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It's time to bail, OP.

>>17303239
How come?

>>17303303
Because she repeatedly makes decisions she regrets. How do you think that will play into a relationship?

>>17303182
if you are unattractive, yes, it would be creepy

>>17303187
lmao, this.

As long as you aren't ugly and your car isnt a shit hole she would probably be fine.

Its not working because you two don't have chemistry. It might feel like it at first but it's just because the two of you might find each other mildly amusing/attractive Once you find a girl you click with it will be fine.

>>17303248

mostly this. you dont need to be interesting outside of how you interact with that person.

no one really cares about your hobbies or your job or anything like that unless it relates to them. otherwise its just small talk and that gets boring the second time you bring it up.

you as a person, should be able to maintain conversation just by enjoying 'shooting the shit' with someone. if it was a 'who is the most interesting' contest no one would have any friends. cuz were mostly the same.

its not just guys who go surfing and ziplining who get girls.

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>>17303178
Do stupid shit that is interesting.
Literally had a girl start to crush because she saw a video of me on ig eating glue. Didn't even know her kek

No, it's not morally wrong because you don't have all eternity for your search. If you refuse to have kids altogether because of your standards, the next generation will be from people who had their standards lower.

>>17303157

Life is random and meaningless, and evolution doesn't care about your happiness.

The most moral decision is to have no children at all, because you're creating a conscious life, and gambling on it having a good life (In todays world, no less).

You are solely morally responsible for all the shit that happens to it. (Personality is genetic, too, so even if they just suck as a person, it came from you or the other parent).

But as far as the universe itself is concerned, the only obligation is any is that your child is at least good enough to stay alive and copy itself eventually, even if it impregnates a hooker.

>>17303157
You can not know what the best genetics are. You settle with someone you would like to spend the rest of your lifes with and everything that comes with it, this includes you thinking this person will be as good with their children as they are with you.

Also not everybody thinks only of their child, some people with fucked up genetic diseases have kids knowing they can fuck them, others choose to not have kids since they would not want to have their children suffering the way they did.

Get some headphones download some music and enroll in a cheap gym if you can. Not to lift weights and get buff but to use a treadmill and exercise bikes while listening to music. You can get out of the house and at least have a feeling of like you did something.

I suffer from depression as well. Getting a job was one of the best things I ever did. It's a crappy waiter job, but the people I work with are great and they seem to like me a lot too. I still suffer from what you do. Being lazy and generally not doing much, but I'm still in a much better place. Doing something, anything at all, and getting some money out of it is an amazing feeling. Take it day by day too. I'm still fat and lazy, but I'm not jobless anymore. Maybe soon I'll push myself to get better. This isn't a race. You're gonna be okay.

>>17303153
I was recommended to do this & have already started. I run 2-3 miles twice a week through field lands nearby, and attend gym 3 days a week.

I have been at it for a month and already I hate it, I have the build of a little girl & its really fucking scary walking into a gym being surrounded by men who could snap your spine in two if they felt like it. I know the whole point of a gym is a path to not being a skinny dude but I am just filled with fear and adrenaline walking into that place. Dunno how much longer I'll be attending since it'll take two years of this for any real change to happen. I do enjoy the actual routines though.

But I don't feel different. I still feel empty.

>>17303129
tl;dr but I imagine you haven't fucked anyone in the last year?

That'll do the trick. Force yourself. Get viagra if you have to

Your brain just needs a good blast of oxytocin brought about by someone else

>>17303137
I have. I've had sex with very good looking people and it makes me feel empty inside. I love this person so much and I want this person in my life. I'm not sure if I can take no as an answer. I'm also not sure if making a huge statement of my love is acceptable in todays society or if it will look sickly and obsessive. Lastly, I am not sure if I AM sickly and obsessive over them or if this is just a case of true love.

>>17303145
You are sickly and obsessive

Why isn't that person talking to anyone?

When I did that it was because of severe depression and drug abuse.

> It's very hard and there are a lot of things I could say that would maybe clarify things
What things?

>I have failed to sufficiently deliver over the last month because I always last a little bit of time and then I cave and say something small or reply to a tweet or SOMETHING and even if I have good things to say
Are you a stalker?

> I even have things at their house which I would kind of like to get back (however they live an hour and a half away) and I want to give them space because a series of past events have led them to feel this dislocated sort of way and they have emphasized it's not my fault but have asked to please give them space and stop worrying about them yet here I am.
Now it's "them"?

