Hey /adv/
I've managed to forget the passcode to my lock whilst it remains open.
How do I fix my predicament? I would like to lock my suitcases, thanks.
That kind of lock? You can change their combinations but the only way to do that requires you entering the combination first (with it open and pulled taught) and then entering another combination. So there's no real way to change it right now. You're going to have to go through the numbers one by one until you find the match and pick a more memorable number from now on.
>3 digits
brute force it
>>17821802
666
Anyone else here trying to cope with that fact that simply being you, yourself, or within your own body and mind, is your own personal hell?
How do you do it? Just being who I am has been a constant drain on my soul since middle school. For almost twenty years now.
>>17821779
same here, anon
I get a constant feeling, that this body and even personality are not mine at all
Don't know how to cope with it though, seems like I can't do anything about it
Stop stop stop stop !!
No fuck.i dont want this.
Captcha: nooses
>>17821779
every minute of every day man, but I learnt this
we are told our whole lives to reach for the stars, but some of us just have a hard enough time being ourselves, so have a drink at your desk, fall asleep watching tv because there are more worrying things to be consider about. Also remember no one can hate you like you hate and if they do, fuck em.
Around two months ago my mom passed away. In the meantime, my dad's been dating/sleeping around. For the past week, there's been a woman sleeping in the spot my mom slept in. I feel this is very disrespectful to the memory of my mom. Am I being childish?
>>17821387
Perhaps you should try talking this with him?
I don't think it's childish. Assuming your still going through the stages of grief then this might be a little soon for you to be able to take this in. Same thing with my parents getting divorced. After they split it was hard to get use to my mom going through new boyfriends.
>>17821391
He just says "I know"
I just moved to Colorado and im havig no luck with findig anyone. Ive had POF Tinder and OkCupid for as long as ive been here. Any advice?
Pic is me
Get a new hair cut for starters
>>17821342
you look like 15 years old
>>17821400
Most likely the hair.
Op try and get some facial hair growing. If it looks worse than before, just shave it.
I was finishing up last night at my new work, and out till was out $50
a round $50 missing from the till is basically a theft
we know it wasn't the float because the safe balanced
or the eftpos because it keeps it's own records
so $50 in hard cash was removed from the register
it could have been dropped on the ground or something, but we didn't find it
it could have been given to a customer accidentally, but that is hardly plausble
it could be the cash is right after all, and the issue was an extra $50 being charged on the system by accident
however we don't have any items ticketed at $50
or it could have been a freak combination of overcharge/money change error that came to exactly $50
but theft seems the most likely explanation
the issue:
there were only two people working then
a guy who has been there 8 years, turned down a managers offer, good guy from what I can tell
and me, new guy
I asked him if he would search my stuff before we left that night as a favor, I wasn't sure what else I could do in the circumstances and I did the same for him; naturally there was nothing to find but it's hardly watertight
the managers are looking into it currently, and I'm worried I might get fired over this
the loss of a job would be bad enough, but it's a small ton and an an accusation of theft would be damning
what should I do?
>tl;dr cash missing from my till and I can't explain to my boss how it could have happened
just tell your boss you didn't steal and for them to check the cameras.
The dude that has been there 8 years probably did it and is trying to blame it on you unless something crazy happened.
I hope there were cameras involved. How hard did you actually search him? He could have had the $50 in his pocket the whole time.
Just give them $50
Have any of you anons had experience in dealing with doctors who are unwilling to listen? I have been struggling on and off for 3 years with symptoms that have been making my life miserable at times but all the doctors I have seen either say they don't know what might be going on or they tell me that I must be anxious.
My current primary care doc referred me to a cardiologist and the cardiologist did not even give me the chance to explain my symptoms completely and read whatever my primary care doctor wrote and told me that I am anxious and I must be healthy because I am a young person. He didn't even bother to run diagnostic testing on me.
So I feel as if I am backed into a corner, do you guys have any suggestions from personal experience with how to deal with doctors who refuse to listen?
