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Your drug use has caused a psychological illness and the lack of sleep is exacerbating the symptoms stop destroying you brain it's you most valuable organ

Happened with me with frequent LSD use.
Haven't touched any drug coming up to 7 months now and I still have minor, very minor visuals.
It gets better with time, you just got to treat your body like a temple. Start sleeping properly, exercise, give your brain a treat with a puzzle or crossword ever so often.

>>17822240
google hypnagogic hallucinations

>>17822110
find a new girlfriend.

Try to not spend any money and as little emotions on her too while you work on the new girl.

>>17822110
If you're seriously worried, contact someone who is physically there with her.
>>17822122
Don't be so dismissive. OP clearly cares about this girl.

>>17822132
not being dismissive it's the correct advice

>>17822083
Once a guy has a reputation as a 'fuck boy' (to use the common term among women for Chads), most women will only ever see you like that, and thus treat you as nothing more than a hookup. The general consensus is that 'Chads' (not what women call them) are using you, and are not to be trusted with emotions and the like.
How do you view women?
Do you see them as simply something to stick your dick in for a night? If so, a woman can sense that and treat/think of you accordingly and not even bother trying to emotionally invest in you.

>>17822103
Hmm. I wouldn't think I'm consistent enough with my hook ups for me to be seen as a fuckboy by women around me, I'm pretty sure of.

When I'm thinking about it now, I'm realising that my hookups are very rarely within my social 'sphere' but more often mostly people on the fringes that I sort of "happen upon". If I'm being honest with myself I get the sensation that it, in some way, is of importance, that the one I'd end up with for the night, is NOT affiliated or even physically in vicinity of some one I might more intimately be known to.

So i would discard the chance of me being seen as a fuckboy, even though I'd much prefer that!

>>17822103
A good post, right up until
>Do you see them as simply something to stick your dick in for a night? If so, a woman can sense that and treat/think of you accordingly and not even bother trying to emotionally invest in you.

Women (young ones especially) are terrible judges of character and what's good for them, hence the steadily rising number of single mothers.

>>17822083
OP, I'll share my story with you: I was you a year ago.
There's nothing wrong with you, a personality like that is a strong defense mechanism against getting hurt by other people.
I made the mistake of falling in love with the sweetest, most innocent and loving 19 year old girl you could imagine.
Fast forward to present day, through what was nothing short of a flawless relationship with mutual respect and care, and here I am all alone again, except with a touch of extra bitterness and resentment for the female gender.
I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with this person, we were just so unbelievably compatible, but one day she woke up and the honeymoon spark was gone, and that was that.
Too young and dumb to listen to me when I tried to explain that that happens in all relationships.

All it did was waste a year of my life and further validate that voice I've always had in the back lf my mind, that no matter how hard you try, how much you care and give, in the end something over which you have no control over will come along and destroy it.

My hurdle is that I'm carrying legitimately flawless genes that I feel a strong obligation to pass on one day.
As it stands today, you still need a woman to produce kids.
I'm not attracted to women a day older than 22, and this would be completely fine if not for the fact than those younger than that are all retarded and immature.
My last remaining hope is that technology will soon grant us the gift of reproduction without the need for a woman through artificial wombs - until then, I'll continue sailing through life as I see fit.

>>17822066
>>>/pol/

>>17822066
you got nothing so perhaps you feel like shit because you missed a shot at dick in vagina

>I had a great time but I'm so sheltered and bored that my mind needs to create conflict out of literally nothing

>>17822051
Maybe just don't visit 4chan for a while. You're never going to filter 100% of porn, and even coming here there's the temptation of the porn boards.

>>17822053

I thought of that, but I feel 4chan is the only site where I can have anonymous, uncensorized discussion on all topics.

Is there a tool or does this site offer image filters by any chance?

Which boards are you going to?

>>17821892
> It hurts because it destroys every possibility of a relationship you could have dreamt of
STOP DREAMING.If u dont stop now u eventually will since u ll get hurt multiple times

>>17821915
> STOP DREAMING
Wait, but whats the point of anything then

>>17821915
I wouldn't say "stop dreaming", more like be realistic.

I got rejected about a month ago by a girl I was 99% sure liked me - she even agreed to go out on some dates with me, but when I formally asked her out I got friendzoned. I later realized it seems to be their culture (she was Chinese) when I overheard another Chinese girl talking to a guy in almost exactly the same way as the first one did to me, so maybe she really didn't mean anything by it.

I dunno man, every girl is different and you're not going to have a 100% success rate, it's better to accept that and keep trying where you can.

Stip comming 2 times a day

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>>17821816
Store some up.

>>17821824
>>17821826
tried bailing for about a week.. results were just thicker. . i was looking forward to dietary solutions or workout routines

>>17821745
Live a happy life separately from them. Move on, find a new SO. If your ex is that much of a problem, cut them from your life.

Either that or slash their tires or some shit.

>>17821745
if you have access to said ex's car, shit in the cabin filter so every time they starts the car it'll just stink and take them ages to figure out where and what it is.

Revenge plan is destroying her but it will also make your personality worse. Learn to forgive and peace will come to you. I know it is hard to forgive people but if you do, you are better off since you don't think about it anymore. Speaking from an experience

>negative

Think of your children [spoiler]if you have plans to have kids in the future.[/spoiler]

>>17821727
Because of creepy uncle shit or what? I would obviously get an abortion if that ever happened with him.

I hate mobile rotate :(

>>17821724

do it ofc, anon
It's already gone too far if two of you developed romantic feelings towards each other, so who cares at this point?

