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Hi, I'm wondering if there's any other anons who manage chronic pain.
I'm 22 and ever since the year started I have been developing arthritis. I have osteoarthritis in ky hands, elbows and toes and maybe ankle. Ever since the beginning of the year I developed back pain and I started grinding my teeth. It isn't fair, I should be thriving. Well, I'm trying my best to thrive I guess, but no matter what, no matter how many dates I go on, no matter how much fun I have, I am always reminded "yep, you still have pain."
Sometimes I am okay with it but usually not. Like right now.
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I have two friends who have chronic pain. One's is caused by a spine issue (I don't know the details though), the other developed it over time due to bad posture.
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>>18730236
How do that deal with it
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>>18730226
I have juvenile arthritis in my right shoulder
Some days are better than others
But it's always there.
Can't tell you much. It's there. It hurts. Life still exists.
I've heard cortisone can make it disappear all together. But I've never head it.
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how do successful people provide for others? 2017-09-17 04:23:38 Post No.18730215
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how do successful people provide for others?
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I often find that the more I give, the less I get back. what is the flaw in my mindset and how do I overcome this?
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stop expecting something back
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>>18730237
This. People who get stuff back aren't the ones who do stuff for others expecting favours in return; they do it because they want to.
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>>18730215
Who are you providing for that you feel your relationship is uneven?
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What does /adv/ think about an 18 year old girl dating a 46 year old man?
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I would think sugar baby.
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>>18730088
Who cares? You are both adults so you guys do you.
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>>18730088
Two consenting adults doing their thing.
The maturity gap is massive and i cant imagine you actually have anything in common and the 48 year old is likely exploting the 18 year old sexually but... If it works it works.
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Today a really cute new girl started working with me at my job. She came up to me and introduced herself, we had a nice long conversation about movies, school, and work and she said afterwards as I was about to leave that she's looking forward to seeing me in a couple days when we work together again.
Should I take this as a sign she likes me, or am I just being optimistic/delusional and reading too much into it? What should I do now? She's so goddamn adorable and I really want her to be mine.
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She's just being polite. Someone else is certainly already fucking her.
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Girls often tell me that I ignore all of the signs, those do look like the signs I tend to ignore, go for it, you shouldn't worry about reading too much into it because most of the times you could be right, if that's not the case then just apologize and say that you misinterpreted her actions and words, and that you appreciate her as a friend and understand
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Seems somewhat positive to me, however there's not enough info yet to exclude any possibility she's just being polite. Most people will say "looking forward to working with you" especially when they're new. You want to get in good with your boss and coworkers that's just new job 101.
Just keep talking when you see her, build up a friendship and see where it goes.
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Marriage and Friendship 2017-09-17 03:06:23 Post No.18729991
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Ill try to make this quick and concise, any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
>27yo, married 6 years with two children, never cheated.
>A month back my first gf (14yrs ago) calls me up, asks me if I wanna hangout.
>I tell my wifey, she's okay with it despite being jealous by nature and everything is cool.
>FF to tonight, exgf calls me up, asks if I wanna hangout
>Ask wifey if its cool I go out and she loses her shit on me
>I try to be understanding of her position but its an irrational no, tears and all that
>I stay home, wifeys pissed, Exgf thinks I'm a bitch and I feel like a loser
Is it wrong of me to be upset at my wife for not trusting me? I understand the whole ex thing but we were like 13 and never even went beyond kissing. She's married, I'm married and her kids would be home. Am I a jerk or something
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>>18729991
Why would you go and meet someone you randomly dated when you were a teenager? Why would she want to meet up with you in turn if you're both married?
It seems kind of out of the blue to go "hey I should ring up an old lover because why the fuck not that's not awkward as shit". She must have a reason to want to meet up with you. Your wife is pretty much in the right to be like "what the fuck is wrong with you." Not that it's bad to meet people you used to know, but this one has lots of heavy implications. You should be able to see these.
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>>18729991
Doesn't matter if you never banged her, doesn't matter how far you went. You're meeting someone you had romantic interest in under sudden, out of nowhere pretenses. Your wife is known to be jealous. This is a situation that provokes jealousy. How are you this blind?
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>>18729994
I understand the issues behind it and the complexity but doesn't trust count for shit? That's my issue, she doesn't trust me to just be friends with any woman. Like any, not even family
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NEET looking to escape this lifestyle and make something of myself. I'm too much of a moron to go to college for academic things, are the skilled trades worth looking into? At this point I know I'm pretty much screwed and stuck as a blue-collar worker for the remainder of my days, but there seems to be a big demand for the trades right now.
Anyone in the trades care to talk me into/out of this? Which trade would you recommend? The money isn't really important, I just want to get out of my dad's basement and stop feeling worthless.
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Join the military. That's what I did.
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Just started class to be an electrician and it's the best choice I've ever made.
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In trade school to be hvac.
Good to have a trade that's in demand.
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Ok so another anon told me to get womens attention, you have to ignore them and pretend you aren't interested. I came back because there is a disturbing amount of truth to this for which I cannot comprehend.
