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My best friend went off to college recently and when he first started he kept sending messages and videos of him being at parties and constantly getting drunk.
I haven't really been keeping contact with him after that since it got super annoying and now just recently he started sending me messages while he was drunk.
He kept saying that he doesn't feel happy anymore and only feels happy when drunk because he's a loser. He asked me not to tell anyone about it or to remind him of it and said at least twice that he felt like jumping off a bridge.
I don't know what do for him right now, I want to respect his wishes and not tell him though I am kind of breaking it by typing this.
I don't want to lose my best friend, but I feel like he might kill himself if he keeps doing this.

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>get gf
>cant get over her past (fucked a mutual friend before we met)
>what do

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I have a woman in my life who I was in a relationship with, five years, and we ended up having two very beautiful children, we ended by breaking up and she decided to file fake police reports against me due to the break up. She decided to try to take away custody rights from me, all due to the break up. We both broke up and we both stopped talking to each other mutually. Which is why I was surprised to hell one day, I came back from work, just to find out she had put a restraining order on me, and had told the police that I was physically abusing my children.

I couldn't enter my home, or see my children on a woman's whim.

I worked really hard to keep my children and I worked very hard to dispel these lies and I went through a really hard time in my life due to balancing this unfair painful event, court, a new job, etc.

Eventually she has calmed down, and we've been managing to get along, she's pretty lax now and I see my children as often as I want and we don't fight anymore.

Of course as she's gotten older and I've gotten more successful, I think she's realized that no man really takes her seriously with two kids and nearing her 30's, at least not the high standard of men she has in mind.

So now she's trying to play cute with me. Though we haven't officially gotten back together, we messed around and had some good times going out as a family together with our children.

Recently I started seeing this other woman, I've seen her for over a year, and I moved in with her and I've been living with her and though I stopped doing romantic/sexual things with my ex, I haven't told my ex about this new woman for fear of more false female retribution due to spite/rejection/jealousy.

But I really love this new woman and I want to marry her and have a family with her knowing that this woman is worth it. This woman has loved me unconditionally, I've put her through every shit test (like an asshole) and she deserves someone better than I as a matter of fact.

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If i'm trying to find any kind of work, but can only commit to the next 4-5 months, how do I go about that?
I imagine most employers would expect you to stay longer than that. Should I just apply for temporary positions? Not tell them I only intend to stay a short time? What kind of jobs do they not care so much how long you stay?

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What do you do when you admit that people dont really like you, and make fun of you when youre not there? I was avoiding it for a while

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So Ive been seeing this girl and fell for her hard. We're still getting to know each othe. And we just had an argument over the phone about Islam.
Her and her room mate were both arguing with me (neither are religious). I'm a militant athiest. And I don't buy into the whole PC culture of pretending like there isn't an issue with Islam. I think Islam is a violent religion with violent teachings. They were battering me with their point of view basically stating that I'm ignorant and generalizing all muslims etc. Saying that it's entirely political and has nothing to do with the ideology. I know not all muslims are terrorists, but I believe there is a specific issue with a specific religion right now. Anyway, I'm not here to argue my viewpoints with anyone on here, I already did that with her. So her room mate left and the argument fizzled out. We tried our best to agree to disagree on some points. We then spoke for 2 more hours about all sorts of lovey dovey stuff. I was broken inside though. I was hurting. Talking to her didn't feel the same. It's like my image of her was shattered. She was such a beautiful soul up until that moment. I think she was enjoying the conversation but inside I was dying. I couldn't feel anything for her anymore. And I hated it. If we hadn't had that conversation I would have still seen her the same way. But so many of the things her and her roomate said to me sounded so uneducated. I just wanted to feel love for this girl again but I couldn't. I don't know what to do now. I'm heartbroken. I don't want to judge her based on this but I can't help it. Fighting radical ideology is such a huge part of my life and has been for years. How do I see past this so I can see her as the sweet kind hearted girl I met? I know she's still that sweet girl but it's literally like that was erased from my brain. I can't see it anymore, I can't feel it anymore. Please help me revert back to the admiration and love I felt for this girl.

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I have a seasonal job and the current season is dying down which means that I pretty much just sit around in a office all night, doing nothing but very simple but important tasks every now and then.

Time passes painfully slow and I've gotten to the point where I almost want to up and quit just because of how understimulated I am.
I commute for 4 hours a day and I work during the night so my life after work is pretty much the same as when I'm at work, all my 'free' time goes to sleeping, cleaning, cooking, basically preparing for the next day.

Looking for any tips or suggestions on stuff you can do on a bus/train and at work without looking too unprofessional so that I can get this dull period of my life over with.

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I'm curious as to the general take on this:

I was married for about 10 years before I discovered camsites through /b/, and I was an immediate fan. I was anonymous, I never shared my cam, and I got to watch girls strip in a safe environment. I even got to interact with them and express how beautiful I thought they were. I didn't really talk about it with my wife, because it never occurred to me that it might be seen as cheating. I was a block of text to these women.

Of course, when I finally came clean, the spouse rather disagreed. She felt this was a deep betrayal.

What does the general hoi polloi think, I must ask? Is there general consensus?

