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Lol. Water needs to be shut off ASAP. You will never be able to fix it and it has probably already fucked everything up needing large scale fixing. Maybe you should put a dryer in her house, you know, a real shitty one thats all full of lint, and maybe hook it up and then halfway bury it in crap. Then youre gonna wanna run that dryer about 500 times until you see smoke. Then she has to leave, all the stuff burns down, she gets insurance dollars and gets to move into a non fucked place.

Have you ever watched that TV show. Hoarders. Nothing ever gets done. Most successes are about clearing most of the garbage out. They never even get to the collections of useless stuff. They keep way too much. Anyway, the state of the houses, once all the garbage has been taken out, is usually horrendous and frankly unlivable.

The minute a water pipe starts to leak, it needs to be remedied. The house is probably beyond repair. I'd love to see some pictures of the actual hoard in question.

One more bump.

punching bag

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Find a punching bag and beat the shit out of it till your nerd rage subsides or you hurt yourself.

>>18731142
Get shit done and stop visiting this garbage.

>>18731142
Take a fifteen minute break every hour. Drink a glass of water, read a paragraph from a book, then either groom yourself, clean the house, or go for a walk.

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>>18731498
>>18731518
thanks guys. you're helpful

"We should hang out sometime"

>>18731098
"Hey, want to grab a drink sometime?"

"will you go out with me'

>>18731093
Maybe you need to consider professional help. I can't quite tell how serious you are about seeing ghosts and delusions. But it doesn't sound good.

Beyond that, first try to actually enjoy hanging out with yourself. You know, being alone. Once you actually like yourself you might find talking to others a lot easier.

As for standards? Fuck standards. Talk to everyone, meet up with anyone who's interested, see what happens and figure out what you feel. Going out on a date or starting a conversation doesn't mean you're permanently bound to that person. Worst case you'll meet interesting people.

>>18731113
>professional help
I already see two psychologists at varying frequency a month. One I just started with so I'm just basically dumping nothing but baggage on him and the other one only pretends to care while he looks at shit on his phone while I talk to him.

>enjoy hanging out with yourself
I mean I'd like to think I'd like myself but it's not like I have a choice in who I even hang out with since I have very little friends where I live.

>talk to everyone
That is a terrible idea. I can't bring myself to talk to random people easily because I can already tell what type of person they are. The memer, the shewitch, the cunt. But if I can't figure that part out it just makes things worse. I'd rather keep my distance from people I know I'm going to dislike than start some kinda drama with them and cause trouble for myself.

Like mate, I'm not looking to do some socializing with random people. I do that already. I want someone I can connect with and the issue is that I've never met anyone who can. I feel amazingly estranged from people: therapists, close friends, and family. Humans just seem so foreign, acting on concepts that are just completely alien to me. I can tolerate it but never really stand it.

Hello? What is the advice you're asking for?

Why is this board just people ranting about how "bad" they have it? If you've got time to post here you've got time to fix the shitty issues in your life. If you don't know how or where to start, then ask for advice. If you want to bitch about your life, write it down in a fucking journal because nobody fucking cares.

That would be an awesome power

Stop seeing her

>>18731074
If it's bothering you that much, do something about it. There's three options I can think of:

1. You have a serious conversation about it, try to set up a date, actually fucking go for it. What's there to lose?

2. You have a serious conversation about it, tell her to stop or you can't be her friend anymore. Because that shit isn't healthy.

3. Do nothing, keep fantasizing about raping her, be a forever alone creep, feel like shit.

>>18731068
Why do you want to stay up?

Careful being awake for too long can give you a heart attack due to exhaustion

>>18731068
Meth

>>18731060

Why are you moving and what will you be doing there?

>>18731077
Because he got a card.
I want one too how do i do it?

>>18731086
US Diversity lottery (DV) opens in October.

Without that, you'd either need to have a lot of money or have a company sponsor you (not easy).

I had a father who was a bit worse, but did very similar things a lot of the time. He left and I realised just how much of a shit cunt he actually was. Honestly, my advice is to do your best to reduce the value of his opinion to you. He might be your father, but that doesn't make him any less of a human, and humans all have the ability to be disappointing cunts. Try and find more purchase in your own opinion of yourself, without letting him impact on it so much.

>>18731055
Have you tried talking to him about why he's being this way? It sounds to me like he's having some very difficult personal issues and he probably sees you as the only acceptable outlet since you are a man. I bet he is still very kind to your mom too right?

>>18731055
He sounds like he thinks that being a "man" is equal to being a brute

>>18731037
Do whatever he says like you're his pet woman

Don't cheat.

>>18731037
Don't try to be the perfect girlfriend. I tried for very long and ultimately it made me unhappy and made my relationship fail.

Be yourself. Do what makes you happy. Try to learn what you want and need in a relationship.
By all means, be kind to your partner and listen to him, communicate and compromise, go out of your way to meet his needs. But don't become a person you are not to make him happy, or do anything that makes you really unhappy just because he wants you to.
If you are happy doing things that make him happy, your relationship will be amazing. If you have to be someone you're not to be the perfect girlfriend, you will hurt a lot and it won't last long.

Just be yourself and you'll find a girl that likes you.

What to do if myself is someone that no one likes, apart from some close friends?

try talking to the ones you wouldn't care about spilling spaghetti in front of. not saying to lead them on or anything, it's just to get you intro'd so you can familiarise yourself a bit and get more comfortable with it

>>18731003
Just never lend her your car.

Seriously some disabilities can be very limiting, even those that don't sound too bad can have catastrophic consequences. Such as falling down stairs or dying from head trauma due to falling over asleep and hitting her head on the edge of a table or a hard floor.

>>18731003
I dated a girl with diabetes. Not quite the same but it does make you take things into consideration that you never would have before. You just get used to it as you spend more time with that person. If anything you'll probably try taking better care of her than she does herself. It seems like a lot at first but it's just another day after a few months.

>>18731025
I know better than to lend her my car. Would she be limited as to what activities we can do? She seems hesitant to go to parties with me, probably because she doesn't want to fall asleep. She doesn't really go to sorority functions anymore either.

>>18731065
That's what it was like dating my ex who had bulimia and anxiety. It was rough at first, but I eventually helped her get through the eating disorder. I worry more about narcolepsy since it's not really curable.

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You're not living in fear.

>why?
It's because of your shitty atidude.

You'll have to force yourself to do what you actually want to now.

>>18730992
She's sharing her fantasies only. Enjoy sharing them, tell her she's in a threesome while you fuck her and drive her imagination wild.

The bad thing about being in a relationship with a bi-curious chick is she doesn't want to share you with the other girl. Been there, done that,got the scars.

>>18730998
If that were the case can you fault a man for not
trying?

Just b urself :^)

>>18730985
A good psychadelic trip will do that. Seriously.

Plenty of sources on nih.gov (government portal for peer review medical journals) to support this.

>>18730985
I pray and try to remember that every person on earth is part of my family. Just look at everyone like a long lost aunt, uncle, grandparent, brother or sister. Try to be understanding that everyone has had a tpugh life and some of them act out because of it. You'll find yourself more sympathetic and more merciful. I pray for people silently when I see them struggling too if there is no way for me to physically help them. Love God and remember his love for you and it starts to come easier and easier.