>>17821159
depends on the symptoms
if you just have a list of neurotic i'm nervous stuff then well maybe you are just anxious & should try those mood pills
get a full physicall especially TSH blood test if thyroid problem can cause all kinds of weird symptoms
go to private labs & pay for your own medical tests - don't need insurance
plenty of online blood testing companies etc
see a psychiatrist or psychologist & get their diagnosis, not a "therapist"
good luck
>>17821159
The problem with a layperson describing the actions of a doctor, is that the actions of a doctor are not intuitive and obvious, and what is apparent to a doctor is not necessarily apparent to a layperson.
It's why you telling me what your doctor did or didn't do doesn't have the effect you might hope it would. I have no way of knowing whether your doctors are incompetent, or you are oblivious to their methods. I don't know you and so my instinct is to trust the doctors, but perhaps that just illustrates my bias.
I have to second >>17821281
and say that you should at least consider trying whatever treatment for anxiety is made available to you; the doctors just *might* be right.
>>17821708
saving a screenshot of this. Not OP but I know the dilemma you're talking about and this is the best I've ever seen it articulated
I've become seriously addicted to cuck porn and I've tried so hard to stop, I've never told another person about it and it's eating my up inside. It's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to me, and I'm not even sure why it gets me off, I don't even have a girlfriend anymore, it's just the thought of any girl cheating that gets me off. Without ever having to publically admit it to anyone, how do I stop? It's the taboo that makes me like it so much, but I physically could never tell another person about this .
Whatever about the memes and all that crap, it's having a serious effect on my mental health and I feel like a piece of shit all of the time.
Someone please tell me how to kill a fetish
>>17821135
Do you want to be the bull or the cuck?
>>17821143
Either, probably 55:45 to Cuck
>>17821135
Question
Is the porn you watch BBC porn?
Do you have a foot fetish?
Please respond, its for scientific purposes.
>Stopped initiating conversations with my friends back in October.
>Friends haven't spoken with me since.
>Was offered a job that required me moving, in late october, posted about it on Facebook no one seems to show any concern at all.
>A week later post that I don't have any local friends and I don't feel guilty anymore about the prospect of accepting the job.
>They respond offended over me not saying they aren't really my friends.
To be honest I feel more as someone they hit up, or hang out with as a last resort. They all went to college together and have known each other for years, while I had only met most of them a year ago. I grew close to one of them during this time, but it just feels like we don't really have much in common and it feels like he only hits me up and makes plans with me when there is no one else available. Everyone else in that circle I haven't spoken with since the summer, while this guy we've messaged each other very little since October when I stopped initiating the conversations and plans.
Are they really just a bunch of acquaintances to me? I feel as if i'm just an outsider when they're together.
>>17821104
Where are you moving to?
>>17821108
Seattle.
Bump, really anyone?
24 male here. Can someome tell me why the hell I'm attracted to a 15 years old girl? It's not even sexual. I just like her. We share common interests and she's genuinely cool. Is it because I refuse to grow up? This girl is so polite and calm and I feel comfy when I talk to her. And girls at +25 tend to be very cynical to me.
I'm not asking for advice to be in a romantic relationship with her. I know it's a disgusting situation. But what can I do? I can't refuse my feelings. I know I gotta move on and blabla and I know that's it's not feasible; different stages in life and she's a CHILD. I just wanna know if this is somehow normal, if is it because I refuse to grow up. She's reminds me of me when I was her age, maybe that's the reason? The worst thing is, she likes me too. We didn't talk about it, but I can tell. I always try to keep distances but I have contact with her because I'm her private teacher.
As I said, I just want to know if this is somehow normal, nothing else. I'm feeling like shit already and I feel like I can't talk about this with anyone because I feel like a pedo even though it's not sexual at all.
>>17820960
because girls mature faster than guys
and you really need to get a clue and completely stop being anywhere near that 15yo
or rest assured something will happen and your life will be fucked up 4ever class 1 sex offender got it ?
>>17820967
I won't do anything. I'm just trying to figure out WHY.
>>17820960
Are you her history teacher or something?
