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>>18728014
I don't know shit but this article say it is related to performance anxiety and stressors about your current life. See if that hit home, OP.
http://www.dreaminginterpretation.com/why-do-i-dream-of-being-back-in-school/

>>18728035
Holy shit, the dreams some of the people in the comments are describing are almost exactly like what I'm having.

>>18728006
Where was my advice you fuckboy?

>>18727994
Get a new teacher, that one sounds like an asshole

have self assessed for adult add

>>18727985
this is probably a horrible idea

Yes it is a bad idea do not go by yourself. If somehing bad happens then you have no one to look out for you. What if someone roofies your drink? Who is gonna help you? Or a guy comes on too strong and you want to leave, but you have no friend to step in and everyone else is too drunk to help?

Dont be fucking stupid. You are 19 grow a brain. I used to be in a frat and all the above shit happens.

>>18727993
This. Blending in would be the least of your problems

>>18727969
Dont do it anon. There is still a lot to do and experience in the world even in your condition. Do you enjoy music? Try dabbling into singing, it wouldn't be so affected by it. And this is the first thing to come into my mind, im sure you can think of many more
Also hey, as a fellow artist myself, don't let this kill your passion

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I have a mild-moderate TBI myself. I'm 5 years out now, and my symptoms have more-or-less settled and become part of my life.

I'm guessing yours is way more severe? Out of curiosity... do your hands tremble all the time, or only when they're gripping something? How often do the migraines come on? What do they feel like?

Do you know the severity of your injury? Mild,moderate, severe? When you had brain scans done, did they find any evidence of lesions on the brain?

I'm asking all this in order to gather more insight into my own problem.

Needless to say, I sympathize with you anon, since I've struggled with all of the above. And in my darkest moments, I've wanted to die too.

I'm going to sleep soon. If you would like someone to talk to, then I can be that guy. I put in a throwaway email. Shoot me a PM if you'd like to exchange more info, and make an internet friend out of me.

>>18727969
This sucks.
You look extremely sad right now. Do you have friends or family you can talk to ? Can you go to therapy ? You need to be supported to the max when your moral is so low.
Godspeed, OP.

>>18727946
Take it as a lesson learned in life. Next time ask her out. Don't worry, you're a kid, kids do stupid things.

Life isn't anime. You don't get to cop a feel like that and get a positive response.

>>18727951
We're on a date right now.

Just mention to him you want them cleaned up, it's fairly common for men to get their brows waxed or trimmed up nowadays. They have a nice natural look to them, so anything else in excess would look off.

>>18727999
Will do, thanks

>>18727922
>what is their end game? why would they start doing this?
Tried asking them? sounds like you'd get a pretty straight answer.

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>>18727922

Most women are technically bi.

>>18727922
Living the dream OP minus the wife thing if this is all true
I wish I had a lesbo friend that would release my stress for me.

In any case, they could be trying to make you their unofficial sperm donor for a kid they might want. Who knows. Better get some legal paperwork so you don't get caught up with child support.

>>18727907
I started writing. I've made my depression and daily life into a story that works as fiction and started writing each day. Really gives me some distraction.

>>18727934
I like writing as well but it's limited in its social potential, it's a solitary hobby. That's why I went to TRPG's, a good compromise. Do you share your stuff on a forum or at a club?

>>18727945
No, not really. Used to go on storywars, but I prefer to not worry about the quality of this stuff, and just write for myself.

>>18727905
Drink a shot of whisky.

>>18727905
>sleep at same time each day
>don't do other things in bed aside from sleeping
>make sure your room is a bit colder than normal at night, you won:t sleep in a warm room so well
>don't drink or eat a lot for some time before bed
>go straight to sleep, don't allow yourself thinking about life or whatever, makes you more awake
>don't think about how you have to fall sleep, rather think about how comfy the bed is and how tired you are
>afterwards, get up straight after waking up/alarm goes off

>>18727902
don't bother trying.
if you have to ask on this loser board you aren't going to bag her anyways.

Don't ever hit on women doing her jobs.

>>18727915
Good rule of thumb. It can be done, but usually they are just acting like they like you. I've gotten two strippers and a waitress, but it was all casual sex. If you actually think she wants a relationship you have to remember waitresses are what's referred to as "hired guns" in the PUA community. They are hired for their looks and know how to be charismatic to help the business they work at. She could outright call you sexy and set up a date with you -- that doesn't mean she'll actually do it. Whatever gets that fat tip from you, and I don't mean the one in your pants. Best bet is to go in again after a few days and ask her out. Say your going some place and ask if she "wants to come with" you.

>>18727896
Okay, just write whatever grant/scholarship board wants to hear, modify it a bit to suit yourself and give that letter to be signed by her. That's how you deal with it. /thread.

>>18727928

>just write whatever grant/scholarship board wants to hear

That's kind of where I'm struggling. I know what they want to hear but then it may not be entirely truthful. I have to assume my professor will disagree to sign off on bullshit since her name is on it.

shameless self bump

>>18727890
>work out
>eat better
>get fit
>your terrible image no longer affects your mentality
>you get more social
>you get more daring
>you pump up testosterone

It's literally just mental stuff that follows your appearance, so work on your appearance.

>>18727914
This is honestly the experience I've been having. Lifting has definitely helped both appearance and self-image which in turn made me better socially.

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>>18727871
Bumping for help

>>18727924
Bumping again, someone help this dumb anon

It's all gonna be fine man, there's no need to worry about any awkward or risky situations, they're never happening anyway. Together with her you can even make fun about your panic. Whenever you feel like you fucked something up, or whenever something broke the flow of the conversation, just crack a few jokes about your awkward attitude and move on.
It's a nice thing, that way you're creating some sense of in-joke that only you two know about.

But think about changing plans to going for a walk or grabbing a coffee or something, just don't go see a movie for a first date. It's like an excuse to meet somebody, but really you're taking the safe-road where you have little chance of personal interaction. Maybe go for drinks straight away, or take a walk through the city or something like that.

can't control what happens. can control your actions and your reactions. loss is a part of life, appreciate what you care about and make the most of it

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>>18727851
We live in scary times right now to be sure. The only way we can change this world is one day and one person at a time. Try avoiding the news for a while amd try to find the joy in your own life and share it with others. Love everyone and judge no one. We all have to share this planet together so we might as well try to do it as friends.

Loss unfortunately is just part of life. We all experience it at some point. It's never easy but you can always cherish and look back fondly at the time you had together.

I believe I'll see them all again one day in heaven.

Forgiving someone can never be considered a wrong act and I'm sure that, if they ever felt any regret or deal with the guilt of bullying you in the past it has surely passed due to your message. To err is human, to forgive, divine. It's a good thing that you did OP.

>>18727829
Jesus forgave the romans and the jews and after they condemned them to death and they still rammed a spear thru his chest in the cross. By that I mean that forgivness is not a way to stroke your ego . It is about letting go and being better regardless. If you HAD to send HIM a message , it doesnt soundnlikenu forgiven him so much as you still give a fuck about him and want to prove u are better by offering a "forgive"

>>18727829
You did it because it was the right thing to do. Holding on to that hurt and pain is just a burden you don't need. I think most bullies act out because of some messed up situation in their own lives. Keep listening to that voice inside you. It will show you the right way. How that person takes it doesn't really matter. Maybe it will mean something to them., maybe it won't. You have peace with yourself and you reached out in compassion. That is enough.