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Let me tell you a story, /adv/. I'm an incoming sophomore at a small University. The first day of school I met a really really cool girl. We hit it off immediately and became instant friends. At the end of the semester, I told her I had feelings for her. She said she only saw us as friends. I was like, "aight". And we stayed friends.
The end of the second semester came around, and both of us were still single. Stupidly, after we had both gone home for the summer, I texted her, again confessing my feelings. Once again, she said she still only considers me one of her closest friends.
Here's where things get interesting. A week ago, she texts me "desu I miss you". She then goes on saying I'm the only one from school she really misses.
"can I come visit you anon?"
>what is happening
"sure"
She was already in the area, visiting other friends (she normally lives 3 hours away). She comes over, we chill, go out on the town, get burritos, whatever.
We end up in my basement watching Futurama. Slowly but surely, I get closer to her. I finally put my arm around her, and we cuddle. For the next 4 hours.
I didn't kiss her, friends. But it was amazing. We just had random conversations, about life, the world. We laughed at some stupid shit on Twitter.
She left the next morning, gave me a hug.
And that was it. I've texted her a couple times since then, but nothing interesting. I don't know where to go from here; I honestly don't know how platonic the cuddling was to her. I also won't see her for a couple of months. What do?
Tl;dr turned down multiple times by best female friend, she comes over, we cuddle for hours, what do now
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>being a girl's emotional tampon
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bruh...has /r9k/ taught you nothing?
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She just wants to be your friend. She's told you multiple times she's not interested. She wanted male attention from you, and she got it. She doesn't want anything more than what she took. I would move on from her.
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cuddling? dude, sorry to break it to you, but this isn't some next level 007 into her panties shit.
girls cuddle. all the time. with their friends. of either sex.
did she touch your penis? did she rub your leg? no? wow big surprise.
she doesnt want you. get the fuck over it.
Why do I feel that most people are assholes in general? I feel a rhetorical barrier with most people I meet and it really is uncomfortable trying to be myself around them in fear of being criticized like I am walking on eggshells and shit.
My mother brought in a family member to live with us and this exact relationship with them is very shitty thing I'm talking about and I can't become comfortable around them. My mother is trying to force us to be close relatives because she does not want the family to fall apart, but he literally does not give two shits about me.
I don't want to suck up to an asshole to impress my mother. I really don't get along with most relatives because they come off with the same vibe.
Is there any way to get over this without being that guy that hangs with a group of people just to say he has friends, but in reality is being made an ass of by the same group of people? I've been down that road years ago and don't want to visit it again.
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Most people are assholes in general. Get a job and move out of your moms place.
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If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.
I hope this helped
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Grow up and learn to be alone faggot. Welcome to the real world.
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Should I go to a psychiatrist or just keep toughing it out? Is it worth the price?
I've been having suicidal thoughts on and off and it feels like they're getting more severe. Written notes, found out how to buy a gun and what caliber I'd need, etc.
But I'm worried that nothing will really come of seeing a doctor and it will just make it more likely.
Sorry this is probably a stupid question but I'm probably not the most stable person right now.
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>>17217790
Well, just so you know if you go to the doctor and tell him you have suicidal thoughts, you'll have to go to the hospital for a little bit until you don't have those thoughts anymore.
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>>17217799
In america? fuckin shit maybe I wont go then
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>>17217790
I would go to the psychiatrist if i were you.
>>17217799
is misinformed. as long as you tell them that you're having suicidal thoughts but leave out that you "have a plan" they won't put you in a hospital. I know this because i've been down that road.
OP, if you're still here: if you don't want to go to the psychiatrist, i understand. it's intimidating. it's scary to admit that there's something so fundamentally "wrong" with you.
but for most people, it will help. and everyone can overcome suicidal thoughts if they put their minds to it.
I tried psychiatrists. they personally never worked for me. that's not to say that they won't work for you. i was always just too stubborn to have someone tell me how i "should think".
what worked for me was this: i did a lot of research on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and the Greek philosophy called "Stoicism". Basically, these schools of thought teach you that your emotions are nothing more than your body's natural reaction to your thoughts. If you think sad thoughts, you'll be depressed. if you think optimistic thoughts, you'll be happier. I know that depression seems insurmountable, but the truth is that YOU. and ONLY YOU can make yourself not depressed. You have the power to do it
Once you accept the theory that our thoughts control our emotions, it becomes easy mode to beat depression. You know why? we control our thoughts. So if you are thinking something depressing...stop. Think of something else. anything else. Literally. What you're eating for dinner tonight, How awesome it'd be to fuck that chick in accounting, How to beat that Candy Crush level you've been stuck on. Literally anything as long as it's positive or productive. I swear to god it'll help you.
