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anyone know what it's like to be unable to enjoy things unless they're sufficiently awful or sad? i want to understand how out of kilter i am with other people in general?

in fiction i can't enjoy anything unless it covers things such as murder, horror, death or total hopelessness. things like 'dead space' or lovecraft, gore videos are interesting to me. true detective was another huge hit, it was about a murderous child abuse cult that the main characters busted.

but movies like the avengers or game of thrones aren't interesting to me at all. nothing else is.

people would associate all that with an 'edgy teen' phase but i'm much older than that. i'm willing to accept insults like 'fedora' but i like what i like. i can't become emotionally invested in media or news stories if they're not horrific.

if you read this and believe i'm in the wrong, how would i go about readjusting my own tastes?

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>20 years old
>tfw no gf virgin, had a few hookups but nothing more serious than making out
>come to terms with wizardom, or atleast dying alone with occasional hookups
>randomly found a girl, things start moving
>spending a lot of time together, recently she brought up that we should move in together after the summer, (our 1 year anniversary) because it would make more sense financially, would be more comfortable, we could spend more time together etc

My problem is, since that this is my first relationship, I am unsure about everything, but mainly myself. I think I am in love with her, but I don't know if I can be faithful towards her, or if we're even meant to be together, or if we should move in together. I feel like if I refuse moving in together, that's it, we'd be over. Also, I know this sounds selfish as fuck, but I don't know if I could hold it in my pants, she's had regular relationships, so you could say she got it out of her system but I didn't even get the chance. 1/2

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I had a girlfriend for like 1 1/2 years. Before that we were best friends for a long time. After a lot of fighting and breaking up/getting together it finally got really good. Then one day i was like na fuck that i don't love her anymore, so i broke up (This is the point were i went full retard). This is like 5 years ago and i still miss her every fucking day. After i broke up with her i even had another girlfriend but she killed herself. But i miss my old 1 1/2 year girlfriend so much. But she had other boyfriends and shit and once i tried to kill myself and wrote her so the last time we wrote is like me apologizing for my "goodbye text" after i didn't die.

What can i ever do to finally get over her? Getting another girlfriend is not an option becuase i managed to be an anxiety filled fuck not able to talk to other people with no friends at all. I'm an alcohol addicted failed piece of shit, please help.

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Since i started working full time just over a year ago at 19, i realized how little time there really is to do and achieve things. This year has already flown by and I've just turned 20 a few weeks ago. But i've been stressing ever since. I feel like I HAVE to be productive non stop if i want to do well. Currently im doing an apprenticeship for trades and have good money saved up and have been working out for over a year. But I feel like every second im not being productive, ie, tv, video games, on my phone etc im wasting my life. I think about all the rich successful people and how they wouldnt be doing this. I have the will and motivation to do anything i want but i feel so guilty if i waste any amount of time that it makes life almost unenjoyable which i dont want. I want to do well and rise above everyone i know, not just get by, but abosutely win at life. But im only 20 and stressing which i shouldnt be. What are your thoughts here?

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How do I meet new people?

It's been half a year since I moved and have yet to find any close friends. I work in a coffee shop two times a week but my coworkers aren't people I'd spend time outside of work.
I volunteer once a week which I started doing because I heard that's how you meet people. Unfortunately the other volunteers are all in grad school and I'm just gonna be starting uni in Fall.
I also don't play any sports. Needless to say, this summer has been really boring and I've spent all my free time alone playing video games and getting drunk.

It was easy when I went to boarding school because you were around people 24/7, but now that I'm home I have nobody to go to. Also no gf. What do I do /adv/?

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I'm having a first world problem. My grandmother died fairly recently, the mother of my abusive mother. She left me 100,000 but in a trust fund I can't access except from my mother. I asked the firm to get rid of it, give it to my brother or a charity or something, but they wouldn't. They can't just give me the money because I'm on autismbux, but trying to work my way off. I don't really want it because my current life goal is to get good at normal shit like working and hanging out like normal people... I think that's the real problem, that I was raised by a rich narcissist and her enabling pussy husband (pic related, dad's reaction when she hurts me) and I don't know any other way to live, not that my brain is broken. I'm making great progress, washing dishes full time now, occasionally date, but I want the temptation of this money gone for good. I'm going to give the firm a call in the next few days, but I'm not sure what to do if they refuse.

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I'm trying to help my mom move somewhere temporarily and I'm worried about where she's looking. Is it a bad sign if we didn't even get the name of the guy of the last house we looked at?

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>I'm turning 27
>I don't have a family, nor do I talk to extended family
>I have graduated university recently
>Haven't found work, but I have a few months of rent to live on
>Getting low motivation
>Have a loving girlfriend but no close friends I hang out with
>Crave into eating junk food easily, starting to get fat
>Wake up at 1pm everyday, basically miss going out and doing things
>Always get distracted by 4chan and other boards everyday
>I need to go to the dentist but no dental insurance

Help? Does anyone know how to take back control of their life? I just don't even have motivation to wake up in the morning.

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How do I deal with feeling like I don't belong in a social group? While I've talked with one of my closer friends about it and they've told me it isn't really that awkward, I still feel like my few contributions to conversations are rather lame and uninteresting - on top of the anxiety and worry of making a poor impression of myself with a group I'll have to be around often.

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hey all not some basement dwelling nerd or something. successful with job held in high professional esteem. but relationships are different story. I find the club scene uncomfortable and basically do a threat assessment every time I go i to one. part my prevoius life experiences and the job make me look at things through scope of ugly side of life. I honestly expect social manipulation or something to occur. in all honesty have the time I seem to accept the thought I will be alone and others times I cant stand it as I just want to be like everyone else and not a intelligence type. I came here baisally asking how do I open up how do I relax

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I got a job at a good company and the pay is good with a chance for a raise after this year is over.

Right now, I'm living at my parents house (temp arrangement, saving money), spending approx 4 hours on the commute daily and am totally looking to moving to a new apartment. However, it's the season for renters as new students etc are moving in and there is competition for apartments.

A coworker of mine offered me an apartment next to the office at an affordable price. I could live there until next may and the rent would be really cheap.

Should I take up on his offer and look leisurely at apartments in the meantime, especially when the peak period is over? The coworker is totally cool with leaving earlier. The con is that it's located next to the office which is a bit further from "where stuff happens".

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How to get closure.

So I've decided that my crush is probably not going to be with me, we went on a date but it would appear it's gone a bit sour, so I'm gunna let it go. But the thing is is that we've had a lot of history together and there's some things I'd like to just get closure on I.e why is it when the date went well we sort of ghosted each other.

Any help on how to get closure without being a dick about it?

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I need a service bill or a utility bill with my name and address on it. My phone, internet, electricity are already in a company's name so those are not options.
Any idea on what I should get? Something cheap?

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I'm going to a trip to Ireland with a few friends.

We're gonna rent a car while we're there, and I have a few quick questions:

1) We're all 23 y/o or under, do we have to buy young driver insurance thing?
2) Can you drive freely between Northern Ireland and Ireland?

Anything else we should know?

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What kind of job in Systems Development, or IT in general, that don't require experience on the field?

Long story short:
>Almost finishing Systems Development college but most classes were fucking awful
>Got a job as a intern with the promisse i would learn stuff related to the field
>End up doing really basic stuff, but i did my best and worked extra hours with the promisse that i would be hired after my internship program ends
>Boss says they wont be able to hire me after my internship program ends due to a funding problem

Now i am almost finishing college but i have close to no experience in the field, most things i know came from doing basic scripts and i got most of that from stack overflow. Now i have around a month or so to find a job on my field that don't require too much experience.