess over trivial shit that would not have bothered me before, like my own body image (premature hair loss is my current culprit).
Discovering, hobbies, trying out new things.
>>17196722
cont.
It seems I'm doing slightly better since roughly 2 months. I have a girlfriend for the first time now, she is in love with me and completely understanding of my feelings (or lack thereof). I understand the mechanisms of depression and I'm able to rationalize bad thoughts. I write my thought processes in a journal and get a better understanding of how I got there in the first place. But I still can barely get excited about anything. I hate that I have to work everyday when I wish to just rest my mind and take some off time to resolve my issues when everyone expects me to be a functioning member of society. I feel terrified that everything I do gets processed by my self-deprecating mindset and I have no genuine thoughts anymore. I feel like my GP is the only person who understands that I have clinical anhedonia and not that I'm just sad.
Which leads to my question. What's next? Should I take meds to help kickstart my mood again and work on my issues, or can I expect to get better with therapy alone? When I'm with my shrink, I fail to really make progress because I can't express how I feel unless I cry and unload my frustration, and when I do, I feel like I'm just venting the symptoms of my depression instead of trying to reach for the causes. 90% of my time I can't bring myself to talk about what actually bothers me like the body image and asexuality issues because they make me uncomfortable and I know they're not the root cause of my mental health issues. To be honest I'm just stuck and frustrated because I want my girlfriend to be with a happy person and I want to enjoy life again. Guess that's a goal worth working towards.
I know that's a lot to read, but I would have a hard time making things clearer.
Are mancrushes gay?
Not if your man crush is David Gandy
>>17196610
He isn't.
How many friends do you consider it takes to be socially acceptable? I have no friend and I suffer a lot. I feel like a failure.
1 real friend > 100 fake fb or club friends
Who cares what people think about it
Thise "friends" will disappear soon enough for them
>>17196573
One or two is the minimum requirement
+500 facebook friends just means you are a social whore
literally half the people on this board have no friends. don't beat yourself up over it.
Hey /adv/,
Sex related question incoming:
Female here who's capable of using small plugs, no problem. Takes 45 seconds to put them in, but there's no pain and no damage once I put them in.
Flash forward to sex. The IDEA and THOUGHT of anal sex turns me on immensely. My partner and I take LOTS of lube and put it near my hole and onto his cock. He very slowly tries to put it in and I already feel pain (obviously a tear-anal fissure) and I still let him attempt to put it in for another minute. No luck. After, I realized I had a bit of bleeding for 15 minutes.
He's average size. What can we do differently to make it work out? There was no way the head was going to get in there.
TLDR: couldn't receive anal sex even with lots of lube. Tip of cock wouldn't even fit in and almost immediately made a tear. Any tips on how to make anal sex work for us?
>>17196525
how large is he compared to the plug you've been using?
Use plug immediately before. You gotta stretch it before having anal sex. Anal sex takes a lot of preparation, not only putting a plug up yer bum once in a while
>>17196546
I was thinking about doing that. Proposing anal sex was just a spur of the moment idea, so we didn't really have any prep time.
>>17196542
I'm not sure exactly how big it is. I had a series of 3 different size silicone plugs (I use the smallest) and a jeweled metal plug that just had one standard size that I use.
The other day my boyfriend, his friend and I went to a concert. We ended up staying at a hotel because it ended pretty late.
We got wasted, and I ended up having sex with my boyfriend's bestfriend in the same bed while my boyfriend was passed out.
Now his bestfriend keeps trying to talk to me even if I told him I want nothing to do with him. I don't want to ruin my relationship. It was a mistake. We're all human beings.
I feel bad but I'm usually a really nice girl.
Can't i be allowed a mistake?
Should I tell my boyfriend and risk everything?
>>17196520
How?
Why?
And yes he deserves to know and he should dump you
If you cant control yourself you should've gotten drunk or even been in a relationship in the first place
Yes people make mistakes, you cheated on him and he is allowed to break up
But srlsy he was next to you and you fucked his friend..
People wonder why i have trust issues
If you're not trolling, you're literally a horrible human being that doesn't deserve happiness
>>17196520
Hahaha it's funny.
