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I think you should treat this friendly lunch as a friendly lunch. That's what you promised her. You should keep your promise and let it be up to her if she wants to turn it into something more than that. But be carefull, dating girls who say they aren't ready for it always causes a looooot of drama

>>17922703
don't be friends with someone you want to date. They probably aren't going to change their minds.

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>>17922703
Much like any girl, she probably just doesn't want this to end up as another "One Night Stand" or she gets used again for a quick hook-up

Ive honestly found that girls will lust for you much more when you act like a friend to them for a while. Buy her random lunches/Starbucks while you're hanging out, take her to a mall and buy a shirt/hoodie she scopes out and likes.

Honestly in this day and age of Social Media and Technology, she probably has at LEAST 8 other guys in her phone trying to invite her over somehow so they can awkwardly try and kiss her and fuck or whatever.

Just show her you actually care about her, listen to her when she talks about stuff, and just try to be there. Just make sure to balance it out so she isn't just leaning on you for emotional support/physical things

What sort of things did he lie about?

>>17922680
Major things. His life, family, occupation, name, age. I started to find things that didn't match up slowly and eventually found everything out. I held it against him and hated him for it, and left out of the blue one night when he was gone.

>>17922688
Yeah he sounds like a bad apple. The feeling of wanting to contact him might stem from wanting human contact, warmth, and validation which usually come from romantic relationships and all. I would try to go out and meet new people or just go out in general and keep yourself occupied. Also, as hard as it is, tr not to check if he's still trying to contact you, from what you say, he's not worth it.

You're not overreacting, her mom is being cunty.

But you need to focus on being a good student first, and a good bf second. Now is not the time to pick that fight.

>>17922645
Why can't you hold down a job? Because you're too tired? Because you hate it? Then why do plenty of other people seem to manage it?

You just need to grow up.

>>17922746
Amazon was too much walking. It was literally 15 miles at least a shift, I would limp into work. And Walmart I hated even worse.

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>>17922625

good luck with that.

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>>17922625

>BF refused sex with me for 8 months
>I'm pregnant

wew lad

Have an abortion.

>>17922606
Women need more explanation than "whatever" when it comes to a subject. Even if you do think "whatever" she thinks it's a cop out answer. You gotta at least explain why something is "whatever" to you or start talking about stuff you are passionate about

>>17922606

shes being dramatic from the sounds of it. thought it does depend.

how long have you been dating?

>>17922636
3 months. The whole thing started because she voted and I didn't vote. I feel like she's kind of resenting that, since she's pooling me in that whole group that's responsible for "Trump's win." She said my apathy bothered her some, which like I said, led to the conversation about us and how much she "knows me" and what I do care about.

>>17922564

you're here !!!

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>17922564
Nice question, let me know if you find it.

your school's anime club.

alternatively, your town's gaming shop.

You could do something like that, maybe even minor in your hobby. However, keep in mind those classes will require you to do a full class's worth of work. You will affect your GPA by taking them, and you will need to spend time outside of your classes working on them.

It can eat up tons of your time, and potentially overwhelm you. but if you are truly devoted to it, then you may find it enjoyable

>>17922572
I think I'm going simply to take the life drawing classes and painting classes (3 electives), music theory (I think is like 5 electives) and creative writing (3 electives).

I don't it will be hard if I simply take 3 more electives per semester.

>>17922601
How many units are you planning to take your first term?

>>17922513
And why you gotta come about this to the most normalfag board on this site?
I've also given up on having a social life, all I wanna do is literally fap to anime, but I won't go make threads about it.

The more I am able to enjoy being around people the more guilt I feel about being a loser like you.
I have trouble seeing the middle ground where I can keep an interest in video games or start a family

>>17922575
I feel more justified in being a loser because I play with the same group of friends every evening after work, and we're all losers too I guess.

So, it's kind of nice, I get to go home, and put on my headset, and hang out with my friends.

Post pictures, no need to show your face.

