I'm starting to emotionally drown. He is so cruel while drunk then forgets it all and expects to go back to normal. Is anyone here dating an alcoholic or an alcoholic and dating? I don't want to run from this man that has so much potential but he is so unemotional and dark he gets drunk 3-4 times a week and they way he treats me has started to effect the my self confidence to the point I don't even know who I am. Is this just a dead end or can I help him make changes. Why are they so cruel while drunk but so nice when sober?
>>17378277
>Dating an alcoholic
Nope, this is the worst idea ever. Leave while you can.
>>17378277
Alcoholic here.
Girlfriend has told me I'm more "lovey" and fun to be around when I drink. Apparently I'm boring and prudish when I'm sober. Her only complaint is sometimes I spill shit or break shit when I'm too drunk.
Some drunks are mean, some aren't. My advice is to leave if it's affecting you to this point that you question it. Someone's potential isn't who they are. If your having issues now there's no guaranteeing you can save him, I would say to walk.
My ex was an alcoholic he was the nastiest most horrible person when drunk he'd tell me to kill myself constantly and became physically violent a few times.
I get the whole wanting to stay because you see potential and when they are sober they are so lovely but ultimately they are the most toxic people to be around. It's been a few months since we broke up and I am 100% back to myself I'm happy and care free and have no worries. When I was with him I was on egg shells constantly I was actually talking to my counsellor today about it and she explained it like this- an alcoholic is trying to fill a void no matter how good and kind you are to them they will destroy you they will pick any fault because they are made of faults. My ex always promised to change and he would for a few weeks and then he'd have a beer then that would turn into drinking everything in the house including 1 month old foul wine just because it was there. You have to let go he is drowning and no matter how many floats you send out ultimately he will drag you down too.
After you end the relationship dedicate your entire time to healing, it will take awhile but it will come little by little see a counsellor, get support of friends and family and don't ever believe him when he says one day I'll be better. I'm so sorry you are going through this dating him was the worst time of my life but now I'm out of it I am so happy, free and confident. Remember no one ever drinks themselves successful and happy they all end up alone and bitter... Just remove yourself as soon as you can.
Hey guys!
I know there are many of us going through this... but I'm really running out of ideas as far as how to find a female companion! I have been without a girlfriend for so long.... that when I seen a fine cutie walking down the street.... light bulbs go off as the pheromones dripping from her butt cheeks enter my nostrils. I can literally smell the sweat from her puss---- calling my name.
I am 28 years old.... and I've absolutely exhausted all avenues of social media, online social networking, networking through existing friends.... and absolutely nothing works. I'll be honest, I'm pretty lame, simple, but down to earth. There are many guys like this who don't have issues and others that do when it comes to finding women; however, I guess I haven't found what works for me.
I'm depressed... and it's all I ever think about now more than ever... only because I've allowed so many years to pass by WITHOUT worrying about it so much. I just live my life pretending it doesn't bother me... but it hits me hard sometimes.
Is it safe to say I might as well prepare for more countless years of solitude while I sneak into my thirties? It's hard not to give up, but I feel powerless.
bump plz
>>17378252
Do you talk to girls the same way you talk in this post?
I need to know more about you to say anything really valuable, but best bet is to go to bars and say hi in a non-autistic way, and get tinder, it's dope
>>17378292
Tried tinder. Didn't work for me. Not one female replied. In Ohio at least, it's extremely difficult for minorities to get dates on there. I'd probably have more luck if I was an 8 though or if I lived in a more liberal state like California haha.
So this might be a stupid thing to ask but I've been giving it some thought since last night.
Yesterday I went to this "theatre impro". Basically these 5 guys would ask the crowd for topics, objects or whatever and build a short impro around them.
At the end they chose two people from the public, me and a girl. They specified they had to be single, thinking about a conversation after all is done I guess.
Anyway, me and this girl were picked, we were asked a few things and then they tried to play us based on what we said.
Here is the thing that bugs me out, right before the play ended the girl left (she came with a friend who remained there)
I came with my father and little brother so wasn't in a mood for flirting and wasn't gonna tell her anything.
