How do you balance being fair to your significant other, with getting what you want?
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>>17332549
Compromise.
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>>17332558
how do you go about deciding what's a fair compromise and what isn't, though?
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>>17332595
Well, that would be up to the people making the compromise and what's being compromised... it's hard to say without knowing various factors, but generally, and ideally, a compromise is successful when the two parties are more or less happy with the decisions made.
Are you asking for a specific reason? I could add more input if I had more information.
So /adv/ i asked /b/ but they were no help. Whether you believe me or not i've never asked you for anything and i've been here from the start lets just get that out of the way.
I need your help. I'm running away from everything, I won't sugar coat this, and i need your help. I have about $1k in things i can pawn, a good bit of clothes suitable for all weathers, survival knowledge ranging from basic to advanced in various aspects, $500 in cash, an inherited car that gets 27 MPG and is already entirely paid off that i'd rather die than sell, and a passport.
Now, here's the issue: what do i do and where do i go to get the most of what i got before i kill myself.
Before you try and talk me out of it i've tried literally everything else to squeeze what i can out of life and it's shit across the board and the depression just won't stop getting worse.
My final hope is this: get out there and see what i can and maybe light that spark i never had.
Help.
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>>17332537
Okay, well... first thing to know would be where you live. You said you'd rather die than sell your car, and assuming you want to keep your car with you, that determines where you can travel to.
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>>17332550
Minnesota. Namely a little suburb just outside Minneapolis. I'm fairly well traveled ranging all the way up to browning montana, the very tip of florida, some parts of texas, baltimore rhode island, madison wisconsin, and some parts of canada namely just above browning montana.
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Hey anon, I've also been here from the very beginning.
Have you ever tried behavioral therapies for your depression? It worked really really well for me. My periods of depression aren't nearly as long anymore either.
Also if you are really dead set on moving maybe pick a place with lots of natural beauty. I dunno, nature always makes me feel very relaxed
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>dating girl for 3 years now
>her ex was abusive as fuck
>he beat her senseless until she decided to leave
>i help her be happy again
>3 years later, we're doing great
>we're even looking to move in together at this point
>be a month ago
>she leaves me, saying that she doesn't know what she wants and i deserve someone better
>1 week later she sets her relationship status public on fb, she's back with her abusive ex
>taking lots of selfies with him on instagram
>be yesterday night
>she calls me, i dont answer
>wake up in the morning, scrolling through my facebook feed
>see mugshot of "man" aka her abusive bf arrested for domestic battery last night
>he beat her again
Why are some women so stupid? Do I block all contact with her or do I reach out to her?
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>>17332514
Tell her she's fucking stupid and then block contact. She's cancerous to you
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>>17332514
Cut her off. Fact of the matter is, you're a beta compared to him.
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>>17332514
Use for sex, simple and plain.
You will do her much good by continuing to not beat her, you don't have to do much more than that OP don't kys. Definitely do not date, but feel free to indirectly/deceptively make her feel like there is a future with you although one doesn't really exist
I need help /adv/. There this girl I go to work with. For the most part I can only assume she likes me. I like her. I want to ask her out.
Today I worked with her and I tried to get a moment alone where I could ask her (we both are fairly busy) and I just couldn't do it. I figured at the end of the day when we walk to our cars I'll ask her. She parked fairly close to me anyway.
But at the end of the day, she walked out to her car and practically ran. Didn't even get to talk to her. I even clocked out before she did. By the time I got to my car, walking as fast as I could, she pulled out and was driving away.
Obviously I need to do something. There is very little opportunity to ask her out, let alone talk to her. In the past I've talked to her, she seemed great. I don't really understand.
Should I just give up? Don't even start with the "don't date coworkers" it's a minimum wage job, nothing important, we both go to college.
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Pic related suggests asking her out in front of everyone. I'm a perma-virgin so i don't have any advice to give, but maybe this helps.
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>>17332543
was it the one about the finger wiggling?
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>I think this girl likes me
You know her behaviour indicates that she's avoiding you, right?
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i haven't had sex in 5 months, broke it off with the last woman I was dating. seriously considering just getting a hooker cause tinder isn't really working out and i'm lonely and really trying not to be sad.
the truth is i really don't have much to offer a woman. i don't have the support of my parents, i live alone in a dingy basement apartment. i'm graduating from my last year of engineering this year. i smoke too much weed. i've pretty much been working all the time since i was 16 or so but I don't have a car or anything like that. i'm 24 now. i guess the best thing I have going for me is people say I'm good looking and have a deep voice?
to be quite honest i basically feel like a loser. my own parents don't like me and i can't say i have a good relationship with anyone in my family. i have very poor social skills and have never been able to find a particularly good job. I've lived alone since I was 20. I haven't seen friends in months, some well over a year or two. I don't even know if I can call them friends. My main joys in life are browsing this website, playing video games and watching youtube videos.
