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>>17309543
In my opinion your jealousy is justified, if i imagine i would be in the same situation with my gf i would probably be like that aswell.
However i think it would be wrong to tell her to break up contact with him, you are her boyfriend after all and if there is no fundamental trust then i can assure you that you wouldn't be happy on the long term.
So just be chilll and relaxed and suck it up, you are not her owner.

>>17309543
>a few days before we decided we were in a relationship

I don't think you are over reacting and it is normal to be jealous of a guy still in your gf's life she fucked not long ago.
Couple questions,

Were you guys already dating but not committed just yet when she fucked the friend?
How did you decide you were in a relationship? What changed?
Have you had sex with her? When?

>>17309543
I don't understand a girls insistence she remain very close friends and socialize regularly alone with a guy they had a sexual relationship with when she enters a committed relationship with another man. The relationship with the "friend" should change (doesn't mean it ends) because her status has changed. What the girls expect is to continue to behave as if they are single and the guy they say they are committed to must accept it and shut up or get out.

>>17309529
Dad and mom split around 11yrs old. He spent as much time with me as he could, tried to do what he could and was willing to help me in any way he could. I consider him a good dad.

He did not push me though. It was up to me to go practice, or do my homework. I found that role model in my friends dad. It's not that I wasn't self motivated, but my dad wasn't a "life experiences" kind of dad and spent his time in the bleachers and left it up to me to find ways to improve. I wish he had been more motivational and had been looking for that next level, I would have tried, he was my dad after all. Not overbearing or had unreasonable expectations, just sky's the limit attitude

We did typical father-son things. Playing football, going for runs, going swimming, going to amusement parks and so on. Plus, he beat me a few times to teach me a lesson, which I'm thankful for. I think all this new hippy dippy "just ask your kid politely to stop being a cunt" shit is, well, shit.

Contrary to the poster above me, he pushed me but never beyond my comfort zone. He wanted me to learn piano and violin and join sports team and take up running properly but I never did, and he was alright with my decisions.

I love my dad.

I love my dad. I just feel bad for him. I think a tall, handsome, almost professional footballer who makes half a million a year probably expected more from his first son. He's a good dad, but a sculptor can't do much with shit. I'm glad my younger brother takes after him. He's a good kid and I'm glad they have the relationship they do. Makes me feel alot less guilty.

He is a stellar dad though. He works hard, has always provided, always put us first, always pushed us to do our best and is always giving us nuggets of wisdom. Never laid a hand on us, but we knew if we fucked up shit was going down. The kinda guy who can't walk 2 feet without someone recognising him and the kinda guy that everyone has a hilarious story or treasured memory of.

I'm sorry dad.

>>17309519
What do you want to do? Can you move into another related field of study so that your credits will count towards something? Why not go into English with a minor in CS/IT?

>>17309593
Thanks for the reply. Yah, getting a degree in English can be a good idea. Otherwise I'm kind of only interested in graphic design, architecture or psychology. Unfortunately these don't seem to be easy job opportunity careers (which is why people talked me out of them when I was younger) and I probably won't have any subjects in common with those except 2 maybe. Though I'm sure my current knowledge won't be completely wasted.

>>17309519
What do you WANT to do? Suppose money/job/time were not an issue. What would you most enjoy studying or doing for the rest of your life?

OK now. Just how unreasonable/impossible is that? Chances are that the worst that would happen if you followed that dream is that you'd lose a couple of years in having to change a major and take different courses. That's a very small price.

Is she in any way legally obligated to tell him if she is pregnant?
He want to be part of the pregnancy if it is his. But of course he wishes for an abortion. He doesn't want to play family with her, he doesn't have any feelings for her but he will want to support the child and see them.

It's just so awful how a woman can do this to a man. Of course he should have thought about it before, gotten to know her better but he trusted that sex with a condom is safe and didn't doubt that she would go this crazy.

Just ignore her. She's obviously crazy and/or lying, otherwise she would have shown him proof that she's pregnant.

If you're living in America, she can't just show up to his door with a baby and take his money.

If she wants him to pay child support, he has the right to ask for a DNA test. If she IS pregnant, she has the baby, and a DNA test proves him to be the father - then he will probably have to pay child support.

Otherwise, just save all records of their text/e-mail exchanges for legal purposes and ignore her empty threats.