>Is it normal
Yes, it's normal for a girl to be attracted to a man above her age
>Recently got my first gf
>She's a little bit crazy and kind of cold (she's a bitch to everyone but me), but she's really submissive
>Pretty much has the same tastes as I do
>Short hair, cute arms, fine legs, beautiful smile
>Nice hips, petite body, tits that are the size of a tennis ball, round butt, 8/10 by me
>As a side effect to all of this, I no longer get a boner from porn, but every time she kisses me I turn into a diamond
Because of this I stopped smoking, masturbating, and waking up in the afternoon, while I also started to brush my teeth, take a shower every day after I wake up, and even got lucky enough to work on Pizza Delivery
So far everything has been nice and...ya know, I love her, she loves me, that kind of stuff
I talk to her every day, ask her about how she's been, how she feels, and add a pun or a joke/inuendo to make her laugh while she reads the stupid shit I send to her
Yet I feel so insecure...any advice for maintaining our relationship (besides doing what is mentioned above over and over again)?
Sometimes if I start to wonder about my boyfriend's feelings I'll get some LSA and give it to him. I swear to god, he turns into a puppy and will not get off me for hours. I get to pet him and listen to him mumble sweet things to me all day. He's usually a very cold and reserved person but LSA is a hell of a drug.
>>17820883
>I talk to her every day
Cut that out or she's going to leave you one day.
Talk to her three times a week at best. It is definitely going to go against your instincts but gringo just trust me here when I say that eventually she will just "lose interest" and friendzone you if you keep this up. Make her worry about you not the other way around cause when you get down to it she's the weakest link.
>>17820971
Sorry mate, but winners dont do drugs. Besides, I don't need a pill to act like a puppy
>>17821506
>It is definitely going to go against your instincts but gringo just trust me here when I say that eventually she will just "lose interest" and friendzone you if you keep this up.
My mom always said ''Don't trust in strangers'', but I'm gonna asume that you have experience with this shit
Still, thanks for the advice
I need help!
I've been talking to this girl, which is a first for me so I can't keep track of the nuances and implications. We made plans a while ago to go catch a movie, but she ended up getting sick right around then, and we had to postpone. Weeks later I asked if she still wanted to go, and she said yes but that she was still sick, and didn't think now was the best time. It's been about a month now, and we haven't talked about it since.
Does she just not want to go? The biggest thing for me is she still goes out, on weekends, with friends. It seems to me she just doesn't want to see me, but doesn't want to tell me either, so she says she's sick so she doesn't have to.
On the other hand, maybe she's interested in doing something more, intensive, than just seeing a movie? Is it possible she has plans for after the movie that she doesn't really want to do sick?
I have ample evidence for both arguments. She definitely seems attracted to me, and we've talked about that kind of stuff before - but then again lately our conversations have been short, and sometimes unengaged. I don't know what to make of this
>>17820838
you need to let it go and move on
what always helped me was go for the OBVIOUS clues about females
if you get maybe or hmmm that means NO
you're clearly not getting a BIG YES from her so ask some other girl out
trust me it's well worth the effort :)
>>17821284
The problem here is you're grossly overestimating my ability to function at least somewhat attractively in society.
I've held engaging conversations with three different females in my life. The first moved to a different school and we stopped talking gradually. This was the first person I ever fell deeply in love with - in hindsight it was probably obsession - the emotion I experience much more often than love with the opposite sex. She met me in a deeply malleable point in my life, and I attribute much of who I am now to the experiences I faced with my virgin infatuation.
The second was a brief intermission of painfully unrequited destructive passion. She was attractive, and I did not feel for her like I felt for my first and my latest. She is significant, however, because it is around this time I realize my inadequacies.
This latest obsession is far more severe. The love is not stronger, but the damage is. Every conversation we have is accompanied by the mental suffocation at the absence of such.
There is no way I can find some other girl. My relationships take time. I am too afraid of other people to take them in so easily. I don't have the luxury of moving on here.
