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Anyone here completely alone? I live with my gf, but i think I'm going to end up completely alone.
>mom raised by single mother in Germany
>moves to America leaving her whole family behind
>marries my dad
>he always travels for work, barely know him
>they get divorced when I'm 12
>still rarely see him
>when I do he is drunk and abusive
>stop seeing him around age 17
>one day when I'm 19 a guy shows up at my house
>he stays the night
>and the next night
>and the next night
>and five more nights
>ask my mom if he has moved in
>he interjects and says yes
>feel uncomfortable in my own home
>mom used to physically abuse me until I was big enough to defend myself
>don't get along with this guy, or my mom since he moves in
>she gets into a physical altercation with my little sister who was 15 at the time
>I record it
>days later
>I tell her I don't like how she moved this guy in out of nowhere
>says she has always put her children first and for once in her life she wants to put herself first
>say "oh yea like when you beat up my sister"
>she tells me I need to be out by tomorrow
>says if I dont get my stuff it will be in the trash
>go to my girlfriend's parent's house that night
>call county clerk the next day because I don't think she has the right to throw away all my stuff with no notice
>clerk confirms that this is the case
>tell her I have two weeks to get my stuff, if she throws my stuff out I can press charges
>get all the essentials loaded up in my car
>take them to my gf's house
>she just graduated high school
>she is looking to move out
>we get an apartment together
>her dad has always been a dick to me
>nothing I did, talked shit about me before even meeting me
>was apparently like this with her other boyfriend
>just an overprotective faggot
>he always talks shit about me but never to me
>girlfriend always defends his behavior and insists I must have rubbed him the wrong way
>I've only talked to him twice, and only made small talk
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>>17217879
>from this he has determined I can't be liked
>cant go to her family functions on his side of the family
>her parents are divorced
>he abandoned her for 7 years
>tell my gf it's bullshit that she defends the way he treats me after he abandoned her
>she says that "no matter what he does family will always come first"
>so I ask her to repeat herself,
>literally no matter what I do or he does you will always put him first?
>she says yes
>realize I will never be a part of a family, ever, no matter what
>never realized that until that very moment
>existential crisis
>feel like im spinning
>realize I'm all alone
>have friends who I can chill with and have a great time, but no one who loves me, let alone unconditionally
>thinking about breaking up with gf because she loves her piece of shit dad more than me, and always will no matter what because muh family
I know that I won't find another girl that will love me more than her family, because apparently that is just how things work, no matter what the abuse..
So the only two options i have are stay in a painful relationship, knowing that I'll never be a priority, or live the rest of my life devoid of intimacy.
Idk what I'm even asking, just, has anyone else experienced this?
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pls
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dont over dramatize. you sound young, and narrow viewed about your negative experiences.
Are you looking for a long term committed relationship?
if she says she can't put you first ever, then she has looked as far ahead (as she can) and doesn't see a possible future in a higher commitment level than you are in now.
that tells you what you need to know, now decide what you're going to do about it.
also, keep socializing with those friends. they're the only way you're going to learn more about this problem because you're short alot of knowledge.
I have the chance to get a girl to leave her bf of 5 years and get her to date me. Is it worth it?
I've known her since high school and were now in our 3rd years of college. She has a long time bf currently but he wants to join the military and basically force her to marry him within the next year or two so she can come with him and they can live pretty much wherever he gets stationed (specifics of army shit doesn't matter right now). Now obviously that's a huge step and even though they've been dating for a long time she told me herself she doesn't know if she can go through with it and is thinking about breaking up with him.
At a group hangout we talked about future plans and ours seemed to kinda overlap. I want a steady job, get a decent sized house, wife, kids and want to stay local where we live. I feel like if I keep spending time with her I can talk to her more about these things and find myself a wife in her.
Is it worth it to do all this work though? She's a qt for sure,not the smartest person but she'd make a good wife. I know her bf but not that well that it would cause a problem if we dated. Just weighing the pros and cons here. Anything I should be looking for?
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How about don't be an absolute piece of shit and break up a committed relationship, if you really want her that bad you should be willing to wait for her and let things play out on their own, it's not your place to intervene.
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If she's willing to cheat with you.
She'll cheat on you.
So no.
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>>17217989
Pretty much this.
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Where do I go to meet grils on the weekend? I usually stay in and play video games and fail hard at online dating. I want to try something different but I dont even know where to go. Sorry if there is another thread for this type of thing. Any ideas?
tl;dr where to go on saturday to meet grils
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Anyone? Please...
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Your best bet is a bar.
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>>17217632
What about during the day?
