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I always was shy, when I was a teenager I couldn't even speak. I didn't say a word. Bullied loads. So then I was symptomatic of schizophrenia at about 18. Self harming, locking myself away. It past in my early twenties. Later in life I was totally incinerated off the face of the earth because I liked lingerie and posted a picture from a Kays catalogue and went viral. So then, it built up and built up until it was more or less

Hang on a minute

Anyway, after walking through that for a very long time I stopped caring, i'd been through the worst I could go through. Sleeping rough, being molested by weird people etc. I ended up a stronger person, it couldn't have been any worse so I fought back, read poetry, had a great time a strip clubs, drew loads of it.

Fuck it man, just go for it.Nobody liked loads of people but they still were really good at things.

Never had crippling anxiety, but I used to have fear of judgement.

That fear faded as I was gradually exposed to the world. Throughout school I was and introvert shut in and only talked to my other weird friends. But at some point I got a job as an apprentice at a computer (work)shop. One day I was needed to answer the question of a customer. I hated people, but a job is a job so I went out and talked to the guy asking about graphics cards. I was 19 and socially awkward at the time, but still nice to people. I recommended a model to the customer, he bought it and took off. After working there for 2 years I had been exposed to so many strangers on good days and bad days that I grew resistant to judgement. I've had people call me names, threaten me, applaud me, and even hug me. As with most things, exposing yourself to what you fear is the best and maybe only way to remove that fear. Now I don't give a shit what people think about me. By being a an average somewhat nice person it's nearly impossible for someone to judge you in a bad way anyway.

Everyone judges everyone else all the time. Being afraid of judgement is like being afraid of air. Let it go. Worst case scenario is that you make a fool out of yourself and people think "lol" for like 10 seconds then forgets about it. Others don't pay attention to you at all unless you make a real effort.

idk that's just my thoughts

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>>18684833
>Exposing yourself to what you fear is the only way to really move past it

I've been told this by my best friend, but I'm still having a hard time following through. My fear of ridicule is just so strong, and after my breakup with my ex is when it became apparent I had a problem with anxiety and judgement.

Also nice dubs.

Woops forgot to ask. So i was thinking of going back and saying "hey anna, this is random but i felt a connection when we talked, i might be wrong but do you want to go out with me this weekend?" like tomorrow or next time i see her in the chemist.

Also she noted that she sees me around sometimes but i never go to chemist but i gym everday. So she must see me sometimes walking to gym.

She was being nice because its her job to be nice to clients. I don't think you should go back because she very nicely "rejected" you by not giving her number (just because her phone is broke doesn't mean she doesn't have a number). If the conversation went as smooth as you say you'll find someone eventually. My advice next time don't ask for a girls number ask them out, if they say yes the number will always follow. Good luck man most people on this board couldn't even ask for the number, you're half way there.

Her phone could actually be broken :c
Mine was when a someone asked for mine

>>18684795
Whatever you do, don't tel her this crap, you will fuck it up.

Honestly just use the happiness she makes you feel to get shit done and work on yourself bro, and become a better person.

Go to gym, stop playing vidya, frequent /fit/ and /pol/, watch alpha destiny and the Golden one. Also get a job.

Worked for me, went from NEET to aesthetic physical and mental guy who is far more happier.

>>18684877
>frequent /pol/
The hell would that accomplish?

>>18684793
kek your girl has bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection

The best orgasm I ever had was a squirting one. Creaming is indicative of a yeast infection or possible STD. She needs to get checked

>>18684793
Congrats on the new gf OP

>>18684789
>Or should I just create it myself?
This.

Not OP but how do you "create" closure

Depends. If you trod on a snail, I know it's not nice but it was an accident and happens to everyone. If your friends screwed you over or you lost money that's not nice but you can make new things work. If there was a fire or a bomb or death related thing then talking therapy does help, if you find the right shrink or counselling you could benefit from it a lot.

Maybe just do something new with your life?

>>18684688
Exercise and getting out of your room. Also, talk to your family and remind yourself that you have a mission to finish school and get a degree

Keep a journal and do some of the rhings that remind you of home.