>>17309730
But he wants to go to ultra sound with her if she is pregnant but she says she won't let him know anything about the baby until it's born. I think my bf should write her a very polite message saying it is best for the baby and the parents that the father knows if she is pregnant.

>>17309492
It looks like pencillan/amoxicillan, but usually horse powdered pills are prescribed. Then again it could be 60 mg of adderall.. so idk, she wouldnt overdose that cause they usually make the mg that are horse pills large enough to not need more than one

>>17309492
Maybe. It could be anything. Why would you take something when you don't know what's in it?

I believe they sell OTC charcoal. The kind you drink and it absorbs whatever is in your stomach. Not much that can be done once it's in your bloodstream though. Hope it was a friendly drug, gl OP

OP is ded

A degree at a university is not something you want to get if you have money trouble.

The value of almost any education is falling extremely fast these days with all information being available online.
Self educate yourself while working

>>17309484
Not really money problems, both parents have jobs, they arent in any debt. If I wouldnt study, they would not give me anything, and as for now I couldnt get anywhere. I still want to study, but I dont want to leech on my parents as my sister kinda does, instead of getting a well paying job that she could easily find, she just studies more. I feel like it is my turn to support them, even for a bit, and let them have money on their stuff.

>>17309499
I would recommend getting a job first, and then see if they can perhaps help you with studies. Many organizations have such programs

If not, save up money while working and start studying later. I'm currently on my 4th year of work and haven't gone to a uni. I'm now a senior manager without (official) education, I've just been reading and improving myself on my own.

What the fuck is a concealer?

>>17309471
No. Go away troll

>>17309478
I'm a woman with baggy eyes and I was wondering if guys find covering it up as dishonest or gross

>>17309467
Wah.

>tfw you'll never create something original
>tfw you life and the life of your peers is completely meaningless
>tfw everything you'll ever do will be for the benefit of someone over you
>tfw you will always be a wageslave
>tfw you have to celebrate the wageslaving achievements, like getting a degree or a promotion
The worst feel.

>>17309467
Why not just take your violin and leave everything behind? You can become a street performer to earn the cash to eat and travel. If you live in Europe you already have access to all other European countries whoch is nice. Just do it OP

>>79271903
I think I will play with binary options and CFD and lottery until my parents died.

Do whatever the fuck you want.
Just do something!

>>17309487
Getting hired is not the thing I can do if I want
Getting laid isn't too.

>>17309441
Try to be more vague about what the situation is, that might help

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ADUM ADUM ADUM

>>17309441
face it head on, you're only going to keep making yourself anxious if you avoid it.

why date multiple, if you could instead just fuck multiple?

>>17309424
Sex is usually in the mix

>>17309424
Because you don't want to eat same kind of food all the time.

>>17309387
i can hear the sound of boners approaching

>>17309387
I think i know what you're talking about and I masturbate the exact same way...so yeah, you're normal. WE*'re normal.

>>17309387
Literally everyone does this

You don't. Smile and compliment them for being observant. Seriously, the fact that people comment on it means it's less boring than having average eyes.

>>17309378
i like your eyes.

>>17309378
I love your eyes. They're really deep and mysterious and I could probably get lost in them for hours if you'd let me. bye!

It's possible she is waiting for you to move in.
She might feel like a piece of shit for leaving a caring boyfriend for a faggot like you, and this could be the reason she stopped talking to you.

Man up and start having convos with her again, but don't push things too fast. She might want to wait a sec before a new relationship.

>>17309358
she sounds like the type of girls that has a bunch of guys chasing after her, you could of been one of them and not chosen as her next bf. or maybe she is waiting for you to make a move.

>>17309375
>>17309366
>He will always have a special place in my heart. I will always love you. I will always treasure our friendship. I will always be grateful for what we shared. I will always consider you my best friend. And I hope that you will always remain in my life because the person that I am today is all thanks to and because of you. You’re really, incredibly special to me and you truly are irreplaceable

friend said she wrote this about me three weeks before they broke up. Good or bad brah

I'd like to know about this as well. What could be the underlying reasons?

Is the problem within you or the friends? It shouldn't be happening all the time.

>>17309418
Most probably both.

I think I can be an annoying person, but still, even an idiot can see that I have been really close to some of these people yet they all leave in this exact same way.

Is this normal? I feel I'm right to be freaking out like this.

Are you a girl? If yes, then maybe he likes you and don't want to carry those feelings for too long so he wants to forget you.
Or maybe he's just an aloof person and can't really express himself