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"Hey, my roastie ass got pummeled by Chad and he left me in the dumpster, mind if I hang in your extra room? No sexual or physical activity please."

>>18730105
>implying that x wants you back.

1.) why.
1.a.) Go to soc, we comingle from time to time.

2.) To make out you just start kissing. You just have to do it. If you're already in a spoon, and therefore she's facing away, start kissing the back of her neck. 1, that shit feels amazing, and 2, if she's into you she'll flip around and start kissing you eventually.
While making out start slowly removing clothing. Start pulling up her shirt first, gradually, then remove the bra, pants, panties, once she's naked move on to foreplay, then start preparing yo dick to get in her. It's not rocket science man.

>>18730089

1. I don't know to be honest . Probably because one of my biggest time killer is messaging depressed people and actually seeing peoples faces would be interesting.
1.a t-thanks

2. This seems like really good advice holy shit. I have diagnosed autism so these kind of things are basically rocket science for me so thank you!!

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>>18730074
Here's a pic of me.
khv btw

So, with all this building over 4 years, now that I'm needing to stay with my girlfriend's family long-term, things are just coming to a head. B recently was advised by her counselor to talk to T, to let him know how difficult his feelings of resentment and anger are, and how much it's damaging their relationship as siblings. B has a very close relationship with her family; her dad passed when she was 8 years old and it's made them pretty tight-knit. Her family is a major, major influence in her life and she'd just as soon as cut off her own arm as cut any of them out of her life.
Well, B decided to write a letter to her brother, T, about three weeks ago. Today, T decided to sit down with her and tell her he still thinks I'm pretty scummy, he's still going to judge me harshly, etc. This, of course, is tearing B apart and she feels guilty for a lot of things that are not her fault.
To give a breakdown on T, he went ahead and deleted a profile I had made for myself on the family computer, and then went ahead and downloaded a keylogger in order to track what I'm doing on this computer. S, the mother, agreed with me in that this was a major breach of privacy, and it's simply unacceptable; that if T has a problem with me he needs to talk to me, and stop making unilateral decisions on how to dictate how I use a computer that isn't even his. This is essentially what pushed B to write a letter to T explaining how this kind of thing isn't acceptable.

All this time in our relationship, B has asked me to stay out of it, to not confront T or R on how they feel about me, because confrontation makes her so anxious that it's just not worth it in her eyes; and besides, her mother has no problem with me as long as B is happy, which she is. I'm perfectly willing to abide by her wishes in regards to her family, so I haven't said anything. Her and I seem to be in agreement, though, that at this point, with as far things have gone, I am going to need to sit down and talk with T. I'm hoping to clear the air, and at least there's nothing to lose, seemingly, at this point.
Advice, if you were in my position, what would you do and say? What kind of way would you approach this conversation? Would you even bother at this point, or is it a lost cause?
I'm quite sorry for all the rambling in my post, but I wanted to give as much context as I could.

>>18730062
>>18730057
>>18730050

tl;dr - Anon's girlfriend has a brother, that brother has a girlfriend. Both people spend more of their time at the mother's house than in their own apartment.

OP makes them feel guilty for being there because they're being useless pieces of shit while OP tries to get back on his feet, so his presence is unwelcome because T and R don't have free run of the house like they used to.

T's retarded, R is as well because she believes whatever T says. My advice would be find a place to live as fast as possible, and don't get T any more ammunition to work with. Everyone agrees he's a moron - just let him dig his own grave. You don't have to confront him at all.

>>18730032

My mother would love you. There are a subsection of girls who like men who are just big, cuddly bears.

Yes I'm sure faggots love fat men with loose skin

>>18730043
Oh I forgot tits too

Why do you want to go?

>>18730024
Why not?

>>18730029

The why's more important. If you're seeking something there, we can help you. If you're just going to go... then just go. There's no prerequisite way of acting or doing things if you want to simply go to a party.

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Can be. Though living with someone I already knew was much easier than a rando.

My college requires 2 full years in the dorms. First year I did it I got lucky and my roommate was a ghost roommate. Her stuff was there, but she otherwise spent 99% of her time at her sorority house. And the second semester she moved there completely, and the university never did assign me a new roommate. So I basically had my own room.
Second year my friend from high school who was a year younger than me ended up at my college, so I roomed with her. This was hard because I too like having my own space to decompress.
I got one of pic related, which really did help a lot. She also had a social life so she wasn't in the room 24/7 and I got some privacy due to that. Also since we were friends I felt more comfortable talking to her about things that bothered me or if I needed space.
But, she dropped out at semester, and I was assigned the roommate from hell. Bitch talked on the phone 24 hours a day, and never left. Idk if she even took classes, bc she was always there. It about drove me mad because I never had any private time. I ended up just sitting in the bathroom for hours just so I could be alone.
Then I moved off campus into a rental house. I have my own room and bathroom, but I share the house with 2 other people. I can live with this desu, as long as I have 4 walls and a door I can close to call my own, I can manage. The shared spaces drive me mad sometimes, they like to encroach on my spaces within them (like, putting their shit on my shelf in the fridge, on my part of the counter, etc) but I can at least escape to my own room to relax.