>>17821705
I want to move, or see a psychiatrist, but I can't figure out a way to make either happen. I was thinking about doing something small to go to jail and hopefully see a mental health advisor there, but I know it wouldn't work out and it would only make things worse. And like I said, I can't hold a job, so working until I got benefits and insurance to see a psychiatrist is out of the equation, and relocating is only a fantasy.

I would have killed myself years ago, but I kept holding on thinking that something would change, or that I could do something to improve my situation. My parents resent me for being jobless, and I'm only an embarrassment to my younger sibling.

Are there any possible ways that I can get out of this situation? This is probably way too heavy of a situation for anyone here to assist me with. Keep in mind that I have no job, no money, no vehicle, not even a few changes of clothes. I've been lurking this board for a while and every suggestion seems to be "just take a year vacation to italy and find yourself my man go on a cruiseship and blow billions of dollars lol it's that simple".

Hard to say


You get out of the rut and suddenly, you feel that is it still worth it to pursue what you were about to do? Time has passed and priorities change, what's left to do is up to you.

Well, if you're in the US and you're broke, you could apply for Medicaid. Get to therapy or a doctor through that. You can also apply for SSI, and if you get that you get Medicaid automatically, but it'd be better to have insurance first, so you can have a provider who will fill out forms for you. It takes a while, but if you have a track record of dropping out of multiple jobs it'll be easier to prove you can't work. Maybe you could apply for SSDI too if you have a job history from before your sibling's death.

I recommend the Nolo Guide to Social Security Disability for the above. Check it out from a library if you can't afford it. If you need help with your case, there are lawyers that work on comission specifically on disability benefits cases. They basically take a small cut of the backpay you get when you're awarded benefits as their pay, and if you get denied they get nothing.

To answer your actual question, though, I don't think any rut is impossible to get out of, but I also think we're forever changed by big events that happen to For example, I was beaten by my ex for a very long time. It's been three years since I ran away, and I still have flashbacks and I still feel fucked up and sad about it. But I no longer lie in bed despondent all the time. I'm doing some stuff every day I like doing. Life really does change. It'll probably get bad again for me in future, but if I wait, that will change too.

There is nothing wrong with just wanting a dog and cat and no people around and to sort out your feelings for a while, anon. I don't think it's vital to being a human or anything, but I bet you'll come around to having some company later, after you can take the time you need.

Then the break
>Me still being an oblivious fool thinking nothing was wrong at the time decided to go through her instagram, usually I only check her fb but she rarely updates it
>see one post of her being kind of emo
>comments on that pic goes something like her friend calls her cute and she goes on that no one else calls her cute, her friend then replies "guess we have to look for a bf for you" and she replies "yes pls pls pls"
Imagine my shock
>I texted her about this
>It so happened this was when she was really busy with her company's work (legit as this is government related and some big government announcement was coming up)
>She wouldn't pick up my call and she ended it by text with me
>She said it was because of her work, she can't maintain a relationship as it is causing her stress and she feels guilty I am just there. Thanks me for appreciating and loving her (wth is that).
>She also said that we should take a break and give ourselves time. Wants me to grow.
>"the instagram post was just rubbish" "my company checks social media and my boss said I can't be in a relationship" "I'm getting this big project because I'm not in a relationship" All her words.
The worst part is she is now flirting with guys on instagram (desu it could just be my jealousy talking but I see this one guy comment she is gorgeous and stuff like that and she likes and comments on his pictures with smileys)

If you've read till here, thank you. It's been slightly longer than a month and I'm still stunned. It came out of nowhere. It's not like I did anything wrong and yet the relationship failed. My thought process has really been a mess.

She likes drawing with pencils. I am thinking of getting her a set of art pencils for Christmas. I always wanted to get them for her when we were together.

I guess I just want to know if I should go through it? It will just be a gift with a card saying I like her art. I'm not going to put my name on it. No strings attached. Frankly I'm not even sure why I am still considering doing something like this.

Pull the plug....you'll be glad you did. Relationships take work on both ends, if she isn't there then move the fuck on. Yes people will tell you to fight for love and try anything to make it work but that's exactly why you are in this situation in the first place. Good for your "girlfriend" one day she'll look back and regret being a cunt but for now let it go. If you're a hopeless romantic then you can still say at the end of the day that you tried. Either way end it. Assuming you're young you still have a lot of shit to put up with until you find the right one.

Don't beat yourself up OP. on to the next one.


Sorry I'm drunk atm but I'm for real trying to help

I'd spend it on school.

>>17821072
Could I just put them on my bank account? At best it's enough to buy a phone or a short trip, but not enough for a laptop or a car or an apartment or most other mid-long term things.

If I absolutely had to spend them, I'd just buy gifts to couple of my friends.

I'd pay my bills.

What do you mean by her favorite month?

>>17821068
It's when Christmas and her birthday are, and I guess it's a thing for her.

I dunno, she's legit Russian born, raised, and educated, and there are a lot of cultural things I probably don't have a good grasp on.

From what you've told us good riddance. You're not a psychic and it's unreasonable for her to expect you to read her mind.

Nope

You enjoy having the option of an easy escape, right? What'll happen is escaping will slowly look more and more tempting until eventually you decide to act on it.

What do you mean a plan everyday? Just the same way you thought of a while ago or do you plan a new way to kill yourself everyday? I think everyone gets the call from the void once in a while.

Ahahahahahahahahahahahahaha you ugly bitch. Lol

Lol bump for advice

>>17820603
Was it always like this, or is he becoming increasingly disinterested over time?