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How can I stop being USELESS
Zanzaki
2017-07-04 03:00:55
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Seriously, living in southeast asia, life was bad, still bad now, mom dad divorced since I was 9. Living with mom, she's good at keeping the food on the table but she didn't help me anything much in life. Had a change to go to college but couldn't cuz delayed score-sheet returning. Started working since then and now I'm 23y.o and have been through lot of jobs and changes but man... Life suck somehow, now I'm just jobless looking for something to work but no one call me.
Stay at home for too long I'm starting to consider suicide.
But the thing is, I'm a ambitious little kid then and now. Want to give something to the world. Want to do something for the future not just mine but for others too.
But why am I so.... So... Useless right now....
Anyone know a way to work this out ? Or someone have been through the same ? Anyone's out there ?
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We're here anon, you got dealt a challenging hand, now you've got to maneuver life, what do you want to do? How do you want to give back?
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Thank you. To reach out for me. I want to... Dedicate a part of my life for the world. Not to be famous, not to be some crazy ass like those who ramble the earth right now. I want to create something. Or at least change something, anything. For now, I'm trying to turn the whole thing around. Since I have no high qualification, no degree, I once thinking about finding a way to study football/soccer couching. But don't know how. But that for the future plan I guess.. Just for now. Any advice how can I do something to bring food to the table ? I try so much but in my country right now it's so hard to find a job.
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And now I couldn't sleep. Great..... Head starting to hurt.
Save me.
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Psychological tricks to make bitches fall in love with you.
I heard sucking the tit floods their brains with love and attachment hormones.
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>>18484656
physical contact
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I have anger issues. I easily get angry even in meaningless shit like online games. I am also insecure and depressed. What steps can I take to fix this?
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>>18484597
I have lots, especially mood swings and it really affects my life. I upset many people but i cannot help it
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>>18484597
The process of getting enraged usually follows a specific internal schedule, not exactly the same for everyone. First you feel X, then Y then Z and eventually rage.
Anger management training helps you understand your own individual schedule and then teaches you how to spot X when it starts and to cut it off there, before it gets close to rage.
A similar sort of self-study and training can work with some forms of depression.
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hey guys, feelin real fuckin sad... 2017-07-04 02:05:06 Post No.18484593
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hey guys, feelin real fuckin sad... 2017-07-04 02:05:06 Post No.18484593
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hey guys, feelin real fuckin sad...
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2017-07-04 02:05:06
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This is just to toss a bullshit letter out there and hopefully forget about what's written on it... I stopped talking to some one a couple months ago. I'm not upset that I did, they were a bad person(they were paranoid, mean, completely, uncontrolled emotions, unaware of half the issues they caused and worse) not that I'm an angel, I'm better than that though...
I never want to talk to them again, I hate them so much...
But I've been pretty sad not just about them, but things in general. After moving on and a few months of not being happy with anything and digging myself into a hole, I finally started getting attention from people again for what ever reason and have been actually been somewhat receptive to it... I'm not normal and it's very hard for me to connect with people which makes it worse, even if they like me, it's likely I won't like them. But I just had a dream about the person I stopped talking and all these new people I might be able to form bonds with and all I can think about is them... Yesterday I couldn't even have a moment to myself but I wake up the next day only thinking about them... I'm sure it will get as the day goes on and I didn't get much sleep, I feel horrible in all ways imaginable, but this is better than contacting them.
I should take this time to focus and improve myself but I just feel so messed up. Any one else in a similar situation? any advice to make it easier?
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Why do I feel my lower nose opening as I take a breath??? 2017-07-04 02:02:38 Post No.18484586
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Why do I feel my lower nose opening as I take a breath???
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2017-07-04 02:02:38
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I feel the lower part of my nose as I take a breath is this normal? I feel like I should feel something else. I need help
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How high are you
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>>18484586
Air goes in. Air goes out. Something has to open.
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that feel when inner child speaking
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2017-07-04 01:52:57
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If we are mirrored on the other side and are 3d that means our reality is shit and if everything could be possible and we could all be gods then that means theres no reason to exist and nothing matters and what if we transported another god somewhere with our god powers but decided we wanted them back, how would we be able to tell they are the same person and not someone we just created because for all we know the other god is most definitely lost alone and forgotten forever in the other world they were sent to and if everythings possible then nothing alters my mind because i have transcended physical existence and it is pointless and meaningless and nobody exists but me and what if the world was created from me being sent to a punishment universe for being evil by the protectors of the universe and i went to sleep multiple times in my mind to escape them calling me back to the hellish torture universe i may exist in but im not sure who cares existence doesn't matter.