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agoraphobia? ...really? 2016-06-04 04:14:11 Post No.17217552
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>21
>F
>neet because mentally ill
Hey guys,
I just got back from my most recent therapy session, and I had finally asked my doctor what I have. He said I have agoraphobia as a result of anxiety, panic, and depression. It made sense at first, but the more I read into it the more I'm confused by the diagnosis. See, I'm stuck at home because I fear making a mistake or panicking, but it's mostly centered around things like driving, making phone calls, talking to people about important things, doing important things, seeing friends I've not seen in a long while, and just dealing with my mom (emotionally abusive). It's not really about being in public or closed spaces per say. I've even told him that but he still diagnosed me with agoraphobia.
Is that even possible? I mean I know, "every individual is an exception to the rule." but it just seems odd as I would only identify with it through my fear of driving, and it takes at least two of the criteria to have a diagnosis.
What are your thoughts (Oh, Great 4chan Gods)?
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>>17217552
I am not a psychological professional, but I would like to hear your voice for my esoteric research. I understand it can be difficult for you to record yourself speaking, so I can give you an email if you would prefer to do it privately.
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>>17217578
Back off, she's my int gf
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>>17217583
Back off, I read her post first, she's mine by rights
OP PLEASE, WE'RE MADE FOR EACHOTHER, MY DONGLE IS ABOVE AVERAGE IN WIDTH
HOW SMALL ARE YOUR FEET
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Filling fell out at work and there's a nerve exposed. I have no insurance, and its Friday night after midnight.
What the fuck am I supposed to do?
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Went to the ER and I think I'm going to regret it. They can only give me something for the pain until I can get to a dentist.
Fuck this life.
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>>17217853
I'm sorry bird person, I have failed you
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>>17217865
How so?
Thankfully, the doc said it wasn't infected or abscessed, which is not bad I guess. Getting prescriptions that I don't think I can afford to help with pain and swelling.
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I'm a reasonably attractive chick, what's the easiest way I can make money online? Considering that I refuse to cam or show my face.
I seriously never thought I'd resort to this kind of whoreish degenerate behavior but I'm doing my PhD in biochem and the debt from being in school forever is a burden. Since I plan to remain in academia, I won't make decent money for a while (if ever).
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>>17217515
>how can I be a whore without being a whore?
FUCK OFF WHORE
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>>17217515
>I'd resort to this kind of whoreish degenerate behavior
I love you
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>>17217515
If you refuse to show your face or body....literally what is the purpose of saying that you are a girl and that you are attractive? You can't use either of those qualities with those restrictions.
But then again this is probably b8, so I guess I'm wasting my time...
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So I'm 18 and I had a bit of a crush on my sister's friend, who I thought was 15 (since my sister's 15, i assumed she was the same age). Well it turns out she's actually 13. How do I stop feeling so damn guilty about having this crush?
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>>17217441
I think that depends on the laws of where you live
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dat 13 yr old babyfat ass got u in heat
its cool man look but dont touch
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>>17217447
Well obviously I'm not gonna do anything, that's just wrong. I just feel really guilty for liking her though.
Why is introversion basically exclusive to males?
Females in General are born extroverts
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That's not true
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>>17217376
In general terms, yes it is.
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>>17217379
no it's not /r9k/
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I've been undesirable and unlikable since a few bad things happened to me when I was in Elementary school. I have hobbies and interests but I can't share them in a way that engages people or makes me sound cool. Socially, I come across as boring, with few redeeming qualities.
In middle school (after the bad stuff), I found out my best friend didn't really like me. Had no friends. Then I moved, actively initiated a friendship with someone I thought was cool, then after ~2 years of doing everything together found out they only hung out with me out of pity. Back to no friends.
Since then I've been alone and painfully aware of the fact that I'm unlikable. I think people pity me, I feel pathetic and inferior when I try to interact with people. I completely understand why no one wants to be friends with me, but it sucks. I think it's just my personality. But I want to have fun with other people, to connect with them, to get to know them. To like them and be liked.
I read a post today from someone who was also unlikable and undesirable. He wanted to get a girlfriend. He was asking psychologists if treatment would help, like therapy. The consensus was that this isn't something professionals treat, since it isn't a psychological disorder. It's just how life is for some people. They could only help you cope with being unlikable.
So will I be a bumbling autist for the rest of my life? I really want some way out of the life I'm currently living. As a result of inexperience and isolation I am very inexpressive, unenthusiastic, and socially awkward. I can't tell stories or engage with people (can't reciprocate any attempts at connecting). Hearing that there was no professional help available sucked.
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>The consensus was that this isn't something professionals treat, since it isn't a psychological disorder.
No one here is qualified to say what is or isn't a symptom of a psychological disorder. You need to stop heeding medical advice from 4chan and start seeking medical advice from medical professionals.
Go to a therapist. There are people who specialize in everything you're struggling with.
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>>17217294
No the consensus was on a different website, in a small hub populated by clinical psychologists. They said that being unlikable is not something psychologists can treat (being unlikable is not a mental illness), and I know the only consistent problem I've had through my life is being unlikable.
