Hey /adv/,
I am in a bit of a dilemma here. My sister is getting married in October, and my fiance is turning 25 on the same day as the wedding. Due to scheduling conflicts she will have to stay home in Georgia, while I fly to Minnesota with our daughter to attend the wedding. At first she told me that she thought I shouldn't go because we didn't have enough in our budget to allow for me to go with our daughter. Then I found some really cheap tickets for under 200 dollars to get me and the baby out there. She insisted that we didn't have the money for it and that I shouldn't go. After I got family to lend me the money until such a time that we could pay them back she then began telling me that she doesn't want to be alone on her birthday and is giving me a hard time for it. I really want to be there for her on her birthday but I also want to be there to see my sister get married. My sister and many other family members made it clear that it's really important to them for all the family to be there for it.
Right now the only thing that is standing in my way is my fiance telling me that even though we are able to get the money now, it won't make much difference because we will have to pay it back eventually. Which I totally understand. It makes sense. The thing I think is really bothering her is that she will have a birthday while I'm gone. She says that she wouldn't feel so bad if I had "given a shit for even one single second" about her turning 25 and being alone for it. Is 25 a big milestone for women? I really don't understand. I
What should I do /adv/?
I really want to do both, but she has a birthday every year, and my sister is only getting married once.
To be fair, she is so concerned about money because we will have to either move to S. Korea or Japan after she graduates. She is doing this for me because I wanted to work with JET after college, but we had a daughter, so I've been working while she finishes school.
She is being childish. She will have many dozens of birthdays. Your sister will hopefully only have one wedding. Celebrate her birthday on another day. You should see if you are able to arrange for your wife to attend too.
>work full time
>relax and read or funpost when work is through
How do you find the energy to work on your own dreams?
My work and my hobbies are the same thing.
how do i answer the question,"what the hell is wrong with my life?" i start to do healthy things but i have anxiety attacks and screw everything up again randomly and i don't know if im capable of doing cool things
How do I find hookers. There aren't any escort services in my area. I don't really want a gf, I like having a lot of space, I just want to see what sex is like.
hey adv this is more of a vent than anything, i met my gf in college and she was sweet and fun while were growing up, now she goes to another college two cities over and i'm sick of driving her and her family everywhere and being took for granted.
her mother and step father are both chain smoking alcoholics who stay in bed all day and spend all their money on cigarettes and booze, neither of them have a license and both live off welfare money, her brother is a dangerously obese agoraphobe who lives off welfare and her sister is as dumb as a rock. Im sick of always driving them to mcdonalds and liquor stores to feed their habits and just being expected to cause im banging their relative. Even my family who all work feel like i'm a disappointment to them because I run a small online business just to keep myself financially stable, i feel so dragged down. This week I got really sick and haven't seen her for 10 days. I really haven't missed coming home with my clothes smelling like cigarettes, being woke up at 3am when her mother comes home from the bar, having to constantly act like a carer for a manchild and an actual kid because their parents are too fucked up to cook or clean. Sometimes I think id be too ashamed to bring her back home to my folks so i always go there. She'd never even make it to her college if I wasnt there to drive her. Her real dad ditched them all a long time ago, maybe i should too
Hey adv/. I messed up big time Saturday. I want to buy a new graphics card, a gtx1070, but dont have the money to buy it new. I looked on olx(craiglist) and found a good deal. I contacted the guy and he said he will ship the card down if we swap drivers licenses and if i pay30% of the card. He lives 4 hours drive away from me. He sent his ID, I sent a pic my my drivers license. I paid the guy R1500 (150dollars). Ofcourse the card never came. I dont give a fuck about the money, but Im really scared what he can do with my drivers license photo. What should I do guys? Please I know im shit dumb for sending it
>>18685654
>craigslist
>"I will ship"
You just got fucked dude. That's probably not even his license that he sent you.
How do I stop lying and not delivering? I constantly promise things, but never do them. I've been running from by brother for 2 years because of that.