I'll keep you in my thoughts tonight OP. If you want more correspondence, i can make a throwaway email so we can keep in touch.
TL;DR you should go to a shrink, but if you don't want to, look up CBT and Stoicism.
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How do I stop sounding like a faggot and shit?
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>>17217628
Stop sucking cocks and you'll notice a change within one to two weeks.
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>>17217628
You mean literally sounding like a homosexual or just generally being a faggot?
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>>17217674
My voice is kind of feminine. I don't sound like a literal fag but it's not very manly.
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how does one life? part 1 cuz its too long for one post 2016-06-04 04:39:32 Post No.17217622
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how does one life? part 1 cuz its too long for one post
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Okay guys soo, I need help. I don't really know why I need help but I do. This is going to be a super lame super boring story. But anyways, so awhile ago my boyfriend had lost his job and he had a good job that paid for everything, our apartment our brand new car . We were doing moderately okay. Only able to pay the bills not really able to put food on the table, but my job(which is at a restaurant) was able to do that. Back in November though him and his manager had a falling out and my boyfriend ended up being forced to walk away from this job. But he didn't have another job in place for him, he kind of just got stressed out and left. which helped nothing. But 5 or so months later and he's working a job that only gives him 6 hours a week and we are stuck living at his grandparents house. They plan on moving out once there lease is up end of July and he tried talking to his mom about us moving in with her but I don't know how that's going to turn out. So I guess I need help in a lot of ways.
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One, our car got impounded a while ago and I just recently had time of from my job to be able to go and get our stuff that was being held at the impound lot only to find out that not all my stuff is there, I would assume(because I had these drawingy little sister did for me on some scrap paper) that they tthrew that away, I'm missing jewelery that I know was in the car because I don't have it. And by the way, a lot of our stuff was in the car. Once he lost the job and we moved in with his grandparents we weren't really comfortable staying here all the time so we practically still had half our apartment packed in the car. including more than half our clothes and some boxes. Well I also had this cross that my grandma gave me that was like baptized and all that holy mama jama. Well they cut the necklace.
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And I've had that thing for 15 years and I was waiting till I got a car to hang it from the rearview mirror to sort of honor her(I know they couldn't have know that but they still cut the beads that made up the necklace) also I had a garage opener in the car that I didn't get back and my boyfriend is still missing clothes. So I don't know if they stole this stuff from me and if when I call and they tell me, ' oh we don't have it.' What should I say? And then the other thing I need help with(to who ever is still reading up until this point, thank you) my boyfriend haa extreme social anxiety, ever since he lost his job it has gotten so much worse. He doesn't even want to go outside to go check the mail, he won't go into a gas station with me and he's terrified of calling people.he's always been a little stand off ish but he's never been this bad. And I think that his social anxiety is what is keeepong him from getting a better job. He would call himself, 'super autismo' basically . He just can't function anymore with the outside world. And him and I are completely different on that aspect. If I have to talk to some one I will. But I don't know how to help him in order to help us. If any of you guys can think of something to help with any of these things you're awesome and I'm so ready to listen
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There's nothing to be done about the stuff that was lost/damaged/stolen. The only advice I can give regarding your situation is to find better work for you both. You have to make more money to move out again. Plain and simple. He can go work for a pipeline or construction company. They will train him and everything, but he needs to go get a TWIC card. I have no clue how much money you make as a waitress, but I work part time as a bank teller and make $13.25 an hour (started at $11.15). Neither of these jobs require more than a high school diploma or GED.
How hard is it to get into medical school?
I'm a good student, have been volunteering at my hospital for 8 years (since highschool), shadowed several doctors, participated in several anatomy/physiology competitions, and took all the medical classes my school had to offer. Yet still, I fear rejection. Is it as rough as everyone says it is?
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>>17217621
If you've really done all of that and you're still asking this question sincerely, you might wanna reconsider.
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>>17217621
I know a lot of med school kids and they're high-strung as hell so I could never roll in that career. Honestly they make me want to kill myself. But to be honest none of them strike me as brilliant, they're just super hard-working and quoteunquote "smart", as in they studied a lot and did well on the MCAT
Honestly your resume sounds impressive, if you've been studying hard as fuck, getting great grades and do well on tests I would keep going for it. But this is my outsider perspective.
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>>17217633
I am serious. I just didn't know if anyone here has similar experiences as me and have been rejected.
