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IQ is a meme.
Honestly, if it really is over 9000, you may grasp concept faster, but still have to do work.
Make smart people explain oncepts to you and you are even,

>>17302987
School has very little to do with intelligence, people much dumber than myself do much better in school because they try harder, its literally all about being able to remember irrelevant shit that you read a couple of times

Yes, you can. Medicine is 99% learning dry lexical knowledge. You need a big ass for that, not a big brain. A good memory is needed. You will do almost all your work according to protocol, and what you won't, you will consult with others to prevent being sued. Have determination, endurance, and patience for learning a LOT of lexical knowledge, 90%+ of which you will never use.

>>17302975
You should have explained your disability before it got this far. Now she may never speak to you again. Good job.

Either she'll talk to you or she won't, keep trying if you'd like but it's just as likely to make her so angry she never wants to see you again. You fucked up royally, maybe if you're lucky you can still fix it.

>>17302975

I am assuming you told her about it.

Tell her, "Babe, I can't hear really well." You mind writing down shit for me if there's something you want me to do? I'm deaf, not blind.

>>17302977
>>17302981
She already knew about it. We just don't talk about it a lot because I don't like pity parties.

I have a different story than you but with lots of parallels (including meds making me nuts) and a similar end result.

big picture:
>keep trying to better yourself. yes you have limitations but don't be too hard on yourself, you can do what you can do.
>pick some way to better yourself and stick with it, take it slowly but always be making progress
for example I needed to drop weight, took me a long time but I did it, now I'm working on my posture to help with some chronic pain
>for the mood, I have no advice, other than try to keep your head up and take a multivitamin and eat well - it helps a bit. overall I'm still very depressed though and feel numb like you, so haven't figured that out yet.

So i'd say start slow and pick some way to improve your life, within your limitations, and head that way. You do that for years and you might be surprised how far you go.

>>17302962

thank you friend, it's definately true that the attitude of finding worth in any small goal helps

but it's hard to take pleasure to anything anymore, as i'm just..dead, angry all the time, and far stupider than i was

>>17302970
Yeah, I'm not sure how to get there either. I think making those small improvements helps a bit, but, I'm not going to lie and say it has helped me less feel depressed and numb. I'm objectively getting better (weigh less, no longer a NEET, etc), but, I don't feel better.

I think feeling better would probably come from changing our thinking. I went to a shrink for a while and she was big on this cognitive behavior therapy. It never really helped me, I think it's a bit of a ruse, but some people claim they were helped by it. It has a lot to do with changing your thinking (thoughts control feelings which control behaviors and all around that circle).

I'd for sure say avoid any psych meds/SSRIs or any of that shit, those made me even more numb and zombie like. Tried a bunch of them. Also very hard to quit.

Hopefully someone else will chime in about your inability to feel pleasure, maybe I could learn something there too.

>>17302906
You were just another guy who got played.

>you're too good for me
Literally no woman believes this. None.
It could be something used to ether boost you're who because your acting beta, or a tool to break up with.

some girls just live to ride the cock carousel. i've been in two relationships and both had a honeymoon period where everything was 10/10, you don't really know how its going long term until you've been at it a while. all new ones start off pretty good in my limited experience.

What was the 'whole line of bullshit', exactly?

Sounds like she just wanted a reason to dump you. Get on with your life - it feels bad, but it makes you stronger; these experiences will help you to maintain an excellent relationship with a truly great woman.

>>17302869
That you're wanted in 4 states like Bonnie and Clyde.

Or you can tell the fucking truth and save your time building a castle of lies.

>>17302869
That's a pretty normal reason to move, so you don't have to lie.

>>17302881
Yeah but they might look at us as weirdos.

>>17302868
You say what you're cool with, and let them choose if they're okay to be with you or not.
You don't impose anything, but you definitely talk about it.

If you're strictly monogamous, you shouldn't date someone polyamorous, tho.

jealouse yes, possessive maybe not.
>One of the things we've talked about is how she is "polyamorous" and might someday want to date another guy/girl while still having me as her boyfriend.
Just make it clear right now for you and her, if you would ever be okay with sharing her. If you cannot, then tell her now so you can break up or she can "Try to change" to probably end up just cheating behind your back and then blame you for it because "You wouldn't let her be herself"

If you are cool with sharing, then give her the green light and share yourself a little bit too since you have a free pass. Honestly, being in an open relationship is no different than being "single and hooking up" because at the end of the day you are still fucking around with people who themselves are fucking around with others. The difference is you get to call one of them your "gf" and she can be your main source of physical and emotional comfort.

If you want a monogamous relationship, be clear on that, and end it. Move on, find someone more old fashioned and settle with them.

>>17302879
So I could say something like "knowing you have physical relationships outside of ours makes me extremely uncomfortable". As long as I'm not saying "no, you can't do that"?

Yeah, can call the cops. Maybe they'll send a cop car out. Gives probable cause of them to stop the guy and ask some questions.

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>>17302897
Called them and they took a bunch of details. Some officers coming here too so they can get some more stuff. Feel pretty calm with everything now.

I hope you at least sterilized the needle. Just put some strong alcohol where you made a hole. And go to a doctor. Preferably not the same one who patched you up.

