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these are the same people who will complain eventually when you stop contacting them.

>>17220039
Some people are afraid to talk first because they don't want to appear too needy or clingy. I've had this problem myself. It's not always the case, but it's a possibility. If they're really a good friend, ask them about it.

Ideally, there would be incentive to hang out on both ends, but in reality, this isn't always the case.

For whatever reason, people like to,"Tolerate" others to an extent and feign friendship for the sake of convenience.

I'd say if anybody doesn't express interest in hanging out with you of their own volition, then they probably can't be counted among your friends, but rather your acquaintances.

Sure, you can do it if you want to, but your chances of ending up with something good are probably slim (depending on your expectations), in my opinion.

What is it that you want to abandon?

>>17219953

I have no delusions about "making it" abroad. I'm fine with working a manual labour job and just making enough to feed myself.

I'm 25 and I have never done a single thing worth mentioning. My entire life has been spent behind a computer screen and I am dying inside.

>>17219940
Brandon?

There is no logical explanation.
Seek another until desired results.

the problem is that you only kissed them and didn't fuck them. she cant imagine life with a pussy that doesnt fuck

>>17219795
Were you too sappy, reveal too much?

FWB leads to one of you catching the feels. Almost always. If you want him as a friend because he's awsome, keep your panties on and be his friend. If you see potential for a relationship, get to know him better and seduce him.

Bring it up with him.
That is the fastest way to find out if he is interested.

>>17219801
Thank you for advice. I'm slightly afraid of relationships because i'm afraid he won't want treesomes and i can't just be with only men. I need some pussy to lick too.

1) No, they can't fantasise because it gets boring after a while
2)No, personal contact can't be substituted by imagination. If you are actually so afraid of getting intimate with people that you have to throw up, you should see a therapist.

What? You can have sexual thoughts without getting an erection. I mean, we dont, obviously all day. I remember some retarded myth about guys thinking about sex every 5 minutes or something, which doesn't happen. No fantasies are not an alternative, and if you have fantasies but the idea of actual sex makes you want to vomit...you have some serious problems you need to get sorted out

>>17219761
1) Usually when I have fantasies about it, I just masturbate and they tend to go away. When I don't masturbate, they'll go away after about an hour and a half, but they're often replaced by new ones after a while.

2) Nah. I could pretend to suck a dick all day long, but stuffing my middle finger in my mouth while jerking off will never be a replacement for actually doing it. I can't really relate to wanting to throw up at the thought of getting intimate, though. I think I'd just be scared and shy about it.

No, for that to be true we'd have to all be the same

>>17219755
>Do you think people are interchangeable?
For what purpose?

In some contexts, people are interchangeable. Rank-and-file foot soldiers are the classic example. When the soldier you just ordered to do something suddenly gets gunned down on the battlefield, you need to be able to point at another random soldier and trust that they'll be able to do the same task.

But in most contexts, I would say that people are not interchangeable. The nigh-infinite variability in human psychology and experience prevents it. Why would it be otherwise?

>>17219758
>>17219772
both of these.

I do believe there's enough people on the planet that if you piss me the fuck off, betray my trust, screw me over, all three, I won't have a problem dropping you. so in some respects yeah people are replaceable.

may be different with family but I've never really had family like most people who care about family do so I wouldn't know.

>>17219737
>Ive spent several thousand $

I went on 3 dates last weekend and spent $130. A shitty investment.

In time you'll feel better and find someone new if you give it some effort.

>>17219737
> throw money at women
> get sex/ relationship

Yeah, not always, buddy.

Maybe ask her to repay you?

>>17219737
Money means nothing and you shouldn't spoil anyone.
You also didn't include why she broke up with you.

I don't think this necessarily means that you are not in love or something like that. Everyone loves differently, all relationships are different.

Some would even say that having the mindset ''I don't know what to do if my SO leaves me'' is not healthy because then you would be too dependent on your SO.

It is really a matter of what works best for you. If you are happy with your girlfriend now and if you can see a future with her. If you want to be with her and you are contend with this mindset, then why should you worry about not feeling like your world would fall apart if you two were to break up?

Everyone is different

As someone who all-too-often falls into the trap of feeling dependent on my SO, I'd say the way you feel about it is pretty healthy.

Often I let my emotions become dictated by how I feel things are currently going with my gf (even moment-to-moment in a conversation) and I have to consciously detach myself from it because I know it's bad for both of us if I come across that way.

In short, don't worry. Your friend's argument sounds like he was (perhaps unknowingly) rationalising a mindset he knows isn't good for him.

Well both of you are right, but at the same time, both of you are fundamentally approaching relationships with a different stance.

He has invested in the relationship with the aim and resolution that he will do whatever it takes to make it work.His attitude, perhaps, is, "I have weathered a lot of shit with this girl here and came out great, I cannot deal with the trouble and uncertainty of having to go through all the trials again with someone else to find that they are not a good fit for me"

You have nothing invested in the relationship because of an attitude of "if we break up whatever I have invested in it will be for nothing". You will never go through the trials that he has with his girl, because you don't intend to from the first place.

The only thing that is crucial at this point is, whether your respective partners feel the same way.

The people on the internet won't care, real life people will frown upon it

if it gets you off, go ahead. most of the people looking at pornographic art aren't really prudes when it comes to realism. it doesn't matter whether or not a man could realistically cum a five foot tall geyser and paint the entire ceiling white, all that matters is whether or not the idea of that happening is fucking hot.

but if you are going for realism, and if you are doomed to virginity forever, just look at a lot of HD closeup porn and take notes I guess.

>>17219668
>Can a virgin draw hentai, anons?
Can they? I suppose so. It would be a good idea to consult with people who have actually done the sorts of things you intend to depict, though.

>How will people react if they find out you draw porn?
This is one of those things that people generally find distasteful. It would be a good idea to use an art name.

>>17219631
nigga it's calling sweating dont bring your science shit in here put on some antiperspirant

>>17219700
excessive sweating, not normal one. the products i have mentioned are antiperspirants, but stronger ones

are you morbidly obese?

Red

Black

And for gods sake wear a belt

Judging from that first sentence you're either not female, or you've never had sex and you just completely don't understand anatomy.

That's the problem with your generation.
Sex is just all physical with you people.
You see all this porn and sexualized media, and all you see is the physical aspect of it all. You see some denial based reward system designed to lure in pubescent children and maintain their attention.

It's no wonder you find sex boring.

>>17219609
I'm female. If someone has sex with me I don't get any pleasure from the fucking, I have to rub my clit while they fuck me, so the whole thing seems pointless

no
why would u
get a life loser lol

Eh, probably not worth it. Also if he had his head on her shoulder he's probably a homo imho

>>17219566
he's not gay and he jokingly said he would rape her since he broke up with a girl with the same body type as mine who he really misses
sounds worse when typed out...
i don't know, he's a good person and i doubt she would cheat

i don't know since i'm in the same boat

Why did you get married to a woman you feel less for? You essentially settled early.

Oh well

>>17219571
As I said, I am totally incapable of feeling affection-type emotions like I used to be able to. I married a girl that I love (true love, respect, trust, communication, etc.) and who is better in every way (or almost every way) than her (and other girls.) Trust me, I married the right girl.

What I'm talking about here is just some emotional noise and 10-year resentment that I'm trying to deal with.

Wake up OP your coffee is getting cold...

She's thirsty as fuck, but be careful of that. I personally would never have a roommate of the opposite sex. For all you know she might be trying to pull a 'room and board for sex' deal with you

>>17219550
she most probably wants to bang u bro
test the waters out blad