>>18685354
Bet money on your promises
I don't know if I'm being over or under ambitious in life. Here's what I've got so far.
>In good shape but aiming to get bigger.
>Want to progress into a senior role at work.
>Want to develop my reading/writing/d&d skills and social circle.
>Want to save enough for a deposit on a nice house.
>Want to find the right girl to enjoy life with.
Got a car, savings, pension and currently living with parents. Just turned 22. Are there any things you think I should adjust, or new things to aim for?
Hey, I've been getting a bunch of bullshit parking tickets recently and was wondering if there is any way I can effectively vandalize some city property - specifically parking/transportation department stuff
If I don't blink my mind becomes numb and OCD takes over, so I started blinkink more and I feel like I'm more present now instead of being depressed, is this normal??? Or am I supposed to blink less?
Hey /adv/ first time using this board, but I really need some medical advice or a person who has done this to themselves. Last night I got really loaded on Jack daniels and got emotional at the party. I then proceeded to burn myself with cigarettes, which blistered pretty bad. Infact one of them I think popped in my sleep and has healed better? What should I do?
Stop being so stupid don't do it again
I recently started a new job that requires me to wake up at 5 A.M.
Needless to say, I'm an insomniac.
What are some methods to either go to bed early, or to condition myself to sleep less, so that I won't be truant?
How do I become self disciplined? Sticking to scehdules is so hard for me.
>told myself i was going to draw for an hour
>sketched one torso then gave the stuff up to play vidya
>want to read a book or something for 30 minutes
>go fuck off on the internet
>>18685023
With practice, and if possible, by permanently removing available distractions.
Selling your video game system or uninstalling all your video games seem unthinkable right now, but at least file that idea away for later. Commercially-designed recreation is so potent these days that it's almost weaponized. For me it was Magic: The Gathering. It was fun and engaging and very subtle in the way that it increasingly dominated my time and my thoughts, and yet because of the investment-like nature of time spent collecting cards and designing decks, I had a major resistance to quitting, to the extreme that I couldn't really even consider it. Maybe your relationship with vidya is nothing like my relationship with Magic, but when the things we do for fun are part of a multimillion (or billion) dollar industry, they end up ingeniously designed to keep the barriers to engaging with them low and the barriers to quitting high. They come with hooks and can end up owning us, is my point.
Let's put aside the issue of quitting vidya forever; maybe you just want to improve your work/play ratio. I think what you need is to more intimately know why you want to do the things you want to do that are not vidya. Your reasons for wanting to play vidya are self-evident. But why do you want to draw? What is it you will get by drawing? (I'm not asking you to explain here, I only mean that you need to ask yourself these things.) When you know what it is you want, and can use a string of reasonable beliefs to connect the task in front of you with the end goal you want, it becomes easier to do the task in front of you.
I'm a 20 year old guy and, being a complete KV, I want to start dating this year. However, I conflicted by my interests.
Ever since I've started thinking about girls, I've been into fat chicks. I don't know why but it's always been my choice. I won't argue the girls I like have definitely gotten bigger the longer I've watched porn, but the idea that my standards have been corrupted by a teenage obsession with porn is not true in this case.
However, I like to keep fit. I eat pretty clean (Vegan) with little junk in between. I exercise multiple times a week and like to do cardio 3 times a week as well. I'd say exercise & fitness is a big part of my life and ,to some degree, I'd like a partner to share some of that interest. Also, there's the entire general health side with being overweight of course.
Anybody have the same issue?? I'm sure I have to compromise on one but I honestly don't know which.
Pic related is ideal body type, however I usually watch women with far larger bodies.
Here's what you do faggot.
Pick up a chubby QT to your likings at the gym.
Date her, get your weird rocks off.
Help her lose weight.
Grow a healthy relationship even though you're autistic as fuck.
Bam, in 2-3 years you got a healthy and thinner version of that QT.
It remain as a trauma ? I think it's quite humiliation as a woman
>>18684914
this is a test