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I hurt my friend's feelings because I told him I didn't want him to move in with me. It isn't anything personal, It's just my first time living on my own and I'm done with sharing a space with someone for a while. How do I smooth this over without actually telling him he can move in? Thanks.

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/adv/ im struggling here, plz help. So this past school year I had my boss for the internship I had say that he wants me to stay on board and continue to work after college (i do some networking with other people/companies but not much. was relying on this desu) . I asked about salary starting in january, but he puts it off until about may, and then I get apendicitis and he says we can talk when I feel better. last month I met with him and he lowballed the fuck out of me (not a livable wage), and expected me to work 60-70 hours a week, which would even out my salary to be less than min wage. I try to negotiate salary, he gets pretty pissed and rescinds the offer completely. now im unemployed and just graduated. Other part is my gf just broke up with me 2 hours ago after a 3 year long incredible relationship because she needs to be "on her own" and she doesn't want to do the long distance thing. She is headed to law school and she's afraid she will make decisions based on how close she is to me rather than what the best opportunity is for her. I'm sort of torn between being absolutely crushed and being alright with it because it makes logical sense for her career and wherever I end up. I would really appreciate any advice you give me that keeps me positive during all this, and how to not dwell on shit and go "down the spiral" as I like to call it. I'm just really sad and pissed at the same time, and I know I gotta climb back up and improve my life by making what I want to happen, happen. so....how do i do it? thank you

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It seriously pisses me off when a coworker compares me to another "that acts like me." And she keeps saying "oh you're such a (coworker's name)" I'm literally at the point of not talking to her because she's a total dick. Its my first week, and I just might go to another job because of this person. I said to stop comparing me to him, but she keeps on going. What should I do? Ignore her completely, or do some fake love? Idk I just hate being compared to a coworker who isn't close to me.

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So I found some strange happenings on my phone.

I'm going to post it in greenest because it's easier for me to comprehend what I said.

> about 1 or 2 weeks ago I was on /b/
> I clicked on a link while scrolling
> I accidentally downloaded a folder full of hentai that I couldn't delete until I opened it
> I use incognito mode for every single search I do (I like my privacy)
> today I check my phones history to make sure it's working
> I found that there were multiple sites that I didn't visit
> those sites were of things that I enjoy

What exactly is this?

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How do I get nudes from a girl on Snapchat (pic unrelated)

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I'm at PCB for a week and there's tons of good looking girls here. I'm 18 and not completely awful looking but nothing really stands out except I have long, red hair that's pretty nice I've been told. I'm not an introvert either. my problem is that I can't come up with a way to approach these girls without coming off as creepy or annoying. I don't know how to start talking to them/get their number. should I just straight up go right to them and say, "I think you're really pretty. would you wanna hangout or something?" Help me out Chad's and guys that have been with a lot of girls?

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They've been together for 3 years and he wants to marry her. She is an alcoholic, bipolar, and has MS (not that that's a big deal but she uses it to constantly complain about pain she is in and i suspect it is a ploy - before she was diagnosed, she was always complaining about something from contacts hurting to teeth hurting to kidney infections). I think she might also be narcissistic and borderline but that is speculation.

Lately she has been getting worse and he hangs out with me less and less and lies to her when he does. She's had to be hospitalized a few times and is generally making life hell for him. She wants to move even though it will mean him having to give up a favorite hobby and likely take a demotion at work.

Thing is, he thinks this is a healthy relationship. I tried warning him otherwise and now he won't respond to my texts.

Anything else i can do?

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Hey, I just got knocked back at the final round of selection for an internship that I've invested a considerable amount of time and effort into applying and planning for. I feel like total shit and, because I passed on a couple of other opportunities that overlapped with said internship just in case I got it and wouldn't be able to complete said oppourtunities, I have an extremely uneventful several months ahead of me.

I just feel completely empty right now. What's the best way to move on?

