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Is the world going to end if you take a pill during ramadan?

>>17218547
i'll be fasting, you can't swallow a pill while fasting. i'll be breaking my fast around 8 pm, then i'll take my pill at 9 pm.

Not sure what it's like in your part of the world but here in Aus you have a 12 hour grace period where you're still fine. Taking it at the same time everyday is just to maintain habit.
I use Levlen ED if that's what you're on

waste of money tbhfam
next time you jerk it, make the decision about whether to get one immediately afterwards. if you find that you no longer give a shit after you've blown your load, you probably don't need to get one.

Find a girl

>>17218691
I'm trying. I've become so autistic that I even brought a girl home but forgot to even try making a move.

>>17218576
I haven't jerked it yet, but I guess I won't get one.

>>17218509
Just keep it up. Do something productive. Start by "acting like an adult" and keep yourself busy by making things happen. Eventually it won't be an act anymore.

You can still play some games, but it's tough to limit your "intake". Example: I'm a borderline weeb, so when I watch chinese cartoons I end up binging. I limit how often I let myself do that (no more than once a month), because when I am unproductive for more than 2 days I feel down.

Try a hobby with tangible results; some art, music, or even fishing (why not).

(The no 0 day subreddit is almost like a cult and too strict, but they have some good ideas.)

>>17218509
>have been memorizing the Europe map
That.... would keep you occupied.

Buy yourself an egg timer and allot yourself a certain amount of time in your day for each thing you like doing. Incorporate a part-time job in there when you feel like it. If I could find an egg timer I'd do that.

What happened at Halloween?

>>17218496
>because my family is financially supporting my friend and I have to meet her and buy her groceries, gas, and pay her rent to ensure she is okay.
Why would this be? I imagine in such a situation there must be some sort of bond. Do you like her? For that matter, how much do you really like your girlfriend?

>>17218501

college town so the friend that my girlfriend hates had some friends come over. One of them I had dated for 2-3 months which made my gf nervous because an ex of hers cheated on her.

basically I was the DD because I had homework and shit and they went out partying in the frat and sorority houses. I came to pick them up at 3 in the morning and I was stressed as all hell. my ex came up and said she missed me and my stupid brain panicked and I talked with my gf about it afterwards. She proceeded to talk about how my ex was hoeing it up evidently. This pissed off my friend who said some not so nice things about my gf. This went on for 1-2 weeks before I managed to coordinate them enough to get them to apologize. My friend has gotten over it from what I can tell and doesn't give a fuck. my gf not so much.

>>17218493
Could mean a couple different things buddy.

1. Wants to be friends
2. Doesn't want to go alone, and you'd be decent to take
3. She's hungering for a great slice of your dong and you need to make some fucking moves.

Honestly dude, it wouldn't hurt to go and become friends with the grill. If nothing happens, fine, but if shit does, hell ye niga. I'd recommend you make moves and see where that leaves you. Never know until you try.

>>17218504
Let's be real I'm a big guy and she's quite attractive.

So I'm thinking she just wants to be buddies. That would explain why she keeps trying to set me up with other girls. But when she went out of her way to ask several people in the middle of the night to cover me. That's weird, right?

>>17218527
Eh, not too weird. Friends, or people hoping to be friends, tend to try and help each other out. Especially if they both want to do a thing and one has an obstacle in the way.

Though in the middle of the night.. That's interesting. Could be that she reaaally wants a yoga buddy.

I'm inclined to think she wants a good male figure around for her daughter if her husband's a douche.

It means she wants you to come to her house and make cupcakes with her daughter. Have fun raising a douchebags kid.

>>17218453
Thanks, this sounds about right. I'm the goody-two shoes in my family. C has literally been on America's Most Wanted and my half sister dropped out of high school when she got knocked up.

>>17218457
I wouldn't, but I do feel bad for C and Misty.

>The only reason I have maintained being around her is because it is a free room until I leave for school in a few months time
>Have savings to cover my ass for the time being plus can always find temp work
>Feel completely okay with the idea of never seeing her again

So, I am torn. Abandoning your parent as a reality is a pretty extreme thing to do, but I have never once felt any kind of love from her. At times she even jokes that "if I don't like her opinion, I can fuck off". So surely this is it, I have a well grounded basis for removing her from my life, right?