Literally got attention from every single woman around me by completely ignoring them and pretending I wasn't interested. They kept getting next to me and staring at me.
This is in complete opposite to last week where every single woman I would look at and smile or be interested in would 100% ignore me like I was harassing them for being interested.
Due to this I am very confused and would like some insight as to why not wanting someone all the sudden makes me attractive.
I can't see a relationship based on that premise going very well
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You're imagining things.
The point of the advice is to avoid being a clingy, whiney, needy or entitled faggot.
Nobody ever said not being assertive or flirty is a good idea at all, because generally guys who are this way make more connections, and girls respect men who play a fair game without trying to hide their intentions.
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>>18729886
>The point of the advice is to avoid being a clingy, whiney, needy or entitled faggot.
So because i'm interested in these girls, to you i'm all of those negative things? How?
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>and girls respect men who play a fair game without trying to hide their intentions.
I'm literally hiding my attraction to them and they respond to me more, how does what you're saying make any sense?
sorry im slow
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I have had dreams where something minor will happen then weeks or sometimes months later it happens to me in real life... It will be something small like someone wheres a certain outfit and says a specific thing in a specific place and i completely forget about the dream until it happens. Why does this happen and have you had the same experience?
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>>18729862
The only explaination is that you're god. Also called a dejavu....
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>>18729862
Same dude, although I sometimes dream of major events too
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This was my explanation for deja vu when I was like 6. Grow up man. Read moar.
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Hey /adv/ need your help
I'm a 19 y/o girl, studying but not currently working. I live with my mom, brother (15) and steptrash. My mom's a manipulative cunt with a victim complex. She calls me all sorts of terrible names, beats me up sometimes and has to ALWAYS be the victim. She also spoils my brother with expensive gifs but I haven't got a thing from her ever since I was 13. For example, last year I had to give up on school cause she didn't pay for it plus didn't pay for my food or transports. I didn't have time to work cause i had to be in school from 8am to 6pm. We also don't have a lot of money but when my mom has some she spends it on superficial things such as accessories for her, parties or shit for my brother. I also don't eat meat. Not because I'm a vegan. My body just rejects meat so I vomit. She doesn't care and doesn't buy fish or substitutes so sometimes I forced to eat just rice or salad so I developed anemia
I have a boyfriend and he's an angel. He helps me a lot on pretty much everything he can (money wise or just support) even when I tell him not too. He's parents also like me a lot. They take us out for dinner and the movies. They give me a lot of advice and let me stay at their place every weekend. Also, buy me stuff even though I always say "seriously, you don't have to".
I tell my bf about my situation at home. Everytime there's a fight I tell him. My mental health is not the best. I'm depressed and have bpd so one time after a fight I had to be taken to the hospital cause I had a mental breakdown which resulted in me having extreme erratic behavior just as laughing maniacally while crying. I told my bf about the situation and so he told his parents.
They now want me to live with them, but I can't work cause I need to finish school so I can't pay for my shit. They don't have to help me. They are not my parents and I don't want to be dependent on them. Also don't wanna feel like I'm using them for their kindness...
What should I do?
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Kill your mom
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>>18729840
Sounds like you have a perfect solution and escape staring at you right in the face but instead you want to be a difficult little shit and will probably find a way to make it look like your bfs family victimise you too
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>>18729840
See if you can move in with your BF. As long as you're a legal adult you should be able to no problem. Try to get all your legal documents first before you go. At that point it is really a question of school vs. work.
God bless anon.
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>go on date with qt
>have a good time, she's very talkative
>have a lot of things in common
>asks me about my plans for the weekend when we're parting
>think my luck with women is finally turning around of a after months of draught
>a couple of hours latter I get a "it's not you, it's me" type message
>happens every fucking time
Just fucking end me. What the fuck was the point of autistically counting calories, setting up short and long term goal-based programs, breaking PRs, dedicating my fucking life to this shit for years if I can't even hold the attention of one girl?
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>>18729554
I got two of these before but I'm also overweight. It's weird seems like we hit it off, she's not constantly on her phone, and looking at me all the time during the date, and we talk a lot but it never goes anywhere. Maybe when I'm skinnier it'll change
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>>18729555
Yeah, that's what I thought, too.
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Eventually you will find one. Lift and take care of yourself for you and not just to impress girls.
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Standards are too high 2017-09-17 01:02:57 Post No.18729489
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Hello /adv/
What do I do if my standards are too high?
I reguraly have to ignore girls under 7/10 because i have no interest in them
I kind of feel bad, but at the same time I wont waste my time with somebody i dont want
wat do
I'm not a virginfag, dated a pretty perfect grill in hs
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Relationship wise, it doesn't matter. You can have your standards at any point you want. Some people like spicy food, and some people like sweets. It is just preference, and you shouldn't change that if it doesn't really matter.
If on the other hand you don't talk to women who are below your standards AT ALL, then get your head out of your ass and eat some humble pie.
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>>18729489
Nothing wrong with having standards. Don't compromise if you're not feeling like it. Just don't get your head in your ass with the standards though, like if you like to have 8/10 above for romantic relationship, but it'll make you shun 7/10 below in context that's not romantic relationship., could be in professional or regular relationship.