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Hot girl i had a crush on in highschool sent me this today. We had a brief conversation last year where i told her that i was going to be studying abroad and that id be back in July. Does this mean she wants to fuck? We werent ever that close, just freinds of freinds up until fairly recently when she said we should do something when i get back but didnt specify what that 'what' was.

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I ordered an item in eBay, it got shipped Friday with priority shipping, i should get it Monday, and not Wednesday correct??

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How come weed and alcohol doesn't give me much euphoria? Like jerking off feels better

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Urgent help needed

I just asked my crush what she likes about me, and then followed up with So, can I ask you if you like me then?" and she replied with "What do you mean "Like"

I might be overthinking, but is this setting up for a rejection? do girls say this when they're about to reject you?

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Finishing month 6 of my 6 month treatment. My face has cleared up but mentally I feel bogged down. Everything feels cloudy and I'm tired all the time. I have lost my drive and I'm worried this is permanent. Will the depression go away after I stop taking the pills?

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I'll try to keep this short. I'm 24 years old and just got a new job making what I consider a very good salary for my age, and my dream job. I have a great apartment, a good car, and feel like I'm generally at a good "baseline" to actually start living my life rather than just working and paying the bills. I've basically neglected my life outside of work, school, and weed for the past 5 years due to a combination of depression, being unable to afford a lot of nice things that other millennials were buying because of my salary and because I was saving most of my money for necessities and other things, and a variety of other reasons I won't get into too much. I used to smoke a lot of weed in college to deal with my depression/boredom/loneliness and I'm realizing now that while I loved it because it helped me cope with life, it basically made me unable to improve myself as a person. I neglected a lot of new experiences and learning things that weren't directly related to my line of work because my life essentially revolved around getting back to the "man cave" and sparking up a bowl to allow my mind to relax. I've now cut all drugs out of my life because I realize now that all they did for me was put a wall in front of me that will make me unable to progress as a person to get better as a professional, to get a girlfriend/wife/start a family, and to be a better friend and person in general. I'd really like to be that fun/interesting/cool/friendly guy and I feel like I have a good foundation for it, but as I mentioned, because I've been neglecting so many things in my life, that is something I now need to work on.

So what am I actually here for... I guess I'm mainly just asking for advice on how to become a more interesting person, ideas for hobbies or something to try out (what I do after work is mostly play a single video game, watch Youtube/Twitch, and occasionally hang out with one of my two friends/go to bars), or any other general (life) tips.

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I don't know where to begin.

I live in Alaska and the economy here is simply broken. Its been in recession for a while and it never looks like its coming back. People are losing their jobs left-and-right, and the fact is that this place was always ridiculously expensive and its always been impossible to live by yourself without at least 2 roommates.

Now that is compounded by the fact that there simply are no jobs at all, and the wages have gone down down down. So I went to a local college to get a certification in HVACR work. I had a 3.7gpa and studied the market, finding that HVAC techs were paid well up here with lots of job growth.

Well, none of that was true. Every resource told me I'd start off with a decent wage, but every place was $12/hr for 4 years, then a raise up to $16 after I got my journeyman. There also were no jobs, and during the interviews they expect you to have in-depth knowledge about systems and troubleshooting, even for entry-level positions. I wanted to try joining the Union, but they require 4 years experience and multiple certifications and licenses that would take me well over 5 years to get. The whole thing was a mistake, and now I'm $20,000 in the hole and only have 3 months left on my grace period before I have to start paying it back.

I found a place to work as a plumber, but 4 weeks in I fell in a hole and fractured my tibia plateau (nondisplaced, thank god) and am on workers comp, but they are only paying me 40% of my regular monthly wages I made while I was working (because the income is based off of what I made last year, while I was in school and only working part-time).

My living situation is crumbling, and in the next 3 months I won't have a place to live. This is a long and complicated story on its own, but it can't be helped and that's the summary of it.

I'm sorry this is so long, continued below