>>17218424
I was going to tell you to DeFOO already but you seemed to have reached the conclusion yourself.
Now try being in a similar situation but also being broke and having her and her cuckoo actively prevent you from ever getting employed.

>>17218424
Sounds justified. Single mothers tend to be pretty toxic, I know your pain.

I mean. I feel confident for my exams, even though when I do past papers and examples I convince myself I don't want to waste any potential mental energy that could be used for my exams.

I feel confident in a "get it out the way" kind of way, not a passionate, determined optimistic way, but at the same time convinced that I'll do well based on the fact that I've worked for long hours.

I haven't been getting the best quality sleep either, and have quite a disruptive family.

I keep on ruminating on these past days as well, thinking it'll improve my memory of these exams.

I really don't know what's wrong with me? Maybe I'm depressed and afraid of crashing during the exam? I don't know. Help anybody?

Anxiety, I imagine. You know how much these tests mean to your future and you're afraid you'll underperform. The best thing you can do is assure yourself that you can ace this test. I think I can I think I can etc.

Well what was the fight about first.

>>17218356
If she is acting so childish then she didn't deserve you in the first place!

>>17218356
Red flag she's a psycho and you need to get out more

pretty sure this didnt happen

>>17218355
Literally did though. I've never dealt with someone so basic & autisitc and I asked her multiple times to stop.

What the fuck hahahaah

>>17218353
Sure, Nigerian prince style. Or with a very original business idea...

They're always looking for people in the skilled trades, if you are manly enough

>>17218376
>Or with a very original business idea...

Assuming you have the resources to launch it.

Bumping this cause Im in a similar situation.

I don't have any experience but I hope you keep up your sobriety and find effective ways of coping with your thoughts and dreams about oxy.

I have found that accepting the feelings is a great way to work through difficult thoughts or feelings. Just breathing a bit, and letting myself feel uncomfortable has worked really well. It can take a long time if the subject is sensitive but being able to have difficult thoughts without them being crippling is a good skill to have.

All the best.

>>17218346
I have never been addicted to narcotics but I've had my issues with alcohol, and in the weeks that followed my quitting drinking I would also have crazy dreams but they were all about the anger + fear that underlies my mentality, and also which made me drink.

I think in this same regard your brain is suffering and it knows 100% that the end to it can only be drugs; however when you get up and feel demoralized from having this dream I think that is your subconscious feeling like you have failed - which is clearly not the case. Try to associate the negative feeling when you wake up not as another night you lost out to your addiction, but another night that your brain was reaching out for this substance that's the root of your problems. Over time it will ease.

I drink quite a bit more than the average person, and sometimes I have dreams where I realistically get drunk in them. It's pretty bizarre, the brain seems to be able to reinact the sensation almost perfectly.

I guess it's insecurity and i feel that too towards anyone.

Normal people would feel this instead as 'I want to push myself to be my best person, for this person' , but, since you have zero self esteem, you've turned it into 'I'm not good enough woe is misery'. So you need to learn to be ok with yourself as you are.

>>17218344
>I have to try my best to keep their attention by being entertaining/interesting/sexually attractive/worth their time

This is actually true of all relationships, it's just that most never know it.

>At some point they'll be bored of me and they'll leave me

You don't know that. At any rate, we can work on it.

>there's no one else in the world like them

Totally untrue. There's no one else in the world whom you care about *right now* the way you care about them *right now,* but there are tons of people that, given the opportunity, could make you feel identical or deeper emotions. Tons.

The only way to deal with it is to make peace with the idea that your partner might leave you. I absolutely know how anxiety-inducing that idea is, but the genuine truth is that you would be okay without your partner. No, really; you'd be okay. You don't want to lose your partner; of course you don't. But as devastated as you'd be at the loss of your partner, ultimately you'd be okay.

Your partner isn't with you without reason. You are a worthy partner, and *that* is why your partner is with you, plain and simple.

So: the way to deal with it is to repeat this, as a mantra:

My partner probably won't leave me, because I actually am a pretty good partner. But if my partner should leave me, I would be okay. It would hurt like a sonofabitch, but I'd be okay.


And that really is the truth, OP.

Are you anxious about everything?

Agree with >>17218309

Sounds like you're anxious about something. You're feeling unfulfilled that you don't want to go back yet.

How the fuck are you paying for all this? Holy shit.

Anal

yeah anal
make her feel bad about her shitty vagina and that she owes you some butt action

Are you using a condom? If so lose it