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You're not afraid of corruption? What are you batman?

>>17333110
The corruption concern is with taking advantage of others. I guess that used to be against my moral code so it's noteworthy.

You're not afraid of being corrupted, you don't care about societies corruption, or you don't give a fuck about what people can do to you?

Don't be that guy that tries to break up a relationship.. Two things come from that either

She cheats on her boyfriend with you and now you begin going out with a cheater who will eventually cheat on you.

Or

She doesn't agree with what your saying she tells her boyfriend and you either get beaten up or her boyfriend will tell her she can't talk or hang out with you.

Wait.

Tell you're friends to mind their business. Even though you sound like a wuss you're right that she has a bf and it's inappropriate. If she leaves him she's fair game but if you step in and confess you're love for her you'll look like a duche and if she does leave him there's always the chance she'll just run back to him and you'll look like a real ass hat.

>>17333088
Told you it's some complex shit

>>17333091
Yeah, it's just I end up wanting to cry and stone face myself from my friends because it's like they don't get it.
I'm happy that you get it, also another thing though is that I also a female friend and she was at the same situation but she's the person in the relationship, and when guys tell her, she doesn't mind and still views them as a friend

Not sure if this is case her with her though so that's why I'm backing off, and like I said and you said, it's rude and disrepectful on her and who she's with.
I don't want to be that guy

Just talk to people.

Hey hows it going.

One of two things is going to happen. Theyll say hi back or they wont.

Its not the end of the world.

I got over my shyness while i was high on shrooms i realized that if i was diagnosed with a terminal illness and was going to die in a month or a year id regret not doing something as simple as socializing.

Think of it that way. If you had just tomorrow left wouldnt you feel kinda silly letting something as small as social anxiety get in the way.

The thing is you will always gwt rejected. There will always be awkward moments and you will get along with people.

Tl;dr
you dont live long enough to fear socializing. Just start practicing by smiling and saying hi to random people.

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>>17333047

Are you living in the dorms? The first few weeks in the dorms everyone is super eager to meet new people because 90% of them are in the same boat as you. Be open to social experiences during the beginning of the school year.

I used to be just like you in high school but I met tons of people in college and made a lot of friends, I decided to let go of the part of me that was afraid to put myself out there and just went with the flow.

Also get involved on campus, I never thought I would have done this but I joined my colleges mock trial team; met a lot of great people this way and really improved my public speaking skills. I was scared shitless at first, but now I am so glad that I did it. I'm now in law school because of that, never saw myself doing that.

Don't sweat the small stuff man, when you hear that people are doing something join in rather than sitting in your room on the computer. Just make yourself available, shit will work out and then also join something on campus even if you think it wont be for you.

Thanks guys the one thing is than I'm pretty awkward and can't find the courage to be outgoing , idk how to hold a conversation I'm not that intellectual ether , once in a while il be spontaneous but the other days I feel pretty weird ,

>>17333043
Not answering texts? Damn bro. You got to meet her in real life.

>>17333043
>The thing is that she hasn't been answering my texts lately and I have absolutely no idea if she's mad at me or not or I'm just contacting her at a bad time.
Fuck this shit, it's disrespectful and childish to leave the other person hanging imho. I know most people in this generation feel differently since they weren't taught any fucking respect, but it still bothers me.

>What should I do? How should I tell her how I feel about her?
Talk to her in person, like >>17333045 said.
Don't text her that shit, that's almost always a bad idea. Especially when she isn't replying to any other texts.

Honestly, try to start letting go, man. If she doesn't give enough of a shit to reply to your texts, she probably doesn't want you at all.

>>17333043
You missed the opportunity. Suck it up and move on.

I try to never post this, but
>just b urself :^)

>>17333000

your fellow weirdos haven't seen you geek out enough to believe you're not a dudebro yet.

If you want a mate with similar interests, you just need more patience and exposure.

act like that guy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErOqVN3hbxo

>>17332997
If you have to have that talk, you shouldn't be having kids.
My uncle's a cop. When do you think he did it?

>>17332997
Why not try reaching your kids to respect cops instead? Otherwise you're setting them up to be dindus

>>17333007
I've read plenty of comments by sons and daughters of cops who say the same thing. Don't talk to the cops. There is a very famous YouTube video of a defense lawyer giving a lecture to a bunch of law students, followed up by a career cop agreeing with, don't fucking talk to cops, you have literally nothing to gain if they are investigating a crime. My aunt and uncle are both cops, they're good people, but if someone close to me went missing, I would tell them LAWYER PLEASE!

>>17332985
They can only mess with you if you let them. Let it go, don't let them mess with your inner peace - even if your family hates you for whatever reason. Anger passes, but love for others doesn't - if they see you not reacting, they might stop, you will start to stop caring and never rage over their treatment of you ever again.

Small acts of anonymous urban terrorism that can't be traced back to you.
Slowly and patiently make their lives hell
Small acts that combine to large fuckotry.

>>17332985
Could you please explain the situation?

I live in LA and I'm also a musician.

1. Yes. LA is one of the best places in the country to pursue an arts career. There's a huge amount of musicians, venues, and there's a few music institutions here like the prestigious Colburn School of Music.

