>In a rely for 1,5yrs
>The guy cheats on me with coworker
>I move out instantly
>Start dating this sweet guy, not ruined by the world yet
>Ex gets back in my life, somehow I find it in my heart to give him a try
>Me and the other guy just start ghosting each other
>Wake up this morning realize I made the biggest mistake in my life out of the blue
>tfw I have the ticket for a flight in 10days to another country and a job contract there which i havent signed yet
>tfw I realize I am going to be miserable if I go and if I don't I'll let down my whole family and stay broke af
>tfw I realize I have strong feelings for the other guy
Guys what do?
Should I stay or should I go?
Do I even try saying something to the other guy? I don't want to hurt him anymore.
I think you haven't lost much here, the future still waits. Might as well go, at least that's what I would do. You could talk to other guy, but frankly nothing significant was really invested so yeah.
>>18686585
I am a 22 year old male virgin that never had a girlfriend.
Boo hoo for you, having to choose between which partner you want.
I get absolutely nothing, no girl has ever given me her pussy even once.
I swear this is a Mad Men episode.
I'm attracted to fucked up girls.
My first gf was bonkers, my mom and sister are crazy, basically every female in my life has had some kind of mental issue.
Now I fucking crave fucked up women. Girls who cut, abuse drugs, promiscuous, depressed, anxious, bipolar, BPD, etc.
I have a girlfriend right now and she's relatively normal, but I'm missing that rush I get with crazy girls.
How can I fix this?
>>18686500
I itself that sounds pretty nasty.
>>18686500
>I have a girlfriend right now and she's relatively normal, but I'm missing that rush I get with crazy girls.
-Option 1, you manage to get used to a peaceful relationship and stay happy with your "normal" girl. Which means you're a good guy anon, congrats.
-Option 2, you get bored and you leave her for that. Then I guess you are the fucked up one.
-Option 3, you push all the wrong buttons and you corrupt her enough to fit your psychobitch fantasy. Enjoy your trip to hell.
Your call anon, I hope you make the right choice.
>>18686500
I don't know what you mean by crazy, but every person is more or less crazy in some way on itself.
Probably your current gf is a bit crazy but feels ashamed to show her that part of her to you.
is sex literally the only reason to get a gf?
>i'm so ronery
get a good social life with friends
>tfw no gf to do stuff with
get out and do those things with friends or with a meetup group
>i want kids
adopt
>i want a companion
get a dog
>i want a confidant
get some close friends
Even with the value-add of sex, if you compare it to masturbation, sex is more time-consuming (not just the act, but the courtship beforehand, and all the cuddling afterward), and expensive (courtship). Yeah it feels a lot better, but does that justify expending the extra resources?
I dunno man.
>>18686453
I know you're trying to use us as a sounding board to validate your preference for masturbation over sex but I think the point is nobody cares if you think jacking off is cooler than sex and very few people are doing to agree with you no matter how hard you try to justify it.
Pretending like you don't "get" relationships to make yourself feel better about not having one is super lazy and transparent, OP.
>>18686453
Humans generally crave intimacy with other humans, so yes sex is a big factor but there are conversations that I would find awkward having with even my closest friends but not with a girlfriend.
>>18686453
>get a good social life with friends
while I don't disagree, there are different kinds of 'love' and while I find platonic friend love to be the best and dont really long for romance in and of its self, I can understand why other people do.
if someone said they wanted steak you dont just say 'eat a mc double, its easier'. sure it will satiate their hunger but it wont fulfill them the way they want.
>go out and do those things with friends or wti ha meetup group
again, this lacks the romantic edge. Even though i wont date long term, i do enjoy a fling because going out to dinner with a cute girl is different than just going out to eat with a bud. i enjoy both situations immensely, but theres a lot of fun with a romantic edge
>adopt
you say that like adoption its easy. its virtually impossible for single men, its ten times more expensive then just getting your own chidl, and you dont have a second income to help support it or a second person to help take care of it.
