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>>17447584
Couldn't those guys have just been friends? I'm a guy and I'm pretty lonely too, as a result I've made a fair few online friends - many female. They're just friends. We have nice chats and support one another as best we can over the Internet. If those guys were willing to talk to you for all that time and not pursue anything more from you, it sounds like they were just friends too? Granted, if you met them on dating sites, I guess that changes the dynamic a bit.

>>17447596
Well, some truly have become friends. Some just live on the other side of this planet so a relationship was off the table. Problem is that i did do sexual things with all of them to some extend and at some point (sexting, sharing pics), since i was single anyways. so i do think it would have been weird to keep talking to them...
I didn't meet all of them on dating sites

>>17447606
Oh and to add, i tried to talk to one guy as "just friends" when i was already dating my bf. At first it went very smooth but then he catched a feel and it became a huge shitfeast. I really tried to keep it on friendship-level but it didn't work

yes they will :) Therapists are great dude he will curb your anxiety bigtime.

>>17447614

I hope that you're being serious... Cause that almost seems like something a troll would say.

But, I really hope you're right.

I have it, and it's especially triggered by anxiety. When I know I'm going to be going through high anxiety moments (like a meeting with someone important scheduled a week from now), I eat less and drink a lot of water. I've also had to change my diet to way less processed food. I only eat really large meals after I've been awake 6+ hours (before that, I'll have something simple like a smoothie). If I'm having a big meal, I'll take some chewable pepto and eat it immediately afterwards.

It's like text messaging but with images. Most messengers do it, but this one is trendy and encourages risqué pictures, with a mechanic that deletes the picture after a few seconds and notifies the other user when you screen-captured it. It also has a 24-hour deletion snap that hosts images all of your friends can see. People use it like Facebook and feel that the "snaps" they're sending out are more interesting and have more sentimental value because they will be deleted after 24 hours. It's also cool and trendy because it's slightly more complicated than the norm and your grandparents don't fuss with it.

>>17447631
Wait so you will send it to everyone if you make that one picture?

>>17447650
The 24 hour ones are available to everyone. The personal message ones disappear in seconds. It may be a little different than that, but that's the gist of it.

thats pretty much always how it is

Yes, it's normal and happens in plenty of relationships. However, whether it's okay or not depends on you. Some people can make it work if there are other reasons to be in a relationship (like stability, security etc.), but generally unbalanced relationships end in a break up when the other person finally finds someone they can love fully.

>>17447550
If you don't feel good about it, then it's not good.

>>17447543
Demisexuality doesnt seem to play much besides the intro.

Unless she opens up its very hard to work with this. She sounds slightly depressed and conscious. Maybe try to clarify with her hiw you can help to relieve it? I mean, this is one of the challenges to developing a relationship, opening up and being clear on each others feelings. Try ti talk over her issues and reassure her but also make clear you miss making love and want her to enjoy it too.

>>17447543
If my gf would stop having sex with me or she visibly didn't enjoy it, never got off, etc. I would not see a future in our relationship. We would not be sexually compatible and I don't think I could take this for more than a month, not even close to the 2-3 years of you.

Call me cynical, but a relationship without sex is a friendship. Cheating usually gets defined by being sexually unfaithful. However if you don't have a sexual partner in the first place then you can't be faithful. That's my take on it.

If your sexual desires are not being met then either drop the relationship or open it up. She could also try a sex therapist.

>>17447559
I've talked to her about this many times and she says that she doesn't know what she could do to change things. Things have been very frustrating for her and I think she has hit a wall.

When we talked last she said that she feels that this issue will never be resolved and that I should just break up with her if I want to have sex.

>>17447583
After being years in a relationship with someone you love for year, and everything else being amazing except for this one thing, the last thing I want to do is break up with her.

I'll look into sex therapy, maybe that's something that could be done.

Drop vidya, leave 4chan and enter clubs in your uni. Take up exercise, stop wanking, read, learn a new hobby or language or instrument.

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>>17447513
>Drop vidya, leave 4chan
If only it where that easy.

>>17447581
Change starts with you. Unless you change, things wont change.