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>>18729489
>I'm not a virgin
You're basically a virgin if it's been years since you've gotten laid.
>What do I do if my standards are too high?
It's all fucking relative. You're not saying shit when you say a 7/10 other than YOU think she's mildly attractive. If you don't like girls live alone for the rest of your life or try guys. I don't know what kind of advice you expect to get with this shit. Maybe you're not such a prize yourself.
And trying to get with someone simply for their looks is a sure sign that you need to grow the fuck up.
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>Want to go out and socialize and not be alone
>But also want to stay at home and be left alone
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>>18729488
Depression my friend. I do it too. Worst part of it all, you don't care if you talk to somebody, but you also don't care if you don't.
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>>18729488
>I want to push out of my comfort zone and do the things that I know are hard but will result in greater accomplishment and long-term satisfaction
>But I am also wrestling my impulses for short-term satisfaction by being lazy
It is the struggle every human faces. The formula is the same, only the specifics change depending on situation.
Articulate your long term goals. Write them down. Break them down into tiny goals. And tinier goals. Specific things you will do each day.
And then do them. And allot yourself enough time for lazy house dwelling etc
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Aye I remember that vid
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>22yr old male
>forced to take Risperdal or be sent to mental hospital/prison for beating up my shithead brother who chased me around the house
>gain 100 lbs
>was a 6'4 highly athletic basketball player, don't give a shit about anything now
>get neetbux so whatever
>spend on my money on comic books and food and give the rest to my mom
>have a gym membership but it's just wasted cash because my knuckles are broken, can't cancel it because cancellation fees are fucked and my mom put her breathalyzer in my car so I don't want to drive there
How fucked is my life on a scale of 1-10?
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9.5
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>>18729446
Also, I guess, how can I get off Risperdal (what I'm really taking is Injected Invega but Invega is just renamed Risperdal because they were getting their asses sued for giving people that poison)?
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>>18729446
you are not telling us something. you don't get put on antipsychotics just for beating someone up
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>be married
>love wife
>couldn't live without her
>wife going away on trip again
>cheated on her 5 times already
>thinking about doing it again
Should I stop? I can't help it sometimes
Sex is great but not as often With wife , so I always want more.
I don't feel bad after but I feel bad about her possibly finding out.
I'm not going to confess but should I continue?
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kys you man whore
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>>18729314
Later I will
But not until I get a kilo of coke to do it with
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You can stop but you choose not to. You selfishly put yourself ahead of your wife. She'll eventually find out. They always do. Hopefully you don't have children. Leave your wife and then go do whatever you want to and stop ruining other people's lives with your childish behavior. You could infect her with an STD she will have forever. So, stop it.
This is obviously not the best place, but I just need to talk to someone about this. Please, just some simple advice.
I fell in love with this girl. Although I enjoy talking in public, doing speeches, acting, and talking to lots of people, I am very shy when it comes to love. So I would never have the courage to talk to her, but some friends introduced me, and we spoke a few times. She was also very shy. We had absolutely nothing to talk about, and we ended up chatting only four times.
I felt really sad because she was amazing, and my friends said she found me handsome and a nice person, plus lots of other signals that she was interested in me. Almost a month later, I was in college talking to a friend (oh, she goes to the same college as me, I forgot that) and when he saw her nearby she called her. She didn't say hello, didn't look at my face not even once, didn't say anything to me directly, after that I came to the conclusion that she already hated me.
I am WAY too emotional, my life has always been an emotional rollercoaster, probably due to years and years of reading romantic tragedies. I didn't pay attention to any of the classes, didn't talk to any of the other students, I felt awful. There was a friend of mine, the same that introduced me to her and called her, that helped me with everything. The very same day, I messaged him a giant chunk of text explaining that I loved her, and just because I didn't talk to or about her often, she was in my mind at all times, but after that day, I realized she had lost all interest in me.
He actually showed her our conversation. Now, I know he had good intentions, but that probably made me look ridiculous. The very same day, she messaged me saying something along these words: "I'm sorry, I just want to set some things clear: I am very shy too, and I know you probably think I don't care about you and don't want to know you better, but we just don't have anything to talk about. That doesn't mean I don't want to."
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It seems like you're doing good to me. You have a good friend.
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That was two days ago. Now, basically I feel that happiness is at the touch of my hands, and I am pushing it away.
Sadness is so good when it is due to something alien that you couldn't have prevented. I know that if I kept talking to her, we'd eventually become more intimate and lose our shyness, but I didn't message her after that nor do I think I'll have the courage. I am completely despaired, because I love her, yet I know that if I don't do anything I'll lose my chances.
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And why won't I talk to her? Because basically our conversations were about the weather. It felt rigid, as if we were both playing roles, trying not to cross any barriers. And I think it would be even worse if we talked personally, because then we wouldn't have time to think about what to say. Plus, I have no idea how I could talk to her in person, I don't have the courage to just stop her when she's walking and strike a conversation.