I really don't have much joy in life otherwise. I guess there are a lot of problems with me but is it really so bad to just see an escort if you just want an escape for a little bit. I'm sure I'll find another girlfriend eventually but i literally have no friends, my family hates me and i'm just lonely and tired all the time.
am i that bad of a guy for fucking a hooker?
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>>17332478
I would consider dating you now if I knew you but would be put off by the hooker scenario if that happened so think about that
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What's so wrong with just jacking off to internet porn?
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>>17332478
This thread has potential for a shitfest. I'll be lurking.
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Sorry if this is the wrong board and if it's a stupid question because I'm not exactly sure where is is suppose to go.( bear with me this is a long story)
Well I wanted to know if it's normal to have a black spot in memory, possibly near the time you were born. I was talking to a family member about it and she said I sounded crazy.
This is kind of hard to explain but I'm going to try. Basically it was a point where it felt like I was in a black void for 2-3 years. No, I don't mean black void like something on /x/ I mean a somewhat mental void. In a way that felt like instinct or something of the sort I knew I was in a world walking around and doing stuff but mentally I was somewhere else. What I could see was,like I said,a black void. I could see far ahead of me but there was nothing but blackness everywhere.
I know it's not much to go off by but I've been curious about this for a while. I'm not sure if it's a false memory or something happening mentally or what. If someone knows what it might be I'd appreciate if someone told me. I'm worried this is a mental problem or something.
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Guess it wasn't that long of a story really.
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>>17332466
OP the average human adult doesn't have any memories earlier than age 4 yes that is extremely normal did you not go to grade school or something
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Well yeah I know that. I was curious if it's normal to remember being in a black void just patiently waiting for 4 years.
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How do I get over my fear of asking women out? I'm fine talking with them, can hold a fairly decent conversation, I just can't ask them out.
Id like to think I'm a fairly confident person, above average looks, good job, well above average intelligence; kind of faced rejection and felt like an outcast my whole life though.
Even if they show genuine interest in me, and I know they are single, I can't get myself to the point to ask for a number.
>Man up and do it.
I've tried, god have i tried, I just shut down.
Haven't been single my entire life, I've only dated one girl and it was a long, drawn out, bad relationship of 4 1/2 years. and she came to me, and gave me her number and made it very clear she wanted a relationship.
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>Haven't been single my entire life
>relationship of 4 1/2 years
You shouldn't be asking women out at 4 years old
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>>17332479
Funny you should joke about that, First time i told a girl i liked her i was 5, she laughed, told all her friends, i became a joke, and is probably the reason i have this problem 17 years later, because i literately haven't asked a girl out since.
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>>17332462
>Even if they show genuine interest in me
Try to realize that at that point, it's almost your duty to ask them out, and they'll feel bad if you don't.
That's what helped me at least, probably since i don't like bothering people (also a childhood thing).
If she does something to make it clear she likes me and wants me to ask her out, then i'm not bothering her, so it's fine.
Good luck.
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I've been considering buying a fucking tablet so I can join the rest of the human race on shit like kik and tindr or whatever it's called just so I can meet people. I'd go out and walk around, but the town is small as fuck.
I've tried okcupid and craigslist here, but everyone's a biblethumper. You know, the kind that fucking have jesus in their about me section.
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Do you actually not own a smartphone or something?
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>>17332461
use an emulator on pc
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>>17332461
Oh I should of asked, are my chances at finding people better on kik or tindr than they are using online websites? I only ask since I stopped paying attention to things like tablets and other weird devices back in high school when they made like the third iteration of the ipod back when limewire was still a thing.
So I really like this girl at my high school, and I'm pretty sure she likes me too, but I just broke up with her best friend a couple weeks ago. I really don't wanna hurt their friendship, but I really like her. What do? Pic is my political compass bc y not.
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>>17332449
Just go for her anyway
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>>17332465
Above *******^
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>>17332538
Sounds like you're perfect for each other
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>Someone I know wants to set me up with a friend of hers
>I have terrible social anxiety when it comes to women
>don't know who her friend is or what she's like. all I know is that she thinks I'm cute.
>never dated before and I don't even like talking about it to my parents. I just try to avoid the topic.
So what should I do? Should I tell her I'd like to meet her friend? How do I overcome this fear of talking to my parents about it? What if I meet this girl and I'm just not interested in her?
