>met someone on omegle
>got her number
>she got mine
>we've talked on the phone twice so far.
>so far, it seems like she listens more than she talks about herself.
Do you think I should call her today or let her call me?
How can I make the conversation more about her?
Chris Hansen incoming
Some people are more shy about talking themselves or are just better listeners. But it could be that she's asking all the questions and you're just answering - make sure you're asking her questions about things too!
>>17822884
OP here,
I've never dated before. What questions do I ask?
What do you guys think of
>when I look at you all I can think of is
> (heart emoji) the RPG-7 has an effective range of 200 meters (heart emoji)
as a tinder opener? And if not what would be a good opener?
Autism/10
>>17822514
Its meant to be a retardedly stupid joke. Got anything better?
You up for sex today
I have more sex drive than my boyfriend.
I feel like i'm "doomed" to be unsatisfied and undesired.
>25 old girl
>pretty enough
Please someone tell me is not a big deal, because i'm feeling so frustrated now that i have realized it.
Be more specific here, does he not initiate enough? Or does he outright refuses to fuck sometimes?
>>17822501
Also, have you told him that you want to have more sex and explained the whole situation before asking us?
>>17822499
Show him yourbrainonporn.com
Many men have ED because of porn replacing their desire for real sex. I had this problem with my bf and now he jumps my bones daily. He doesn't watch porn anymore and things are great again.
There are also TEDtalks on YouTube about this. Watch them together.
Half a year ago, my dealer stiffed me out of $20 because I paid in advance and he never returned with the product (yes, I was pretty retarded). I'm not strong enough to subtly threaten him into caring, but I've been lifting for a month and will keep lifting.
How can I get my $20 back? I can ask him again, but I don't think he will give it back. I also have another idea. There is something called Crimestoppers for anonymous tips. Once you leave a tip, they give you a code and after a few months, if it leads to an arrest, they leave money in the bank that you withdraw with your code and your identity remains unknown.
This guy fucked me over and does illegal shit. Should I snitch or is there a better solution? If I don't snitch, what do I tell him or how would I phrase and express my desire for the piece of paper worth $20 I placed in his hands that he never returned.
Ask him again, if he doesn't deliver then wait one month and send the tip into Crimestoppers
>>17822428
If I ask him and tip later, do you think he'll know it was me?
>>17822463
You read the "wait one month" part right?
My cousin wants to go to college for gender studies and get a worthless diploma fucking up her life in the process. Her dumb parents support her too. How to change her mind?
Fuuuck that sucks and that's difficult. Man, I think if you try and do any manipulative shit to try and change her mind then it'll just be transparent so I would just be direct. Look up statistics for potential earning salary, jobs, show them how STEM fields are touted by unis as the fields to study and present them with facts because they can't argue with those.
>>17822414
Her decision. Let her fail and she will learn a lesson.
>>17822423
this unfortunately some people need to fail HARD to see how much they fucked up
>Girl and I super similar
>Start hitting it off great, she's flirty and talks to me a lot
>Suddenly stops, doesn't want to do stuff with me, doesn't talk to me as much etc.
>"guess she hates me" so I start ignoring her too
>She starts staring at me constantly but doesn't want to approach me
>Never really replies with conversation if I text her
>She texts me late last night if I have the number for the university police
>Get worried and ask "what's going on?" and giver her the number
>She never fucking replies
>This morning I'm eating breakfast and she's across the room looking at me
I'm pretty fucking angry now, what the hell do I do? I used to really like her but now it feels like it is not worth it
Why does that guy in the back have such a big hand?
I immediately drop people who act like that, reading but not replying, acting passively, ghosting, etc. Still remember how my friend's girlfriend asked what headphones she should buy as a gift for him, so I explained everything, meanwhile she NEVER proceeds to read the message. Why the hell people do this? Outrageous as fuck. Sadly I have no advice for you, OP, but for me she does seem to be some kind of attention seeker, wants to be chased. I am not sure, however, wait for more answers.
What a load of drama, just drop that shit why do you need that?
My girlfriend and I moved in together a month ago. Things have been almost perfect - we're great together, we love each other, we have the same interests, we're sexually compatible. The one big difference is that I'm sex-positive and she's... the opposite, philosophically speaking.
She says she's demisexual. I don't know if I believe that's a thing (you can only be attracted to people you have a connection with? Sounds like special snowflake syndrome), but she plays it up HARD, to the point where she gets upset at any model or glamor-shoot situation whatsoever regardless of gender. Incidentally, she's insecure about her appearance due to a history of abusive relationships. But maybe I'm just seeing connections where there are none.
