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My best guess is they just treat you as a "backup". Or they are just bored of you and probably if you left them they wouldn't even bother that much. The good thing is that at least you got someone to talk to.

>>17331315
Part of getting older. It probably isn't you. People will drop old friends like they get rid of an old pair of jeans - pretty seldom there is much hesitation.

I made the mistake of obsessing over it when it happened to me, but it's not worth that. Trust me. Find other things to do and you'll feel better.

>>17332189
Partially agree.

Yes, you shouldn't obsess over it. People are free to make their own choices as to how close a friend they consider you to be, and you can't force them into anything.

But equally, if you fail to attract or keep high-quality friendships, it probably is you. Some people are extremely likeable and enjoyable to be with, and I don't mean in the stereotypical "popular and shit on everyone below you" kind of way. There are ways to make yourself a better person and it can have a profound effect on the way others treat you.

>>17331297
>My boyfriend doesn't know about this
Talk with your boyfriend about it before asking us for help.

>>17331297
Most women are.

Avoid the mother at all costs, explain to your boyfriend the issue and plan on you and your bf to stop seeing his mom

>>17331291

when if irst moved out all i really had was my bed, my computer and some dishes. thats it.

have a skillet and a small pot, and have a plate with some silverware. you dont NEED much else. you slowly start to buy more as you go.

bath towell is of course necessary.

>>17331291
>i need a list of things i NEED. like. i just bought a water filter
why do you need a water filter ? you should probably post where you are from.

toilet paper, laundry detergent, dish soap, shampoo, body wash, toothpaste, toothbrush..as for your fridge (you don't want to spend your money on delivery; you must learn to cook!) eggs, milk, olive oil, deli meat, bread, mayo, ketchup, salt, pepper, bananas, spinach, yogurt, cereal, pasta, pasta sauce and assortments of fresh fruit and veggies if you can afford it. Don't forget clean socks, towels and your laptop. These are ESSENTIALS!!

Just wait. I was later than most. For a long time I was the shy girl who couldn't talk to anybody and absolutely nobody talked to me. Come to find out that really a lot of people had been hitting on me without me noticing, I was so awkward with people that I literally didn't understand flirting at all. In the end it came down to finding a similar group of friends and growing close.
Sorry for the generic twisty not so good advice

>>17331252
>Something that is required to reach self-actualization

Priests, Buddhist monks, and many taoists abstained from sex completely. They were extremely actualized and found great meaning and purpose.

>>17331301
I am none of those things though.

>>17331227
Could you please define normal? What should be considered normal and what should not be.. I think every single person has their own views, so it is worthless to try and divide things into normal and not normal

Yeah I know a girl who is a huge slut.

She started whoring herself out on Craigslist about 4 months ago.

I see her posts all the time lol

yes its normal
how old are you?

Dude Wat?

Dunno. I prefer polyamory. 3 lovely ladies all loving each other is the way to go

>>17331239
This. OP, all the healthy and lasting relationships are not a game of caring less. Did your parents have a happy marriage?

>>17331212
>14 days and 450 messages

That's an average 30 messages a day.

You have autism.

>>17331212
Lol

>>17331240
>>17331246
What's the normal rate going on these days to getting to know someone ?

>>17331161

depends on your definition of douchey to be quite honest. ultimately someone is always going to think ur douchey simply for being fit. just look at tumblr.

my advice? go learn how to swim. ask someone to teach you, go on craigslist and post your concern, find a friend and confide, do something. cuz the pool is your best option. you can also always go and just hang in the shallow end and sunbathe a lot.

>>17331161

also post pics of shirtless? you ca ncover face. im not saying this to be a dick, im just a huge faggot and would appreciate some fitspiration. im the fattest ive ever been at the moment.

>>17331161
Why don't you just learn to swim, ya fuckin dingus? Literal infants can do it, I'm sure you can learn. You're not trying to be the next michael phelps

THERE IS LITERALLY A FITNESS BOARD ON THIS VERY SITE HOLY SH

>>17331131

>i literally only eat fruits and veggies why wont i lose weight

be more honest about your eating habbits.

>>17331145
This. Please go read the >>>/fit/ sticky in it's entirety.

Then
1.) download myfitnesspal
2.) enter EVERYTHING you eat/drink every day accurately
3.) stay within your daily caloric allowance (500 calories below your TDEE)

You should lose about 1 to 2 pounds a week this way. So 4-8 pounds a month.

Ask help from church or your friends.

>>17331094

whore yourself out if you have to. call whoever owns the home (bank) and as for a defferment if you can. go to the bank and ask tot ake out a line of credit to make ends meet. etc.

>>17331181
Talking to the bank seems like a good idea actually, thanks.

Please...I really need some help. I don't have anyone else to go to. All my "friends" don't listen to me.

>>17331117
Yes but you'll have to elaborate, can't help you with so little details..

>>17331090
So your boyfriend said no to you and now you're threatening to kill yourself?
wow
>what do?
Listen to what your friends to you; Grow up

>>17331080
Work 40 hours a week for 4 weeks at $9.38. This is gross obviously since taxes and all that vary heavily.

rob a bank. You wiull earn a lot more than 1,5k

>>17331080

let a different homosexual suck your dick for cash each day. you make at least 100 bucks, at most 200, often 150. you can even throat fuck them hard and they get off on it so you work out your frustrations of being a whore on them.

Writing comes with habit. So if you make it a habit to write a different way your writing will change altogether with time. Yes of course repetition is key.

Is there anything you need to write that actually requires good calligraphy/handwriting? Seems like it's a dying art form.

>>17331105
A few years back my father died. Everyone signed a display that had his portrait on it and left a message. It was kind of embarrassing. It's the thought that counts at that sort of thing, but I know people judged the hell out of me.

>>17331067
LOL

dumbass,

Just stop drinking, its not that fucking hard to not be an addict. I drink and smoke weed when I feel like it but just don't let it be a fucking problem and you won't be a fucking idiot.

Have you tried AA?

Psibocylin (magic mushrooms). Shit's more effective than 50% of other therapy forms combined. Order from the deep web.

>>17331064
Don't lie to your boss you idiot.

If you make it clear these are plans you had made months in advance and would lose a lot of money backing out of, I'm sure your boss will work with you. Don't start lying, it sets a bad precedent.

>>17331064
You should have made it clear that this was planned during the hiring process. Most companies would have promised you the time off then if you were worth hiring. Now it's a shitty time to ask and you should postpone until you have some vacation time.

>>17331101
this

you should let the company known in advance if you have any big trips coming up in the near future - if you're not a fuckup usually it doesn't matter and you're not in a situation like that