2. Compton is still dangerous, but not as bad as it used to be in the 90s. Popular culture has made it seem like a fucking warzone 24/7, but the area is actually not that bad. It depends where in Compton your friend lives. There's still gang violence, but it's all about being cautious, aware, and not being naive.

>>17332996
Ok, thank you.

As a jazz bassist (attending either USC or Cal State Northridge) is it possible to make a legitimate living from it?

Everybody uses the LA Times crime map:

http://maps.latimes.com/crime

>>17332914
Do what I do, have one but make sure not to read your wall. Only use it to appease people or message. Facebook is trash and the people that enjoy it are usually kind of trash. Not to say I don't love some of those people, they just happen to find retarded shit funny that is repeated by everyone else with that faggot ass laughing emoticon. I always get a urge to kill myself reading through it. So simple, just don't read or participate.

>>17332933
The main reason I want it is because my social life is close to death. People don't text or call anymore, rarely anyway. And when they text it's over Facebook messenger.

I guess I could make an account and only download the messenger app?

>>17332950
That's probably the best way to go desu. No matter what the fb feed is cancer.

Dude fuck that go outside and do something fun with some homies trust

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>>17332908
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqT0iFZifgw

Here you go

>>17332920
Not gonna show my friends some 10 hour weeb shit while we get high kek

>>17332904
Why do you give a shit about what your coworkers think of you? They're coworkers

That's completely up to you. There are perks to having your coworkers like you. It means you can get lots of good references if you pursue a higher paying gig. Being appreciated is just nice in itself. I'd have to be making an awful lot of money to work somewhere with people I don't get along with.

>>17332973

Not really a matter of liking--they like me, but every day is like having to prove I belong there and am able to do my job. Feeling a bit raw about it today, but I am curious what people think in general. For one thing, I don't think it's possible to get any kind of promotion or whatever without being respected, right?

Off to a good start imo. Wish i could give you advice. Best luck to you

>>17332884
>busy with her studies

No chance faggot.

>>17332975
Some people are actually busy and this could work in his favor if he can figure out how to navigate around her schedule

>>17332875
i have issues with premature ejaculation or at least what i perceive to be PE.

i can't fuck straight on for longer than, like, a minute. i have to fuck, take a short breather (5-10s), go back at it, etc. it sucks that i have to break up the rhythm so much and i feel guilty about it for my gf.

i share your sentiment with the whole "think about something disgusting" so you can last longer thing. like, why the fuck would i want to be intimate with my gf and then completely transport myself and my thoughts away from the act. it makes no sense to me.

i've had experiences where my PE seems to just, i dunno, disappear? like, the planets align and suddenly i can fuck indefinitely. i think something i was more conscious about during those times was being more aware of my breathing.

>>17332875
>>17332875

have more sex
you're not in the moment
you need to be comfortable

if your girlfriend's not a bitch you could talk to her about not feeling fully immersed in the whole thing yet and that it might take some time for you to get used to it


trust me, once you both make the moment as relaxed and chilled out as possible, then you'll be fine

the trick is to not be thinking about cumming btu rather just enjoying the sex

don't go into sex worrying about when you're going to cum, just enjoy it, spend a lot of time on foreplay, and chill, it's impossible to "not think about it" i know, but once you're fully relaxed the problems will disappear

>>17332907

continued:

the way i like to think about it, is that if she makes you feel ike it doesn't matter when you cum, then you're much more likely to just last

in all honesty these tricks you're gonna hear like "work on your pelvic floor muscles" and "put your mind somewhere else" and "focus on your breathing" are quick and incomplete fixes

with most people it's an issue of not being fully immersed in the moment and worrying too much about when they're gonna finish from the getgo

I read something awhile back (could be complete bullshit) about it being a fight or flight response where if yhou're too panicked about it, your body would make you cum as fast as possible, supposedly so you could escape danger faster or whatever, some shit to do with ancestors having to watch their back out in the wild or something when procreating

But yeah, talk to your girlfriend about it, make sure she understands, both of you need to make an environment where you're completely comfortable with finishing early, too late, not making her cum, etc.

Sounds like you are just unwilling to try

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>>17332799
>>17332797

Agreed. Stop being a lazy cunt. If you are wanting to go out and participate in society don't fucking half-ass it like this because it's a waste of your time. You might as well do something more worth your time than a 9-5 if you're this fucking lazy.

Literally all you have to do to get a job is sell yourself. If you can't do that, you're fucked. If you can't learn how to do that, you are unwilling at best.

I'd recommend looking into either trade school or the military.

If that's a little much, get CDL and start driving for a living.

>joining the military
I'm sorry.

>>17332749
I know I'm gonna get fucked by Uncle Sam. The problem is that compared to my current situation it seems a lot comfier.

>>17332741
study the fuck out of an ASVAB book and score well. Get a job in the Chair Force that that is in demand on the outside. Do your time, likely under 10 years, and use your skills and certifications to find work outside. For the love of god, don't join army or marines so you can dig trenches and doggie paddle onto beachheads for a living. not a soul will want you when you get out and you'll wind up working at a pizza place for minimum wage, telling the 17 year olds there about your time in the military.