Hello all, About a month ago I moved in with my girlfriend, B,

So, with all this building over 4 years, now that I'm needing to stay with my girlfriend's family long-term, things are just coming to a head. B recently was advised by her counselor to talk to T, to let him know how difficult his feelings of resentment and anger are, and how much it's damaging their relationship as siblings. B has a very close relationship with her family; her dad passed when she was 8 years old and it's made them pretty tight-knit. Her family is a major, major influence in her life and she'd just as soon as cut off her own arm as cut any of them out of her life.
Well, B decided to write a letter to her brother, T, about three weeks ago. Today, T decided to sit down with her and tell her he still thinks I'm pretty scummy, he's still going to judge me harshly, etc. This, of course, is tearing B apart and she feels guilty for a lot of things that are not her fault.
To give a breakdown on T, he went ahead and deleted a profile I had made for myself on the family computer, and then went ahead and downloaded a keylogger in order to track what I'm doing on this computer. S, the mother, agreed with me in that this was a major breach of privacy, and it's simply unacceptable; that if T has a problem with me he needs to talk to me, and stop making unilateral decisions on how to dictate how I use a computer that isn't even his. This is essentially what pushed B to write a letter to T explaining how this kind of thing isn't acceptable.

All this time in our relationship, B has asked me to stay out of it, to not confront T or R on how they feel about me, because confrontation makes her so anxious that it's just not worth it in her eyes; and besides, her mother has no problem with me as long as B is happy, which she is. I'm perfectly willing to abide by her wishes in regards to her family, so I haven't said anything. Her and I seem to be in agreement, though, that at this point, with as far things have gone, I am going to need to sit down and talk with T. I'm hoping to clear the air, and at least there's nothing to lose, seemingly, at this point.
Advice, if you were in my position, what would you do and say? What kind of way would you approach this conversation? Would you even bother at this point, or is it a lost cause?
I'm quite sorry for all the rambling in my post, but I wanted to give as much context as I could.

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tl;dr - Anon's girlfriend has a brother, that brother has a girlfriend. Both people spend more of their time at the mother's house than in their own apartment.

OP makes them feel guilty for being there because they're being useless pieces of shit while OP tries to get back on his feet, so his presence is unwelcome because T and R don't have free run of the house like they used to.

T's retarded, R is as well because she believes whatever T says. My advice would be find a place to live as fast as possible, and don't get T any more ammunition to work with. Everyone agrees he's a moron - just let him dig his own grave. You don't have to confront him at all.

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Thanks anon, I appreciate the advice. Thanks for the tl;dr. Definitely came out more stream of consciousness than I meant for it to.

I also agree with the last part, EXCEPT for the fact that it's more R telling T what to think than the other way around, at last from our perspective.

I have another issue as far as finding a place to live/job. I am a former felon, and I also have a disability where I can't stand for very long without severe pain. So I'm basically stuck looking for a job with two major hurdles in front of me.

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>I have another issue as far as finding a place to live/job. I am a former felon, and I also have a disability where I can't stand for very long without severe pain.

And that's why R probably thinks you're deceiving everyone. Kinda hard not to think lowly of you when you've been convicted of something, even if you didn't actually do it.

What is Ts reasoning for thinking you are scummy? What have you done for him to feel this way?

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Quite frankly, the only real thing I think I've done is exist as someone who is strongly opinionated that thinks differently than him. He's a moderator on a Reddit forum and he seems to think he has a general right to bring that kind of attitude toward others in his life. I'd say the "worst" thing I've done is look at porn he doesn't agree with (well, he assumes I've done so, frankly) and I don't allow him to make snide, sarcastic comments at me. He's used to being coddled, and I'm frankly not going to think he's got a leg to stand on when he doesn't. He's a bit of an SJW unironically, so I think he just likes to judge others. He doesn't really have any friends IRL outside of R, and she's so full of herself it's insane.

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That might be the case. Although, frankly, she thought I was a crap person about the first time I met her, because I thought it'd be okay to call something "retarded", as in she said some bs happened to her, I said "that's retarded", and she started talking down to me like I was some offensive brute. I didn't back down, she had a shitfit and ran out the door.

4 years later, I'm trying to be decent toward her, and she tweets something about "this guy thinks he can 'kill me with kindness.' I've already decided you're a shitty person, dude!"

The idiocy of this girl is not to be underestimated.

>>18730091
> am a former felon, and I also have a disability where I can't stand for very long without severe pain

So what was the felony?
What caused the disability?

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Felony was larceny from a motor vehicle. Was arrested over 5 years ago.

The disability is called sub torsal coalition. I was born with it. I'm also on the autism spectrum.

https://www.foothealthfacts.org/conditions/tarsal-coalition