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>>18484566
Also
If its possible that ghosts could be stuck forever in our world suffering until the end of time or existence then there is no point in anything because some peoples souls could suffer forever and ever if nobody is brave enough to free the tormented ghosts.
(inner child caused lots of trouble after i decided it was logical to not believe anything i was taught because adults lie about santa and the earths core, etc)
Not much of a problem now.
I just try to block it
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Feeling like you have to say a word or something bad will happen. 2017-07-04 01:44:14 Post No.18484540
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Feeling like you have to say a word or something bad will happen.
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2017-07-04 01:44:14
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Hey /adv/, was wondering if you could help me. I've had this problem on and off since I was about 14, but it seems to have come back stronger than ever now and I'm starting to get into trouble because of it.
Basically, sometimes when I'm talking to someone my brain will just kinda start thinking of the worst possible thing that I could say at that moment. Like the other day I was taking to a black guy at work who I'm friends with, but all I could hear in my head was "fuck you, nigger" over and over - I'm not racist or anything and I'd never want to say anything like that to him, but it starts getting so loud and desperate that if I don't say it I start feeling really sick and anxious. Literally my chest and throats are burning with the need to say it. It basically gets to the point that I have to go somewhere and say it out loud else I feel like something really bad will happen. It can happen in conversations like that, or sometimes I feel like I've got to just randomly say 'faggot' or 'cunt' a bunch of times until I say it the 'right way', whatever that is. My problem is that sometimes this happens at work and I'll say something not realising other people are around, and get in trouble for it, or people looking at me like I'm crazy.
Was just wondering if anybody knows what this is, or has experienced something like it? Thanks!
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>>18484540
Possibly tourettes syndrome or some kind of obsession. I experience this kind of thing sometimes, mostly when something doesn't go the way I desire and I just randomly decide that it HAS TO. Never had it with words though. Have you had any similar compulses to do/say unusual stuff so you feel relaxed?
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>>18484636
Not tourettes
>>18484540
This sounds like magical thinking associated with obsessive compulsive disprder. Go see a doctor
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Hi adv first time poster here
This might have been already asked million of times but i'd like your opinion
What should i do when i receive interview invitation while i am currently working day job
Should i tell my manager in charge, or should i call in sick?
Please elaborate
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>>18484522
In most jobs, if you give enough advance warning "Hey, boss, I have to take Wednesday morning off for some personal business. I'll make it up by working late before and after" should be OK
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How do I go from left to right pic?
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>>>/fa/ would be more helpful
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I was previously a virgin before I met my current girlfriend, I'm 27 and we've had sex but I'm unable to ejaculate inside of her. She was on birth control so I even tried having sex without a condom but regardless what I do I don't feel like I can ejaculate, I never reach that same point that I usually reach when masturbating.
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>>18484462
The condom is a no-no: thick ones like Trojan ENZ will keep you from feeling enough to orgasm.
Keep trying every day for a week. Do not masturbate or seek other relief. Eventually you will drain your swollen balls into her, and she will feel like a woman and you like a man, and you won't have prbkems ejaculating after that. Once you're over the initial unconscious or subconscious fear that's holding you back, you'll be fine.
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Live in the middle of nowhere, have nothing to do and all I want to do is talk to people I know
How do I stop from annoying anyone too much, I constantly have this feeling like no one wants to talk to me and have an instinct to push them away too but I don't want to do that
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>>18484422
Be a easy going person or a person that's really easy to talk to. Someone that people feel that they can tell you secrets and shit. Don't always try and initiate a conversation with people, use your time wisely. Remember that people will always love to talk about themselves and leave out the sarcastic remarks.
Should I pay for the trip with my girl?
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Should I pay for the trip with my girl?
2017-07-04 12:55:23
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I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months. We are dating casually, although I feel like she will push for serious relationship soon while I'd like to keep it casual, but that's a different story itself. She is really in love with me, I'm her first guy too.
We're going on a short trip together next week (4 days). I didn't want to go for full week because I don't know if I can spend so much time with her although she is cool girl.
When we are going on the dates I'm always paying for everything. That's the way I was brought up, not in a neckbeard gentleman style, but more of like old school "man makes the money and pays and woman is thankful" way. I said that as long as I have money and we go for drinks, I will pay. When I don't have money, we will stop going out.