>>17447494
First off can you go into detail why you cheated? Are you that easy to sway or are there marital problems present? Cant be that dry and simple or you would have to be of very simple mind and id question why you married to begin with.

If you had any integrity you would agree with the other girl to tell each of your spouses and take responsibility. What you did was disgusting.

How about talking to her? Or better talk to everyone involved in this.
Let's be clear: you both fucked up! Shit like this happens, but any other reaction, than telling your spouses will only make it worse for everyone in the end.

>>17447509
Dude this nigga is crazy.
He posted this non-stop on the cheating wife thread, he is hopeless...

Did she do her business though? I mean I wouldn't get nekkid in front of a suspected camera.

>>17447507
No, she just looked up and left.

Damn this is some well-crafted bait, 7/10

But if it's legit, you could get in trouble if cops find evidence of the video on you. Transfer it to PC, encrypt it and wipe free HDD space, then destroy camera if you want to be safe.

>>17447457
Damn anon this post brought up thoughts I never thought I had. How the fuck do relationships actually happen? When I think of this, I start to convince myself that relationships are created once one person convinces the other that they belong together. Finding someone to start a "relationship" with isn't an easy task. Therefore, I'm thinking that it takes someone with enough balls to take the initiative to thoroughly persuade the other person that "Hey! We like each other right? Let's do this." I can't believe love at first sight or some corny shit like that. Relationships start with mutual physical attraction, then actually take off once someone is persuaded to do so. I don't fucking know though I might be autistic too.

Also, just ask a guy if he likes you. That will work. Trust me.

>>17447493
But what if he says no? It'll be embarrassing and I still need to go to work.

>>17447493
Don't ask him there has to be a chase and some mystery and some emotions good and bad that helps build connection. If you just ask flat out it will take all the fun out of it and you will get the big ol friend zone. Good answer though besides that

>>17447365
Intensive exercise. Jogging sounds like your alley. Get some good running shoes and run away from your problems for a bit. Really good way to kill stress.

>>17447371
I do run. Only problem is if I run too much I have no energy and can't think.

>>17447375
Huh. Ok then, maybe try yoga or home meditation? Read a book or two? The classics are great.

clean up at least. you don't have to shave but some prefer it. i usually use an electric razor at least, but don't actually get the cream and go deep ya know what I'm saying?

you'll probably pick her up, take her back to the pad, and do the typical netflix and chill date.

have some party favors (bitch drinks) just incase she wants them. a 6 pack of smirnoff should do. maybe weed if she's cool, order pizza if y'all get hungry and try to pick movies that have sex scenes of some degree to try and set the mood up for her touching your thigh, sucking your dick, yadda yadda.

>>17447448
I don't smoke, and she says she doesn't smoke or drink either.

But yeah I'll try to find a decent movie.

>>17447462
Ryan Reynolds movies work pretty well most the time.

You have to be 18 to post on this site.

college

>>17447343
how well you do in school will predominately determine your whole future. even if you hate it, you should still try and do well. if people are being dicks all the time, lift weights or do martial arts, they wont fuck with you if you stand up for yourself.

So what do you want us to say? You don't like her anymore because of her views. There you go

>>17447307
Most of 4chin hates Mr. Cheeto. Just as much as we hate Ms. Benghazi. You're think of /pol/.

I once found out this girl I liked was a huge bigot. She was rich, she despised the poor, the blacks, etc.

I felt like I couldn't be with her without compromising my own morals.

She sounds perfect. Where do you live? I'll take her.

But in all seriousness, if you can't take her views just don't date her. Not a big deal.

does it hurt to swallow?

>>17447273
Go to a doc anon

>>17447386
Barely, it hurts a lot more to move my neck around. Especially looking up. Eating doesn't hurt

>>17447398
If I had the time or money to do that I wouldn't be on 4chan right nos

Sure, why not?

>>17447268
Eh picture is one thing. Does he seem nice to you?

>>17447268
You should not date him, as you showed by this post you are a superficial person basing your judgement solely on appearance. You just want us to comfort you in sending him away for reasons you can't find for yourself.