>>17922492
>I have only money for second hand bought clothes and cheap makeup. Going to the hairdresser is way too expensive.

There's your problem, you need money.

>>17922492

exercising is great, rest assured outdoorsy guys could care less about elegant & cool, we want honesty down the earth fit etc

otherwise go with your strengths - you know your budget & IMHO its possible for low budget chic, pick your stuff carefully

increase your testosterone retard.

low testosterone = low sex drive as male.

Do sports, go to the gym, these shit will increase your testoterone leves.
Avoid porn and do nofap, also increases your sex drive.

Also do intermittent fasting, it has been shown to also increase your testoterone level.

If you stop masturbating to porn, your body will return to normal levels, also take sun and do sport and fast.

>>17922508
I already go to the gym 4 times a week, it always makes me proper horny, but then I would take that out by masturbating.

I will keep going with no fap and no porn, I think it may take a month to return to normal, where I can actually get aroused at the thought of it.

I can get it up once we're together, it's just that bit in between that is nothing.

>>17922517
porn addiction kills the libido anon, stop that shit.

Ok you can't just jam it in bub.

That's not how it works. Make sure the woman is ready to receive. You know, get her in the mood. The vaginal area isn't just 24/7 ready for a dicking. It's possible she was nervous as well, which creates some tension for women down there.

>>17922384
I got her pretty wet. But I used no lubes. She didnt want me to because she wanted to do it "natural" Also I had no condom. Hell sometimes I began losing my erection. I was pressured I think, I'm not sure

>>17922419
It's natural, it happens. both people can get nervous. Just try to relax and enjoy each other. If it happens just cuddle or give it a few minutes more of foreplay.

Expand your circle. I met all my gfs through:
-Work
-School
-Friends

Try to go out with some colleagues, tell your mates to invite their mates and try to bond. I don't believe in online dating, the people there are just too thirsty.

>>17922367
Honestly, it's very hard past about 25. The nature of people's live is that you really won't have the time to build relationships with people in the organic way you could in school.

At work, politics and professionalism get in the way. A lot of people are focusing on their careers, their relationships, and just the day-to-day of having to take care of themselves in such a way that even just hanging out and being social with any regularity becomes a major project. People are typically not geographically centralized making get togethers even harder. And the biggest hurdle of all is just that at a certain point people are less enthusiastic about meeting new people because they've met most of the types of people out there, know who they want to fuck with, probably have a reliable group of close friends from school, and don't care to put a lot of energy (that they don't really have anymore) into the gamble that is strangers.

I think you just have to get lucky as a single dude past 26, or become so successful that women come to you. Only way I've seen it happen past that age. The whole "He's a 30 year old single man with a full time job who has a gigantic social circle and hangs out with friends and does cool new shit every weekend that introduces him to cool new people with regularity" thing is largely (but not entirely) a meme.

>>17922528
So you're saying 25 is too late to start dating? I find that hard to believe.

>>17922366

lol, so do you love your parents, or do you feign love simply because they cared for you?

as for the rest, try not to worry about it. you dont have to love your extendeds and no, you arent the only one who doesn't love them.

my father used to love visiting his mother and brothers. then we went to guam for 3 years. now he doesn't visit them. he admits he doesn't relate to them anymore after being disconnected for so long.

when it comes to extendeds it depends on the kind of bond you developed. and just because they pushed for a specific bond doesn't mean it happened. on my moms side i had family members i only saw twicei n my life, and they act like were best friends when in reality i didnt know they existed between that first and second time. i literally could not recognize them if you put pictures of them in front of me now.

i was a kid, and they made no effort to see me. and thats fine, but dont pretend to be chummy hwen you do.

but on my dads side theres some real connections. aunts and uncles came to see him and didnt put on a show for me. i got to know them naturally and cohesively. now they're the 'family you choose' and i see those extendeds more than my mother and father. now they have kids and i go there at least once a year to hang out iwht all of them and now im the uncle type, its great.


you remember that saying 'blood is thicker than water' ?

well apparently its a shortened phrase saying 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb' which means that the bonds you make willingly with others is stronger than the family bond.

something to consider.