- And please no "it depends on how you define your boundaries with your partner" responses: I know. We didn't. Shit doesn't work like that for the most part. It should, but it doesn't. So I'm talking gut-level, would you interpret this as cheating with the majority of partners you may have or had, or will maybe have in some awesome future.

tl;dr: do you think it's cheating if your partner jerks off to camwhores but doesn't show their cam?

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Is it weird I I masturbated to paintings and illustrations of civil war battles when I was younger? I read a ton about history and some of the paintings had like one dead confederate soldier lying on top of another union soldier in one part and thinking how they had died made me sad and then for some reason I started to get an erection, I would sometimes imagine I had been shot then lie on the ground rubbing my penis against the ground through my pants. Sometimes I'd get an erection and that would ruin it because it's really uncomfortable to be face down with an erection. But yeah id like march around outside with my toy wooden musket and pretend to be lining up with the other men them open fire and I would pretend to die and fall over and lay there like that, but it was enjoyable to rub my limp penis against the ground thinking about people dying in the civil war and later other wars as well that I read about. This was all before my sexual awakening. When my dad told me about sex and erections and shit I almost asked him about thus shit but stopped myself which is probably a good thing because if i hadn't I would probably be in a fucking mental hospital right now.

Should've I told him?

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Where do you find women who aren't already in a relationship?

Like clockwork, every single women I ask out has a boyfriend.

Is there some official place where both men and women understand they're available?

How would anyone even know what their chances are?

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So I just started college, and I had to leave a serious relationship behind. We still love each other a lot, and talk almost every day, but we had decided to break up for college and not long-distance date, meaning we're both free to see other people.
The reason we did this was two-fold. One, neither of us has had a lot of experience dating, so we thought we couldn't be 100% sure that we were each others soulmate. But the bigger motivation, at least on my end, was that before we started dating I always had trouble approaching girls, and the more I thought about it the more I was convinced that it was the manifestation of some deeper insecurity or sense of inadequacy. I thought the only way I'd get over it was by dating a lot.
By the way we're both on the same page on all of this; I told her exactly what I wrote above.
My issue is this: now that I'm in college, and we still love each other a lot, I have literally zero motivation or desire to see other people. None. I actually want to transfer closer to her after freshman year, but I'm scared that this insecurity (if it even is that) will only fester if I ignore it.
So the way I see it I have two options: either I force myself to go out and date without any real desire to, or stay committed and just wait till we're back together, potentially ignoring a big emotional issue in the process.
what do

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postgin in adv

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Does anyone else here, in a humble sort of way, feel liberated when they don't want to be around anybody? Of course, being around people accomplishes a lot, so it's at least not economically wise to be completely alone...but isn't it so appealing to be able to push all of the problems out? Regardless of how you feel about people, you have to admit that they are full of mistakes and nonsense, and that the average person isn't even conscious of it. Wouldn't it be nice to just go to school, get a decent job, take the money and go home without worrying about an ignorant "friend" or a cheating spouse? No more tension to experience at family gathers, not without going to them.

Hopefully everyone reading this has experienced some kind of attachment to another human being. We know it's addictive like a drug, and so it clouds the judgement of the person experiencing it.

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i'm sorry that this is long but i dont know what to do

I started experiencing symptoms of Complex-PTSD during the last months of my relationship with my ex-girlfriend - who was diagnosed with BPD by a specialis - and after the relationship ended (terribly). I've been trying to "get better", but I don't know what the fuck to do anymore as it isn't getting better at all. I've:
>been seeing a therapist for 8 months
>joined a group therapy group (discontinued)
>started exercising more
>regained interest in my hobbies
>pushed myself to become more social and friendly
but nothing matters because i'm constantly feeling violent, negative emotions.

I'm extremely emotionally unstable. I hide it, but I'll often be on the verge of crying constantly. Any feeling that I am unwanted, damaged, or otherwise not a good person is amplified to the point that I think negative thoughts for an hour, go cry in my car, or even leave campus, go home, and hide.

My self-worth is essentially zero. I engage in extremely negative self-talk as soon as something bad happens, and I cannot stop. I stop short of self-harm, but I often have suicidal thoughts. I have a hard time maintaining new friendships because of this, but my old friends and family both tell me I have a lot of positive qualities - but I absolutely do not believe them.

I violently crave emotional connections with people, yet I'm deathly afraid of vulnerability. I feel constantly, crushingly alone. All I want in this world is feel close to someone again, but I've been hurt so badly by this relationship that I cannot handle becoming close to other people.

What can I even do in this situation? Why won't it get better? I was hospitalized earlier this year when it got especially bad, and it's almost as bad as it was then. Why I am such a fucking worthless, unlovable piece of human garbage? I deserve nothing except to fucking die.

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Recomend me some legal shit that I can use to kill myself. I tried to cut me but it went wrong, I'm afraid to jump out of the 10th floor in the hospital I work, and I live in a shitty apartament so bathtub is not an opition. Please just help, I don't wanna hear bullshit about life, I'm 32 and lived enough. Also, I'm a south american guy, the medication purchase from websites here take a long time to arrive at my country.