The problem is this: she sees cheating as the next worst thing to genocide. And last night, she told me that internet porn counts as cheating in her mind ("Why do you need other girls to get off?"), a statement which came out of nowhere because I haven't actually USED internet porn since about halfway through our relationship. Apparently she saw that I was logged out of youtube, and assumed it was because I had cleared my cookies after a porn session. Her exact words were "if you wanted an open relationship, you should have told me from the start so I could have turned you down."
This isn't the first time she's accused me of cheating, but this is the first time she's been so irrationally opposite to the truth. I'm sick of her treating me like a bad guy for something that has been scientifically proven to be both natural and normal and that I don't even fucking do.
I don't want to break up with her, but I'm at my limit. How do I solve this?
Sit down with your girlfriend and ask her to explain, in full, her feelings about it. Then once you've heard her side, ask her to listen to your side. If one of you happens to change the others mind during the course of the conversation and resolve the issue then fantastic. If you don't naturally resolve it then simply say that your glad that you both sat down to talk about it because you care for her and you want to have th best relationship you can with her and leave it there.
Sometimes opening a dialogue when you're both in a good place will stop any reactionary behaviour or confrontations if the issue comes up because you've already got a better handle on things and it's easier to bring up an old conversation that it is to broach a concern.
>>17822395
>due to a history of abusive relationships
Tell us about these relationships.
Is she Borderline? She sounds borderline.
I have a feeling she is lying to you about every single one of them.
>you can only be attracted to people you have a connection with? Sounds like special snowflake syndrome),
I have no fucking clue what demisexual means but yes anon, this is a real thing. I can appreciate a woman's beauty in a purely aesthetic sense but I cannot have sex or even get hard if I don't have any kind of emotional connection with a woman.
>>17822413
We've done this twice before. The second time, I cited my sources for why it was natural and normal. Both times we had to "agree to disagree." Early in the relationship I was trying to convert her to my point of view (I wanted us to get a bit more adventurous) but at this point I'm accepting her opinion and giving her space rather than pretending I'm objectively correct.
That changed when she refused to give ME space too. Respect is a two-way street.
>>17822417
Yes, she is borderline. Recently diagnosed.
Re: "demisexual," I thought I was the same way as you anon, but apparently demisexual means that you have to pretend you want to throw up when you see a male glamour shot, and get actively angry when there's a picture anywhere of a woman in a low-cut blouse. (She says she's "pansexual" too, but how can she know if she's never had a romantic connection with a woman, and at the same time is unable to be attracted to someone she doesn't have a romantic connection with?)
I'll talk about the relationships I've heard of in the next post.
Hello /adv/isors,
Does anyone here have any experience with psychotherapy? How did it go for you?
My life is ok but a bit repetitive and dissatisfying, I would like to get a broader experience from it. I don't feel much desire to do/try new things but I'm a bit bored of the things I'm doing now. I thought maybe psychotherapy could help me. Other recommendations also welcome. I've tried drugs and hookers, the novelty wore off...
I saw a therapist for anxiety I was dealing with. It helped
>>17822394
Would you be so kind as to give a modicum more detail? What kind of things did you do or talk about?
>>17822397
So the first session, my therapist just let me talk the whole time and took notes. That way he could figured out what was actually causing me trouble. He didn't make me say anything I didn't want to, and didn't push questions. So that was the first session.
The following sessions he would tell me ways I could counter my problems. He gave me ways to calm down and to relieve anxiety in different situations. Which did help
The thing I liked about it was it wasn't just a bitch fest. It wasn't just me venting everyday. He actually taught me ways to fight my anxiety
I'm a 24 year old males whose slept with a fairly high number of girls (about 40). For as many of these girls as possible, I have a private photos app on my phone which contains about 150 pictures of them in various states of appearance, mostly from facebook. I also have a few nudes that these girls have sent me while sleeping with them, or pictures of us engaged in sexual activities.
They are usually doing something sexy from the pictures I take of facebook. Bent over maybe, posing with another girl slightly suggestively, perhaps with their tongue sticking out.
Does anyone else do this? Is this normal behaviour?
What going on the internet and lying?
I think it depends on how you acquired the photos. If they sent them to you then they have knowledge of it and they're happy for you to have them which is completely fine. However, if you're saving photos that girls have posted to Facebook then that's pretty creepy as I don't think that the average reasonable person expects other users to save solo photographs of them for their viewing pleasure and discretion.
>>17822322
At a certain age, keeping pictures are pretty lame. There are better internet porn easily accessible.
I want a gf but I dont want non-virgins.
What do I do?
Find a virgin gf
/thread
>>17822269
Find a virgin and date her.
>>17822269
That depends are you older than 15? If yes then return to your fantasy world. If not go for girls in the grade below you
Tldr: is it ok to get an ugly gf just because you desperately want to have one?