I just want to make sure I take the right steps
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Constant urge to hurt people
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Maybe that's just plain weird, but lately I've had the severe urge to get in a fight and mess someone up. I've forced confrontations and been more aggressive in public, but nobody has picked a serious fight with me yet. I get these flashing images in my head of me fighting someone whenever I'm outside, I imagine in great detail how I would hurt them and what I'd do to them. I can't turn this off and I seem to be on auto pilot whenever this happens.
Weirdly enough this has made me more confident and more outgoing as well, I don't have a problem talking to people anymore and I can tell a group of teens or drunks to shut the fuck up if they're being a nuisance on public transport (for example). I seem to be prepared for the worst so I don't care/mind anymore.
Is this a bad thing? Is this normal? Should I be worried? Some of this is also aime towards women, although in a "different" kind of way, I'm sure you understand. That's more worrying but hasn't been a real problem so far, just my imagination running wild when I'm outside.
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Of course it's a bad thing you fucking idiot
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>>17217582
Sincerely, I am not joking here:
Are you a teenage boy? How old are you? What gender are you? Do you feel frustrated about a specific thing? Would you consider yourself "edgy"?
I know a lot of these sound like memes and jokes, but you may have bipolar disorder or something similar. I know because I have it, and while I don't take meds for it anymore, treatment has gotten it under control.
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>>17217588
But it has made me more extroverted and I can finally talk to people.... Isn't that the goal?
>>17217598
I'm male, 20. Not really edgy, no. The exact opposite, extremely polite and introverted and usually trying my best to not be noticed or not be in the way. I know how that sounded, I understand why you're asking these questions. I don't feel frustrated about anything special, just the usual stuff really.
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I have a dilemma about undergrad college choice. I plan to be a lawyer and go to law school, which means first I have to get a baccalaureate. Now I have a number of considerations:
Going into my senior year, I have a 3.3 GPA and a 1500 (new) SAT. I'm planning on retaking the SAT in October to up my score though. Because of my GPA, I can't expect to get into any good schools, but luckily that isn't so important because I have to go to grad school anyway.
Now I have a number of choices for where I can go for undergrad and what I can major in, which I would like to get advice on. I can go to a cheap instate school, where I would probably major in Russian, German, or French, since I know I would enjoy it and could do well (undergrad GPA being a significant factor in law school admissions). I could go to University of Kentucky and major in Classics there, which would be much more expensive but much more fulfilling.
Which should I do, and are the major options I've outlined okay choices? My rationale on major choices is that I am not trying to get a career based on my undergraduate degree, and I enjoy learning languages. The problem is, only University of Kentucky has the kind of Latin program I'd want to attend, so otherwise I was just going to do a modern language.
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It's all a matter of money. What can you afford and what are you willing to pay?
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>>17217579
Latin is a dead and worthless language.
Study german, spanish, chinese, anything but Latin. Being a functional bilingual speaker will give you a client edge if you make if through law school.
If money is a factor , do 2 years at the local community college and get your core undergrad year 1 and 2 curriculum out of the way. There's literally no benifit for taking freshman courses at universities.
You also need to tailor your undergrad coursework and possible major to compliment your law school focus. International law? Corporate? Medical? Straight generic law? Your undergrad coursework will accentuate this grad level focus.
Also, look into any and all groups, affiliations, and societies that promote recognition for your academic achievements or would otherwise further your law career by being able to provide you with connections
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>>17217579
If you can afford it, definitely go to the state college. It'll be a much better springboard to a great grad school, and given how saturated the field is right now, every little bit helps.
Otherwise, if you can't afford it definitely don't, because it'll be hard enough to get a job afterwords that you don't also want to be in debt.
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Is hentai, loli, or animal sex images (I'm not into some of that but I find it in some of my collections) illegal in USA or any specific states?
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>>17217569
Animal stuff I specifically mean hentai type
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Yeah dude, you'll probably get jailed for being a pedophile and bestiality images
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Are you literally retarded?
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Months ago, my ex took the dog she got when we were together to the vet. I didn't want a dog, so the agreement was that it was her responsibility. Weeks later, she goes off her meds and just leaves me. I get left with the dog. There's an outstanding balance on the vet bill and it's in her name only. I get a call from the vet today and they said they called her, but she said it wasn't her dog and gave them my number. I said I wasn't going to pay it and gave them her parents' address (where she is currently living). They said I might still get a letter from the collectors since my address is on the bill (we were living together at the time). My name is not on the bill, but she put me on the account with the vet with no contact info without my knowledge. Should I call tomorrow and request that all information regarding me and my residence is removed from the account entirely? Is there any way I'm responsible for this bill?
