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>dating a girl for two years
>NOTHING better has come along

Sounds like you need to be realistic about your opportunities, old man.

Leave her if you do not love her.
Its cruel to string her along.

>>17214011
How old are you and how old is she?

This sounds like shitty advice, but its a hard concept to put on paper.

Basically, fake it until you make it. Pretend your confident and eventually you will be.

It helps to be a little arrogant too. Unusually, it seems people rather like someone who is mildly arrogant.

>>17214038
I've pretended to be confident for a while t b h.

>>17214038
This is good.
If you fake it enough it'll eventually come naturally to you.
As for the regret or shame you feel for the past event, just think of it as a learning experience. It taught you something new or warned you about something to watch out for and you've grown from it. You should look back and know that you've changed since whatever it was that happened. Plus, I'm sure no one else even remembers it.

it doesnt matter if its a big jump or whether the reasoning is legit

do it, they'll probably give you a compromise raise after negotiating.

>>17214004
Have you achieved measurable results?

Will you mention the pre-tax salary was low for the industry?

Have you thundercocked the boss' wife in preparation for cucking his bank account?

>>17214004
This argument alone is probably not sufficient. Your employer likely knows they are paying you below industry average. They are going to ask about what you've done beyond your current job expectations. Then they will want to know the results and why those justify the raise. Also asking for a $10k raise after one year of employment is farfetched. You will be super lucky to get a 5% cost of living salary increase. I have been an engineer for 8 years and manager for 3 years. This seems to be pretty standard practice in the industry.

You should get a membership to bangbros. I personally like ass parade

Coincidentally, that's just how your ex wants you to feel.

Seek the Lord, and read his word.

the list is almost infinite. just tell us what weird shit you have and we'll tell you how bad it is.

>>17213982
what are you planning to have in your apartment?

if you have to ask what things would make it hard to get laid, chances are you have things that will make it impossible to get laid in your apartment already

Like for example I hate to get rid of anything my niece gives me for my birthday/Christmas and she gives me strange stuff like a rubber frog, stuffed Pokemon I've never heard of before, a Rapunzel doll from Tangled. Also wondering about my Wii, Egon Schiele poster my brother gave me with emaciated naked German Expressionist woman in it, an ugly but comfortable pillow that might come in useful.

pic related, seems like the obvious solution

Stop flirting and go to a strip club. If it keeps on going on you might fuck that girl. Strip club will kill most of your demons. You most likely have dropped the ball on Wooing your woman. Go see a musical and all that. Do the disheses. Ask her about her day. Remmber stupid shit.

>>17213979
is your wife depressed? given birth recently? female hormones go up and down throughout their lives she might just be having a rough patch, things can change but do not cheat on her you will lose everything.

ask her out

Fuck her in half.

>>17213957
I think she'd be creeped out desu. I had no friends in that class because they were all juniors so I'd just sit there and sleep or listen to music. I legit think the only think the only thing I've ever said to her was "did we have any homework yesterday?"

>>17213945
> recently he's been a lot more affectionate towards me (he'll find excuses to ruffle my hair, grab me, hug me, hold on to me, pull my legs over him, etc). We've been doing this since we were kids so it's not weird to us. He's not the most affectionate in the first place but I thought he might be more because I was spending more time with him the last two months.
> okay whatever no big deal
> but the last few weeks he's started pulling me into his lap while we watch stuff
> at first I was really freaked out because that's a little weirder than usual and I'm not a kid anymore and he's treating me like I'm ten but I got over it quickly
> but he's recently gotten watt touchier than usual
> will randomly squeeze my arm, place his hand on my knee, on the small of my back
> I'll sometimes shift myself into a different position but he'll usually just shift to me again
> I thought I might just be overthinking it
> two nights ago when we were watching Tanaka-kun he kept putting his chin on my shoulder and (loosely) wrapping his arm around my waist (not sure how to describe it. It was like his arm was drapped around me, but mostly in my lap)

It's really really uncomfortable and I should say something but I don't want to make things weird if he's just feeling needy or something. Like I said we're a really huggy family so it's not like physical affection is weird to me. But he's never this affectionate. He's depressed and easily bothered so I feel like he might just need company. I don't really know. So I saw that thread and thought maybe I'd talk about it here. I don't think I'd be willing to talk about it with anyone else.

If anyone has any similar stories feel free to vent.

he's watching too much incest hentai and spending too much time on 4chan

stop watching anime with him you're gonna get molested

>>17213966
this

It sounds like his autism and virginity has gotten the best of him.