My question is, did she leave trying to avoid a conversation with me or am I overthinking things? Of course you can ask details about the questions/answers I just wanted to keep it short for starters.
>>17378237
forgot to add that the last impro was a love story
huh?
>>17378237
Why would she stay to talk to you?
I always have to immediately take a dump after coffee. After 10 minutes of having it and a cigarette I basically explode. I don't get diarrhea but definitely noticeably loose stools.
Is this normal?
Normal. What really is normal?
But its a regular thing that happens to many people yeah.
Caffeen and nicotine and tar all have a laxative affect on your intestine.
I swear I've used extra strong coffee to stop the runs, I don't think it's the coffee doing it
>>17378256
The weird thing is most people I know don't have that problem except for one. That is making me think I might not be so normal. But yeah I believe it's a laxative as well... plus I have to admit I like my coffee really strong.
>>17378267
Seriously? What could be doing it then? I drink my coffee black.
I like this girl. We hit it off. We like the same things. Blah blah blah. She knows I like her.
I find out she has a boyfriend thats in another state.
Is it over? Should I cut contact?
depends, can you handle being just friends?
>>17378170
Then it's over.
I just chatted a girl up on Tinder. She wants me to fuck her rough, and I haven't had sex in ~3 years, and only had it a couple times even then. I have never had rough sex before.
What should I do? What should I expect out of it? How long should I really last? Should I pre-game? (Not masturbate, masturbate more, etc.)
I'm nervous going in so I just want some pointers to help me relax my mind.
Im literally on the same boat. Pls halp
>>17378085
>>17378085
You are fucked. Tell her to fap you,blowjob and cum. If you dont cum before sex you will cum in like 20 seconds.
How do you get them to chat back with you?
I want to more social. Get a girlfriend to have great sex with. And new friends, to better myself. Currently I'm not terribly antisocial but mediocre at best. I used to be great at school as a kid, always called really smart. But iuck at socializing so much I feel dumb. That make sense?
>>17378082
Sounds about half the people on this site.
>>17378082
You need to gain more self confidence. I know it's hard, but it takes effort. You need to get to the point where you don't care about what you say and what people think about you. Go to the library and seek out self-help books that are specific to your problems.
>>17378146
I'm kind of a self-help fanatic as well. Always enjoy reading a book or two, anything specific you can recommend?
What do I do when my friends are talking about things that I don't give a shit about? Like in situations where two of my friends circlejerk about their vapes I can't seem to stop feeling resentment towards them. Or when my friend by himself is having long one sided conversations to me about his opinions on the quality of a specific album's vinyl pressing, how do I even react to him when I don't even give a shit? And how can I quit feeling like they are beneath me when they do these things?
And on that note, how do I talk about things that I don't have a specific interest in? I feel like I focus on things that I am interested in at any given instance & not a lot else, so I feel like I can be predisposed to having one sided conversations myself. I have trouble knowing what else to talk about other than any select few ideas that I may generally have in any given setting. I keep seeing things in black and white and I don't know how to not, what do I do? My friend that's doing this too just causes this entire thing to perpetuate itself between us and it's like both of us kind of passive aggressively are trying to slyIy push our agendas on each other, we're good friends and I like the guy but everything is way too strategic and it's making me obsess about everything so much more. He like collects information like an encyclopedia about every single thing he finds an interest in and goes on about it too long, & when I appear uninterested he just gets self conscious and I don't want to encourage him doing that because my opinion is that it's a bad/dumb thing for somebody to do (me being too black and white again) but I also feel like it's bad for myself and I don't want to think in that pattern.
I've had a psychiatrist tell me I have aspergers & two psychologists tell me that my OCD is more of the factor in my issues, I honestly am having trouble deciding this myself. I always figured I had aspergers because I hate myself & I especially hate other people with aspergers.
I think there is nothing much you can do. If they aren't interested they aren't interested and that's that. If you get along with them generally and you don't mind them then don't ditch them, just seek out other friends that you can talk about your interests with. I know it's difficult to find new friends, especially of the same sex, but just put yourself out there and be bold and confident.