Can't give advice without more information on what is going on.

>>17303284
They have no insurance at the moment.
They have bad depression and BPD and a series of mentally / physically / sexually abusive exes that have kind of left them feeling drained and basically they need to recharge. I would like to point out that they were dating me and we seperation because they couldn't handle a relationship. We talked for a while and then went completely non verbal per their decision because the idea of someone having a romantic attachment to them is far too much for them to handle right now. They attempted suicide once before I knew them and they still are unsure if they're glad they woke up after all of this pills and alcohol they consumed.

This has left me in a very fragile state. They said recently they will never be able to date me again. I can come to terms with this out of respect but before they had their breakdown we were incredibly happy and in love. Because of their exes they have trust issues and we started dating as I was coming to terms with my ex of 2 years being mentally/emotionally abusive but it was light and they were still nice and kind and in love with me. However, they had tried breaking up with me a few times in the past and I would fight to get them back and after that happened 3 times when it was finally my turn, I had a hard time breaking up with them because I knew it'd be better in the long run. I liked them a lot but it had to happen, but the person I'm talking about said it was okay if I took a week or so to break up with my previous ex because I wanted to be gentle about it and I even mentioned I had another crush but they still clung on (keep in mind they had threatened a break up on me a few times with less remorse before this and are also now just as happier as they've ever been when they were with me with a new partner) back to my most recent ex that I posted this thread about, they told me all the while that exactly what we were doing (liking eachother and kissing) happened to them when they had a guy say they liked them and made out with them for 2 weeks but he didn't even try to break up with his gf while that happened and then they told his gf because it was fucked up and then they got pissed and never talked again.

>>17303104
Depends on the girl. But she could literally mean that, while it's none of her business, she had knowledge that she has a boyfriend already.

If your interest was flirting back, it could be a warning sign that she's willing to cheat on her boyfriend. If not, this could be a reasonable explanation as to why she might have rejected your advances.

Or she could be a passive-aggressive bitch who just doesn't want you or her friend to get laid. I dunno man, we weren't there.

>>17303104
>When femanons say "I don't care", it means they're actually pissed right?

i too would like to know this

Do what you want usually means
you'll pay for it later
so yes she mad

>>17303096
No, she should respect you and don't be emotionally close to a person she is attracted to and who is attracted to her.
It's perfectly reasonable to ask her to stop talking to him if it makes you uncomfortable.
Don't say she "can't" talk to him, but tell her that it makes you feel bad and you'd prefer if there were some boundaries, and while she can still be friendly and nice to him, you don't want them to be close.

>>17303096
Come on, man. You know the answer to this.

Don't lose your self respect.

>>17303105
I think it's the respect part that annoys me the most if she didn't like a girl because she thinks she's to close then I'll back off a little but when I asked the same over a guy she only knew for 2 months :/

>>17303095
>eating asparagus for maximum stinky load
My gag reflex kicked off.

However, I've heard citrus fruits makes cum taste good, if you want to be considerate...

>>17303198
>if you want to be considerate

No point in being considerate if I'm wearing my luchador mask and she'll never recognize me anyway.

>>17303203
Not much of a ladies man, are you?

Bump?

>>17303071
There is no answer as everyone is different.
If you have no luck with women, you'll probably fall right back into her the moment you talk to her again.

>>17303177
So i should contact her only after i get a gf?

What does this even mean

I think they're asking how to git gud at rhythm games. Lmao

Play guitar

Sell, delete, give away everything you ever earned - have nothing to comeback to.

>>17303039
kys

You already know what to do but you're to much of a degenerate to change your ways so let me spell it out for you
1. Stop doing drugs
2. Quit selling drugs
3. Write a decent fucking resume there's a million fucking guides on the internet.
4. Spend your 'hustle' on some decent clothes and shoes
5. Hand out resumes in your local area.
6. Go to job interview
7. Work your ass off
8. Think about something you'd be interested in doing for a long-term career, read up on the requirements you need to do that.
9. Begin completing requirements while working at your job you achieved in step 7.
10. Be a kind and decent person in society.

>>17303016
Bump

Thanks OP. Now I gotta reinstall Morrowind

>>17302994
Buy a vibrator

Viagra
Cock ring

Viagra, cialis, and maybe alcohol should do the trick.