Are you male or female OP?

>>17213931
You have Oneitis. Just move on an stop trying to get her because it won't ever happen. Just being blunt. Even if you were completely competent socially, having Oneitis would doom you because it makes you act desperate and women pick up on that easily.

I'd say try to be weird as fuck and keep hitting on a girl that isn't into you; but apparently that's not working out. What would you recommend captain?

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>>17213931
You have no chances with her. A girl who likes you will show it to you by flirting. If you never had a playful conversation with her, if she never touched you then it's over my friend.

it's not a big deal.

Sex with someone you love = awesome
Sex with someone you don't love = usually guilt or disappointment unless you can manually dissociate

>>17213916
It's fun for about 5 minutes then it gets boring. When it's done it's even more boring. Sex without love is boring.

Wtf, that's average the average, normal size.
Come back here if the coming SJW dictatorship cuts off your dick or you're reborn with a cute little micropenis. Till then fuck off (literally).

>>17213897

Woops, totally fucked up that first sentence. Just forget the first average there.

Thanks! Never had any confidence problems with my dick before her, the way she worded it sounded like she wasn't upset i had a small dick, when it's average, not small..

It does work out that way. It's just that people your age blow it on fast cars, big houses, and that's before starting a family.

Save while you can. Your retirement and financial security will thank you later.

>>17213964
Well, thank god I like beater ass cars, living with nerdy roommates, and freshmen girls with low standards.

I am having a bit of a mid-midlife crisis in that I miss buying and playing video games really badly, but I've lost my /v/irginity a while ago and now all I do is photos, video, and research on random shit.

>400$ rent

amerifats have it so good

>>17213840
your english is fine fuckwad stop saying that it isn't good just to fish for compliments.

>>17213845
Last time i made a thread, people were shitposting because of my poor english. Anyway, thanks, that doesn't change nothing to my position but still.

>>17213840
My english is pretty damned good and im only understand that some guy was beig a Douche bag, you called him out on it, and the girls sided with him. Am i missing anything?

It works if you're higher status than the potential partner.

>>172113817
Welp

>>17213813
Short answer: no
Long answer: kinda

>>17213809

>Tl;dr my cousin is really annoying, irresponsible, disgusting, and manipulative

I didn't read any further.

Stop talking to her. Cut her out of your life. If you have the time to entertain the presence of toxic people then keep pussyfooting around when you need to do.

If you're truly sick of it, drop her like a sack of shit and don't look back.

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Anyway, when we were younger we were super into anime and what not so it's been our dream since forever to all go to Japan together. After both my sister and I studied abroad in Japan separately, it was finally my cousins turn. While she was there, tickets to Japan were very cheap, so my sister and I decided to plan a trip there together,and figured we'd visit our cousin while there. I messaged her and told her we were coming, and she took it to mean we'd spend the whole trip together, whcih wasn't really my plan, but I decided to go for it anyway. I knew she was lonely there and ididnt think jt would be that bad.

I was wrong. I'll explain specific events if needed but overall shr made the trip a lot more inconvenient, stressful , and unpleasant. She also showed signs of being manipulative and selfish, for example getting mad at us for not wanting to go get food when our plane home was leaving in 2 hours.my sister and I havr both dealt with abusive people before and it felt suspiciously close to that. On the plane ride home my sister and I decided we needed a nice long break from her, and commiserated about how out childhood role model had become such a terrible person.

We have been home from Japan for about 3 weeks. During that time we haven't texted her or interacted with her on social media. I guess she noticed that we were drifting away from her, because a few ago later she sent us pic related text.


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Last part

I haven't responded yet. I don't feel any positive emotions for her and I'm sick of pretending to like people just because they were once my friend. My sister sees it in an even darker way, that she is trying to keep a manipulative hold on us with this text message. I just wish instead of this "poor me I'm lonely I miss you" text she had offered some kind of apology for the trouble she caused on the trip. If she had taken that route I'd enthusiastically respond but it just seems like yet again she is trying to avoid taking responsibility for her actions and just patch things up with a fluffy text message.

So yeah. I don't know how to handle this. I feel bad for not responding but I don't want to be her friend anymore. I'll be her family and thats it. But im afraid if I send anything back, even just "love you too" she'll go back to being clingy and needy like she was before. But at the same time I feel bad abandoning her. I just dont know.

>>17213810
The thing is she's family. And I know she is going through a rough time (although the rough time has been several years). It feels selfish to leave her I guess.