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>>17217555
Right now I'm more concerned for the dog. It's a living animal fucksake and you're treating a piece of paper as more importance than it.
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How much is it? Is it a significant amount or are you squabbling over nothing out of spite for your ex?
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>>17217609
That's not advice
OP didn't even say anything about not taking care of the dog. It's about a responsibility and large bill that was dumped onto him
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Engaged at 20, how do I tell difficult parents? 2016-06-04 03:58:33 Post No.17217508
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Engaged at 20, how do I tell difficult parents?
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Got engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years, I'll be 21 and he'll be 22 in two months. I'm so happy but scared about ringing my parents tomorrow. I have to call them as I am over 150km away from home. My Mom can be emotionally abusive and I have depression and anxiety so I feel I need her approval. My Dad isn't like her but he's likely to agree we are "too young" to get engaged even though getting married will be down the road a few years. I'm actively seeking work where he lives so we can save up and move out from his parents' house who like me and have no issue with me staying but for now work is scarce in my field as a Special Needs Assistant since the school year finished. I should have a job by September. I do housework and cook and apply for jobs at the moment.
How to I announce the news and if they disapprove politely tell them that it's my choice and that what they say or my age shouldn't be the deciding factor.
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>>17217508
>my age shouldn't be the deciding factor.
When you grow up you will realize that it is.
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>>17217508
My parents eloped at that age if it's any consolation. They had pretty mental parents. They made it 25 years before my dad's fucked up childhood caught up to him and he ran off.
I wish I could get married but probably never will so at least you're getting married young.
Honestly tho there's no softening the blow. Just gotta do it outright. if it feels right i guess it's right but yr young and probably have a lot of life left to experience. But if it's right then maybe yr just gonna have to push thru some parental shit before it gets good. Idk just rip the band aid off as they say
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>>17217508
Why does every 20-24 year old brat think they're so special and older folks know nothing? There's a reason people are saying you're too young: it's because you are. People with much more experience in these affairs than you have are trying to stop you from doing something retarded.
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girlfriend just broke up with me, advice?
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>>17217459
move on
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chill senpai, you don't need her you are better off without. move on and re-connect with those friends you lost because of her
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>>17217469
>re-connect with those friends you lost because of her
Why do you assume he lost friends because of her?
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Helping My Bipolar Girlfriend
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Sup /adv/, I need your help. My girlfriend got diagnosed Bipolar a few weeks ago, then later got rediagnosed as depressed, and we're really confused. For months my girlfriend has been struggling with her emotions, going through mood swings and crying all throughout the day. Personally, we are thinking its Bipolar disorder, but the meds they gave her (citalopram) made her feel completely hopeless, suicidal and completely miserable. As a person with severe depression and anxiety myself, I understand it taking multiple med testing to see which ones work, but I'd like to get a head start and hear any related experiences, which meds work best, symptoms
>Tl;dr, How to help someone with Bipolar disorder
>What meds work best to treat
>Personal experiences, symptoms observed/experienced
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> gave her citalopram for bipolar
uhm. WHAT? No. I believe you're NOT supposed to give bipolar SSRIs because that makes mania worse. Maybe they thought it was depression at first?
I'm not a psychiatrist though, so anybody with more knowledge can let us know.
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>>17217424
But at this point, if citalopram made it worse, I'd guess it's bipolar. Lithium??
I'm really sorry for your girlfriend. I wish she has a quick recovery.
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>>17217434
Shit, that's my bad. Just confirmed with her it was for when they diagnosed her Depressed. They WANTED to give her Abilify or Lamictal for the bipolar diagnosis.
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At what age should you kill yourself for being a semi-virgin failure who never had a relationship?
30?
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>>17217320
I'm in a relationship and still feel like killing myself
The ride never ends
You were either born normal or you weren't
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>>17217335
This. If you don't sex by a 150 years old then it's too late.
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/adv/, I don't know if I can do it anymore. I have no problem talking to women. I'm one of the funniest people to hangout with and I'm the life of the fucking party. But, no matter how hard I try, I can't get a woman to sleep with me. I'm not ugly person and I'm often told that I'm a really good guy. I'm at wit's end and absolutely terrified of never meeting a woman who will want me. What do?
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>>17217307
Try surrounding yourself with sluts.
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>>17217311
I've dated nothing but sluts (which I feel wrong to say). I'm not sure if it's my personality or what.
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>>17217307
Maybe you're being really obvious in only really caring about getting laid.