>get a dog
again ,different types of love, different types of companionship
>i want a cofidant
>get some close friends
this i agree with, but i never really heard someone say 'i want a confidante in reference to why they want a relationship.
>but does (better sex) justify expending the extra resources
life, relationships, and sex is not about looking for the 'best deal', and what you call 'resources' a lot of people just consider normal life and even fun. Courtship is an exciting experience, hook up apps help scratch the itch of sexual desire, but it lacks intimacy and the 'chase' that so many people enjoy. a lot of people LOVE cuddling after, or even just cuddling in general. as for expensive, it can be if you're trying to go for gold diggers, but if i dont have money i just say 'hey come over and ill make you dinner'. and if their not into that, then we dont date, so no waste of 'resources'.
>girl i was really close with used me for sex
>i cut contact with her
>haven't seen her in a good 2-3 years
>i remembered she still has something of mine
>she suggested we meet up so she can give me it back
why can't she just mail it?
>>18686384
Fug gravy says she wants da dig
>>18686384
What's exactly been "used for sex?"
>>18686457
knew i had feelings for her, led me on, asked if i wanted to fuck, tells me she doesn't like me afterwards
just graduated, have 2 choices
1 - take a $60k a year job in a boring ass field
2 - start my own business and risk being unemployed for life
>>18686380
It depends on the job considered and the business idea. What are they op?
I wouldn't recomend taking risks. This is life we're talking about.
>>18686380
starting your own business will not lead to you being unemployed for life. if it doesn't work out you can jump in on a job later. there wont be a gap on your resume because OH LOOK YOU WERE RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS FOR THE EXACT AMOUNT OF TIME SINCE YOU GRADUATED.
>ugly girl uploads photo
>50 likes 300 messages
>be me look like model
>0 likes 0 tinder matches
Is my personality really that bad? Is this all just because I'm black?
I don't use tinder.
>me look like model
Now that is a pretty big statement.
Where do you live?
>>18686344
yo i'm also a super attractive femanon and i am always getting frustrated because ugly girls get so much more attention. i really have no idea how to handle this. i don't know if it's because they're eaiser, or easier to approach or what... i hate it too and i hate myself for it. i'm white
Best non-degree jobs?
I have a Associates, but it's pretty much just useful being toilet paper. Any good careers for people without bachelor's? Anything I can get that will not take a lot of money or time to train for ? Some ideas I had were in law enforcement or CDl truck driving .
Also any certificattions that would help boost my resume?
>>18686322
HVAC
OP here, applied to 2 different police departments and made it past polygraph part then was rejected shortly after . Was also rejected from a union electrician apprenticeship program
I do scaffolding in the refineries.
If you are willing to work long hours, you can make over 90k a year.
It is ass kicking labor, though, and if you are white, you are most likely the minority.
I was out of town last night, visiting some friends and my gf went out with hers.
Some guys were giving trying it on with them, and to get them to stop my gf kissed her friend, she said it was only a quick kiss,to make the guys think they were lesbians so they wouldn't bother them.
Is that cheating?
We've been going out for a yeah and a half so its a serious relationship.
>>18686235
imo i don't think it's cheating
>>18686235
Does it make you upset?
For God's sake man could you fucking grow a pair? How insecure can these people get..
What can I do in my 20s so I don't have regrets in my 30s and 40s?
>>18686175
Stop worrying so much about your future
lel good luck with that
>>18686175
Move to east Asia and obtain an Asian waifu. Also find a fulfilling career path
I'm 18 years old and my first semester starts on Wednesday. I have really bad social anxiety that I attribute to an abusive upbringing. I can't even go to the grocery store or take care of basic adult duties and I feel like a little child. My social skills are probably that of someone half my age. How do I get over this crap? I feel like I'm missing out on life because of this.
>>18686152
work on your self-esteem. I know a good (french, untranslated in english) book, if you want.
practice.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
>>18686152
Oh, and take care of yourself (good food, good sleep, good hygiene, good health).