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>So what should I do? Should I tell her I'd like to meet her friend?
Yes if you want to. You've really got nothing to lose. If there's no chemistry, you'll just have an awkward conversation with a stranger then go both go home. So what?
>How do I overcome this fear of talking to my parents about it?
Why talk about your parents about it at all?
>What if I meet this girl and I'm just not interested in her?
Then you get on with your life as it was before you met her.
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>>17332444
>Why talk about your parents about it at all?
If I go out they're going to ask me where I'm going. Then I'll have to talk about it. I'm not gonna lie to them.
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>>17332457
Well then tell them the truth, it might be a little awkward, but they're your parents and they're gonna be proud (unless your female and they're homophobic).
I can't see them ever judging you badly for dating, as I said in my other post. It's just gonna be an awkward conversation for you. Life is full of them for us betas.
You've just gotta go for it if you're ever gonna have a chance at being happy.
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Hey /adv/ question. When a allergy clinic does a blood test would they inform you if you have a STD or STI?
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>>17332419
If they're testing for it. Havent you ever watched House?
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>>17332419
Probably not. They are doing an allergy test, not testing for any sexually transmitted diseases.
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>>17332419
No, they only test allergies
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How do I motivate/encourage a depressed person to do something when their own willpower isn't enough?
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Force then until they pick up the pace.
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them*
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>>17332374
Are you the guy who made a post similar to this about their father?
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I am a pussy faggot, let's get that out of the way. I have come to terms with the fact that I am not a hard worker.
Started my first real job two days ago, at a landscaping place. Thought it was going to be from 7 to 3, turned out to be from 7 to 5:30. My back kills, my legs hurt, and my pasty white skin is burned from head to toe. Planning on calling in to quit tomorrow.
What do you guys think?
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If you enjoy being a pussy faggot and wanna stay that way for the rest of your life, then go ahead, quit.
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>>17332351
Wow. That's probably the best advice I'll get, right off the bat. Thanks.
As far as I know, I would enjoy a solid 9 to 5 job that doesn't require elemental exposure and lifting 24 foot metal ladders more than the trades. Not to mention this is just a summer job before I go to school in the fall.
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The first week at any new job blows, no matter what it is. Everyone gets overwhelmed, you have to let yourself adapt and get used to it.
Your body will eventually get used to the work. For now, stop being a little bitch and wear sunscreen
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Are niggers and fags really oppressed? I've been alive somewhere between 13-18.1 years and I've never seen anyone use nigger or fag as a hateful insult towards actual Africans or LGBTQ people.
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>>17332335
Niggers confuse racism with class-ism. Fags are just hated by alot of people, but not really "oppressed"
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Of course they're not oppressed, those niggers are just being faggots about it.
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it's more to do with a few concepts known as the "glass ceiling", the "glass floor" and the "cycle of poverty"
You can search them in Wikipedia and that will kinda give you a run down of why certain groups are oppressed. Black ppl were slaves, because of the cycle of poverty they never really reached the middle class and because of glass ceilings it's much harder for them to succeed in their careers. While some white ppl have glass floors where they just kinda never have to do much to be successful.
It's stuff you get to learn about in a first year university level sociology class. Kinda interesting but also kinda sad
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How do people use and abuse women and sleep at night? 2016-07-07 02:47:53 Post No.17332326
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How do people use and abuse women and sleep at night?
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I am stuck in a pretty rough situation. I am really stuck on one girl who doesn't even like me. Thats fine.. my problem is that I am stuck and can't really see the beauty in other women because they don't really compare.
I want freedom from this fucking curse but I just can't not give a shit about women. I don't like hurting people, I don't like manipulating or doing dramatic shit.
However, my friend was telling me that if you get stuck on girl and then get unstuck from her, you are just going to get stuck on a different one.
He said the only way to be free, is to just shit on women all the time. Tell them to fuck off when they are being dumb and ignore them when they are being useless.
I can't do that.. my mind just doesn't agree with that life style. Is he right? I really hate talking to him sometimes because he speaks with such conviction that he actually believes he is right which makes me entertain the idea that he is indeed RIGHT.
what is right? Should I really be shitting all over women?(figuratively speaking).
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>>17332326
>the only way to be free, is to just shit on women all the time
Do this with life and you'll be A-OK
OP is a beta fag
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>>17332326
OP you need to understand that all women are going to abuse you in some format, you just might not be savy towards it.
Know yourself, and take care of #1
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>>17332326
Yes but not figuratively
She'll see you pulling your boxers off expecting you too whip out your throbbing red rocket but instead turn around and shit on her face. It'll be hilarious. She'll think it's a great prank p