>>17302864
>>17302864
try triple antibiotic cream for now, but its likely going to need a course of antibiotics from a doctor.

>>17302864
Just squeeze the puss out, pour rubbing alcohol on it as suggested, and take an antibiotic over a day or two for good measure.

Then question why you're such a pussy to have gotten stitches on fucking paper-cut. That's the real problem here.

What will you eat?

>>17303116
Most cereals, unless it's mixed with berries/raisins.
Pizza, but it can't have any topping, extra cheese is fine.
Hot dogs, no buns or condiments.
Chicken Tenders/nuggets, no sauce.
Bacon, I can't do sausage though.
Eggs, only scrambled.
Hashbrowns are fine, fries/wedges are fine.
Peanut butter sandwhiches on any bread, but no jelly.
Jelly toast on any bread, but no butter.
There's other various stuff I eat as well, but that's a general idea of some of the main foods I eat and how I get by in most social scenarios.

If I were you, I would try and eat the stuff I'm used to and just adding one ingredient I'm not used to. Try eating them together, you'll get your familiar taste in, but it will also open you to eating other stuff. And just keep trying.

>>17302820
Try to physically exhaust yourself so you can hit the bed and crash straight out. Maybe just try to lay in bed and sleep when you're trying to go to bed and try and force it.

Or stay up for 24+ hours so you will be tired when the next 11:00 pm rolls around.

>>17302820
Nigga we gave you a ton of helpful shit in the last thread.

>>17302820
If you exercise falling asleep is easy at any time.

Really exercise, though.

Don't be that asshole that won't shutup on the flight and thinks it's a good idea to play games.

Put some headphones on, read a book, and shut the fuck up.

>>17302794
>fun games to play, or just some ideas for inflight or airport antics

All of this sounds terrible. Stop planning whatever you're doing right now, chicks can't stand tryhards.

>>17302824
>"HEEYYY WANT TO PLAY A CARD GAME?@#$!@%"
>"u-um, n-no thanks just going to read here"
>"OKAY LET ME KNOW IF YOU WANT TO PLAY SOME FUN GAMES!!#@$"
>"k"

>>17302761
Go to your doctor.

>Unlike the others

It's the second time something like this it's growing on he same spot, lost the other one since it had no root

Doctor is your best bet. Dont feel ashamed senpai. I had something similiar and i got rid of it myself by literally ripping whole toenail off but it was smallest finger. I dont recommend it since it really hurts for few weeks, it can get infected etc etc.

Well, first of all, stop worrying about hypothetical shit. Worrying about problems that don't exist yet is the surest way to help manifest them.

Second, just try not to overthink it. Being together in person is something that legitimate relationships are capable of handling, if you get with her and find you have these problems, then it's not meant to be, whatever. For now, all you should worry about is going and having a good time with a girl that actually wants to see you naked. Girls wanting to see you naked is a pretty good feel though.

>>17302771
You right about that last part. Yeah, I'm being treated for clinical anxiety so it's hard not to think about all the random shit that could happen. Thanks though, it would be for the best if I could turn it off for once.

>>17302773
I understand the frustration, I get bad anxiety too sometimes worrying about hypothetical shit.

You have to embrace your zen bro. If you've never really studied any of the eastern religions, it might do you some good. I'm not saying I believe in reincarnation or karma or shit like that, but that idea of zen. Living in the moment, remembering that the moment is all you have because all that comes before is gone and all that's yet to pass still hasn't. Whatever happens, happens. You can't control, predict, or foresee the future, so all you can do is live your life to the best of your ability and deal with the consequences as they come. Just be man.

>>17302722
>Problem is I think he's awesome and really want something to happen but I'm afraid of coming off too strong/creepy/desperate.
Are you male or female?
If you're female, don't worry about it: if he's into you and you screw up and spill spaghetti or do something awkward, he's just going to think it's cute as hell.

Approach depends on what you want. Keep talking to him regardless.
Keep in mind that some guys are oblivious as hell and can't tell you're into them until you do something obvious enough (like ask him out or straight-up tell him).

>>17302778
A L L O F T H I S

Don't be afraid to make the first move, chances are he's just as scared and would love you to.

>>17302778
I'm female, and I know the first part is true but I mean that only counts if he's into me and I don't wanna assume that he is... I think I only became 'desirable' over the past year, so I still think of myself as a loser and have a hard time seeing myself as someone you'd want to date, so maybe that's why I'm being hard on myself.

>>17302788
The difficult part is striking up conversation online in a smooth way so that I can even make any move at all, it seems we have a lot in common so it shouldn't be that difficult but I dunno. As a loser it's all pretty new to me. :( But I don't wanna risk missing out on something potentially really good because of fear of rejection.

>>17302720
In Japan, souvenirs apparently are quite popular, so you should definitely ask. If it sounds like you're showing off, then it's most likely the way you're telling her about it. Try "I really loved seeing xy, so I wanted to share pictures with you so you experience a bit of it as well" instead of simply shoving it down her throat in a less pleasant manner.

>>17302818
Ah ok. Thanks for the tip

Just ask her. People do it all the time