>>17820838
>Weeks later I asked
>It's been about a month now,
There's part of your problem. Can you see that YOU have been sending HER mixed messages, by asking her out and then disappearing? You should have followed up a day or two later with "Hope you're feeling better" texts of jokes, to establish that you were still interested. Instead, by not saying anything you sent the message "I'm not really interested in you unless I can't find anyone else."
I think my boyfriend is emotionally abusive but I feel so conflicted that I can't tell if it's in my head anymore
He will attack me and start arguments with me nearly every day and I feel like I am walking on eggshells. I can say the slightest thing and he will go absolutely insane with rage and put me down and make me cry and then harass me further before hanging up and leaving me to cry.
He always comes back and says he's sorry and that it was horrible of him and that he recognizes it was shitty but it feels like one moment I'm everything and the next I'm just someone to abuse and hurt.
Is it really my fault? This is the fourth day in a row and to make it worse he starts saying he should kill himself when I try to stand up to him
I end up telling myself that it's not going to work unless he gets help and stops because I know if I was the one doing this he'd run and never look back.
His language is very abusive when he gets like this, he shouts and tells me things like how I am MAKING him do this and how maybe if I didn't ask for it he wouldn't do it but the problem is I never do anything that provokes it and I avoid arguments with him because I'm really scared of this. If I stand up for myself even a little then I get threatened. What am I meant to except cry and wait for him to apologize and then hold my breath for the next time he inevitably is going to lose his shit and bash me verbally and make me go to bed in tears? How do I make him stop and think how this is affecting me when I tell him every single time?
He literally told me he was sorry a few hours ago before doing it again, it made his apology feel empty.
"I won't do it again, you deserve better"
>>17820777
>Is it really my fault?
There's something wrong with you. This guy is abusing the shit out of you yet your brain is incapable of standing up for yourself and leaving him.
You're so fucked up that you're actually trying to find ways to blame yourself for his shitty behavior.
>How do I make him stop and think how this is affecting me when I tell him every single time?
You don't. You leave him and immediately get therapy or else you are destined to live a life being abused by pieces of shit like this guy.
>>17820777
Nice trips OP. Your relationship sounds a bit toxic to this outsider. It sounds like your boyfriend has some mental health issues he needs to work on. Get him some help if you want to stay with him, but you are perfectly justified in breaking up with him. The choice is yours.
>>17820785
He constantly justifies his abuse by saying if I didn't make him mad then he wouldn't do it and therefore it is my fault
As a 1.93 m (6'4") tall girl I was wondering if you guys feel intimidated by tall women and what your preferred heights are. Would you ever date a girl taller than you?
I don't care about a womans height it's really not that important
>>17820124
But have you ever been with a woman taller than you? Maybe you just don't know what it feels like.
>>17820123
i dont give much of a fuck. if we were compatible and into each other id probably do it
/adv/ I am so lost. My girlfriend struggles with bulimia and suicidal thoughts and I can tell it affects her every single day.
Yesterday I broke up with her because I can tell her happiness depends on me and that is not healthy. I am talking to a counselor on campus and making sure she gets help. I didn't want to break things off, I havent lost an ounce of feelings for her, she means the absolute world to me. But I feel like this is what I need to do to make sure she gets the help she needs and be the fullest version of herself. Did I fuck up? Do I tell her I made a mistake? It's winter and I had so many plans for us. My birthday is Tuesday. I don't know what to do or how to deal with it. I didn't want to break up, I just felt like I had to for her safety and health. Please help, I have so many friends and none of them are here for me. I feel so alone
Sounds to me like you did the right thing OP
I think its for the best
>>17822262
I think if you love her, you should work it not break it. Given her problems professional guidance can be a necessity. Consider getting back together on the condition she sees a therapist and perhaps you both get relationship counseling.
Is this really true that absence makes value in relationships?
I'm guy and I want to know if my female friend likes me enough for relationship. Should I stop contacting her for while and see if she wants to hang out?
>>17822244
The effect is unpredictable. Do you want her to want you?
>>17822244
No that's a retarded philosophy
>>17822249
Would I ask if I didn't want her?