And be your best friend (Talk to yourself and take care of yourself like you would do for your best friend, especially when you feel like you have done something wrong).
>>18686152
Benzodiazepines for short-term, antidepressants for long-term treatment. Self-help books, reading stuff online and similar is highly unlikely to ever help you in any meaningful way.
I am in a relationship for past 10 months with a Flight Attendant. She is a very Jovial and outgoing person and likes going to clubs a lot. So, the other day somehow this topic came up and said she has slept with 45-50 people. Now, I am not saying that she does not have freedom to do whatever she wants, but somehow this number bothers me because she travels a lot. She is 25. How should I go about it?
with lots of condoms and few expectations
Get tested for aids, she is a "free spirit" (a whore), sorry lad, you better move on.
>>18686135
Do you feel uncomfortable because of the amount of casual sex she has had in the passed?
>Yes
Break up with her, tell her it's because of that.
>No
Don't break up with her.
/adv/, I fucked up. When I was a kid, all the way up to age 18 (I'm 19 now) I liked to eat lemons. I didn't realize how badly I was fucking up my teeth, and now I have cavities in my front teeth. When I still had insurance, I tried to get them filled, but even after 4 or 5 numbing injections, the drill still hurt too bad and I couldn't get them filled.
The guy left them half done, and I was like, yeah whatever, looks good enough, but when I tried to brush my teeth, I felt that same pain. It's gone away now, around 3 months later, but my teeth look really nasty. What do I do? I don't have insurance anymore, so I can't afford to get fillings. My front teeth hurt really bad today, I don't wanna lose my teeth at the tender young age of 19. I had no idea of the damage I was doing by eating lemons as a kid, I just thought they tasted good.
>the dentist left them half done
>all from eating lemons
I don't think so
post pics dude.
You should've stuck it out at the dentist you massive pussy.
I won't judge you for fucking up your teeth especially on accident but you were in a position to get it fucking fixed and you pussed out because it was good enough. Still good enough bitch?
Questions That Don't Deserve Their own thread thread
This thread is for small things that are important enough for asking help from the internet but too small to waste a thread on. So here is something I am wondering about, does anyone know a normie friendly text messaging program that i could use on both my phone and pc? My phone only works half the time and i don't have money for a new one and most of my friends have discord and i can still cobtact them with that but i was looking more for something like whatsapp that will also work from a pc when my phone is not working, does anyone know if there is anything that accomodates my needs? Not gonna bother with facebook or other zucc'd up shit, i just need something simple without some kike jacking it to my personal info
>>18686105
Ok so:
My gf went out tonight to drink with her female friend
then when i was on facebook and there's a status saying "anon's gf is at bla bla bla hotel"
why is she at a hotel? she must be banging someone?
>>18686105
>starting college soon
>police force will recruit in a few months
what do?
>>18686260
I'd say she's getting rammed up the ass right now. Why would any women go to a hotel. Dude just drop the whore and continue on. If you want a girl go find a nice girl working hard supporting her family, not some stupid whore.
Is nofap worth it? Had anyone tried it? If so what changed?
I tried for like three weeks, didn't make it to a month and sucks. Felt ok, came fucking buckets.
It probably will have good repercussions in your body and mind, and a porn detox should be good for you, but that deoends entirely on YOU
Do noporn, masturbation alone is fine.
>>18686078
at first sometimes i didnt feel like fucking myself then i just didnt feel like it
Everything is quite better now but you gotta have a girl or else you are dead
Last year I was a mopey cunt and anti-social, and drove my first group of friends away. I'm now a lot better, but they still act like they want nothing to do with me. All they do is smile and greet me, and that's it. Should I try to make amends? I still have very few friends
Make new friends
>>18686035
I am, but I hate seeing them have fun without me. It really bothers me for some reason
>>18686038
Stop following them on facebook.