It's like every time I have a good thought of something to say, I feel a need to say that as fully and detailed as I can. Instead of just acting in an instant based on my surroundings (or whatever it is I'm supposed to be able to do) I feel like the way I function is trying to say the best thing I can in any given scenario rather than actually being a part of the conversation wholeheartedly (since, like I said, I can only wholeheartedly discuss things that I am interested in and have trouble talking about anything when this isn't the case), so when I am interested it's like I'm having my own one sided statements and it's like I'm saying what I say for my own comfort of mind instead of being for social gratification?
I feel like a lot of this is the case for my friend as well
>>17378098
I mean we share interests and have a strong bond and we want to be friends with each other, and plus we're in a band and have alike music tastes (whether or not the reasons for this are equal), but all this shit he does like the vaping talk and the constant need to fit the (annoying) image he creates for himself (which is an unrealistic image created out of social anxiety or something) annoy the shit out of me a lot of times
Two weeks ago I got a promotion at my job. I've moved up from being Front End Supervisor (basically being in charge of all the cashiers) to an Area Supervisor (now in charge of a larger section of the store). During these two weeks I've had a panic attack, several emotion breakdowns both in and out of the store and a few thoughts of self-harm.
I've worked at the store for three years now and for as long as I've worked there, every manager that has had the position I now have hasn't lasted more than a year. To be honest, I didn't really want the position. I actually quite liked just being in charge of the cashiers. I was good at that. But both my store manager and the assistant manager made seem like I HAD to take the position because there was literally no one else qualified. The both assured me I'd be fine but I've received no kind of training aside from being told "Just MOD and keep doing recovery." and two days after getting the promotion I had to close the store by myself with no other manager in the building.
I have no idea how to do any of the paperwork managers are supposed to know, don't have my own alarm code (I have to use the Assistant manager's) and while I'm no longer the Front End Supervisor and they've promoted someone else to that position, they keep scheduling her for the truck in the mornings with the deliveries so I'm still being expected to keep up with all the cashiers and make sure they're up to productivity.
I feel like I should quit and get another job but I live in a seasonal area that gets dead in the fall and winter. It's impossible to find a job during that time and during the spring and summer it's all just part-time for that period. As soon as September hits, you're done. I'm super lucky to have a job that's year-round in this area but now I'm just not sure it's worth it if every day I come into work and just feel more and more suffocated and lost.
Well If it hasn't been very long I'm sure you'll get into the swing of things with time and in turn you'll have the advantage of experience. Plus you get better pay right?
>>17378058
Keep it for at least 3 months, if its as bad as you say it is, theb leave, if you dont like it but need the cash, keep it anyways, making money is better than being a lazy bumn
Hang in there bro, managing positions can be terrifying at first, but with experience almost everything comes around, although that not knowing how to fill paperwork thing is worrying, maybe you should talk to your superiors about you not being qualified for that
She always does this. Sometimes I ask her a question on WhatsApp,and she goes on a 141 messages answer. How do I tell her to stop this madness?
You should not tell her anything and be secretly annoyed and resentful for months on end
6 - 12 months later, break up with her and tell her you hated it and you couldn't stand it
>>17378218
I like her. I just cant stand her 200 posts in a row about her 15 minute lunch. And If I dont pay attention to her messages she just realizes about this and gets pretty pissed.
>>17378008
Just tell her to stop texting you so much, sort of simple
How do i end a relationship with an ex?
My ex broke up with me because she just didnt want such a big commitment in her life and just wanted to be friends. So me, being the beta fag i am, decided to stay friends with her since she was my first kiss/girlfriend n all even though i wasnt okay with the breakup. Shes always so nice and trying to talk to me but it just hurts me thinking about her because i still partially feel attached to her. I need to focus on school and not her now, what do i do to get out of this?
relationship? i meant friendship
You end it by not talking to that person anymore.
Jesus dude, really? It's not that hard. You don't owe anyone anything. You don't owe her an explanation. You don't need to do jack shit for her. If you don't want to be involved with her anymore, you stop talking to her. That's it. It's that simple.