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>>17217294
Also, I've tried seeing one psychologist who didn't know what to do with me. The experience was traumatic, she was always jumping to offensive conclusions about me. It lowered my self-esteem because even she saw me as incompetent. As an example when filling out a questionnaire, one question was about workplace functioning. She put the pencil down on "very low" without even asking, just looking at me with a sad face, even though I've been employed since 16 and have always been told by my bosses that I am a hard reliable worker, always offered more work. She wasn't a quack either, she did CBT.
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1) how come getting women feels like being a homeless begging for money on the streets?
2) why is the dating game so fucked up?
3) how come most women wont approach or iniate?
4) how can i get women off my mind and stop hating them?
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1. Because.
2. Because.
3. Because.
4. Alcohol.
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I'm a chick and its hard for us too
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>>17217242
>hating women
Stop this /r9k/. Put things into perspective. If you were a girl, would you want to be with you? I highly doubt it, you sound fucking awful.
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>Literally never outright hooked up with a girl before
>One just matched with me that lives really close by
>Says she broke up with her bf and really wants to hookup
>Said tonight
Oh fuck. We added each other on snapchat, and she is legit. What do? I want to bang, but I'm not quite comfortable just outright meeting a girl I've talked to for 20 minutes to fuck.
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>>17217224
do it anywys. worse case scenario you have a 'not comfortable' orgasm.
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You're gonna get a split reaction no matter what.
It's really up to you man. Just know that if she broke up with her boyfriend, this is just a dumb after game consequence of love. She's going to fuck you which is great but the bottom line is that you're a rebound. She probably could give a fuck less down the road as the boyfriend either crawls back into her life or walks away, all the while, you get to deal with the burden of the end of her relationship and the various revenge dicks she's probably gonna ride. Especially if you two found each other on Tinder.
If you're okay with those facts, then go and smash away anon
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>>17217225
but I can have a comfortable orgasm with my hand. I just got this weird anxiety about putting my penis into a girl I don't know at all.
has anyone been to any kind of AA meeting? what're they like? I'm thinking of going to one tonight for an addiction is rather not say. never been. I've heard there's free food and good stories, but that's about it
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>>17217149
i've been to an NA meeting. it was interesting to say the least. you gotta learn about the 12 steps and be all religious. the dudes I met were talking about how to score methadone at a hospital since they can't shoot up anymore.
I hope you like cigarettes, because at AA and NA that is all people do is smoke them.
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only been to an AA meeting because the courts told me to
it was lame and all i did was pass. Whats the point if you honestly dont want to stop?
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watch fight club
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>meet chick
>kind of hot
>gives me tons of atention
>"ok!"
>message a lot
>2 weeks in realize my mistake
>severe mental illness, depression, just crazy
>want out
How the fuck do I get out of this? We don't cross paths, but she knows where I live.
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>>17216956
Seriously as many an anon as there >>17217010
Arrange a meet up in a public space , preferably with any of her stuff you have.
Try to record or have someone discreetly record the events for legal purposes in case she flips shit.
She will show back up at your place, when she does record these events as well, be friendly and honest with her that these cameras are only for legal purposes, in case she breaks or damages anything. If she persists after this restraining order ect. As for your own belongings at her place, your might be able to sneak your stuff out depending on the situation. Gl m8
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>>17217010
where do you meet these girls, OP?
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>>17217028
would it be awful if I just cut all contact and block her on every medium?
>>17217928
online... yeah
How do you build self esteem?
> Everything I do I fail at.
> Every friend I let down.
> I'm not good enough to do a job.
> I'm not worth the time people spend talking to me.
It's easy to know why I think I'm a failure, but it's not easy to do anything about it because every time I something my all, I make it worse.
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You need a dildo to fuck your ass good with
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Start slowly building a skill. Preferably in something you have an in. Also probably something where you can see visible results. For example, building shit. Eventually you'll notice you're getting better and other people will as well.
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>>17216997
get /fit/
works everytime
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Being black feels really shitty when it comes to dating 2016-06-03 23:36:48 Post No.17216773
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Being black feels really shitty when it comes to dating
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I am a black male and dating is next to impossible. My area has a high white and hispanic population so obviously I am limited in my choices. I honestly like all races of women as long as they aren't obese or ghetto.
However, I am finding that women are either really hesitant to date black dudes OR they really want to date black guys but its fetish tier... What a awful situation.
Like the dating realm when you are black is complete ass. What am I doing wrong? Ontop of that, I am not like a "GIGA NIGGA" black guy which leaves me disadvantaged in this realm.
Is there any hope? I tried online dating too. Complete ass as well.
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>>17216773
mexican chicks dig black guys why don't you go for them
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Get your shit together, be confident, grow bbc. Women don't date black because black usually means trouble and instability. Prove them wrong.
If you have general beta features get rid of those. If you are manlet, tough luck but that has nothing to do with being black.
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>>17216773
get job, start acting like a grown up with a steady life.
girls will come in due course