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>>18484286
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I know on some level I'm definitely to blame. A friendship is a give and take, and while all my other close friends are fine with us not talking for 6+ months, she needs daily interaction. But at the same time, I would purposely not reply to some of her messages because I found her messages to be extremely toxic and creepy. She would wait for me to come online (before I figured out how to hide my status) and start saying "hey I know you're here stop ignoring me. stop ignoring me. why are you ignoring me." I've also been going through some major mental shit which led to a couple breakdowns and two hospitalizations and I cut off all social contact which she didn't understand. We also have a mutual friend group wherein there is a group chat that I am in but she isn't (once again on paper we are complete opposites and our friend group is more NEET/social autists and she's the outlier) and she would ask them if I had messaged them constantly/ask what I was talking about. Right before she blocked me she actually went through a friends phone to see when I was last online/when I had last chatted in the group chat which I just found completely over the line.

It's basically a conflict of me understanding I was a shit friend but at the same time I think she is pretty dependent and becomes unhealthily obsessed with me to the point of stalker qualities. I want to keep the friendship alive because we have great memories together but I'm not moving back home any time soon and clearly online we have a shit relationship. What should I do? Should I attempt to salvage the friendship?

You can't really do something about it. You can only talk to her (in person if possible) and explain to her that she means much to you, that you still value the friendship high but that you can't change yourself for her and that her behaviour will eventually lead to break up.

But in the 2nd part thats sounds pretty fucked up so i don't know if you can do something. I mean you can try to spend time with her, and talk more to her online than you like because she goes through a hard time but that could just make it worse

>>18484303
Yeah I'd love to meet up with her when I'm in town. I feel like I'm much better at explaining myself in person by I feel like she's just going to say something like "No don't talk to me" and then either message our mutual friends constantly or just be passive aggressive to me. idk.

wtf is wrong with me

Whatever makes you feel good, dude

>>18484240
Speech and language therapist. They are a thing. Most stuttering can be reversed with treatment

>>18484258

Interesting.... how much does that cost if I may ask?

>>18484240
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p04t4kwc
Listen to this.

Even when there are girls who show interest in you and are physically attracted to you, as a guy you will still have to do some chasing and put effort into getting laid. Most girls don't want to feel like sluts and just throw themselves at a guy, even if they want to have sex with them. So you have to take the initiative and flirt with them, escalating this until the point you are finally having sex.

>but hearing from female friends the amount of shit they get from guys
That doesn't matter what they say. Being sexually aggressive is what gets you laid. It's just that they are talking about pushy experiences with guys they weren't attracted to. If you are actually sociable then you will meet girls from time to time who show interest in you and they will give you signals to let you know. Be flirty with those girls all you want, because you will be the guy they actually want attention from and in that case you won't be one of "those guys" your female friends were talking about.

>making excuses
You sound like a pussy, grow some balls or give up

>>18484181
>i want to get laid
>post sob story about being too beta to go for the pussy
You don't want to get laid

You don't.

I literally had a girl lie to her friends about us having a relationship in the past and I didn't even go for her.

I'm joking though, idk, be more aware, if you're talking about opportunities as opportunities with a girl or whatever, flirt to find out if you're actually getting that kind of signal, if you do start flirting more and so on.

If you can get a good deal, sure. Depending what you are looking for remember that the US has different plugs.

If you pay the taxes you most likely won't save much money. The last time i went to the states (i am from germany too) i came back with about $2k in clothes and electronics. Just went through the green exit hoping for the best. Didn't get pulled out for check luckily.

I don't really know how much you have to pay if they get you tho.

>>18484162
North America is wired on a 110-120 watt system, and most of Europe on 220-250 watts.

Unless the item is adaptable to both currents, or you have a transformer (not just a plug adaptor), you could blow out the equipment the moment you plugged it in.

>>18484174
It would have been interesting to know what the chances are to get caught.

If the only way to safe money is the illegal one, I want to know the odds, and methods.

>>18484234
This won't be a problem, I guess.

>>18484148
Don't bother about the label of being hetero gay or bi. You feel attraction towards someone ? Act according to that attraction. Depending on how it happens and how you feel you may learn a lot about yourself.

>>18484157
you are right, should just be, the problems comes when i have to talk with my family

>>18484146
also curious. won't buy till I have my own place tho

>>18484146
Nice to have but not for the quick wank, less intense than your hand but more realistic. Cleanup takes time and you have to put it out to dry.

>>18484166
Also this, haven't used mine since I moved back in with my parents since I have no place to put it to dry.

I like mine a lot, I can't last more than a few minutes in it.

You can get them cheap.

Buy some lube and get going.

Remember to wash it out afterwards by running water thru it.

Don't waste money on those special soaps, a mild hand soap is fine now and again.

>>18484144
No, there's no correlation between masturbating and dick size

>>18484144
No.

nofap is a meme and being obsessed with your dick size never helped anyone with anything.

>>18484155
>>18484151
Except no fap meme is there other methods to increase the size without operation.

Well you have to make a decision at some point anyway. Now or later, but you might want to make that decision after you know them better.

Realistically what are the odds that you end up in a relationship with both ?

I mean i wouldn't date two girls at the same time over a longer time period but if you didn't even start dating them i think its perfectly fine to meet multiple girls.

They probably do the same.

>>18484120
You should always assume any girl you date has other suitors.
If you date multiple people concurrently it works best at 3. There is always one coming into orbit and one exiting. Make sure the people you are dating know this is nothing serious but do not tell them who you are seeing nor speak of them.

>>18484107
>You're sad slug people with no concept of self-control or personal responsibility
oreally?

>how to keep from cutting a bitch up when I can't get what I want
what?

also
>that castle
my family used to own that. fucking normans.

>>18484097
Start as a boy and grow up

>>18484097
dude I just answered this not too long ago. here's a new answer though.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXi9bwI6cY8

with that I'm going to sleep.

>>18484027
It is individual.

My first step is when i put D into her.
The second step is when she tells me about love or ask what are we.
The third step is when you impregnate her. After the baby is out, you cant get any more serious after that.

>>18484027
Why do you care?

>>18484027
2 a 3 dates for getting intimate.
1 a 2 months before considering calling it a relationship.

>>18483977
Why do you need ideas?

If you don't have an idea you don't have a story