So two of my closest friends got a gf a while ago. I was happy for them (since they were virgins just like me) but i can't stop thinking how ugly/fat those girls are. My friends were like always searching for girls (For example when one of them wanted to hit on some girl we faked that we didn't know them because it always ended bad for them and it was pretty embarrassing). So they got a gf now and I still don't but I think that it's not worth it to get an ugly one. I only tried with a girl that I really really liked and it ended bad. But I still can't stop thinking that is stupid to get an ugly gf just because you desperately need one. So should I try to lower my standards or should I wait for a girl that I like and keep being single? Thing is I might never meet this girl so I'm gonna wait for something that will never happen. What do I do guys? What is the point of getting a girl if she's ugly/fat? And no I'm not a guy who only cares about look.
>>17822173
You can get one for practice and confidence building if you have troubles.
It's better to be single than in a relationship with a person you don't like.
>>17822178
It's not like I have troubles but I feel like I have too high standards. I only ever liked one girl in my life and I know this is bad. Also I don't really care about sex bj and shit like that.
I burnt my finger taking a potato out of the oven, 425 for 75mins. tldr it split, steam burn through an oven mitt.
Normally I'm not a pussy bitch, but I've run cold water on it for 15min, and submerged in cool for over an hour now. Hurts like fuck, more than any other "touched hot pan" burn. No blister but very red.
No aloe atm, and I am west coast small town, so probably not for another few hours. I do have an emergency surplus of vicodin, but that seems excessive for this. Still, can't remove finger from the water without bad pain.
Wat do.
Well whatever you do it's going to hurt. Burns are nasty. I'd try applying some ointment or disinfectant, which will hurt more but it'll help in the long run.
The fact it hurts is a good thing. Probably only 1st degree to minor 2nd degree burn.
Somewhat recently I burned my finger on a soldering iron at 700 degrees. For the most part it didn't hurt. I'm still ok though, just a small scar.
If your concerned, of course, to the doctor. A pic of the hand would be useful
>>17822094
not much to look at. doesnt look bad.
still the pain is beyond any wood stove/hot pan contact burn I've had. the pain even "radiates" to other fingers when not in cool water
Earlier this year I made a commitment to try and improve my life all around. But mainly my social life is what I was trying to improve. I wanted to have more friends and primarily a girlfriend or at least the ability to have dates.
I accomplished most of my goals.
I got into shape. 14% body fat. Exercise around 5 times a week.
After being told to "put myself out there" I finally started going into pubs/cafes/restaurant bars other social settings by myself. And while that doesn't seem big to most, it was huge to me. I had huge anxiety over going into a place like that by myself and just mingling.
But after a few times, I got over the fear and anxiety and I'm happy that I'm now able to do that with no fear.
However, my main goal was still a failure and I'm seriously contemplating giving up.
As many times as I have went to these places, I still haven't met a girl. And I've not even made any friends. A few guys have talked to me but it's no more than a hello.
But what's even more depressing is I have never even seen a girl out by herself. Which has just reaffirmed a belief of mine that single girls are very rare...if they exist at all.
Now I'm wondering if I should just quit. I'm going out now about 2-3 times a week and all I seem to be doing is wasting money. Gas money and the money used at these places with nothing to show for it.
tl;dr - I finally "put myself out there" and nothing has changed. Should I just give up and become a hermit?
>>17822084
>going into pubs/cafes/restaurant bars
That's not the place to make friends, nor is it really a place for anything with girls except hookups.
You need to do something else, something that relates to your interests or hobbies, to find likeminded people to befriend.
>>17822098
that's what was recommended to me in a previous thread.
those are essentially the only social places to go to.
>>17822084
Try places other than bars to meet people. There are tons of ways to mingle with strangers. Go for events or museums and other places where you can find new people.
Some facts about me
>25/M
>Recently graduated my MSc and now looking for a starting job
>Work parttime 3/4 evenings a week at restaurant in between jobs
>Have 18,000e in savings
Is this a lot? Should I keep saving? Invest? Travel even more?
It's not like I don't do stuff with it. I already spent time on a lot of travels, make music, and generally make my life better with the money I have. I just don't know whether I should spend it more to improve my life or save it for later when buying a house for instance
Bumpu
travel is pretty good, that's the main thing you'll lose out on once you get a good full time job
Well it depends what country you live in and what you think you're going to be earning.
I live rurally but I'm going to a big city for Christmas to be with family. I want to try meet people while there because I don't have much of a social life where I live. What are the best ways to meet people and create friendship seeds during Christmas in a city?
The same way you make normal friendships. Get people's phone numbers and then plan outings after everyone is back on their feet financially.
>>17822182
But where to meet those people?
>>17821861
If all you want to do is get laid, hang around bars and infiltrate office parties.
If you want to make potential friends, volunteer at feed-the-homeless places. The other volunteers are pretty cool people.