But this trip is a different story. The total cost of the whole trip is 591$ which is a lot even for me, but I can manage it although I won't be able to go on my planned trip because of it. When I said I will buy air tickets she said she will give money and I said that we will discuss this later. She said that she can't let me pay so much for her. She also has birthday this weekend so this trip could be my present for her. But I should still buy her something else, no? Was thinking about swim wear.
I don't like splitting bills with girl, I think it's beta as fuck. But it's not a small amount of money. What do you guys think? What should I do?
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>I don't like splitting bills with girl, I think it's beta as fuck
So being her atm doormat is alpha as fuck, right? Nevermind the fact that you can't even fucking afford it, you're THAT alpha. At this point it doesn't even matter what you should do, since you're a literal retard. Poor girl must be pretty retarded herself to hang out with your mongoloid ass.
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>>18484465
This, it's the current year. You should respect your partner enough to let her pay for things without your balls shriveling. If you want a relationship where you pay for everything skip straight to a prostitute.
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>>18484465
Don't insult me tough guy, I didn't insult you.
The act of paying for girl isn't beta, it's the dynamic that is important. If you're masculine and attractive guy and you pay for her she will worship you. If you're ugly doormat and pay for everything then it's a different story.
When I run out of the money I will simply break up. Her every next guy will never live up to the expectations I've set.
But for now I still have money.
>>18484476
Guess it's true but I don't like splitting. I should probably fuck hookers then and stop having girlfriends.
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Got it on with a qt last week and it was the best sex I've ever had. I've been over a couple of times to hang out though with no result. Problem is like 4 other people live in the house. Plus other people hang out there to play video games. When other people are there she acts totally platonic which understandable.
What should I do? We all kinda know each other so I don't know if asking her out is the best option.
Tldr; getting someone alone who lives in a crowded house
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I'll keep it brief
>I'm a graduate planning on teaching in Asia next year
>parents want me to get a job until then
>offered full time job for basically minimum wage
>shitty permanent office job (I'll have to lie about my future plans)
>I don't need that many hours/ that much money
Should I take it or wait for something better to come along?
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Take it until you find something more comfortable , also I have never heard of anybody having a problem of too much money . Also you don't know when you will find another job.
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>>18484383
You're totally right. Plus it's much easier to find a better job, when you have a job already. And employers always want to hire people with experience.
We've all worked shit jobs. It's gets easier to find good work as long as you build experience, and skills.
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>>18484431
The thing is I've already worked what is essentially this exact job in my gap year, only for better money. I have the experience. In terms of job history, this is a sideways step.
I just don't see the point in working a job for 40 hours per week, for bad pay, and with little sociability.
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Starting a serious conversation
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2017-07-04 11:47:13
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Hi adv,
I'm wondering how often is it normal to start a conversation about something personal with a very close contact regarding either yourself or your relationship with the other person?
I'm currently involved a very intimate relationship and even though we are very functional, we never really "talk". The only instances that we do (which happens once every 4-5 months) is when one of us (usually me) has something stressful to talk about. The last time I had an issue of how we function, and before that I had a very stressful period at work and I needed someone to cuddle me at tell me that it's almost done :(
I noticed that the other person never shares the same kind of things with me (personal or life problems), and I am starting to be uncomfortable regarding it. It almost makes me feel too needy in comparison.
How often do people do have a deeper conversation? Does it just happen naturally or do you also have to prepare for it mentally for a day? Is it weird to text the other person saying you would like to talk?
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>>18484312
I get where you're coming from but you can't expect one person to be your therapist so to speak. You still want to have deep conversations about stuff that's going on in life but if the other persons not willing to reciprocate that feeling then you need someone else to talk to.
If you're in a serious relationship you both should be comfortable to talk deeply about things. If not then my friend you need to get out of that relationship because if you decide to keep quiet it will chew you up inside.
If something is weighing on your mind speak up about it.
No it's not weird to say you'd like to talk but make sure it's to someone who actually gives a shit you know ?
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Some people just don't want to talk about their feelings so freely like that. Especially while your casually chatting i wouldn't just bring it up.
Was in a similar situation with my gf but on the other side. She constantly tells me everything that worries her etc but even tough i trust and love her i just can't to that. Not because im scared but i'm just not the type of person for it.
Idk how it is in your case, i mean you could bring it up that might lead to a more intimate relationship but i might also come off weird so you should find a good way to do it.
Maybe after you talked about a problem of yourself go about that your happy to have someone you trust enough to share this etc or something.