So, I'd say as long as your apartment is a 2 bedroom deal you can probably manage. If it's a flat though, yeah might not want to do that. Also, living together tests friendships something hard. One of my current housemates is a long time friend, and I kind of want to kill her sometimes.

I've have tons of experience finding roommates through Craigslist as a introvert. I use to not make that much money and would cycle through cheap rental units through metropolitan areas like Los Angeles and Seattle.
Ive had roommates where they expected to be friends and hangout during off times and roommates that mind there own business. Just find the ads where they're straight to the point and be honest with them. I would tell people I like to drink beers and play videogames and I'm pretty passive when there a mess but would clean it up without mentioning anything. And they'll be straight forward if they want a dry house and how they like to keep it. Just be careful and always have copy's of any leases you sign and have them write receipts if they request cash payments. Just do bunch of tours and meet face to face with the people and you'll get to feel what kind of person they are and know they'll mind there own business.

Also I had a friend as a room mate. It's not to bad except it could end for the worst because you have obligations to do them favors. I would rather have randoms as room mates because I don't give two shits if they don't like me. Business is business.

>>18729973
Chinese doctors are fucking incompetent with most things. Plus why the fuck would you even consider Chinese medicine ? Ask for a referral to a neurologist.

>>18730061
Friend pushed me to them. My fault to accept. Yeah, I'm considering one. I suspect that my son is depressed so I might seek out a psych. Not sure though. Thanks anon. Fucking China.

I'm fucking Chinese and I wouldn't let those quacks anywhere near me, your friend is a fucking idiot and shouldn't be your friend anymore. You're also retarded for letting them push you into it.

>>18729948
Jesus christ, i'd recomend getting your bipolar disorder diagnoses and get medical treatment for it. What did he do?

use your cock.

>>18729948
I think you should head to a psychiatrist or the police and ask this exact question in these exact words. They can give you the answers you need.

>>18729918
Learn computer skills fag

>>18729924
Thanks fag

accounting/finance/marketing maybe?

>>18729916
What are other people to you?
Probably not much.
We are all useless, friendo. That is the moral of life.

>>18729926
Other people to me mean everything. I was very anti-social. I changed so much but I still have these twisted feelings. People do mean something.

>>18729885
I hope you are a writer anon.

>>18729942
ya of course, i was hoping to come across some engineers or something on this board.

>>18729962
Mechanic here. I'm willing to throw my hat in on this caper. What's the take?

>>18729845
You'll probably get an interest of some kind eventually and it'll just dawn on you that it's what you should have been doing all along. Almost all jobs are bullshit that don't really need to be done anyway. Just do what you need to survive with as little agony as possible. You should probably leave the country.

>>18729915
Not OP here. Im feeling the same thing. Like i want to life with the lowest standard income im comfortable with, while maintaining my hobby. Do you have something like that anon? if so, what is it?

>>18729841
Be more outgoing and personable. Have conversation starters and stories to tell.

Do something dumb
>join military
>drive truck over the road
Suffering creates character. Character makes you interesting.

>>18729938
works but really, really, really hard. Wanna know the sad truth? Lifts some weights and become fit. Trust me...

>>18729836
I have the same problem with my Dad. I told him if he is so interested In his phone he shouldn't meet with me.
It really is not rude to say this. Try to get her to put her phone on the table away from her plate.

>>18729836
>>18729935
>millennial problems
I don't think my dad used a computer in his entire life and he never owned a cell phone. I buy my mom crappy flip phones cause she doesn't understand a smart phone is expensive and I can't have her constantly breaking them...

Anyway, talk about things that are going on in your life. A movie or show you just saw, something that happened at work, literally anything. Even if you think it's meaningless just bring it up, chat about it for a second and if it dies then bring up another topic. It's called small talk and you go from one random topic to the next. Sometimes you stay on one for longer than the other. That's how you converse. It's called bullshitting, too.

>>18729836
Kinda the same problem with my dad except we just don't talk to eachother and pretty much sit quietly whenever we eat together. I think theres nothing to do about it desu

Also she's a very big "Christian" and wants me to love god and her, and that god "spoke" to her about a few personal things I told her..

Pathetic bump

>>18729805
I think you already figured it out. You can't give her what she wants. It's not a healthy situation for either of you. So make that clear to her, so there can be no doubt, and then stop talking.