>>18684688
It will pass with time anon, give it a week or so. Try to make yourself socialize in the meantime so you don't end up a pariah.

>>18684618
Never even heard of something like this, but could be I just don't visualize correctly from description .. some pictures would help.

>>18684618
i think i know what youre talking about, and if its the same, i have it too. just to help calm you down and get a real answer, have you tried looking at the anatomy of the scrotum online to be sure?

>>18684809
Yeah and it might be a swollen epididymis which is similar to the other listed cases.

Why is the real thing not an option?

>>18684589
Nobody wants to just hug and touch me.

>>18684573
I get massages. I close my eyes and fantasise about affection like holding hands or my crush kissing me during the massage. I'm a mentally ill woman who doesn't want to hurt anyone with my miserable company.

Get a good sleep, don't over think it. Be calm and natural.

Secure a private place, murder your family, go for a run, have a cold shower, and dress up in your most professionally presentable attire.

Ask lot's of questions about the job and the company

>>18684532
She loves you, but not romantically. She wants to be buddies with you for life.

>>18684532
you are like a brother to her

She wants you to be her man-tampon so she can have a better man-dildo.

>>18684488
Yeah, I'm a high school loser transformed into a chad. It took a ton of work to make it happen but it's doable, ask me anything.

>>18684499
I know what I need to do.
But I don't know how to find the motivation.
For example, how do I motivate myself to hit the gym?
Or to get over my social anxiety and go to college?
I've never been motivated in my life for anything that didn't involve videogames or fapping.

>>18684502
Do you have any family living with you, a girlfriend or just anyone really close to you in general?

>>18684485
Want motivation?

>much more energy
>no longer at fisk for diabetes
>significantly reduced risk of heart disease
>better overall feeling of wellness
>you will be at least more attractive than you are now
>feel great about achieving something that most people struge to do their whole lives
>it aint about the destination, it's the journey that will change you.

>>18684510
I know these things and yet it's not enough

>>18684517
Then you don't really want it. Looking to others for motivation is actually counter-productive. I can't magic willpower into you. If your life doesn't seem worth improving in this way to you then perhaps you'd aught to focus on whatever else is bothering you first.

It's not hard to get lost in video games especially since a majority won't tell you what the actual time is. Why do you think casinos don't have clocks?

You're overreacting to nothing. Realize that texting is not instant messaging and you should never expect a quick reply

> If i went partying and didnt reply for 7 fucking hours she would sure not be amused
Do just that. Don't reply the same minute then wait for her answer for 7 hours like a dumbass. Do your thing. If vidya games are more important to her than your relationship, then you don't want her anyway

>>18684504
I took that into account, but man, still that shit doesnt look right.

On the other hand the first thing she did when she woke up now was to text me (messenger, so its instant messaging to be clear), say hi, ask if we gonna see to talk before my 5 days course (5 days without each other is quite much for us), if im ready...

>>18684509
If i just had an opportunity for that then id sure bite. Worth adding is when we are together its all good, nothing looks like she doesnt care or anything, thats why im wondering if im overreacting, or not

cut her off

>>18684423
She's a worthless whore, OP. Forget about her.

>>18684473
>>18684491

I've no interests in her other than being friends though.

Doesn't sound like you concider them friends that much? How is their life falling apart? Can they contribute more?

>>18684428
Well one of them is likely being evicted.
Drinking like a madman and has been shit posting on facebook. Even posted some graphic shit about his girlfriend he swears he hates. Until just recently does he suddenly want to come hangout and sleep over.

Another one he started getting invovled with a married woman aside from his various girlfriends I don't typically care about. (he's single. Go ahead hook up but.. not with married women) Apparently my boyfriend and I are the only ones keeping him from accepting an offer by the married woman to go to Dublin ?

We've bailed these guys out from driving drunk or getting to messed up. But >_> man

>>18684410
Sounds like a one sided relationship to me. You know the signs that say " don't feed the animals " ? You know because they gotta learn how not to depend on humans and feed themselves? So just tell them to feed themselves. I can already tell you don't want to be mean, but come on they're literally feeding off you! They only keep you around to feed you. Question I have is why the fuck do you keep them around?