>does everyone really love their aunts and grandparents without reason

many of them do have reasons, they're just too personal to explain. its like asking someone why they love their husband or wife. they will describe it as an indescribeable feeling of love.

i love my uncles and aunts because we get along. they just happen to be fun people i can hang out wiht.

>>17922366
I can relate to this so much anon, so I'm hoping this thread gets replies.
Over the years, while living with my family, I had felt disconnected. Like that they don't deserve special treatment just because they are relatives. I've hardly ever seen any relatives besides my parents, grandparents and brother. It's this sort of despise where I dont want to be associated with them. They always get overly angry to the fact that I don't want to give them hugs or really spend time at all. I remember telling my parents how I am cutting ties with my brother and cannot forgive him. Their response to such things is always "you have to forgive no matter what because we share the same blood. Friends come and go but family is always there for you."
That is false. Why would I want to trust a group of people who have lied to me so many times? I have been betrayed by both "gene related people" and "acquaintances". I have yet to call someone a part of my family.
Do you have a reason to dislike your family or do you just not care?
When people say things like this anon, they can't accept reality and cannot accept realistic judge of character.

>>17922366

The most likely explanation here is that you're an edgy teen who thinks they're super 'rational' or whatever, or an immature 20 year old who has the mentality of that edgy teen, and thus you don't seen why you should love your family because family bonds are inherently irrational

But the truth is that you do love your family, you just don't want to admit it so you can seem more edgy/rational

Yeah, I have.

It was really comfy for me since I am naturally good at learning languages and I invest a lot of time into it even outside of university because I tend to read foreign books a lot. Basically I did almost nothing and had excellent grades. That isn't the usual experience, though, because I know from my classmates that they poured sweat and blood into their studies.

As for people, it kind of depends on what language you want to study. For example, if you choose something like Japanese, expect to interact with weebs on daily basis. If you choose a more "normal" language, then I guess you'll meet mostly average people.

>>17922308

all sorts of people.

>>17922308
>what kind of people take language courses?

Generally speaking, the kind of people who want to learn languages.

>>17922238
She text we are completely friends right? I am surprised... so I tell her im interested but if thats what shes comfortable with and she says it is... then she tells me she still wants me to come over and I can sleep there if I want. and she has alchol and dont be surprised if she turns into a slut once drunk and wasn't trying to confuse me..

I go over an she text me flirting with me saying she guess im important enough for her to get cute for and something about her bra. i go over we watch some netflix play a card game, she jokes about a strip version but doesnt want to play. we go to a bar (she buys uber) and convo gets sexual. i go for a kiss and she kisses me but says not in public. she lets me grab her boobs at some point and says if i want to see her naked go to end of semester naked run with her. said i could paint her tits and she said dont forget her ass

then go back i start massaging her, she wants to go upstairs. i tell her to take her shirt off she does. do a fully body massage and go to take her boobs off but she stops me several times. i then massage over her bra and she moans but falls asleep.

cuddle with her and cuddle her tits she lets me. next morning she says i can sleep in but she has to go to work early

the night before she said i could sleep over again taht night but its christmas eve and she tells me she might be too tired in text as she has to see her parents that night

i text her something else she doesnt respond. wait like 6 days message her on snapchat while drunk and she writes back and forth for a bit then when i tell her "Guess that means I owe you a drink?" she doesnt respond.

Been several days since then and she views all my snaps.

I want to rekindle something with her. Be ok to ask her out for lunch at this place i mentioned to her once that she expressed interest in?

you're the backup beta cut your losses.

>>17922249
What tells you I'm the backup? I'm new to this. If it means anything she let me take her breast out during our cuddling in bed and fondle her nipples.

I am new to women in general... does this mean she finds me attractive (even if I'm not #1 or the backup)?