>>17377983
Its not that easy mate. Shes in two of my courses, i see her virtually every day. If i ignored her she would most definitely come up to me and start shit (she has a temper issue)
Ok so my 31 year old half sister moved from in from Venezuzu but for her age she's still acts kind of your typical millennial white-girl (starbucks, photos of food/sushi and shit), she's really short like no more than 4'10'', and that attracts me for some strange reason.
3 yrs ago I visited the criminalized country on NYE and we stayed at some international hotel with separate rooms Somehow, I managed to be in her room when everyone left and took the chance to smell the fuck out of her heels. They smelled so amazing even if I thought I was crazy
Flashback to today, she's staying in my parents house with us for a month, staying in my sisters room. I kind of have a thing for her height since it is very uncommon to find a girl that short in the US, I'm 5'10.
I've never had a girlfriend but walking around kind with her refreshes me a bit. She kind of naturally sticks to me when we walk outside and talks to me for security/comfort. When I sat with her however, I wasn't turned on so much about her attraction-wise but I just couldn't control my fucking dick and I tried to like hide it nonchalantly with my arm. However, I get a ridiculous hard on when I see her feet/socks.
My family was playing board games and one time she came to play. That night I was kind of sweaty/body odor phermones raging and shit. She was tired from jetlag from her flight and sat next to me. Usually I know she's faking her tiredness just to go to her phone later, but she eventually started flirtingly kicking me under the chair with her shoes. Her body language/legs was pointed directly at me and she was at the edge of her chair. I always remain unreacted/low energy to maintain my calmness/composure but yeah I was kind of turned on but not as much as she was to me that night. (keep in mind she hasn't been sexually active for 3 days so I guessed she was horny due to that or phermones or something)
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Last week I went into her room when she went out and tried to find her shoes in her luggage but they weren't there, instead I found something a bit more candid, her small-cup bra. Being the nihilist fuck mentality I had, I didn't really care what I did, I just was curious to pleasure the scent of them and I took a whiff of it. It like half-turned me on and didn't as much as seeing her feet did, keep in mind this is my half-sister from my Dad's side.
For some reason, her small feet amaze me and I'm waiting to this day for her to leave her shoes/socks out so I could smell the odor.
So my biggest pleasure would be to get to see/feel her feet and possibly worship them with her being cool/chill with it.
Does life even matter anymore at this point? Like I don't have any fucking regrets of what I'm doing
What in the actual fuck
>>17378072
I've detached myself from social conditioning already, I don't give a fuck. I was expecting alot of this, lol
I'm back. I've been reincarnated. I am spirit bear. My fur is soft, and my teeth are sharp. I'll answer your questions.
Refer to pic for reference of first thread.
I have a cummy in my right pocket and have no idea what to do with it.
>>17377944
bear,
how do i get better at human sex
Is it feasible to work a job while in college? I'm entering my sophomore year as a chem major, and I'm considering picking up my first job before the semester begins. I'm not in desperate need of income as I'm on a full ride, but it'd be nice to have income in order to fund personal hobbies and such. Are part-time jobs a big interference with school? Will employers work around my school schedule?
>>17377926
It all depends on you and how much work and stress it will take. Also the job you are looking for. Is it something within your major?
My boyfriend currently works full time as a nurse while visiting university for physiotherapy.
>Will employers work around my school schedule?
Most likely not.
My boyfriend planed all his holidays around the weeks he has tests or school projects. This means though that he has no free time at all for a small vacation or the such.
>>17377926
This is why every college has student jobs. Those include clerical jobs, food service jobs, retail store jobs, etc. They staff most non-professional jobs on campus with students, so students can earn some money and have something to put on their resume. And yes, they work around your class schedule.
Put it this way: you're much more likely to get a job after college if you've got past work experience.
too lazy for my own good
can barely keep up with school
motivation is 0
help
"Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs" - I don't know who said it, but it's from Civ 5
Start doing a daily agenda of tasks to do, seriously, it is much easier to get things done when you have a specific time to do it, otherwise you will most likely keep procrastinating.
>>17377986
Handling things in smaller tasks has helped me in the past, but I'll try to do that more often. Thanks.
I'm gonna need more advice though. im quite the special one