You think he's just going to dump you, but you dumped yourself.
Should everyone try their hardest to succeed personally or should we as a society focus our efforts on making sure the people with the "best" genes survive, breed and prosper? Is "survival of the fittest" a natural phenomenon or a responsibility?
>>17196503
societies are anti-nature. Its more egalitarian to let everyone try their hand. Not to mention survival of the fittest is relative. Plenty of fat, unhealthy indians are the forerunners of STEM academic programs. Who then is the more "fit?"
>>17196587
the best looking, most athletic people obviously.
>>17196587
how are societies anti nature? in nature, the strong rule the weak, it is exactly the same in society. not to mention the provisions of power that are a part of society
I went out the bars last night with some friends and watched as one of my bros picked up a girl and fucked here, all within the span of 3 hours.
When I asked him about it, the advice he gave me sounded exactly like what all those pick-up artists have been saying.
>"I get rejected wayyyy more than I get it in. Gotta lose in order to win"
I then asked him about getting rejected taking a toll on his confidence.
>"They don't know you. They just assume things about you, so even if you get rejected, it's not personal. There are plenty of girls, just try again."
The girl he had sex with was apparently interested in me, but I was oblivious to the signals.
>"It's all about the eyes. Once you flirt more and more with girls, it becomes easier to tell which ones are into you."
I should add that my friend is only decent looking. He's 5'8", 160 lbs. Muscular, but not even close to some people you can find on /fit/.
Is it really that simple? Has the answer to being foreveralone been here this whole time?
If you're not black, like me, then yeah. It's that easy. But you've got to not show desparation. It's like bargaining for a car (terrible comparison); you have to be cool about it while negotiating and talking, no matter how much you want it. As soon as you show desperation or intense desire, it's in their hands.
>>17196496
yeah it pretty much is. Women are attention sponges and will mostly follow where you lead. That's the downside, I htink you can lose respect for them when you realize they blow with the wind and don't have strong ethical codes past whatever they feel like doing - so in a word, fickle.
in which OP finally understands that "just b urself" is more than a meme
ANyone know where can I get finasteride in Europe, more specifically Belgium?
>>17196495
a doctor
>>17196499
Not an option. If it was, I wouldn't be asking
But you certainly knew this already
>>17196501
then make it an option
I've been with my girlfriend for 12 years and recently I made a big mistake. I got really drunk and ended up having sex with my bestfriend. She is now pregnant and I don't know what to do.... fuck... i feel like i just fucked up my entire life. Thing is I love my girl and we we're planning on getting married soon. I was just so fucking drunk and couldn't resist those stupid male pulsions. I feel like i'd better disappear
>>17196477
ahahahahahahahahahaha
good luck
you just lost a relationship and knocked up a bitch
I did this. I literally did the same as you.
Just ask her to have an abortion. If she is really your best friend, she will do it, and she will keep her mouth shut about it. If you live in a country where you have to pay, pay for it.
>>17196477
If she's your best friend, there's no problem here. You should be with her in the first place. If your girlfriend, who has been with you for 12 years, isn't your best friend, you shouldn't be with her. You clearly hold your best friend in better esteem. Your spouse should be your best friend. The person who has your back when no one else does.
How important is pubic hair to a guy?
Im about to lose my v-card to a fuckboi and im worried about how my pubes look.
Ive shaved with a fresh razor and shaving cream but i have red bumps and ingrown hairs. It also feels prickly in some areas and i cant rid of it.
Is this normal? Or it supposed to be close to baby smooth down there?
>>17196450
To be honest if he gets far enough to see it even a hair monster is probably not gonna dissuade him. You should probably use honey wax (look it up, you can even make it at home), it'll work better, last longer, and not give you the razorburn you're describing.
if he's a fuckboi, why not keep the bush? Only shave/wax for someone who's preferences matter to you. I shaved for one guy and then after we split asked my current what he prefered; turns out its the full bush!
Like the other anon said, guys dont see hair down there and xbox 360 out of the room. At the end of the day just do what makes you feel cute though.
>>17196450
Why lose it to a guy like that?
But no we dont really care about it BUT if you want oral then yes smooth is the way to go